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By *eli OP Woman 3 hours ago
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"Yes I have. The urgency of youth mellows over time for *some* women (trying to avoid generalising lol). Age by no means indicates experience or better. "
What do you mean by the urgency of youth in women? |
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"Yes I have. The urgency of youth mellows over time for *some* women (trying to avoid generalising lol). Age by no means indicates experience or better.
What do you mean by the urgency of youth in women? "
I didn't include men because I don't know if they feel the same way but for myself and some of my contemporaries that urgent 'must have sex right here, right now' feeling mellows with time. To sort of misquote Mes Patrick Campbell it's like the deep, deep peace of older age after the hurly burly of youth.  |
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By *vaRoseWoman 3 hours ago
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"Yes I have. The urgency of youth mellows over time for *some* women (trying to avoid generalising lol). Age by no means indicates experience or better.
What do you mean by the urgency of youth in women?
I didn't include men because I don't know if they feel the same way but for myself and some of my contemporaries that urgent 'must have sex right here, right now' feeling mellows with time. To sort of misquote Mes Patrick Campbell it's like the deep, deep peace of older age after the hurly burly of youth. "
Do you mean that you prefer to take your time and savour it, rather than a rampant quicky?
Or that the want and urgency is now somehow lesser?
If it’s the former I’d agree for me. It’s the difference between a delicious meal or a sausage roll from the garage. Both will fill a hole but only one will leave me really satisfied…. And yes I acknowledge that on rare occasions a quick sausage roll is exactly what I needed.
As for partners, experience matters less than people think. It’s not an indicator of being a good lover. Those that trot out the same “guaranteed” moves or relying on dick size only, without really observing and listening to their partner will be leaving a trail of disappointment |
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Those I've met that are much younger.....early 30s for example have always felt somewhat of a dissapointment.
Like they can talk the talk....but cant put it into practice.
Their ability to communicate also leave a little to be desired.
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In my experience women in their 40s, 50s and onwards start to enter their prime. They seem to have reached that stage where they care less about what other people think, they can focus on what they want and they are not afraid to ask for it. I love that. |
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"In your experience, have you found there's any difference in terms of sex with older/younger/middler people?
As in, the approach, the physical act - that kind of stuff. "
Yes and no.
I've met people of all ages that are experienced/inexperienced, lazy/enthusiastic, eager to please/in it for themselves.
They do say wisdom comes with age.
Some just appear to either have ignored learning experiences or just choose to rely on stereotypes or are set in their ways and refuse to adapt/evolve.
There's nothing wrong with admitting you don't know everything. There's everything wrong with thinking you do, regardless of age.
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in my younger days I must admit I was learning and I wanted to enjoy myself as an older more experienced guy I get pleasure out of making the lady enjoy herself and if I do manage to come all the better but as long as she has had a good time I feel well satisfied |
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Depends on the chemistry and connection. Some people have certain moves. Some people adapt. Some don't have much experience (regardless of age). Sexual experiences can vary for each person. Not everyone is having sex, or even a lot of it. Some people expect the other person to do the work. We humans are so different. |
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"In my experience women in their 40s, 50s and onwards start to enter their prime. They seem to have reached that stage where they care less about what other people think, they can focus on what they want and they are not afraid to ask for it. I love that."
It's true. I had a sexual awakening at my 50’ not expecting it at all. My young version was so self-conscious, rigid and inexperienced. This one is better.
But saying that, I'm NOT into young men (less than 32), I think they are expecting a sex bomb porn massive tits, dirty talk mummy master, sluty teacher, instead of just me. The face of disappointment of the young hooligan, with whom I agreed to have a social, because maybe I wasn't ready in heels and lingerie is still haunting me one year later. I wrote a customer Service Warning in my bio because of that. No thank |
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"Yes I have. The urgency of youth mellows over time for *some* women (trying to avoid generalising lol). Age by no means indicates experience or better.
What do you mean by the urgency of youth in women?
I didn't include men because I don't know if they feel the same way but for myself and some of my contemporaries that urgent 'must have sex right here, right now' feeling mellows with time. To sort of misquote Mes Patrick Campbell it's like the deep, deep peace of older age after the hurly burly of youth.
Do you mean that you prefer to take your time and savour it, rather than a rampant quicky?
Or that the want and urgency is now somehow lesser?
If it’s the former I’d agree for me. It’s the difference between a delicious meal or a sausage roll from the garage. Both will fill a hole but only one will leave me really satisfied…. And yes I acknowledge that on rare occasions a quick sausage roll is exactly what I needed.
As for partners, experience matters less than people think. It’s not an indicator of being a good lover. Those that trot out the same “guaranteed” moves or relying on dick size only, without really observing and listening to their partner will be leaving a trail of disappointment "
Yes but I've also found a marked difference in the approach of younger people. I used the word 'urgency' because thats what it feels like to me |
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From my POV and experience, I have been with both older and younger ladies - the younger ladies I was with upon reflection had similar experience in terms of play styles as the older ladies I was with I.e positions, intimacy, expressiveness. The main differences I guess was length of interest after orgasm, the younger lady one specifically in mind went all night long and I mean till daylight, whereas the older lady was a couple of hours. With that in mind the women my age I find have their orgasm once and are pretty much done. So I have a bias for 18-24s then kind of skip to 40+ based on my experience. Not that I would give the ages in between a chance |
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As a young guy I can only speak for myself. But sex in my generation (amongst my generation) seems to me like a fuck fest, get in, cum and get out sort of thing. It’s tough this as I can only speak anecdotally… but with women who have 15/20 years on me it’s more of the connection and the actual mental stimulation that entices them. Which I prefer by the way. |
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By *eli OP Woman 1 hour ago
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"What do you mean by the urgency of youth in women?
I didn't include men because I don't know if they feel the same way but for myself and some of my contemporaries that urgent 'must have sex right here, right now' feeling mellows with time. To sort of misquote Mes Patrick Campbell it's like the deep, deep peace of older age after the hurly burly of youth. "
Oh I get it. Yes. Right now there are times when I'm ridiculously horny and can make unwise decisions because of that need. I'm not talking fucking a trucker in a layby at 2am, but dumb nonsense I wouldn't normally. It's good to know that calms down, tired of seriously contemplating a nunnery. :D |
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By *eli OP Woman 60 minutes ago
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"Those I've met that are much younger.....early 30s for example have always felt somewhat of a dissapointment.
Like they can talk the talk....but cant put it into practice.
Their ability to communicate also leave a little to be desired.
Mrs. "
Has that made you shift your age ranges? |
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I like a partner with experience but sometimes they may have had many partners but don't learn much from them.
Not all women are the same and what works for one won't work for another
That being the case experience isn't always all it's cracked up to be.
Willingness to learn and be taught can also be exciting and fun.
Personally the best sex I've had have been with people I have met numerous times where we have learnt from each other and know what we like. It is very rare a one off is as satisfying as someone you know. |
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