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By *eli OP Woman 1 week ago
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Earlier I read someone's cut off time for a reply to a message is a hour. Clearly it's stuck with me.
How long are you happy to wait for a reply before you decide to leave it? The person isn't interested? |
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Well if I send a message I just wait for a reply. Can be 5 minutes or a week. But I dont send another message until they've replied and if they dont reply thats fine plenty of other people to chat too |
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Oooh i like this one _eli, made my little brain think.
I would say its all contextual i know we all have lives but if i had been talking to someone for a while and thinking about meeting and he was online 24/7 and not replying to me i would start to think maybe i should bounce.
If its just beggining to chat then ive know me pick up again a week later if there busy but then again if that was all the time i would struggle to build any connection so would also probably bounce out eventually.
Sorry for the long answer, i suppose definitive answer is it can be different depending on who it is and the situation.
But probably more than a week and i would lose interest.
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We don't really put a time on it, because we know some people get inundated with messages on here.
An hour seems not very long if someone's not really reading and paying attention, or is maybe at work. |
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24h - I don’t think one message a day is unreasonable if you’re looking to get to know them and meet soon.
People I like but live too far away, it’s just nice if they think of me and drop a message every now and again, as I do too. |
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"Well if I send a message I just wait for a reply. Can be 5 minutes or a week. But I dont send another message until they've replied and if they dont reply thats fine plenty of other people to chat too"
I do the same. People have lives outside of Fab, may actually not be online even though they are showing as on, or may be chatting to someone else. I can forget to reply, and I am aware that at least one of the people that I speak to ends up not reading messages and her inbox gets so full that there is a mass delete - so eventually get an email, but it has nothing to do with my last one. |
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By *olo180Man 1 week ago
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"Earlier I read someone's cut off time for a reply to a message is a hour. Clearly it's stuck with me.
How long are you happy to wait for a reply before you decide to leave it? The person isn't interested?"
To put it in a bit more context , she was stating that was a phone message after swapping numbers…not a message on Fab. Although it was still harsh and unrealistic x |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 week ago
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"Oooh i like this one _eli, made my little brain think.
I would say its all contextual i know we all have lives but if i had been talking to someone for a while and thinking about meeting and he was online 24/7 and not replying to me i would start to think maybe i should bounce.
If its just beggining to chat then ive know me pick up again a week later if there busy but then again if that was all the time i would struggle to build any connection so would also probably bounce out eventually.
Sorry for the long answer, i suppose definitive answer is it can be different depending on who it is and the situation.
But probably more than a week and i would lose interest.
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Little brain, pfffft. I like waffly answers. After reading that thread earlier I was thinking about it and then found out that some of my friends also have a very short window.
And then ta da. The thread appeared.  It depends on the dynamic and what it is you're looking for. My favourite people and I can go weeks without talking but when we do it's easy.
There's no right or wrong answer really, it's about compatibility. |
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Erm ive waited days and taken days sometime i get busy reading here when on,we all have life away from here to deal with.
If it was on a run up to a meet and they were online a lot I'd probably be pissed thay they didn't respond with a decent time frame but I've usually moved the chat elsewhere and have a decent build up on the run upto meeting  |
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"Earlier I read someone's cut off time for a reply to a message is a hour. Clearly it's stuck with me.
How long are you happy to wait for a reply before you decide to leave it? The person isn't interested?
To put it in a bit more context , she was stating that was a phone message after swapping numbers…not a message on Fab. Although it was still harsh and unrealistic x"
She was not been realistic in the fact there's a lot of people have jobs but they cannot be on their phone or are looking after someone and can't drop everything to reply. Or simply be driving for over an hour. |
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Depends how active they are. Coming on and offline repeatedly within an hour then I understand. If it's offline like texting then I just wait. Assume they're not interested and no need to block as they wouldn't want to message. Unless they message again |
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By *olo180Man 1 week ago
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"Earlier I read someone's cut off time for a reply to a message is a hour. Clearly it's stuck with me.
How long are you happy to wait for a reply before you decide to leave it? The person isn't interested?
To put it in a bit more context , she was stating that was a phone message after swapping numbers…not a message on Fab. Although it was still harsh and unrealistic x
She was not been realistic in the fact there's a lot of people have jobs but they cannot be on their phone or are looking after someone and can't drop everything to reply. Or simply be driving for over an hour. "
I just said it was unrealistic. Read it properly. |
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On here (Fab messaging) — as long as it takes. Most of my conversations have a reciprocity of days, sometimes a week. The 'reward' of a long message/missive more than makes up for the 'wait'. If the momentum wanes then that's a sign things are fizzling out, or perhaps a status update or recent verification giving indication of an meet.
I only expect immediate replies if we're meeting and we're going to be late or that we're lost, or a last minute cancellation for whatever reason.
Ultimately it just depends. No two conversations are the same; they have their own conversational 'DNA' when it comes to momentum and energy. |
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"On here (Fab messaging) — as long as it takes. Most of my conversations have a reciprocity of days, sometimes a week. The 'reward' of a long message/missive more than makes up for the 'wait'. If the momentum wanes then that's a sign things are fizzling out, or perhaps a status update or recent verification giving indication of an meet.
