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Just curious from a previous thread.
How do you feel when a "straight guy" wants to meet you?
I get their are some who get a thril thinking they may have turned them or been irrisistable and better than a woman that they cant help thereselves because of your sexual prowess and looks.
But do any of you find it insulting? Or offensive that people are declaring to be straight but are in your inbox saying they want you?
Or are even openly declaring how straight they are and that they dont fancy men but just love sucking a cock?
Or is more about its just sex for some of you or a sexual act and you dont mind?
And im not getting into the whole labels thing here and its not to have a debate on the whole "straight/fabstraight" saga there are plenty of other threads for that.
Im just genuinely interested in the feelings of the openly bi/gay folks.
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"Doesn't really bother me. I have a profile on FabGuys as BiFun76 and have met a few 'straight guys' who really weren't that straight as it turns out.
Why would straight guys go on fabguys? 🤔"
You would be shocked how many straight guys from here on there with wild open buttcheeks |
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"Doesn't really bother me. I have a profile on FabGuys as BiFun76 and have met a few 'straight guys' who really weren't that straight as it turns out.
Why would straight guys go on fabguys? 🤔
You would be shocked how many straight guys from here on there with wild open buttcheeks "
Hahahahahaahah who knew eh |
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"Doesn't really bother me. I have a profile on FabGuys as BiFun76 and have met a few 'straight guys' who really weren't that straight as it turns out.
Why would straight guys go on fabguys? 🤔"
Exactly. It's almost as if they can't admit it to themselves. |
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"Doesn't really bother me. I have a profile on FabGuys as BiFun76 and have met a few 'straight guys' who really weren't that straight as it turns out.
Why would straight guys go on fabguys? 🤔
Exactly. It's almost as if they can't admit it to themselves."
Yeah this is more my thoughts but thats for a different thread i guess. I just wondered if that fact bothered anyone as in not wanting to meet someone who only wants to meet you secretly and will openly say they dont find you attractive or is it more its just sex i dont mind.
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I always swap pictures before a meet so hopefully they find something appealing about me lol.
With us blokes it could just well be about the sex and getting your rocks off, but that's down to the individual as we're all different.
Ultimately though I really do think it's down to them being a bit scared of what they fancy. Not necessarily in a homophobic way, just as in a fear of the unknown and wanting to keep the status quo going in their lives. |
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Yeah absolutely were all different. I was just thinking of it from a perspective of it was me and a man was openly saying they didnt find anything attractive about women but want to just lick pussy for example and it stated on there profile they were gay. I would be slightly offended and seen as just an object for a fantasy. I get that could be just me as an individul and other people feel entirely different or it could be the old "women care more than men do about who they have sex with" thats thrown around which i actually dont agree with. I was just interested to get all your perspectives on it  |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret. |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 1 week ago
In a galaxy far far away |
"Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret. "
Most won't put bi on their profile because they think it will put the women off  |
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It's not really up to me to label another guy sexually
I've been meeting guys since my early 30's, many of them in straight relationships, many of them with kids
It wasn't a question I normally asked, but I found they'd either tell me anyway or were so paranoid about meeting that they gave the game away
I had no interest in them or their lives - it was purely sex based and transactional from my POV
One thing I will say though is that they were often far keener than the bi or gays I met
The other thing I will say is that now I don't accom or meet weekday daytimes, the interest from such men has dropped off, pretty much to zero |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
"Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret.
Most won't put bi on their profile because they think it will put the women off "
Well, yeah. That's is true for the majority. |
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Simple truth here: all men are a lot more bi than society has taught them to be. There's a reason "straight" porn aimed at "straight" men features so much erect cock and visible cum shots.
The honest among us choose to open our minds a bit and explore and pursue our interest with openness and honesty.
Those still in denial chase TV/TS in hope of a girlfriend experience without putting in the mental work of attracting a real woman; they think because a TV is still basically male and thinks with their cock that they're easy. I've had to disabuse rather a lot of people of this notion on fabguys, when I can even be bothered to answer their knuckledragger messages. |
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Why would straight guys go on fabguys? 🤔
For the love of the game 😂
Or maybe just the fact they do actually enjoy having sex with men i would of thought."
