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Fabswingers is in the news today as a woman outs her time her and accuses ex-husband if forcing her into sex with strangers.
Check out BBC news online.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c87q7g48y4po |
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"Just read this and came straight over.
Wonder if this will have an effect on the website at all? "
Bring more married men who fantasise about their wives sleeping with other men to the site but not bring the wives? |
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I see this as more of abuse and controlling behaviour. The site and activities she was involved with are a symptom of the coercive behaviour of her narcissistic husband. I do feel for her massively though. |
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"I see this as more of abuse and controlling behaviour. The site and activities she was involved with are a symptom of the coercive behaviour of her narcissistic husband. I do feel for her massively though. "
If fab wasn’t there then he would
Have found other ways dogging or classified adds
Etc .
Who remembers the contact mag days and discreet adverts in newsagents |
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A common theme in forums is "how to I persuade my wife". This woman was not just persuaded but coerced into sex, which is just another form of abuse. It would be nice to think that men here would think twice about their actions, but that's quite a fantasy.
Still. I believe the police can obtain details about people of interest from the site owners... |
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The story suggests the site is set up for this sort of behaviour - ‘facilitated abuse’ but if it wasn’t here then it would be some other site.
‘The BBC didn’t ask for figures from other swinging sites’ is also telling
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“Separately, police forces across the UK have told us the site has been mentioned in hundreds of recent crime reports.”
This is also a worrying issue, see it often when posts such as “how do I persuade my wife”, “seeing people in public who have blocked me”, “send photos of my wife without her knowing”.
There needs to be a collective clamp down on these, and other extremely questionable, posts. |
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With the amount of cheating guys here, being abusive and manipulative, I don't want this to turn into the other site that got exposed not so long ago for illegal and non consensual sexual abuse. Then guys posting pictures, videos about it.
CNN did an investigation on them
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So when a female says Yes, yes, she actually means no.
This is quite an alarming read:
Ruth's story raises a central question: how and why can people appear to agree, even enthusiastically, to sex they do not want?
Consent can be complicated, an expert tells us.
"It's quite possible for people to appear to consent to sex they don't want," says Prof Nicola Gavey, from the University of Auckland, who has researched unwanted sex since the 1980s. |
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"With the amount of cheating guys here, being abusive and manipulative, I don't want this to turn into the other site that got exposed not so long ago for illegal and non consensual sexual abuse. Then guys posting pictures, videos about it.
CNN did an investigation on them
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🤔🤔. Having read the article it has nothing to do with cheating guys. It’s manipulative partners/husbands. I would say it’s the couple accounts you need to be wary of more than the single guy profiles. |
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By *a LunaWoman 22 minutes ago
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"“Separately, police forces across the UK have told us the site has been mentioned in hundreds of recent crime reports.”
This is also a worrying issue, see it often when posts such as “how do I persuade my wife”, “seeing people in public who have blocked me”, “send photos of my wife without her knowing”.
There needs to be a collective clamp down on these, and other extremely questionable, posts."
I made the mistake of googling Fab and Police Crime Reports and it gives you details of crimes reported that mention Fab specifically. There is not 100’s, but there is enough to give pause. Stalking is mentioned, for example.
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By *rHotNottsMan 16 minutes ago
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"So when a female says Yes, yes, she actually means no.
This is quite an alarming read:
Ruth's story raises a central question: how and why can people appear to agree, even enthusiastically, to sex they do not want?
Consent can be complicated, an expert tells us.
"It's quite possible for people to appear to consent to sex they don't want," says Prof Nicola Gavey, from the University of Auckland, who has researched unwanted sex since the 1980s."
I've attended events with in laws I really didn't want to go to , often under pressure, but I did because I knew it made her happy.
Not a great example but in relationship's consenting to anything is often not completely free of pressure, expectation or compromise , that doesn't automatically make it abuse or coercion. There's a big difference between agreeing enthusiastically to sex with hundreds of men , often initiating it yourself and then later regretting it, to being forced or coerced into something. |
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"“Separately, police forces across the UK have told us the site has been mentioned in hundreds of recent crime reports.”
