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Having children and still feel lonely!!
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over a year ago
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I try very hard to get my children to spend at least one evening with me to chat, have laugh and even dinner but they seem to have such busy social lives I never seem to fit into it anymore.
I am starting to feel they use the house as a stop gap. Is there anyone else feeling like this out there or am I on my own??
Ruby.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you're not alone, I think when kids get to a certain age they do treat the house like a hotel. I only have mine at the weekends but my eldest only stays one night at the most and spends most of that on his phone, the youngest only stays in the living room with me because his xbox is in here!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try very hard to get my children to spend at least one evening with me to chat, have laugh and even dinner but they seem to have such busy social lives I never seem to fit into it anymore.
I am starting to feel they use the house as a stop gap. Is there anyone else feeling like this out there or am I on my own??
Ruby.....
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This is exactly what I hope my children's lives will be like when they are old enough. depending on how old your children are, I think you should find other things to occupy your time as it is inevitable that your children will grow up and have their own lives. |
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thats what they usualy do though one day things might be different and they might be glad of your company.
make the most of your free time as it might not be long before they are dumping their kids on you expecting you to look after them when they go to work or want to go out.  |
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Depends on their age.
Parents need a life of their own and to be at their childrens beck and call less.
It's not just you. After years of investment and devotion it can be a shock to the system to find that you are not the centre of their universe.
They haven't had to care for anyone like a mum has.
They come back.
Then you will be beating them off with a big stick. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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My son is 23 on minimum wage
My first daughter is 16 with special needs, but her friends see that she is ok when she is out and about and on sleep overs
My other daughter is almost 15 and totally dependent on me as she is severely disabled non verbal.
I left home very early but times have changed now and it's very hard for the youngsters to move out!! |
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"I try very hard to get my children to spend at least one evening with me to chat, have laugh and even dinner but they seem to have such busy social lives I never seem to fit into it anymore.
I am starting to feel they use the house as a stop gap. Is there anyone else feeling like this out there or am I on my own??
Ruby.....
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You're not alone. I don't feel lonely per se, but I miss the closeness we had. My youngest used to pop into my office for lunch, pick me up from work but since she started dating we pass as ships in the night. My other daughter just pops in to use the washer and dryer and shop in my cupboards but no conversation.
When I mentioned it they were surprised. They think because I have a boyfriend I'm okay. It's not the same, I miss my girls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Join the club, I've been made redundant, I wash and feed .
They have their own lives as such.
But on the plus side I get more free time, speaking of which 
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Join the club, I've been made redundant, I wash and feed .
They have their own lives as such.
But on the plus side I get more free time, speaking of which
Her"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Join the club, I've been made redundant, I wash and feed .
They have their own lives as such.
But on the plus side I get more free time, speaking of which
Her
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my daughter is staying for weekend yet she is in one room watching tv and im in the other..but feels good just knowing she's here.she's nearly 18 and if i ask too many questions i just get a shut up dad x X X  |
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