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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok I have a challenge.
Pretend you are a genuine guy on this site. What would you message a woman on here?
I told my husband it was easy and in the end the only things I could think of was saying I was awesome in bed and how gorgeous they looked!
Oops. No wonder men on here don't send original messages. It's harder than you think!
What would you say? |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
Nothing generic. I do send first messages and I tailor them to the specific profie, since something I read piqued my interest enough to message. I tend to keep it light, slightly humorous (if they don't find it funny then we don't share a sense of fun so we're not meant to be anyway, explain why I'm messaging them specifically and sign off with a 'if I don't hear back then never mind and happy swinging' or words to that effect. Then delete it from my sent box so I don't check if it's been read or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends who it's to, how I noticed them, what their profile says and why I decided to message them.
My messages are all personal, to the individual I'm messaging."
same,, id certainly not make it generic sounding. Id avoid all sexual chit chat too. If i were to pay a compliment id not make it a sleezy one like 'your fit' or 'fuck me your bang tidy'.. would try to make it come across as sincere and meaningful as id not give it else..
read the profile and possibly comment on something id read, or pass a comment on a picture they have.. something a little bit funny if possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I have a challenge.
Pretend you are a genuine guy on this site. What would you message a woman on here?
I told my husband it was easy and in the end the only things I could think of was saying I was awesome in bed and how gorgeous they looked!
Oops. No wonder men on here don't send original messages. It's harder than you think!
What would you say?"
Amen! I always feel like I'm applying for a job everytime I message someone
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"The majority of women seem to have so little on their profile, it's hard to not be generic?"
Really?
Most women's profiles I've seen are long and detail what they're looking for, (sometimes a bit too forcefully!) |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Ok I have a challenge.
Pretend you are a genuine guy on this site. What would you message a woman on here?
I told my husband it was easy and in the end the only things I could think of was saying I was awesome in bed and how gorgeous they looked!
Oops. No wonder men on here don't send original messages. It's harder than you think!
What would you say?
Amen! I always feel like I'm applying for a job everytime I message someone
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You kind of are. You're trying to catch their attention and make them aware of how well suited you would be.
It's the same when I write a message.
I tell them what appealed to me about them, how I fit what they're looking for and why I decided to message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I have a challenge.
Pretend you are a genuine guy on this site. What would you message a woman on here?
I told my husband it was easy and in the end the only things I could think of was saying I was awesome in bed and how gorgeous they looked!
Oops. No wonder men on here don't send original messages. It's harder than you think!
What would you say?
Amen! I always feel like I'm applying for a job everytime I message someone
You kind of are. You're trying to catch their attention and make them aware of how well suited you would be.
It's the same when I write a message.
I tell them what appealed to me about them, how I fit what they're looking for and why I decided to message."
But the majority get so many messages and end up picking based on looks, after sending a thoughtfully constructed message to these women only for it to be deleted it does wear you down a little  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Ok I have a challenge.
Pretend you are a genuine guy on this site. What would you message a woman on here?
I told my husband it was easy and in the end the only things I could think of was saying I was awesome in bed and how gorgeous they looked!
Oops. No wonder men on here don't send original messages. It's harder than you think!
What would you say?
Amen! I always feel like I'm applying for a job everytime I message someone
You kind of are. You're trying to catch their attention and make them aware of how well suited you would be.
It's the same when I write a message.
I tell them what appealed to me about them, how I fit what they're looking for and why I decided to message.
But the majority get so many messages and end up picking based on looks, after sending a thoughtfully constructed message to these women only for it to be deleted it does wear you down a little "
A good message from someone I don't fancy with result in a no thanks.
A shit message from someone hot may well result in a no thanks.
A good message helps. It doesn't have to be long.
A good message can swing it for someone in the middle ground. If they've made no effort with profile/photos/message, chances are I'll say no.
If you kept getting turned down for jobs would you start sending in shit applications? Would you expect to get anywhere if you did? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To be fair I've had some amazing messages that have got me chatting and they didn't have photos.
But the message was so articulate and funny, it got my interest.
But apparently I'm not capable of writing anything near as good. lol I was a bit shocked when I tried. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"To be fair I've had some amazing messages that have got me chatting and they didn't have photos.
