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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do people come up and talk to you, or is it you that usually goes and starts talking to people?
We (me and my man pal) were at a party recently and realised that apart from people we'd met/ chatted to before, no-one came and talked to us.
When we're on our own we go and chat to people. Not sure if it's something odd about us when we're together.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It greatly depends on the other person's sense of humour and thickness of their skin. If someone is easily offended then they will probably find me quite obnoxious and unapproachable.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On buses I appear to be totally irresistible to tramps, people who smell of wee and the verbally incontinent.
I regard myself as quite insular naturally but at work I have to be the total opposite.
Love one on one more than group situations as i enjoy working out what makes the other person tick. Fascinated with why people are who they are. |
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Yes, I'm the one random people stop to talk in the street or come and sit next to me on the bus. But then I talk to anyone as well. I live in a small town and you generally pass the odd word to everyone that goes by when stood leaning over the gate
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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dunno, you tell me. you came and chatted lol
usually i suppose if someone talks to me, i usually talk back.
but i very rarely approach people.
im not very confident, whether you believe that or not
V would chat to a mirror lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, I'm the one random people stop to talk in the street or come and sit next to me on the bus. But then I talk to anyone as well. I live in a small town and you generally pass the odd word to everyone that goes by when stood leaning over the gate
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Same here. I live in a small village and everyone says hi to everyone really. |
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I am quite a shy person at first, but always try to chat if someone strikes up a conversation. I love to talk to people and find out more about them, their likes and needs. I always used to love people watching, you can learn so much just by watching them  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I like to think I am pretty approachable most of the time. I'm quite smiley and make eye contact alot with others.
But after being told quite a few times that I'm nicer than they thought I was going to be....I'm not so sure! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face to face I'm very approachable, I am generally a lively, chatty person. If I don't chat or the conversation is forced then its because I don't like that person, and I can tell instantly how its going to be as I read body language and facial expression very well.
Generally I can chat for hours with people. For some reason old ladies tend to like to chat to me and I also enjoy the older generations stories  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very comfortable chatting in room full of strangers and I'm pretty engaging and approachable myself...even my resting bitch face doesn't seem to deter people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
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Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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According to a friend of mine, I am intimidating because I'm well spoken, and can be very aloof.
When out he mentioned a few times that men look at me but don't have the balls to approach me.
So that would be a no then....
Yet when working in customer service, I had clients approach me as I seemed friendly.
Depends on the context I guess x |
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"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
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But you let me look up your kilt before I even looked in your eyes!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"dunno, you tell me. you came and chatted lol
usually i suppose if someone talks to me, i usually talk back.
but i very rarely approach people.
im not very confident, whether you believe that or not
V would chat to a mirror lol"
You were friendly. You did look scared of me though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dunno, you tell me. you came and chatted lol
usually i suppose if someone talks to me, i usually talk back.
but i very rarely approach people.
im not very confident, whether you believe that or not
V would chat to a mirror lol
You were friendly. You did look scared of me though. "
im scared of everyone lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dunno, you tell me. you came and chatted lol
usually i suppose if someone talks to me, i usually talk back.
but i very rarely approach people.
im not very confident, whether you believe that or not
V would chat to a mirror lol
You were friendly. You did look scared of me though.
im scared of everyone lol"
BOO  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I Mr liddy am a properly miserable old man I tried to avoid any sort of human contact as much as possible, even sitting with arms folded and eyes down so nobody even attempts to chat to me, Mrs liddy is super friendly and will just walk up and talk to anyone, and people seem to be drawn to her to talk to her because she stands out, so we sort meet in the middle, well she tells me to stop been a sour face and talk to people lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what mood I'm in and the situation.
Those charity people in town centres sure do like me and make a beeline for me as soon as they spot me.
I'm polite but generally not particularly interested and prefer to keep to myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No drink =totally unapproachable
Some drink = whole room wants to know you
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Yeah I'm a bit like that.
I find if I've had a drink it loosens me up a bit.
I'm pretty chatty anyway. But shit looks different with alcohol.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
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No drink =totally unapproachable
Some drink = whole room wants to know you
Yeah I'm a bit like that.
I find if I've had a drink it loosens me up a bit.
I'm pretty chatty anyway. But shit looks different with alcohol.
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It's still shit though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No drink =totally unapproachable
Some drink = whole room wants to know you
Yeah I'm a bit like that.
I find if I've had a drink it loosens me up a bit.
I'm pretty chatty anyway. But shit looks different with alcohol.
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I'm the same actually, it's a social lubricant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
But you let me look up your kilt before I even looked in your eyes!!"
Oh ffs now I sound easy too! 
Joking aside, I am pretty approachable and will talk to most people. But I do have a low tolerance for some people so if the first impression is a bad one they will get short shrift. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
But you let me look up your kilt before I even looked in your eyes!!
Oh ffs now I sound easy too!
Joking aside, I am pretty approachable and will talk to most people. But I do have a low tolerance for some people so if the first impression is a bad one they will get short shrift."
Friday huff... I didn't get to LOOK up your skirt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
But you let me look up your kilt before I even looked in your eyes!!
Oh ffs now I sound easy too!
Joking aside, I am pretty approachable and will talk to most people. But I do have a low tolerance for some people so if the first impression is a bad one they will get short shrift.
Friday huff... I didn't get to LOOK up your skirt!"
To be fair at your height I would have thought it would have been unavoidable! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In real life I'm even more grumpy and cynical than on here, so I guess that means not at all approachable!
We must have caught you on a good day then..
Sssshhhhhh! I have a reputation to uphold
But you let me look up your kilt before I even looked in your eyes!!
