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By *orny lancs OP Man over a year ago

Chorley

Not being a negative shitter but !!! Lol

I've lived with the above for 5 yrs and I've got some of my own technics to cope,

What helps you???

Oh and if r u a none sufferer then jog on and don't comment,

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By *asmanian TigerMan over a year ago

lala land

I play golf and find it helpful meeting new people and making friends helps a lot

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I try to keep busy working on the computer or playing pool, both seem to work whilst i'm doing them...

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By *orny lancs OP Man over a year ago

Chorley

Nice one tiger,, never tried golf, fishing, bike riding and forever changing house around, oh and I do find myself at work far to much, as well as single malts,

But then from time to time I can easily spent 2 or 3 days in bed sleeping,

As much as I've learned to live with it somedays I f"#%*{g hate it,

Thanks

For

The reply

And good luck and all the best for the future

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After doing some not so sane things once upon a time. I find talking to people helps me a lot now and doing things I genuinely enjoy

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By *orny lancs OP Man over a year ago

Chorley

"After doing some not so sane things once upon a time. I find talking to people helps me a lot now and doing things I genuinely enjoy "

Tried the not so sane which did turn out quite rewarding,

Your right about talking though, it does help if you find an ear,

Can be hard though, specially when the weather is shit as well, hope you recover asap though so you can have many yrs of happiness with no

Clouds

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By *orny lancs OP Man over a year ago

Chorley

"I try to keep busy working on the computer or playing pool, both seem to work whilst i'm doing them..."

I find work is good, thinks its an escape from the norm,

Playing pool,, omg,, not done that since 1984,, yeh that's when the balls where made from sawdust and the felt was pigskin,,,,

Only one pub with table in my town left, gone are the days of Monday pool night

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The tablets, singing and yoga keep me sane. Doing work I enjoy keeps me solvent and able to buy shoes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I walk. If I realise that the fog (illness) is coming, I get out on the Downs and listen to Elgar. It's silly but it works. Everything seems to feel brighter. But, if I don't realise quick enough then the fog takes that urge to be outside away and it's then weeks inside rotting.

I'd hate this disease if it allowed me to feel anything that strongly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Music.

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By *aymondBaroneMan over a year ago

Manchester

Excercise is supposed to be the no 1 way to help due to the chemicals it produces in your body which raise your mood.

Other than that socialising or upbeat music

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I use the gym and walking and focusing on positives I suffered with drepression 18 months ago but would say that most of mine was work related

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"Nice one tiger,, never tried golf, fishing, bike riding and forever changing house around, oh and I do find myself at work far to much, as well as single malts,

But then from time to time I can easily spent 2 or 3 days in bed sleeping,

As much as I've learned to live with it somedays I f"#%*{g hate it,

Thanks

For

The reply

And good luck and all the best for the future "

Sounds *gay* but knitting, helps me focus and concentrate on one particular thing. Also getting a nice scarf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's refreshing to read a serious thread without any trolling.

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By *obbie glasgowMan over a year ago

Glasgow

I struggle with it. I try and stay off the booze, eat healthier and excercise. It's a constant battle, but within a few days, I feel a difference

Good luck x

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS over a year ago

Epsom

I write. It takes me away and gives me a focus other than the norm. So far I have lots of unfinished fantasy books. Some are just scraps of paper, others! well war and peace had nothing on this.....well that's how it felt.

Nice thred

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have suffered from depression for years mainly due to 2 family bereavements,when I sense im feeling down or negative thoughts I get myself out and keep active I find that when I'm feeling like that having 4 walls for company is a bad mix you just sit there and really feel terrible.

I go to the gym a lot I find that exercise is great for me both mentally and physically.

I feel for anyone who does suffer from depression, tablets from the Doctor can help but try to make it a short term thing don't begin to rely on tablets.

Best of luck everyone and don't suffer in silence there is help out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My grandkids are my life saver, luckily for me they don't live far so if I feel the need I go there...guaranteed smiles.

Have also rejoined the gym that helps....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't stop people who don't suffer from depression from commenting. Some of us whilst not suffering from depression do get moments when we feel incredibly down, very very tearful, mind constantly buzzing, wonder somethimes what is the point but when I have those moments, I put music on loud and dance around the house with tears pouring down my face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suffered for a long time after getting meningitis and developing an eating disorder.

The gym crushed all of my negative thoughts. I feel great everyday now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Suffered for a long time after getting meningitis and developing an eating disorder.

