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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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Can someone be too keen on you?
Would it put you off if they messaged every day?
If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time.
If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?
Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"Sounds a bit full on, how long have you been chatting? Are they verified?"
A) this isnt about me
B) I don't talk to anyone
C) I'm not verified, am I not trustworthy 😱 |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 2 weeks ago
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I have at least 3 men who are too keen on me right now. Every time they ses me online (i.e. a few times a day) I'm told how amazing I am; how much they'd like to make love to me; how they wish we were closer.
I'm not kidding.
It's a bit much.
Usually guys lose enthusiasm after a few weeks. If they don't, I might eventually block them.
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By *Effy-Woman 2 weeks ago
Scotland |
I think there's a very fine line.
I want to be told how much someone is looking forward to meeting me, how much they like/fancy me etc, it's a good feeling. I wouldn't want anyone to hide their feelings towards me. Having said that, there has been times where I've been put off someone like this because it felt less flattering and more heading towards creeper territory.
As for messaging. I don't mind it. I can exchange a few messages back and forward daily if I like someone enough. I'm not going to chat ALL day though. I'd like to keep some conversations for when we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"Kill me now. Quickly.
I know people....
Do they have a certain set of skills? Are they going to message me every day to tell me about them? "
Morning, noon and night.
Hey. Hope you have a good day.
How's your day going?
Did you have a good day?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"I think there's a very fine line.
I want to be told how much someone is looking forward to meeting me, how much they like/fancy me etc, it's a good feeling. I wouldn't want anyone to hide their feelings towards me. Having said that, there has been times where I've been put off someone like this because it felt less flattering and more heading towards creeper territory.
As for messaging. I don't mind it. I can exchange a few messages back and forward daily if I like someone enough. I'm not going to chat ALL day though. I'd like to keep some conversations for when we meet. "
You obviously want to know they want to meet you and are somewhat excited about it. I think it's the over the top enthusiasm, telling me once is enough. |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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Yeah, too keen is a thing. I don't talk to anyone daily bar long term partners.
I like some excitement but there's a balancing act to be had. If they acted like they didn't mind I'd rather they didn't bother. If they were too excited to meet me and every chat featured that, I'd find it overwhelming.
When people like people they can be a bit daft though, can't they? Over the years I've read a fair few flouncing posts. Know that limerence can happen. I've upset people by talking about long term partners before.
Although it would put me off, I'd try and not be a dick about it. Handle it with grace or try to. |
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By *Effy-Woman 2 weeks ago
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"I think there's a very fine line.
I want to be told how much someone is looking forward to meeting me, how much they like/fancy me etc, it's a good feeling. I wouldn't want anyone to hide their feelings towards me. Having said that, there has been times where I've been put off someone like this because it felt less flattering and more heading towards creeper territory.
As for messaging. I don't mind it. I can exchange a few messages back and forward daily if I like someone enough. I'm not going to chat ALL day though. I'd like to keep some conversations for when we meet.
You obviously want to know they want to meet you and are somewhat excited about it. I think it's the over the top enthusiasm, telling me once is enough. "
Yeah, I think when it's everyday and not done in a jokey/flirty way it does feel a bit too full on. |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
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I want to be wanted. I love when someone is excited to see me. I like the flirty chat in between us seeing each other , I even like the daily messages or things that let me know they are thinking of me.
I don't want to hold back on being excited about someone either.
However,I'm absolutely terrified of having my heart broken again so I also need to protect it.
If they told me they didn't want to see anyone else I'd be surprised, I'd worry if I could be enough. Equally, there's part of me that does find them seeing others hard at times. I'm happy for them, I want them to have fun, but there's always the thought in the back of my mind that, I'll be replaced! Someone's always going to be better than me so my own insecurity needs to be kept in check!
Guess that's where communication is so important. |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?
Would it put you off if they messaged every day?
If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time.
If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?
Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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Id quite like that to be honest 🤷🏼♀️ |
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It would put me off if someone was ott about meeting, yes.
It would make me feel under pressure, as I might not live up to their expectations.
I do get a bit miffed when I've just exchanged a hello and they wait till I log on and are ping, straight in my inbox all the time.
I don't mind if they're a little keen, as nobody wants someone who doesn't seem to be looking forward to meeting.