Yeah for sure, that was just my sad attempt at humour A lot of closeted guys for one reason or another on here. Could be anywhere from internalised homophobia, to thinking they may hurt their chances on here with women if they state their sexual tastes honestly. I've heard that a lot of gay men put their profiles as straight or bi-curious. Not too sure why that is... Maybe the right timing on a horny tangent would lead to a meet |
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"Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret. "
The bit about masculinity and losing it of they came out as bi or gay makes me laugh. Go to a gay club on a weekend, or a gay holiday resort. The masculinity on display, the beards, the muscle, the attitudes, the outlook…they personify the masculinity straight men THINK they risk losing. They’re MORE masculine not less. |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
"Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret.
The bit about masculinity and losing it of they came out as bi or gay makes me laugh. Go to a gay club on a weekend, or a gay holiday resort. The masculinity on display, the beards, the muscle, the attitudes, the outlook…they personify the masculinity straight men THINK they risk losing. They’re MORE masculine not less. "
Oh no, I didn't say i agreed with it. I just think that some men think being attracted to other men makes them "less masculine" which obviously isn't the case at all. |
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By *hineasMan 1 week ago
Canterbury |
Someone mentioned above that you’d be surprised how many men on here as ‘straight’ are on fabguys, which is very, very true.
It makes me smile when I look at a couple or female’s that makes it clear they don’t ever, EVER (always in capitals!) meet bi men. Quite often the ‘straight’ men in their verifications have another profile on FG!
Indeed for one adamant couple with quite homophonic language, I wonder if the wife knows her husband is on the other site. |
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"Someone mentioned above that you’d be surprised how many men on here as ‘straight’ are on fabguys, which is very, very true.
It makes me smile when I look at a couple or female’s that makes it clear they don’t ever, EVER (always in capitals!) meet bi men. Quite often the ‘straight’ men in their verifications have another profile on FG!
Indeed for one adamant couple with quite homophonic language, I wonder if the wife knows her husband is on the other site. "
I remember the guy off here who was in a MF couple who climbed over my back wall to gain access cos I didn't answer my phone when he rang to say he'd arrived 
(I was still in the shower btw ) |
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"Not a man just to make that clear, but I'm going to put my 2 cents in anyways.
I think there's a lot of valid reasons why gay/bi men won't openly admit it. Internal conflict, the stereotypes, concerns about their own masculinity and internalised homophobia. So they chose to keep that side of them hidden.
I do however think it is unfair on the other person. I wouldn't like being hidden and kept a secret.
The bit about masculinity and losing it of they came out as bi or gay makes me laugh. Go to a gay club on a weekend, or a gay holiday resort. The masculinity on display, the beards, the muscle, the attitudes, the outlook…they personify the masculinity straight men THINK they risk losing. They’re MORE masculine not less.
Oh no, I didn't say i agreed with it. I just think that some men think being attracted to other men makes them "less masculine" which obviously isn't the case at all. "
I didn’t mean to imply this was your view, I was challenging/ addressing the perception you described. |
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For me it's a simple honesty thing,but that's just me.
I get it that there are alot of couples who won't meet bi guys and that's why they put straight on their profiles. It's hard enough getting meets without reducing your odds. |
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Some pre op trans women say they only want straight men to contact them, honestly believing that someone who possesses a cock can be interested in someone else with a cock and still be straight. They're in the self delusional camp.
Also, when do you stop being curious? Three or more times, no matter over what period of time, and surely your curiosity is sated and you become a fully fledged, card carrying member of the bisexual club? |
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"Just curious from a previous thread.
How do you feel when a "straight guy" wants to meet you?
I get their are some who get a thril thinking they may have turned them or been irrisistable and better than a woman that they cant help thereselves because of your sexual prowess and looks.
But do any of you find it insulting? Or offensive that people are declaring to be straight but are in your inbox saying they want you?
Or are even openly declaring how straight they are and that they dont fancy men but just love sucking a cock?
Or is more about its just sex for some of you or a sexual act and you dont mind?
And im not getting into the whole labels thing here and its not to have a debate on the whole "straight/fabstraight" saga there are plenty of other threads for that.
Im just genuinely interested in the feelings of the openly bi/gay folks.
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I just ignore them. They’re just as queer as I am. |
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I never know if a guy is interested in me or not, so probably wouldn’t notice IRL, on here if the guy is straight but on the DL, it doesn’t matter to me. His chances of getting to my cock are rather slim anyway. |
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It doesn't bother me. If I get a message off a straight guy, it's usually "Hi" to which I reply "Hi, how're you? I'm a bloke." or something similar, just incase they've accidentally messaged me. It usually leads to message swapping, occasionally leading to meets.
I've had some very hot chats with straight guys, giving vent to their fantasies. That's also fun. |
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I find straight adamant types strange but most are just horny and want to spunk a load so any holes a goal in that situation . I believe the old phrase you don’t look at mantelpiece when poking the fire comes to mind.