Oh ffs now I sound easy too!
Joking aside, I am pretty approachable and will talk to most people. But I do have a low tolerance for some people so if the first impression is a bad one they will get short shrift."
ah, that explains a lot lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No drink =totally unapproachable
Some drink = whole room wants to know you
Yeah I'm a bit like that.
I find if I've had a drink it loosens me up a bit.
I'm pretty chatty anyway. But shit looks different with alcohol.
I'm the same actually, it's a social lubricant."
They also mentioned that my infectious smile did help |
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Im a very chatty person , makes mindy laugh as we can be sat anywhere and If someone is with in earshot I will start nattering with them wether they want to natter or not ,
am I approachable ,,, well I like to think I am but all the pretty ladies are generaly turning on their heels and start walking / running away , do you think they are trying to tell me something  ,
even had one lady in Xtasia say 'ughhh do you think I want to speak to you 'and she turned around and walked away with her partner
the funny thing was later on in the evening we saw them sat in the same chairs as when they walked into the place still looking as miserable as sin , we were having a whale of a time at the bar chatting to all sorts of folks ,but we kept on catching a glare or a scowl from them as if we had spoiled their evening , yes they were a very good looking couple ,I was probably punching above my weight but unfortunately they had their heads so far up their own arses they couldnt see a good time if it smacked them in the face |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Im a very chatty person , makes mindy laugh as we can be sat anywhere and If someone is with in earshot I will start nattering with them wether they want to natter or not ,
am I approachable ,,, well I like to think I am but all the pretty ladies are generaly turning on their heels and start walking / running away , do you think they are trying to tell me something ,
even had one lady in Xtasia say 'ughhh do you think I want to speak to you 'and she turned around and walked away with her partner
the funny thing was later on in the evening we saw them sat in the same chairs as when they walked into the place still looking as miserable as sin , we were having a whale of a time at the bar chatting to all sorts of folks ,but we kept on catching a glare or a scowl from them as if we had spoiled their evening , yes they were a very good looking couple ,I was probably punching above my weight but unfortunately they had their heads so far up their own arses they couldnt see a good time if it smacked them in the face "
I approached you so you must be approachable.
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im always gettin asked for directions. . .where my mind goes blank but instead of saying i dont know i say . .go straight on til you are at the end of the village and then its second on your right. . .then when they are out of sight i run like thefucking wind x x X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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very - i will talk to anybody - im the one who gets peoples life story and sob stories - but it has also made me better at my job as a support worker for people with mental health issues so listening and chatting is good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am very approachable, many come up to me wherever I go, I can be in the gym or just walking outside and waiting for a bus, take today for example, 2 persons came up for a casual chat. I like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am very approachable, I smile and say Hi to anyone and all as I go about my day, I get all the randoms on the buses, park benches, trains, just standing outside the bank lighting up a cig I get some lass coming up to tell me her life story  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When my FB and I are together we find that its always us that has to initiate conversations but when either of us are on our on, people will approach us all the time. Maybe something to do with being absorbed with one another or maybe its harder to chat to two people rather than one. Is interesting and an area I think should be studied by Sydney University. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"im always gettin asked for directions. . .where my mind goes blank but instead of saying i dont know i say . .go straight on til you are at the end of the village and then its second on your right. . .then when they are out of sight i run like thefucking wind x x X
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hahaha im not good at that - but ,,,, i will point them as far as i can then say ask someone else nearer the place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The old cynic in me usually shows on my face whenever someone makes eye contact. So I guess we are not very approachable.
That never seems to stop the ceaseless charity collectors trawling the streets of Manchester from approaching us as if we were long lost family though.
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I approached you so you must be approachable.
I think we approached each other at the same time Lickety ,,,,, so does that mean we are both aproachable ,,,,, are just warped |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very approachable
Just not very fuckable
Says the gay man.
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I meant me ya daft sod.
I'd go straight for you just to say I'd shagged a ginge  "
Oops.
No need to go straight... |
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It varies. Ask someone who went to the Sussex Social if I was approachable. I think people do approach me but veer off at the last minute as if they'd just seen something very interesting in the middle distance and it was that they were investigating all along and eye contact with me and their little engaging smile was, in fact, a mere whim of physics and an attempt to remove some food from their teeth without using their fingers. |
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I (dan) stand out in a crowd a little and some find me intimidating. Not sure why as I'm a big softy. But one thing is for sure I attract the weirdest of the weird. Even Leslie has to comment on how I attract the weirdo's ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think I am...I do get strangers coming up to me and they tend to tell me their whole life history. Its good to converse and im not shy so would approach people if I liked the look of them to chat to.
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I'm the guy that gets stopped and asked for directions who will go out of his way to show/take you where you want to go.
Conversely, I'm also the guy who when you sit next to him and start pouring out all your woes will say "I'm really sorry if I gave you the impression I'd be interested but I really am not". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do people come up and talk to you, or is it you that usually goes and starts talking to people?
We (me and my man pal) were at a party recently and realised that apart from people we'd met/ chatted to before, no-one came and talked to us.
When we're on our own we go and chat to people. Not sure if it's something odd about us when we're together. "
If I jason am on my own, I will very quickly go and chat to someone, I often go out on my own. Never on my own for long ,
Paula won't talk to strangers at all unless she has someone with her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ill chat to anyone....people interest me...I like listening to stories from the older generation...etc. "
Same. I talk too much and some think its nerves. Actually I just like and see good in people despite how crap they may treat others.
Alan Carr stole " chatty man " from me..... |
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