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I wouldn't feel sexually serious about a man in women's underwear.
I've had partners put them on while we shriek laughing but never part of sex .
And if they donned female characteristics i'd be out of there like a flash |
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There seems to be a lot of 'straight' men who dress in women's underwear... interestingly women don't seem to have the need or inclination to do this with mens underwear (I am sure there are exceptions to this too). There is something I think deep rooted in the psychology of this behaviour. Not enough space here to unpack. It's the same as Public sex environments I worked in this environment in community safety roles and over 12 years the stats consistently showed, 8 out of 10 men were straight but having sex with men (MSM)...married or in heterosexual relationships or very few single but identified as straight. Again many seemed to cross dress. It perhaps demonstrates societies restrictions on men being able to explore broader boundaries of sexualities.
It's been an observation and my view over some years ...  |
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Speaking as a masculine and definitely not sissy or feminine bisexual man who crossdresses, I've been fortunate to know a few women who while they aren't into it as a primary fetish, nevertheless accept that it's a thing that turbocharges my libido.
If I feel sexy, and I do in lingerie, I'm more readily turned on and actually become more assertive (I hesitate to use the word dominant because of the BDSM overtones) and simply down to fuck.
I totally get that many people can't get past the gender roles they grew up with including clothing and no criticism there; you can't make anyone like what doesn't do it for them. But when you find somebody that does, naturally and openly, the sparks will fly.
As I say, I've been lucky. |
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"Speaking as a masculine and definitely not sissy or feminine bisexual man who crossdresses, I've been fortunate to know a few women who while they aren't into it as a primary fetish, nevertheless accept that it's a thing that turbocharges my libido.
If I feel sexy, and I do in lingerie, I'm more readily turned on and actually become more assertive (I hesitate to use the word dominant because of the BDSM overtones) and simply down to fuck.
I totally get that many people can't get past the gender roles they grew up with including clothing and no criticism there; you can't make anyone like what doesn't do it for them. But when you find somebody that does, naturally and openly, the sparks will fly.
As I say, I've been lucky. "
This is spot-on! What a brilliant way of putting it - perfectly sums it up
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"I have had quite a few messages from straight guys who like to wear lingerie.
And what did you think, or reply?"
I have no problem with it whatsoever. Sometimes theyve sent me photos because I think they wanted to show someone. One person messages me regularly because he feels its secretive. |
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By *arylR OP Man 2 weeks ago
Brixham |
"I've been told a few times that I have more effeminate shaped legs than many females and a feminine body shape.
Although it's mostly men that say this."
Not bad at all looking at your pics, my wife says I have a great pair of legs as well |
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By *adyBugsWoman 2 weeks ago
not local even if it says I am |
It depends on the person wearing it. It’s going to be about the person rather than what they are wearing but I do have one or two males on my hot list who look fucking incredible in lingerie or heels. One in particular I’d love to meet sometime 😈 |
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By *aked beachMan 2 weeks ago
Just A Stranger In A Strange Land. |
"I don't like it when they look better than me wearing it!!"
An ex GF asked me to try once, sex was scandalously sensational, and it wasn’t particularly bad generally. Asked me a second time, again the sex was out of this world. The 3rd time she asked was a little less enthusiastic. She said I looked better in lingerie and stockings than she did (she was right, I did), didn’t do it again.
Not on my to do list now. |
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By *arylR OP Man 2 weeks ago
Brixham |
"I don't like it when they look better than me wearing it!!
Haha this too
Cotopaxi and those heels - not jealous at all! 😤
Omg yes! I'd love to know how he makes it look so effortless 🙄"
I saw what you meant, but no chance of that happening to you either, especially not with those killer curves of yours 😜 |
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"Just trying to gauge opinions here, there seems to be a lot of straight men who wear lingerie and I was wondering how many worn and/or couples like this?"
I do, but I hang out with the LGBTQIA+ community in kink and fetish events and parties.
I'm a switch and I tie men in rope bondage and I appreciate seeing men in a more vulnerable but expressive sexual position.
Two Sundays ago I watched a straight couple play in rope bondage. First he tied her up and then she tied him up. It was nice to see. He actually spent longer in the rope than she did and she undressed him more. Sometimes in Shibari..the rope is the lingerie. |
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I might have a slight kink for all things lingerie...😳🤔😅
Since being a teenager I've always had an admiration for ladies in lingerie. The only place to view back then was mum's catalogues!