The gym crushed all of my negative thoughts. I feel great everyday now "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

My dad died suddenly a while back and it hit me hard. I've learned to slow down, take less pressure, more exercise and rest. Grieving's a little different to typical depression but I accept it and allow some pain through in drifts.

I expect not everyone to understand, especially the meet now, fancy a fuck types on fab.

I also give myself regular treats. As I'm single there's no partner doing this, so I've taken that responsibility.

Finally as a playful person i make fun and laugh as much as possible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Music and mostly writting. Transfering my thoughts onto paper helps decrease my anxiety levels..

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By *rishman75Man over a year ago

Chessington/epsom

I find playing rugby helps and I feel amazing after a game or I go for a cycle to Richmond park or I go on my ps4 .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not being a negative shitter but !!! Lol

I've lived with the above for 5 yrs and I've got some of my own technics to cope,

What helps you???

Oh and if r u a none sufferer then jog on and don't comment,

Well done sir on getting this subject out there. It's good to see everyone treating it with respect too. Pats on backs people.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I've been a suffer for nearly 20 yrs and that's not an exaggeration. Started after the murder of my best friend. Only thing is it took several years for me to finally go to the docs an get the proper help I needed after having a mini break down.

Now I rely on tablets which I have weaned myself right down to the minimum, music, comedy films and reading. Loosing myself in book I leave my troubles there.

Heart goes out to everyone else in the same boat but also sparing a thought for the partners/spouse of a suffer cause they go through it just as much.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Exercise.

Good diet.

Getting out in daylight as much as possible.

Making an effort to socialise.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and talking therapies

Vitamin D supplement 125mg-250mg daily through the darker months.

Omega 3 supplements.

Relaxation exercises.

Finding things you love to do and making time for yourself to do them.

Decluttering your surroundings and keeping things organised.

Learning your own triggers and learning how to deal with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My dad died suddenly a while back and it hit me hard. I've learned to slow down, take less pressure, more exercise and rest. Grieving's a little different to typical depression but I accept it and allow some pain through in drifts.

I expect not everyone to understand, especially the meet now, fancy a fuck types on fab.

I also give myself regular treats. As I'm single there's no partner doing this, so I've taken that responsibility.

Finally as a playful person i make fun and laugh as much as possible."

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I actually did something challenging which got me out of my comfort zone.

It was hard, and there were times I burst out of the room in tears, but in the end it's changed my life.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Incidentally, there is a school of thinking now that depression is not "all in the mind" but is a symptom of physical illness. There's research going on in that area now.

I'll try and dig out some links.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've suffered on and off for years, dealing with my ex and his manic depression made me ill. We are both a lot better now we are apart and have new lives which make us happy! I carried a lot of resentment toward him for so long though and in finally coming out from the dark place I fou myself in and my head and heart are mostly in the same place now! I tried medication and counselling but it seems all I needed was time and learning to accept and let go!

I always had horrible side effects from the tablets so new that wouldn't fix me.

Whilst at my lowest I found Fab and this side of me so it wasn't all bad, it gave me a much needed confidence boost and eventually led to making some really good friends and eventually meeting my lovely partner so it wasn't all bad!!!!

Glad I'm out the other side and on the up now! Try to keep the low times short by being kind to myself, taking a little exercise and being around or chatting with friends, find this really helps me stay centered now xx

Thanks for the great post op xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think mirth helps.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Googling "depression and inflammation" will bring up loads of information and much of it is very, very recent. Here's a start:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/04/depression-allergic-reaction-inflammation-immune-system

http://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/dec/20/anti-inflammatory-drugs-could-fight-depression-immune-disorders

So stick that to the nay sayers who claim it's mental weakness, imagined and all the rest and people should pull themselves together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Googling "depression and inflammation" will bring up loads of information and much of it is very, very recent. Here's a start:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/04/depression-allergic-reaction-inflammation-immune-system

http://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/dec/20/anti-inflammatory-drugs-could-fight-depression-immune-disorders

So stick that to the nay sayers who claim it's mental weakness, imagined and all the rest and people should pull themselves together."

Thanks VV, interesting to see this as I think that's part my prob!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Googling "depression and inflammation" will bring up loads of information and much of it is very, very recent. Here's a start:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/04/depression-allergic-reaction-inflammation-immune-system

http://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/dec/20/anti-inflammatory-drugs-could-fight-depression-immune-disorders

So stick that to the nay sayers who claim it's mental weakness, imagined and all the rest and people should pull themselves together."

I have lupus, an autoimmune inflammatory disease. The discourse has always been that your depression is because you are ill (not causing it physically but because it's difficult to suddenly find yourself unable to walk etc.).

