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Interests - To List or Not to List?
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That is the question.
As a kinky and kink friendly person, probably most, if not all of the Fab interests would apply to me, but I don't list them thinking they may put some people off.
For example, I'm more than willing to administer a rough fisting, or engage in watersports pee play, but they are no way essential elements of sexual play for me. Simply kissing, spooning and slow foreplay and sex is equally pleasurable.
So what I'm asking is, can listing interests put people off your profile (ewww watersports !) or do people expect to see your interests and realise that they're not mandatory! |
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I rarely look at the interests.
But I get what you mean OP.
I have rimming listed on my interests. I enjoy it, giving and recieving but it doesnt mean it has to happen on every meet. It is just something I have an interest in. |
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Yes they can put me off tbh.
If I see dogging /gangbangs in interests, it would make me think twice,as they're things that really don't appeal to me.
However op it's your profile. Maybe tick them, then write a bit in your bio to say you're not necessarily looking out of for those things, just may consider them. |
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The list is more a guideline anyway. Or at least that's how I look at. Mines just stuff that I would be open to discussing with the right people, not a list of absolute musts on any given meet. Good luck o.p 👍 |
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We don’t really look at people’s interests.
The interests are there to show what people like but we wouldn’t expect we’d be ticking everything off people’s lists and others tick all ours either. Some of them would only come in to play after meeting regularly.
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Happy to display mine, I have many interests but they don't all have to be met for me to have a good time.
And if I fancy a profile enough to want to message them, I'll have a look at thier interests to help me write an intro message.
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I never really pay much attention tbh.
I've seen profiles before with lots of options ticked but then say pretty much what you said in your OP, that they have a wide variety of interests but a lot are negotiable. I don't mind that.
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Interests are just a tick box. We list what interests us as a couple but it doesn't mean we are automatically looking for every box to be ticked on every meet. Surely if someone has one interest in common with you you have found some common ground. Admittedly ticking a certain kind of interest can put people off - for example we dont tend to meet people with cuckolding ticked as it immediately tells us a single guy is going to expect to strole in and take over the meet. Same with user names depicting alpha qualities. |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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It can put people off you, sure. As can what you post, your age, your existence; everything. I think you should run your bio in the way that pleases you for the most part.
I don't have interests listed - I found men would message and say "you like x? Great. So do I. Let's do it" as if that's all it takes. My sexuality is more fluid than that, there are some things I could do with one person and find ridiculous with another.
But that's a woman's experience. Maybe people won't see your interests as essentials.
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Can't even remember what we have on ours but the way we look at the interests of other is this.
We may not be interested in doing some of the things listed in our interests with others, either full stop or specifically with certain people. Just because we like something doesn't mean we want to do it with anyone and everyone, or that it's something we do all the time or even more than once in a blue moon.
Likewise if we see something in the interests of someone else, it makes no odds to whether they'llpptentially be of interest. Because we'll talk to them. And if a subject arises and we're not keen we'll tell them up front. If it becomes a deal breaker then so be it.
Some people see interests and make assumptions that they'll be options during every sexual encounter, as if it's a tick lost for a meet. They'll 9/10 be very disappointed. 🤷♂️
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