Bloody awful!
Almost everyone I match with is on here anyway, but claim to not want to date a woman who's on here as they want a loving monogamous relationship. The assumption that a woman on here does not want monogamy is such hypocrisy and makes them an immediate no from me!
But anyway... To get back to my real point.
I don't think people make any effort on dating sites any more. They throw you out a 'like' without having made any attempt to complete their profile or give any idea why the recipient might want to respond to their 'like' and try to get to know them. (A little like many folk on here actually.)
I've even paid subscriptions to dating sites and only reached out/matched with others who have subscribed as I thought that action on their part might suggest an intention to actually date. But nope, it seems there's as much apathy on dating sites as ever there was. |
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We met on Hinge so that must have been a good one. 
Although have to say M pointed out to me after we started dating that I had been using the wrong apps for different things. According to her Tinder was only for hookups. And there was me hoping to meet people to actually date and have a relationship with.  |
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I use them, and they work for me. Have had a long term relationship from one, lots of dates and still meeting someone on and off from one of them for about a year now. Oh and I don't and never have paid for any of them. Horses for courses and all that. |
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Never used them, been married for years and years, got a good one.
Ladies and gents I work and socialise with tend to love or hate them.
The ones who have done well, both men and women, would do well without any online help as they are good catches and cream always rises to the top.🤣🤣
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"We met on Hinge so that must have been a good one.
Although have to say M pointed out to me after we started dating that I had been using the wrong apps for different things. According to her Tinder was only for hookups. And there was me hoping to meet people to actually date and have a relationship with. "
I hear that is good one. |
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I don't like the pretentiousness and restrictions of regular dating sites.
Sexual chemistry is vital for me and I don't really like small talk so I find I'm more comfortable on sites like this where I can express that.
If it's meant to evolve into something more than just sex then it'll happen regardless of what site it started out on. |
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By *reya73Woman 1 week ago
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I've had gorgeous encounters and made long term connections from dating apps. It's worth not approaching the whole thing like it's a job .. I just pop in intermittently and trust I'll attract the right people through being authentic and upfront about my desires and lifestyle.
I tend to go for feeld, OKC and Bumble. For different reasons.. but I prefer sites that attract people who will be familiar and understand poly/ENM lifestyle/kink etc.
Bumble I like because I message first and it skips being overwhelmed my likes. Also the location is great.
I did, recently, actually meet someone organically, al fresco at a festival! Who knew that accidentally meeting out in the world still happens ! That's still my favourite dating app .. real life.
I miss being fixed up by mates at a dinner party or afternoon BBQ etc |
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By *akedMMan 1 week ago
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I have tried a few like POF and match. Was on Match for six months only had one date . I did put on my profile that I am a naturist. Looking for someone to join me in the naturist environment, just one date a coffee date, before I put that I was a naturist on my profile, I had a profile with out me saying I’m a naturist. When got chatting to ladies as soon as I said I was a naturist. Blocked |
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"Dating apps are a con. They're designed so you never find a match. Because if you find someone, they stop making money off you. I'd say go to local singles events instead.
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Not true. Never paid a penny for a dating app in my life. Singles events local to me you have to pay for. |
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I hate them but for me it's a necessary evil. I find it hard to ask people out in person so having that way to have that "flag" raised without the need to risk anything bad happening is good.
That said the only date I actually got was through Facebook dating. Other sites I've matched with people occasionally but either get ghosted or let down. |
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"Dating apps are a con. They're designed so you never find a match. Because if you find someone, they stop making money off you. I'd say go to local singles events instead.
Not true. Never paid a penny for a dating app in my life. Singles events local to me you have to pay for."
It's different for women, as the ratio is there's apparently 10 guys for every woman on dating apps. But half of the guys are married 🤷🏽♂️it's a mess and deliberately kept that way to extract maximum cash out of everyone |
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"They're beyond shit haha.
I've tried them when I was younger. I haven't recently, they're just hook up sites mostly anyway. "
Really? Why didn't you tell me earlier...