I only expect immediate replies if we're meeting and we're going to be late or that we're lost, or a last minute cancellation for whatever reason.
Ultimately it just depends. No two conversations are the same; they have their own conversational 'DNA' when it comes to momentum and energy."
Oh the veri from another thing whilst messaging is heartbreaking |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 week ago
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"Well if I send a message I just wait for a reply. Can be 5 minutes or a week. But I dont send another message until they've replied and if they dont reply thats fine plenty of other people to chat too"
Is double messaging a bit of a no no then? Yeah, there's little point stressing about it. If they want to message they will. It's not always about you (general you). |
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"Well if I send a message I just wait for a reply. Can be 5 minutes or a week. But I dont send another message until they've replied and if they dont reply thats fine plenty of other people to chat too
Is double messaging a bit of a no no then? Yeah, there's little point stressing about it. If they want to message they will. It's not always about you (general you)."
For me it is. I message them, they message me. Don't double message as dont want to bug them if their busy |
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This won't be a surprising answer to anyone I message, but I don't mind any time. Whatever works for the two of us. I can be slow (but am open about that) so don't expect anyone to be any quicker.
Things feeling one sided much more important than any arbitrary period of time to me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 week ago
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"I can leave messages unread for days for various different reasons. So I don't expect a reply within a set time frame.
I would like one though, eventually 😆"
The bar is really low. 😅 I like it though - it'd be a bit hypocritical for me to be upset about reply times. |
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It depends on if they're off doing life stuff or active online,and posting but blatantly ignoring you. That's a clear lack of interest, total absence of maturity and zero respect.
I hit delete very swiftly and if they try to revive the chat I block.
I don't play games or waste anyone's time.
Disrespect is not sexy. I don't get off on the headfuck nonsense. Some do and they are welcome to tickle their lil cajones on someone else's time.
Hard to get? Get to... |
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I'm generally pretty easy when it comes to replies, God knows I can take while to do so but a lot of that is due to being busy and wanting to think about them properly and I appreciate if they do the same. That can be a couple of days or even a week but if they don't reply, that's ok too and my inbox are always open if they wanted to resume our chat. |
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"Well if I send a message I just wait for a reply. Can be 5 minutes or a week. But I dont send another message until they've replied and if they dont reply thats fine plenty of other people to chat too
Is double messaging a bit of a no no then? Yeah, there's little point stressing about it. If they want to message they will. It's not always about you (general you).For me it is. I message them, they message me. Don't double message as dont want to bug them if their busy"
I used to never dbl text.
Now I don't care. If I'm in an established chat with anyone I just send what pops in my head to send. I actually do not count or care.
I just think, if they were beside me I'd be chatting away so it's the same |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
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"I can leave messages unread for days for various different reasons. So I don't expect a reply within a set time frame.
I would like one though, eventually 😆
The bar is really low. 😅 I like it though - it'd be a bit hypocritical for me to be upset about reply times."
It is, Meli😮💨 but yeah, that's where I stand on it too and the people I chat to regularly seem quite happy with waiting as am I. |
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"I can leave messages unread for days for various different reasons. So I don't expect a reply within a set time frame.
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I would like one though, eventually 😆"
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You're simply messaging the wrong people. 😉 |
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People are busy/have their own lives outside of here so I don't expect rapid responses.
However it is a different story if they're online constantly...I'd maybe give it 3 or 4 days then give up lol |
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I cant really say anything as I can take ages to reply on here sometimes. Off of here I'm a bit better, if we're in the middle of a conversation and they took an age to reply to the last message then thats frustrating, but just normal how are you doing messages a reply anytime is fine for me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 week ago
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"Weeks, happily months "
Months? I might struggle a bit with months in between messages - they'd be painfully slow. :D
P.S Congratulations on the citizenship! Hoping it was you now, will look of a bit tit if not. |
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"Weeks, happily months
Months? I might struggle a bit with months in between messages - they'd be painfully slow. :D
P.S Congratulations on the citizenship! Hoping it was you now, will look a bit tit if not."
Thank you Meli 😘, I had picked up old conversations months later because I noticed a sexy new post or an interesting statement. from the lovely guy I was chatting with. Not desperation, very relaxed and intimate like old friends. Very often that vibe led to something else. |
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I’ll hold my hands up to being one of the nightmare ones.
I might read, go away to think 💭 about a reply (only because I have a habit of sending ‘knee jerk’ replies) then I get distracted, have to deal with home life / work commitments, the message then disappears down the bottomless list and I end up not replying.
I’m sure there is a way for others to remember but I have a goldfish memory and have yet to figure out how to do this. This is also in non Fab life too 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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Anything up to a week. Everyone has busy lives. And most women have bulging inboxes so sometimes takes them a while to filter through. Actually quite nice having that surprise inbox message from someone you had messaged thinking they were not interested and boom - wake up to a message. Rather a delayed reply than no reply |
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I don’t really have a cut off. People are on and off here so I never really expect a quick reply. For me it’s just nice to get a response at all to be fair haha! Joking aside, I’m probably only on here every other day and often have messages waiting when I pop back in. |
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