"Cheers. My gf just wont anymore. She actually recoiled a few months ago when i lent in...it was heartbreaking "
Maybe reconsider your relationship, too young to be in an intimacy and passion free relationship |
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Cheers....ive been patient and tried all the above. The main consideration i had was whether my expectations were too high. I wondered if i should just accept that happens on any longterm relationship. |
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"Cheers....ive been patient and tried all the above. The main consideration i had was whether my expectations were too high. I wondered if i should just accept that happens on any longterm relationship. "
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I don't think it's normal, personally. |
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"Cheers....ive been patient and tried all the above. The main consideration i had was whether my expectations were too high. I wondered if i should just accept that happens on any longterm relationship. "
It is not normal and you don't have to accept it.
Your GF may have OCD and for that she needs to seek professional help. But what you want is not unreasonable and if she can't meet your needs then have a good think about what your really want for your life. |
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Thanks. She is a good person, and i do consider myself lucky to have her. It's been a problem for a long time now and ive raised it. I told her in Feb that unless it changes im off...but now...ive created pressure...eurgh |
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"Thanks. She is a good person, and i do consider myself lucky to have her. It's been a problem for a long time now and ive raised it. I told her in Feb that unless it changes im off...but now...ive created pressure...eurgh"
Perhaps a healthier response would be medical or psychological support? |
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True. Both have been considered and are starting. I am worried that i am struggling for patience though as it's been years. These are not quick fixes or guarantees. Equally, i dont want to throw something away....tough balance x |
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"True. Both have been considered and are starting. I am worried that i am struggling for patience though as it's been years. These are not quick fixes or guarantees. Equally, i dont want to throw something away....tough balance x"
I would say it’s something that is accepted as normal but shouldn’t be. Long term intimacy is unbelievably important. Not just sex and kissing but physical affection too.
Are you in a non-monogamous relationship with her? If so, then you can take different things from different relationships and the kissing with her becomes less important as you find that elsewhere with her knowledge and consent. If not, then you being on here is also potentially as big an issue as her OCD. |
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I think kissing is such an important part if you are in an intimate relationship/situationship with someone. Even if sex isn't on the cards, that kiss still very much important. If someone didn't want to kiss me then I wouldn't/couldn't be with them x |
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Kissing is essential in any intimate setting for me, whether its a relationship or meeting here.
There are some profiles on here that say no kissing, each to their own, but I avoid them because of how big a part kissing is for me. |
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