*Mclovin breaks the internet trying to download all the dating apps
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"They're beyond shit haha.
I've tried them when I was younger. I haven't recently, they're just hook up sites mostly anyway. "
I used them a lot when younger too. Had a few relationships from them. But I hear they are worse now. |
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"Dating apps are a con. They're designed so you never find a match. Because if you find someone, they stop making money off you. I'd say go to local singles events instead.
Not true. Never paid a penny for a dating app in my life. Singles events local to me you have to pay for.
It's different for women, as the ratio is there's apparently 10 guys for every woman on dating apps. But half of the guys are married 🤷🏽♂️it's a mess and deliberately kept that way to extract maximum cash out of everyone "
Not true again, have never met or matched with a married man ever off a dating site. And again never parted with any cash from using one, ever. |
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People lie everywhere. Dating sites, Fab, real-world dating… it’s the same pattern. You’re still stuck filtering through a pile of profiles and messages trying to figure out who’s actually honest and emotionally available.
And that’s the part people gloss over. It’s not the lack of matches that’s exhausting — it’s the dishonesty. My last two long-term relationships didn’t end over compatibility, they ended because serious lies came out. That’s a far bigger issue than who is or isn’t getting likes.
Most fab users have run into people who misrepresented themselves.It is the reality of modern dating and sites like this.
So I’m quite happily single.
Not bitter, just not interested in doing unpaid detective work to figure out who someone really is.
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"People lie everywhere. Dating sites, Fab, real-world dating… it’s the same pattern. You’re still stuck filtering through a pile of profiles and messages trying to figure out who’s actually honest and emotionally available.
And that’s the part people gloss over. It’s not the lack of matches that’s exhausting — it’s the dishonesty. My last two long-term relationships didn’t end over compatibility, they ended because serious lies came out. That’s a far bigger issue than who is or isn’t getting likes.
Most fab users have run into people who misrepresented themselves.It is the reality of modern dating and sites like this.
So I’m quite happily single.
Not bitter, just not interested in doing unpaid detective work to figure out who someone really is.
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They were married? |
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"People lie everywhere. Dating sites, Fab, real-world dating… it’s the same pattern. You’re still stuck filtering through a pile of profiles and messages trying to figure out who’s actually honest and emotionally available.
And that’s the part people gloss over. It’s not the lack of matches that’s exhausting — it’s the dishonesty. My last two long-term relationships didn’t end over compatibility, they ended because serious lies came out. That’s a far bigger issue than who is or isn’t getting likes.
Most fab users have run into people who misrepresented themselves.It is the reality of modern dating and sites like this.
So I’m quite happily single.
Not bitter, just not interested in doing unpaid detective work to figure out who someone really is.
They were married? "
No that is usually easy to spot fairly early on. Some things which I wont share in a public forum, but they made the relationships untenable. |
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"Dating apps are a con. They're designed so you never find a match. Because if you find someone, they stop making money off you. I'd say go to local singles events instead.
Not true. Never paid a penny for a dating app in my life. Singles events local to me you have to pay for.
It's different for women, as the ratio is there's apparently 10 guys for every woman on dating apps. But half of the guys are married 🤷🏽♂️it's a mess and deliberately kept that way to extract maximum cash out of everyone "
I never paid for premium but admit the apps like Tinder and Bumble try to tempt you by paying to see who liked you. Thankfully I had mates who had already been down that route and told me that all they saw were likes from 1000 miles away or people they didn’t fancy.
So a bit like anywhere else. Like the people you like and wait for the one of them to hopefully match.
I did well with ladies I met because (according to them) there were no pics of me with a fish, my profile was interesting and I had a lot of outdoors pics of me, and some pics were just of nature etc so have a good indication as to the things I like. |
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"Dating apps are a con. They're designed so you never find a match. Because if you find someone, they stop making money off you. I'd say go to local singles events instead.
Not true. Never paid a penny for a dating app in my life. Singles events local to me you have to pay for.