Gf's gladly dressed up for me and I loved it... the look and the feel.
In my early 30's I got in from a night out with an ex and put on her knickers for a laugh and found it a massive turn on... things just grew from there.. literally!
I don't dress to look or act feminine (I wouldn't be able to pull it off anyway ha) just love how it feels. Don't need to wear to have fun/get turned on and obviously it's only fun if all enjoy it.
A guy in lingerie is not to everyone's taste. I find it much easier to chat with people on this site about it. I've had some great conversations with some people not into yet are still a little intrigued about the how and when it came about.
Always happy to answer any questions x |
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"Think I getting old lol
I cannot think men in stocking etc
And saying straight men in same sentence.
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Ironically it’s statistically more straight men like lingerie. As it stems from child hood visions of older women
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As someone who does it, I can enjoy it on other men too if I were meeting someone.
I get lots of messages from 'straight' men whose first message includes pictures of them dressed in something or other. |
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By *aked beachMan 2 weeks ago
Just A Stranger In A Strange Land. |
"Just my opinion but if a straight man wears lingerie, I don't think he's straight."
How so, please explain…
I mean we might also say Guys who are sub to women, are ordered about and wear a cock cage aren’t real Men and therefore aren’t straight.
Just a thought |
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"Just my opinion but if a straight man wears lingerie, I don't think he's straight.
How so, please explain…
I mean we might also say Guys who are sub to women, are ordered about and wear a cock cage aren’t real Men and therefore aren’t straight.
Just a thought "
Wearing women's clothes and wearing a cock cage are to very different things. |
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By *arylR OP Man 2 weeks ago
Brixham |
"I do it for women who like it, not necessarily cos I like it, live n let live.. i wouldnt do it for women who like it  "
I wonder if the lady could change your mind with some very appealing promises? |
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Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight. |
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By *arylR OP Man 1 week ago
Brixham |
"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight. "
A little confused at the end? |
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"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end? "
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight. Men shouldn't be in female clothing and say they are straight because clearly they are not. I don't hate on anybody but most of the tvs on here look worse as a woman than they do as a man, however there are a few ts which look better than some of the females on here. |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 1 week ago
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"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end?
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight. "
Clothes do not determine sexuality |
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"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end?
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight.
Clothes do not determine sexuality"
Of course they do. You are biologically a man. You wear lingerie and you have sex with men. You identify as a TV. A TV is a man in woman's clothes. What's to argue that point. Man in woman's clothing =TV a man that has boobs is at least transtioning to a female or at least has gone to the lengths of attempting it so diffrent circumstances. |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 1 week ago
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"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end?
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight.
Clothes do not determine sexuality
Of course they do. You are biologically a man. You wear lingerie and you have sex with men. You identify as a TV. A TV is a man in woman's clothes. What's to argue that point. Man in woman's clothing =TV a man that has boobs is at least transtioning to a female or at least has gone to the lengths of attempting it so diffrent circumstances. "
You said "straight men in lingerie are not straight"
They can be if they only have sex with women.
Quite simple really. |
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My argument is men that say they're straight are Not straight if they wearing female clothes. They're choosing to be feminine, but if a man needs to wear a pair of knickers to get aroused that use ough reason to question their sexuality. How many females want to have sex with a TV aka a man dressed as a woman. A quick glance on here suggests very few
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 1 week ago
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"My argument is men that say they're straight are Not straight if they wearing female clothes. They're choosing to be feminine, but if a man needs to wear a pair of knickers to get aroused that use ough reason to question their sexuality. How many females want to have sex with a TV aka a man dressed as a woman. A quick glance on here suggests very few
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The official definition of being sexually straight is:
Being sexually straight (or heterosexual) means a person is romantically or sexually attracted exclusively to people of a different gender or sex.
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So no matter what clothes they wear it doesn't alter their sexual orientation.
I think you're getting confused. |
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"My argument is men that say they're straight are Not straight if they wearing female clothes. They're choosing to be feminine, but if a man needs to wear a pair of knickers to get aroused that use ough reason to question their sexuality. How many females want to have sex with a TV aka a man dressed as a woman. A quick glance on here suggests very few
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Yes they are. If they are only attracted to women/only have sex with women, they are straight.
What about a straight woman who puts on a man's shirt. Does she become a lesbian? |
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Men who are attracted exclusively to females but where woman's clothes just shouts out I'm a gay or bi sexual man that can't admit they are not straight.