But the message was so articulate and funny, it got my interest.
But apparently I'm not capable of writing anything near as good. lol I was a bit shocked when I tried."
You need something to build on. Few people can just write really great stuff without any inspiration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be fair I've had some amazing messages that have got me chatting and they didn't have photos.
But the message was so articulate and funny, it got my interest.
But apparently I'm not capable of writing anything near as good. lol I was a bit shocked when I tried."
Do you ever mail men? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be fair I've had some amazing messages that have got me chatting and they didn't have photos.
But the message was so articulate and funny, it got my interest.
But apparently I'm not capable of writing anything near as good. lol I was a bit shocked when I tried.
Do you ever mail men?"
Yeah sometimes. And I don't always get a reply. I'm not too bothered though. I can rarely do meets. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
It certainly helps if theres some detail in the profile, giving you a sense of the other person(s).. you have to be creative find something thats either different or use it differently to mention,...
if it has little text or its blank. I generally dont message them how can you judge if you have anything in common. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It certainly helps if theres some detail in the profile, giving you a sense of the other person(s).. you have to be creative find something thats either different or use it differently to mention,...
if it has little text or its blank. I generally dont message them how can you judge if you have anything in common. "
Some fuckwits do mail blank profiles. It does my head in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It certainly helps if theres some detail in the profile, giving you a sense of the other person(s).. you have to be creative find something thats either different or use it differently to mention,...
if it has little text or its blank. I generally dont message them how can you judge if you have anything in common. "
The most hilarious thing I ever saw on a guys profile was the line "I am a like-minded person".
Lololol Like-minded to who??? I'm sure the guy had seen it written on other profiles (we are looking for like-minded people) and thought it was a good thing to put??
Made me chuckle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" A good message from someone I don't fancy with result in a no thanks.
A shit message from someone hot may well result in a no thanks.
A good message helps. It doesn't have to be long.
A good message can swing it for someone in the middle ground. If they've made no effort with profile/photos/message, chances are I'll say no.
If you kept getting turned down for jobs would you start sending in shit applications? Would you expect to get anywhere if you did?"
Certainly not and I haven't started being lazy I just wish my efforts were appreciated sometimes, I know women are in high demand on here but I rarely get a 'no thanks' so never have anything to build on
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thanks for your observation op;
If any gender has got a honest bone in their body then you would appreciate the fact that it's not a child's play to write a message to anyone as you are not privileged to see through their mind and know what tickles their fancy and then scribble it down.
Some guys may not waste their time writing a special message as it all boils down to different degree of fussiness displayed by ladies.
However, Ladies that discovered their bf/fwb/spouse knew that the guy made it too easy for them to be because if we weigh what a lady might have said you won't be impressed.
Anyway,it's a matter of choice to be overly fussy beyond reasons.
Something really surprising is that a lady will only wink at a guy on here to show her interest and should both agree to meet that is all,no much stories but a woman will expect you to write a dissertation for them to read...., When dissertation was meant to be a research work based.....
Enough said already lol no hating ladies...just that the truth must be said.
Hope to hear/see on some guys statuses telling us all what a beautiful first message they got from the ladies camp.   :-  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The majority of women seem to have so little on their profile, it's hard to not be generic?"
I have a detailed non demanding slightly happy profile and rarely get generic messages (well they don't sound generic anyway) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to babble in messages, I usually get a, you what? are you barking reply! Or something along those lines  I have the most bizarre conversations. I do tailor them to the intended victim though, that's for sure.  |
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I have never made the first move on here but the ones in with a chance enclose a face pic, aren't too cagy or demanding and have a bit of banter. Messages like "I could fuck you rotten" get deleted. As does persistence: "when you gonna suck my cock?" Doesn't go down as well as something a lot more subtle. Like: "when might you be free? I'd love to meet you for a drink, maybe more". Now that is much more appealing!
I play hard to get too.
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By *zeye73Man
over a year ago
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I do find it difficult to compose a unique message tailored to the persons individual personality when many of the profiles read "Will fill in later" or "Will come back to this"
My page my be short of personal info but I think my sense of humour comes through.  |
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I bet that would work 