It's just getting the balance right. |
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I don't want messages all the time, and I'm not likely to message someone all the time. But I do want the conversation. A few messages everyday for a few days, a few of days of nothing is about the right balance for me. |
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Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 2 weeks ago
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like. "
It's pretty shocking. |
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Too keen is definitely off putting, especially the 'I'm only talking to you' but permanently online. It feels like I must be so desperate I'll believe anything. Absolutely guaranteed the minute they get a positive response they'll move on to the next one |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like. "
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking…. |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking…."
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat. |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat. "
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around. |
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By *Effy-Woman 2 weeks ago
Scotland |
"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat.
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around. "
This is why you open all mail from your sent folder 🫡 |
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On here, yeah I’d probably be thinking this girl is:
A- a liar, no chance on this site are you only speaking to me
B- a bit odd
C- I’d be worried what would happen if I wanted to not see her again |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?
Would it put you off if they messaged every day?
If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time.
If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?
Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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Having been in that situation I'd avoid it now. I do like regular contact but not so much that it becomes a ritual. Also it depends on the person too. Some like to chat. Some maybe a message here or there. You can generally tell which style they come under. Both are good for me. And I definitely don't need to know about their business. No need for discussion about other people, and whether they are or aren't meeting. If they choose to tell me they aren't meeting anyone else. Thats fine but it has no impact on what I do. |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat.
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around.
This is why you open all mail from your sent folder 🫡"
That is exactly what i do  |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?
Would it put you off if they messaged every day?
If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time.
If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?
Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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It would get on my nerves.
But Everything has been getting on my nerves this week 😣 |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat.
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around.
This is why you open all mail from your sent folder 🫡"
Omg i did not know this! 😱 |
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By *Effy-Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat.
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around.
This is why you open all mail from your sent folder 🫡
Omg i did not know this! 😱"
They can't see you've opened the message. The more you know 😌 |
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I personally think that’s nice and it’s a lovely compliment. I wouldn’t want to give them any wrong ideas though so would highlight where I am with our interactions. I wouldn’t just repeat back I think they would like to hear. |
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I think it depends. If you are having daily messages as long as it is not just all the same let's meet and sexual stuff but real conversation then it's ok, But if it's constant let's meet every day then no a bit much. |
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"Every. single.time I’ve asked a guy on here how are you, how was your day the answer is ..they’re horny. That’s it. Imagine being so absent of any personality that it becomes a disorder.
It makes me wonder what electricity tastes like.
Yup. A chat goes quiet. Then they slide in with a how’s your day? You think it’s a normal chat and then find out they’re wanking….
You’d think there would be a name for this cunning bait n switch by now. Some portmanteau of wank and chat.
Regret opening the message. They catch you. Embarrassment all around.
This is why you open all mail from your sent folder 🫡
Omg i did not know this! 😱
They can't see you've opened the message. The more you know 😌"
I didn’t know this either! |
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I think it can be a bit overbearing at times and it does take a lot of energy to keep up with their messages while still appearing interested.
If it's leading up to a meet, then I don't mind it as it's a great bit of foreplay to raise the sexual tension but if it's for the sake of it, then I'll lose interest really quickly.
There's someone on here who I've chatted to before and would love to meet up with but it kind of died down and it feels weird messaging again out of the blue I could hold their attention the first time. |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?
Would it put you off if they messaged every day?
If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time.
If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?
Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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It would a bit |
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We’ve just blocked a guy who over the last 5 days has sent a message - deleted.
Sent a wink
Sent a friends request
Sent a face pic - deleted.
Then today asked something weird and random.
He’s now blocked - stalker behaviour
K |
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As with most things there's a Goldilocks zone of keenness. I try to match the other person's frequency of messaging as long as it feels reasonable. However, I suffer from, and understand, new person excitement and love it when the conversations feels mutually endless because there's so much to find out about each other early on.
As long as it results in a physical meet-up (not necessarily sexual) I'm happy to continue talking to a real person.
Saying that, I went through exactly this with someone here recently and found myself blocked somewhat randomly one day. Maybe I should've gone to see her sooner, who knows what lesson I'm supposed to learn from that so here I am overthinking. 🤷♂️ |
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"I think it can be a bit overbearing at times and it does take a lot of energy to keep up with their messages while still appearing interested.
If it's leading up to a meet, then I don't mind it as it's a great bit of foreplay to raise the sexual tension but if it's for the sake of it, then I'll lose interest really quickly.
There's someone on here who I've chatted to before and would love to meet up with but it kind of died down and it feels weird messaging again out of the blue I could hold their attention the first time."
Oh I’m a busy woman but don’t feel weird |
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"Can someone be too keen on you? Would it put you off if they messaged every day? If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time. If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you."