They're just in the closet. Just like a lot of the guys on this site who sleep with men CD tvs etc but say they're straight. |
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"Men who are attracted exclusively to females but where woman's clothes just shouts out I'm a gay or bi sexual man that can't admit they are not straight.
They're just in the closet. Just like a lot of the guys on this site who sleep with men CD tvs etc but say they're straight. "
The call is coming from inside the house, my dude. 👀 |
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"Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight. Men shouldn't be in female clothing and say they are straight because clearly they are not. I don't hate on anybody but most of the tvs on here look worse as a woman than they do as a man, however there are a few ts which look better than some of the females on here. "
And stop saying females. It’s creepy |
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"Men who are attracted exclusively to females but where woman's clothes just shouts out I'm a gay or bi sexual man that can't admit they are not straight.
They're just in the closet. Just like a lot of the guys on this site who sleep with men CD tvs etc but say they're straight. "
Ah right, so you're a mind reader. In that case, we'll all shut up.
What about gay men who hate the idea of wearing lingerie and only wear "men's clothes"? Are they closet straights?
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"Men who are attracted exclusively to females but where woman's clothes just shouts out I'm a gay or bi sexual man that can't admit they are not straight.
They're just in the closet. Just like a lot of the guys on this site who sleep with men CD tvs etc but say they're straight. "
What!? 🤣🙄 |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 1 week ago
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"Men who are attracted exclusively to females but where woman's clothes just shouts out I'm a gay or bi sexual man that can't admit they are not straight.
They're just in the closet. "
https://youtu.be/A8dnP_yZcNQ?is=jQ1_ZtJADivnhBVq |
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By *arylR OP Man 1 week ago
Brixham |
"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end?
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight. Men shouldn't be in female clothing and say they are straight because clearly they are not. I don't hate on anybody but most of the tvs on here look worse as a woman than they do as a man, however there are a few ts which look better than some of the females on here. "
You start with:
Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi
You end with:
Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight
Its opposing statements in the same post, thats what I meant |
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"Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi yet it seems that most of the men that do are gay or bi and those thst meet tvs and say they're straight, no you are not. It's a man in lingerie.
It's that simple.. Couples who do it for a laugh, I can understand that a bit more. Role reversal. Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight.
A little confused at the end?
Sorry
What confused you. Straight men in lingerie are not straight. Men shouldn't be in female clothing and say they are straight because clearly they are not. I don't hate on anybody but most of the tvs on here look worse as a woman than they do as a man, however there are a few ts which look better than some of the females on here.
You start with:
Clothes don't make you straight gay or bi
You end with:
Single guys who do it. Yh you know you not straight
Its opposing statements in the same post, thats what I meant"
I put that 1st part as a response to someine saying that clothes don't determine sexuality. I didn't put the right punctuations in place. |
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By *aked beachMan 1 week ago
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"Just my opinion but if a straight man wears lingerie, I don't think he's straight.
How so, please explain…
I mean we might also say Guys who are sub to women, are ordered about and wear a cock cage aren’t real Men and therefore aren’t straight.
Just a thought
Wearing women's clothes and wearing a cock cage are to very different things."
Well they are of course, but it’s still a form of submission. How about if the Ladies in your pics suddenly decide to make you a part of their forced feminisation fantasy?
Anyway, more to the point, sexual orientation is determined my who you have sex with, not by what you wear. |
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"Love the fact all the men that are saying they do wear woman's undies or they think it's OK are all down as gay and bisexual so it proves my point "
correlation and causation.
I'm suspect take majority are. Or at least, I suspect the majority who are open about talking about it are (because if you are straight and into it, you may be feeling some shame or feelings here)
But doing it doesn't make you bi or gay. In the same way pegging doesn't make you gay. Nor does snowballing. And lesbians who wear trousers and strap ons aren't straight. |
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"I can’t imagine any woman liking it, unless they like humiliating the guy doing it. "
I’m not into humiliation and I don’t think it’s only effeminate men who like to wear lingerie. I love a man secure enough in himself to play around with gender and I am really attracted to androgyny. One of the best times I had with the man who would become my ex-husband was when we did a full swap and I was in his clothes and he was in mine. HOT
It’s about expression, it’s about being playful and it’s whatever you’re comfortable with. You don’t want to wear lingerie, fine. But you don’t get to make sweeping judgements about the men who do. |
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I love seeing a fine masculine man wearing lingerie. It’s a real turn on. I love being fucked by him. It’s a visual dynamic tension between the masculine body and the feminine apparel. Gorgeous and very sexy. |
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"I love seeing a fine masculine man wearing lingerie. It’s a real turn on. I love being fucked by him. It’s a visual dynamic tension between the masculine body and the feminine apparel. Gorgeous and very sexy. "
What a refreshing change from most of the comments! |
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By *arylR OP Man 6 days ago
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"I love seeing a fine masculine man wearing lingerie. It’s a real turn on. I love being fucked by him. It’s a visual dynamic tension between the masculine body and the feminine apparel. Gorgeous and very sexy.
