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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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I have possibly sent about 10 messages a week over the last 6 month! around 95% remain unread, 4% get deleted and the remaining 1% I get an hello back then get ghosted! Is this normal? I know I don’t have a profile pic but always send one with my message. And, if there are any females in Teesside fancy a chat drop me an inbox x Steve x 😉 |
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By *vaRoseWoman 3 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
I check a profile before opening a message. If that profile puts me off for whatever reason I don’t even bother opening the message. I know I’m not the only woman that does this, and many of us browse using ninja mode so you’d never know we’ve visited your profile.
Things that stand a chance include tasteful erotic profile pics, nice public galleries, a decent bio, and mutual interests. Only then do I open a message
Given that women do get a fair amount of mail. Would you open a message from the guy with a virtually blank profile, or the one from someone who has put the effort in |
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I would say you need a tasteful possibly seductive profile pic (no dick pic) and the bio needs some work it needs to have something about you and your interests and what you are looking for. And be realistic you will not be everyone's cup of tea, you need to stand out.
The best thing is to be active here most of the interactions I've had have been a direct result of my activity in the forums don't get disheartened it takes a while to get settled in but the majority of the formites are good folk just jump in. |
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"I’ve made a few changes, some more feedback would be good, hopefully I get a better response from messages x thanks all x  "
I looked at your profile when I read your initial post, then came back and read the thread and agreed with all the other comments (except Rex!) before getting to your next post saying you’ve made changes.
Therefore I would suggest maybe a few more changes are needed. You may well be MrAverage but your profile needs to be above average to attract attention.
What’s your reasoning for no profile picture? It could be absolutely anything about you … hand, knee, close up of your eyes, ear, sunglasses being worn, dimple on your lower back …. Put something. Do better  |
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"I’ve made a few changes, some more feedback would be good, hopefully I get a better response from messages x thanks all x "
Ok as you've asked for feedback....
It reads to us as someone playing away, given the focus on 'discreet meets' and afternoon fun' combined with not being able to accomodate. That and the lack of a profile avatar and two very bland photos means any message sent would instantly be binned. 🤷♂️ |
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By *CExeCouple 3 weeks ago
Hong-Kong/Exeter |
"I’ve made a few changes, some more feedback would be good, hopefully I get a better response from messages x thanks all x
Ok as you've asked for feedback....
It reads to us as someone playing away, given the focus on 'discreet meets' and afternoon fun' combined with not being able to accomodate. That and the lack of a profile avatar and two very bland photos means any message sent would instantly be binned. 🤷♂️"
Came to write the same thing. If you're playing away, be honest about it. People are happy to play with married men, but it's the subterfuge that puts people off. |
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By *sm265Woman 3 weeks ago
Perthshire |
"I’ve made a few changes, some more feedback would be good, hopefully I get a better response from messages x thanks all x
Ok as you've asked for feedback....
It reads to us as someone playing away, given the focus on 'discreet meets' and afternoon fun' combined with not being able to accomodate. That and the lack of a profile avatar and two very bland photos means any message sent would instantly be binned. 🤷♂️"
This |
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By *arand25Couple 3 weeks ago
Crowborough |
As others have said, if that's your rewritten profile then we can't imagine how bad it was before.
Look at others, take notes, rewrite & let people know about you. Genuine people read profiles.
And get more & better photos, especially your avatar, you're not an ugly guy, sell yourself!
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Personally, I'd probably not read past your headline of 'looking for hookups'.
This is not a McSex drive thru.
And I don't engage with profiles that have distinguishing features public.
I guard my safety and privacy.
And for all the 'it's not you, we all get ignored' bs. I hate to break it to you all but its not that you're ignored, more likely you're viewed in ninja mode and, for whatever reason of no attraction, you're not chosen. And that's statistically normal. And it's allowed and it's not a flaw to take as deeply wounding or anything.
It's rank entitlement to think that you're owed anything from anyone whether on here, sex or non-sex related, etc.
I have never ever sent a fab or a wink or a message and started a clock or gotten invested in a response before it exists.
Attitudes make the difference to your enjoyment of life and enjoyment of this and other sites.
And attitude bleeds through loud and clear in profile bios and status updates and other ways.
So my advice is to check yourself before you try to deflect success rates on to other factors. Be someone who a person will want to know more about or see more of.
Don't be a dick. Have a pleasant personality. Be mature about it. |
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Its fair to say OP's profile requires some time and effort to be put in, but let's also be honest. Even with dramatic improvements his response rate will still be in the single digit percentage.
OP realistically you should come to terms with having an extremely low response rate, it is the nature of the beast as a single fella, the people who you are hoping to meet are small in number and those other men who are also interested in the same people are magnitudes higher in number, as such even assuming every person you contact would loke you the reality is they can t respond to everyone.
TLDR; That is the nature of Fab as a single male, come to terms with it and enjoy the journey for what it is and not how you wish it was, good luck
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The percentage of women actively interested in sex with just anyone is very low, and those that are are going to have hundreds of applicants to pick from.
Your profile pretty much says you want sex and nothing about you that would make you stand out from the herd.
Pictures are okay. Profile at least looks written by a human instead of AI generated. Availability implies you're only available while the wife is out doing parenting or part time work, that's enough of a red flag to put many off 💜 |
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