It's different for women, as the ratio is there's apparently 10 guys for every woman on dating apps. But half of the guys are married 🤷🏽♂️it's a mess and deliberately kept that way to extract maximum cash out of everyone
Not true again, have never met or matched with a married man ever off a dating site. And again never parted with any cash from using one, ever."
I was not referring to your personal experience, I was referring to research that you can read about online regarding the ratio of males to females on apps like tinder. You should have a Google and read, it's quite interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 days ago
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I’m a bit depressed reading this thread as I was about to dive into the world of dating apps again, I think it’s time I met the right one in life. So my question, if they’re still bad where is everyone meeting someone these days? Genuine suggestions needed, because I’m a lonely fucker! |
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By *adyBugsWoman 7 days ago
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"I’m a bit depressed reading this thread as I was about to dive into the world of dating apps again, I think it’s time I met the right one in life. So my question, if they’re still bad where is everyone meeting someone these days? Genuine suggestions needed, because I’m a lonely fucker!"
I don’t think people do meet judging by this thread and videos I see on social media. The internet has made everyone a throw away commodity always wanting or looking for the next best thing.
I gave up on dating a long time ago, it’s not that I don’t want to date, I just can’t tolerate the flakey behaviour of people online or their double standards and dishonesty. So I just go out on my own and enjoy things alone. Being single hasn’t stopped me enjoying life, it’s just a little different than my married friends or ones in relationships. |
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"I’m a bit depressed reading this thread as I was about to dive into the world of dating apps again, I think it’s time I met the right one in life. So my question, if they’re still bad where is everyone meeting someone these days? Genuine suggestions needed, because I’m a lonely fucker!"
Dating apps are fine.
Top suggestion….take some time on your profile pics. Not ones where you have cut someone else out, just a nice face pic of you on your own doing something you enjoy. Smile with your eyes not just your mouth. You’ll know if you have achieved it by covering your mouth and seeing whether the eyes are still smiling.
Make sure your pics give a good representation of the things you enjoy. But also consider whether a potential partner would also enjoy.
For example you may love fishing or football. But if your profile is all you in a football shirt or by a river it might make you look one dimensional.
As I said earlier my profile was pics of me doing various things, hiking, cycling, paddle boarding, but then some were just pictures of places I enjoy spending time, mountains, beaches etc. anyone swiping right on me knew what they were getting.
By the same token a profile which only showed someone holding a glasses of wine in a variety of different bars was likely to get ignored by me.
Choose one app, Hinge or Bumble. Don’t pay for premium. Just be honest and like the people you like. Start with an age range and close’ish proximity. Limit yourself to one or two likes sent a day.
And don’t spend too long in the app, once a day is plenty for ten minutes or so.
If you get a notification that you have been liked and asking you to pay to see ignore it’s When you come back online it is likely that anyone who swiped right who matches your criteria will be one of the first profiles you see.
If you swipe left and it tells you “you missed a match” that may be the only time you consider paying for the undo. But even so ask yourself why you swiped left, if because you thought out of your league or they wouldn’t like you, maybe worth paying for. If because you didn’t fancy them, just stick with your decision.
And I would suggest not chatting too long in the app, good to leave some stuff to chat about on a first date.
One of the biggest things I got out of the way on the app and on profile was my parenting responsibilities and the rota attached to it. Sometimes matched with people who didn’t have same child free weekends so was no point pursuing. |
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"I’m a bit depressed reading this thread as I was about to dive into the world of dating apps again, I think it’s time I met the right one in life. So my question, if they’re still bad where is everyone meeting someone these days? Genuine suggestions needed, because I’m a lonely fucker!"
I'd recommend going to local singles events personally. You are actually more likely to meet people face to face. Have a look at the meetup app or Google local singles events |
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I have had better luck on dating apps than here to be fair.
I’ve had my 2 longest a relationships by meeting people off them, but that’s was in the last decade.
Enshitifcation and mental burn out on my part have definitely made them worse.
Saying that I might give them another go soon. |
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