This is also a worrying issue, see it often when posts such as “how do I persuade my wife”, “seeing people in public who have blocked me”, “send photos of my wife without her knowing”.
There needs to be a collective clamp down on these, and other extremely questionable, posts."
That was one of the points that struck me, with the report going on to say:
"Their replies identified 329 reports mentioning the site, including allegations of r*pe, other serious sexual offences, controlling and coercive behaviour, harassment, bl*ckmail, stalking, assault and possession of extreme pornography." |
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"“Separately, police forces across the UK have told us the site has been mentioned in hundreds of recent crime reports.”
This is also a worrying issue, see it often when posts such as “how do I persuade my wife”, “seeing people in public who have blocked me”, “send photos of my wife without her knowing”.
There needs to be a collective clamp down on these, and other extremely questionable, posts.
I made the mistake of googling Fab and Police Crime Reports and it gives you details of crimes reported that mention Fab specifically. There is not 100’s, but there is enough to give pause. Stalking is mentioned, for example.
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Indeed, there’s been many a time where I’ve just wanted to publicly call out an extremely questionable post and yet, others see it as “just a bit of harmless fun”
Whilst there may not be 100’s showing up in the Google searches, not every report is in the public news, strong chance they’ve FOIA’d the information from them directly. |
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By *Effy-Woman 9 minutes ago
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I haven't read the article, but i just know that nothing nice is ever said about the swinging community.
That being said, a woman feeling coerced into this lifestyle isn't a shock. You only have to look at the multiple threads made about convincing their wives. It's not the first and won't be the last.
I hope that woman manages to reach out for some therapy. |
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"“Separately, police forces across the UK have told us the site has been mentioned in hundreds of recent crime reports.”
This is also a worrying issue, see it often when posts such as “how do I persuade my wife”, “seeing people in public who have blocked me”, “send photos of my wife without her knowing”.
There needs to be a collective clamp down on these, and other extremely questionable, posts.
That was one of the points that struck me, with the report going on to say:
"Their replies identified 329 reports mentioning the site, including allegations of r*pe, other serious sexual offences, controlling and coercive behaviour, harassment, bl*ckmail, stalking, assault and possession of extreme pornography.""
There we go, short of requiring all new members to go through a background check prior to joining, there’s no reasonable way to stamp this disgusting behaviour out here. |
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"With the amount of cheating guys here, being abusive and manipulative, I don't want this to turn into the other site that got exposed not so long ago for illegal and non consensual sexual abuse. Then guys posting pictures, videos about it.
CNN did an investigation on them
🤔🤔. Having read the article it has nothing to do with cheating guys. It’s manipulative partners/husbands. I would say it’s the couple accounts you need to be wary of more than the single guy profiles. "
That's unfair on the many couples profiles that are respectful and care deeply about their partners.
I did a post in a while ago about women who felt pressured and coerced to have sex with guys after agreeing to a social. Lots of women felt they had, I know many of them personally also pressured into giving verifications so the seemingly 'popular' guys seem even more popular and trusted. It happens a lot with single men
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"With the amount of cheating guys here, being abusive and manipulative, I don't want this to turn into the other site that got exposed not so long ago for illegal and non consensual sexual abuse. Then guys posting pictures, videos about it.
CNN did an investigation on them
🤔🤔. Having read the article it has nothing to do with cheating guys. It’s manipulative partners/husbands. I would say it’s the couple accounts you need to be wary of more than the single guy profiles.
That's unfair on the many couples profiles that are respectful and care deeply about their partners.
I did a post in a while ago about women who felt pressured and coerced to have sex with guys after agreeing to a social. Lots of women felt they had, I know many of them personally also pressured into giving verifications so the seemingly 'popular' guys seem even more popular and trusted. It happens a lot with single men
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It’s not unfair?? I didn’t say it was all couples. In this situation it will be more the couples’ accounts not the single male accounts no?? |
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