As a transsexual woman I am pretty unique to start with so I get bored hearing all the bollocks fawning and fetishising over me in messsges , I amuse myself when crushing their dream and reinforcing what the physical act is
I don’t get bent up over it as frankly I don’t care enough about other people on sex sites to start with .
I like experienced confident open men , sure going with someone like me doesn’t make you gay as these men like women equally as well so bisexual fits here and it’s Rare a gay guy want to hook up with trans women .
Also I struggle with trans women wanting straight men. It’s a physical impossibility. I think the right term is straight identifying men Myself I prefer out bisexual men or gay men that like femmes if possible .
Equally even better when a guy doesn’t even mention sexuality or bring it up and just gets on with having a good time then there is no mental gymnastics at play immediately.
I don’t really bother caring about profile descriptions as most people write nonsense anyway on this site and it’s not fixed or accurate all the time. (Men and women )
Met many a woman / couple that have very explicit stated straight profiles on here but in a club we are all hanging out of each others holes. So yeah make of that what you will
These are just my own opinions though  . And it’s not my place to dictate how others should be .
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Every bi had their first try as a straight guy. I don't recall ever meeting a gay guy with a secret pussy passion. I have sucked off a lot of straight guys, who remain straight and not having sex with men there after. When you are already in a threesome and a hard cock comes into range it is rude to refuse lol.
I was dedicated to straightness for 36 years until my wife got herself a bi boyfriend and persuaded me to join them. I had been around naked guys having sex with her for years and I had never been tempted to touch. I had come into contact with other guys cum from time to time as well.
This was her first bi boyfriend and she was very excited and enthusiastic about the idea, although her idea went a lot further than I did lol. Although briefly he sucked me first when she passed my cock over. It wasn't weird and felt exactly the same. Soon after I was offered his cock and sucked it in without over thinking it. It felt like the most natural thing in the world and I thoroughly enjoyed it, including how sweet his pre cum was. There were no side effects such as mincing about and jumping on every guy I see. I didn't suddenly change into Louis Spence. I was still me, totally into women, but with the added bonus of loving sucking cock.
If you are a straight guy and just want to find out what it is like, I am not going to tell anyone and you can back out at any time, but you won't. You will love it!  |
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"I’ve found that 2 women playing is seen as fun but 2 men playing is seen as dirty and perverted. A lot of men say they’re straight because it puts a lot of women off."
But why would anyone want to meet someone who blatantly states they dont want to meet you, this confuses me i'd think fuck ya wouldnt wanna meet you either. |
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"I get plenty of straight guys messaging me and basically they're attracted to my femininity and not at all interested in meeting some hairy arsed bloke "
Yes, just like me, Tina. It's called gynosexuality. Still not straight though. |
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By *ee04Man 1 week ago
Essex |
I get it all the time. I ask them if your straight why you messaging another guy? I’ve had all sorts of answers from I’m really bi but don’t want anyone to know to an arse is an arse. When I tell them I’m mainly top and that I mainly fuck arse they normally disappear. Personally I think most don’t want admit what they are or don’t want to put it on their profile as some will not meet bi guys. |
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By *YDB75Man 1 week ago
East Yorks/ Castle Donnington |
"A lot guys message with big messages who claim to be strait on their profile .
Some are curious others just dreamers and never meet stay in touch or chat again.
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I tend to find you get into a chat with “ curious “ guy and talk soon turns to got any pictures of ya mrs 🙄🙄 |
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I'm meh.
On the one hand I get it. There can be a lot of shame to work thru.
On the other hand, I suspect that they aren't serious and just exploring mentally. Or while driving manually.
It's also not overly helped but trying to use just a few labels for what can be a spectrum of desires. Fab isn't the most up to date with labels...
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The amount of “straight” guys that have messaged me on here is a bit mad, you women and couples who won’t entertain bi guys more than likely have without knowing it.
Years back when my wife was swinging too, the amount of so called straight guys we’d have round for a 3some always ended up playing with me and my cock 🤷♂️
Guys will hide their sexuality on here for fear of being pigeon holed and reducing their chances of meeting women and couples, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest that they message me, i see it as sex, im not attracted to men at all but do enjoy sex with them. 🙂 |
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"I’ve found that 2 women playing is seen as fun but 2 men playing is seen as dirty and perverted. A lot of men say they’re straight because it puts a lot of women off."
They are missing out on those who only want bi guys. |
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