Yeah, it puts me off.
But certain someones have been extremely persistent with it and managed to wear me down. I actually ended up liking it.
Life’s weird. People are weird. I’m weird. |
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"I think it can be a bit overbearing at times and it does take a lot of energy to keep up with their messages while still appearing interested.
If it's leading up to a meet, then I don't mind it as it's a great bit of foreplay to raise the sexual tension but if it's for the sake of it, then I'll lose interest really quickly.
There's someone on here who I've chatted to before and would love to meet up with but it kind of died down and it feels weird messaging again out of the blue I could hold their attention the first time."
I hate that. I've so many of them that I feel i can't revisit. |
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If it’s in the run up to meeting them that’s different. But at the chat stage? No. No thank you. And if you’re expecting that from me then sorry!
I do like the odd message where something has made them laugh and they think of me, a message to appreciate a photo or status. But only partners and really good friends get every day chat. |
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It would be a bit off putting on Fab or a dating site.
In a relationship where we are both into each other, I'd actually like that. No hidden messages or trying to understand what she's actually saying. She's into me, I'm into her. Job done. |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?"
Yes.
"Would it put you off if they messaged every day?"
No.
"If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time."
All the time, yes.
"If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you.
Do you like that?"
If they said that but I found out they were just saying that, I would be disappointed.
Based on my Fab experience and my relationship status, I would expect them to be seeing other people.
If they became to clingy or had unrealistic expectations, I would start to withdraw.
"Are you just yeah whatever.
Or would it freak you out!
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Not freaked out, but the last relationship required too much mental gymnastics and it is the only one with a Fabster that has ended badly. |
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"Can someone be too keen on you?"
Yes
"Would it put you off if they messaged every day?"
Yes
"If they banged on about how excited they were to meet you? Allllll the time."
Definitely
"If they told you they weren't talking to anyone else. Just you."
 bullshit
"Do you like that?"
It would freak me the fuck out  |
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"Yes,
Says the guy who had a one night stand that lasted five weeks.
Let’s get to know each other, before we plan the rest of our lives together "
I can beat that... A one night stand that lasted 6 years and an engagement 🤦♀️🤣 |
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I would actively prefer the other person to be seeing other people.
Admittedly I'd rather that wasn't the entire site, or the night before they met with me  but monogamy (for me) should be reserved for a relationship.
I'm happy with regular conversation, but it doesn't need to be daily.
It might be pleasantries, it might be some flirting or reminiscing of hot memories or something a bit more.
I'm not here for 1 word answers and having to work for conversation, just as much as I'm not here for a running commentary on their life! |
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"Yes,
Says the guy who had a one night stand that lasted five weeks.
Let’s get to know each other, before we plan the rest of our lives together
I can beat that... A one night stand that lasted 6 years and an engagement 🤦♀️🤣"
A one off meet from a mixed social...6 years and a baby |
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It's not about being keen, it's about being realistic. It's weird to me how people demand so much of your time and energy when they don't even know you like that. If your friends or in a relationship with someone then sure communication needs to be a compromise but if you dont fall into any of those categories, don't be popping up my phone.. its annoying. |
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"Why do I get the feeling that OP was talking about OP.
I don't know. Why DO YOU get the feeling the O.P. was talking about the O.P.?"
OP has left the site, I have a feeling that OP was looking for validation for her messaging behavior and when most people said it was needed and would avoid that person, she left. |
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"Why do I get the feeling that OP was talking about OP.
I don't know. Why DO YOU get the feeling the O.P. was talking about the O.P.?
OP has left the site, I have a feeling that OP was looking for validation for her messaging behavior and when most people said it was needed and would avoid that person, she left. "
Believe me, i cant see that being the messaging behaviour of the OP 🤣 |
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"Why do I get the feeling that OP was talking about OP.
I don't know. Why DO YOU get the feeling the O.P. was talking about the O.P.?
OP has left the site, I have a feeling that OP was looking for validation for her messaging behavior and when most people said it was needed and would avoid that person, she left. "
Thats the least likely reason for the OP to leave 😂 |
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"Why do I get the feeling that OP was talking about OP.
I don't know. Why DO YOU get the feeling the O.P. was talking about the O.P.?
OP has left the site, I have a feeling that OP was looking for validation for her messaging behavior and when most people said it was needed and would avoid that person, she left.
Thats the least likely reason for the OP to leave 😂"
Yeah I'm not sure that would be her style she was probably more likely pointing out others were too needy  |
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