What a refreshing change from most of the comments! "
Indeed it is |
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Does nothing for me personally however me and the man often play this little game when we are out that I take off my knickers to give to him to then put on , he likes the fact they have been worn and have my scent next to his cock. Had to change the photos we put up to friends only though because people saw and presumably thought he was a cross dresser, which he is not. |
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Im a straight submissive and most people see a sub guy and automatically think gay or bi. Im not a crossdresser,but Ive had g/fs in the past, whove done it to me. I dont own Womens clothes, I dont wear Womens clothes but for me, having a Woman put makeup on me is the most relaxing thing I've ever done. I dont care what it looks like. I dont have secret desires to be Female or if a Woman dressed me Id immediately turn gay or something, its a bit of fun, its embarrassing at first .
I can understand if a guy wants to do this all the time, or secretly done it for years a wife/partner might not be to happy. But on a site were we get 100s of status messages and forum posts everyday with guys or couples looking for cuckold cleanup scenarios and no one cares, or considers that as bi or gay. There's a lot of negativity in this thread .
As I said previously, its something Ive done a few times when I was younger. Im certainly not bi or gay or even a TV |
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By *DGF20Man 6 days ago
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It's obvious that most women aren't interested in something like that.
Majority if not all men who dress are not straight.
Any man who likes to dress up, if that's their kink there's nothing wrong with that, but not for me.
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Mrs likes to get hubby to dress up in knickers, stockings, dress etc
Our profile says mr is bi curious but mr is not attracted to other guys but Mrs has requested he try as it turns her on and he is happy to do so. Why does it matter your orientation if you dress up. Mrs has mr is suspenders and knickers and her strap on out way before even asking him to play with a guy. If it turns you on it turns you on. |
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By *arylR OP Man 6 days ago
Brixham |
"Mrs likes to get hubby to dress up in knickers, stockings, dress etc
Our profile says mr is bi curious but mr is not attracted to other guys but Mrs has requested he try as it turns her on and he is happy to do so. Why does it matter your orientation if you dress up. Mrs has mr is suspenders and knickers and her strap on out way before even asking him to play with a guy. If it turns you on it turns you on. "
Totally agree, whatever floats your boat 😉
Too many judgemental people on here |
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"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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Totally agree with this, not sure I utterly own it, but if truth be told, I don’t care what anyone thinks. |
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"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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Just to add anyone who would like to reply should do so on the thread please 👍🏻 |
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"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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See also...Mankini 😎 |
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"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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Would you enjoy dressing a guy ? |
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By *arylR OP Man 4 days ago
Brixham |
"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
Just to add anyone who would like to reply should do so on the thread please 👍🏻"
I love wearing, and I hope I own them too |
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By *arylR OP Man 4 days ago
Brixham |
"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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Very intriguing photos LB 🙂 |
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"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
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This is the point I've reached after trying out being a total TV (doesn't work for me, I wouldn't pass as a woman and honestly feel uncomfortable at appropriating another gender's mannerisms and persona).
So I'm male all the way, completely bisexual, but still love my lingerie (and Vinted is my best friend, I buy all my own ) |
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By *arylR OP Man 9 hours ago
Brixham |
"I absolutely love a man… straight or bi… In stockings.
Sexy AF
OP it isn’t about whether they’re straight or bi for me. It’s them wearing something sexy and utterly owning it.
This is the point I've reached after trying out being a total TV (doesn't work for me, I wouldn't pass as a woman and honestly feel uncomfortable at appropriating another gender's mannerisms and persona).
So I'm male all the way, completely bisexual, but still love my lingerie (and Vinted is my best friend, I buy all my own )"
Totally with you on Vinted  |
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