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The odds are stacked against you. There are many, many more men here than other demographics.
Things you can do to help:
A strong profile. A variety of pictures that show your body (a minority if any dick pics, face pics not necessary). Informative profile text that tells people about you.
Messaging: read the profile of the people you're messaging, and use it in your message. Respect their wishes (if you don't want to, don't message them). Remember that delete without reply means no thank you. Try to be interesting - "hi how are you" can feel like spam from a woman's perspective.
Statuses/forum use: the way you act in public may be used to judge your character. |
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Stand out from the rest.
How is easier said than done, funny attracts us more than a dick pic or "your are sexy"
Be respectful, timing is key you have more chance of being noticed Tuesday tea time than Friday night rush hour.
Mr 🐺 |
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Log out, put ya phone down, go outside and “touch grass” as the kids these days say.
You’re more likely to meet other fabbers in real life at an event than you are via the site alone.
All the advice about having a good profile and messaging approach is useful and true but some of these very same people are mote busy filtering out profiles from their inboxes daily than they are arranging meets through them. |
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A good profile is far more important than a good message. Most will look at that before deciding to even read a message. That means words as well as pictures.
If messaging a couple remember theyre a couple. Address both, even if you're straight. He is as important as she is.
And most importantly...just because someone is on a swinging site remember that doesn't mean they'll meet/fuck anyone and everyone. Likewise just because they're logged in it doesn't mean theyre looking for a meet at that moment, or in fact anytime soon. There's nothing less sexy than a 'meet now?' or 'I'm in your area' message.
Patience above all else.
Obi |
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My advice would be don’t ask women or couples what they want because they all want something different. And that’s kind of the point.
You need to specialise. Work out what you want (that should mean more than just a shag) and then focus on the people who want the same. Spamming the whole world will just get rejection. Setting your stall out to appeal to the people who want the same as you will get you a much futher.
Less is more. |
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You only get one chance to make a good first impression so don’t waste it.
There are 3 things you need to consider when messaging and these all have to be at a decent level:-
A good message, showing you’re not typing with one hand and understand your audience
A decent profile, which shows you’ve took some on it to try and sell yourself
Variable pics which shows us your personality and the way you want to portray yourself.
All 3 together are the top tier and gives you the best chance to have success on here.
Only have 1 of the 3? Then I’d spend more time on your profile rather than messaging people.
K |
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By *ino200Man 1 week ago
Bournemouth,london and Sienna |
"You only get one chance to make a good first impression so don’t waste it.
There are 3 things you need to consider when messaging and these all have to be at a decent level:-
A good message, showing you’re not typing with one hand and understand your audience
A decent profile, which shows you’ve took some on it to try and sell yourself
Variable pics which shows us your personality and the way you want to portray yourself.
All 3 together are the top tier and gives you the best chance to have success on here.
Only have 1 of the 3? Then I’d spend more time on your profile rather than messaging people.
K"
Just a question how do pics show personality ?Style maybe ,intent maybe  |
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By *ino200Man 1 week ago
Bournemouth,london and Sienna |
"Just a question how do pics show personality ?Style maybe ,intent maybe
Quite easy: if you have a dick pick, you are a dick, if you have an arsehole pic you are a...
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lol oh well many here are Dicks but some dicks have more personality than others |
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"You only get one chance to make a good first impression so don’t waste it.
There are 3 things you need to consider when messaging and these all have to be at a decent level:-
A good message, showing you’re not typing with one hand and understand your audience
A decent profile, which shows you’ve took some on it to try and sell yourself
Variable pics which shows us your personality and the way you want to portray yourself.
All 3 together are the top tier and gives you the best chance to have success on here.
Only have 1 of the 3? Then I’d spend more time on your profile rather than messaging people.
KJust a question how do pics show personality ?Style maybe ,intent maybe "
So people get an idea of you, how you dress/undress, your style, the way you want people to see you - they all add up to make up your personality. |
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By *enk15Man 1 week ago
Evesham |
"Just a question how do pics show personality ?Style maybe ,intent maybe
Quite easy: if you have a dick pick, you are a dick, if you have an arsehole pic you are a...
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I might have to pose with my cactus because I'm a massive prick. |
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I agree with the above about a decently written profile and pictures that are interesting and not just 578 different angles of your penis.
I think 'a good message' can be interpreted in different ways though. And that is something that people can influence. Don't copy/paste. Make it specific. Ask a questions. Don't just say 'hope you like what you see' or 'would love to chat' chat about what? This is your moment to spark her/their interest and neither of those two comments sparks my interest. Don't be a dud. |
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