I have had some level of depression since I was about ten and although my lupus didn't fully activate until I was 26 I always suffered with "growing" pains (I know!) and migraines as a child. Both linked to inflammation.

The antidepressants help so I take them. I do what I can to mitigate and manage what I am feeling and experiencing.

To the person who posted about those in our lives, they are true unsung heroes. I would not be here without the love and care of people around me.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Googling "depression and inflammation" will bring up loads of information and much of it is very, very recent. Here's a start:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/04/depression-allergic-reaction-inflammation-immune-system

http://www.theguardian.com/science/2014/dec/20/anti-inflammatory-drugs-could-fight-depression-immune-disorders

So stick that to the nay sayers who claim it's mental weakness, imagined and all the rest and people should pull themselves together.

The antidepressants help so I take them. I do what I can to mitigate and manage what I am feeling and experiencing.

To the person who posted about those in our lives, they are true unsung heroes. I would not be here without the love and care of people around me.

Well there you go. The depression may be physically caused by the inflammation as well as merely resulting from the effects of the inflammation on your life.

It looks like this research could lead to some new treatment options.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think its fair to say if someone doesn't suffer to jog on. Plenty of people who don't suffer have family and friends that do and there are also those that are qualified to deal with it, depression doesn't just affect the sufferer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Decluttering your surroundings and keeping things organised.

Thanks VV, this ^^ is probably the most useful comment I've read on here. Something so obvious that I've overlooked it until it was written in black & white.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Music man... Music I cAnt go a day without listening to my favourite duo of all time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Music , walk the pooch and mindfulness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take my tablets more regularly when I realise I'm feeling unwell. I say unwell because it is an illness. The tablets do their job and allow my brain to use the Serotonin and I feel a bit better. On bad days I blank out,sleep,eat crap,drink tea. When my brain really doesn't want to work I stare out of the window and sleep a lot. On sad days I take my mind off sad thoughts but my stomach still feels sad. If I have to cry I sit in the bath alone and do it. Going out,doing an activity doesn't help me. I'm just sad while I'm doing it. When your brain breaks it makes a lot of things go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sex helps though. Maybe the rush of adrenaline or physical contact helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sex helps though. Maybe the rush of adrenaline or physical contact helps "

Both help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cbt works for me to. The multi vitamins with a heavy dose of vitamin D is a god send. It annoys my kids but singing at the top of my voice or going for a walk in the woods and reconnecting with nature seems to help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any ladies get pms related depression?

I am perfectly fine for a week out of 3 then he 5-6 days leading to my period the fog descends and I can fall into myself, some months I feel really sad and down then others I feel stressed and ratty then others I can be angry and shouty then it makes me feel guilty for shouting and the kids fee the wrath especially my 10 year old and then the guilt makes me feel awful and it just never ends.

I have tried talking to people but no one seems to understand and i don't know how to approach the Doctor about this....

Any women who are in a similar boat I'll lift my filter if anyone has any useful info or ideas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Decluttering your surroundings and keeping things organised.

Thanks VV, this ^^ is probably the most useful comment I've read on here. Something so obvious that I've overlooked it until it was written in black & white.

This is what I did on Wednesday when I was feeling low and had zero motivation

I blasted music and felt loads better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence

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By *hell82Woman over a year ago

Bristol

I have been suffering with this since the age of 14 so have been off and on pills for years although I've not been on pills for the last 2 years and I don't even know why I suffer from it to other ppl I'm bubbly and outgoing but on the inside is a different story, I have a very good friend now and I talk to her all the time about things which helps me alot, you could also get councelling through your gp as I think talking is the best cure. And might I say they are not portraying depression very well on corrie at all. Good luck on your quest x

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence "

I used to have Sunday as a totally silent day in order to get through the week. It kept me going at the time but didn't lift my mood.

We all do what works for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence "

I think it'll be about 20 years before i have some silence !!

I'll have to learn to enjoy silence but there's no chance of that anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any ladies get pms related depression?

I have tried talking to people but no one seems to understand and i don't know how to approach the Doctor about this....

Any women who are in a similar boat I'll lift my filter if anyone has any useful info or ideas

You can speak to doctor about this as it's really very common. I know you may not want to but it's usually helpful! I had horrific PMS years ago and it was made worse by the pill I was on. Literally my ex wouldn't speak to me in the few days leading up. Changed pill and it got better

hope you get some relief from it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence

I think it'll be about 20 years before i have some silence !!

I'll have to learn to enjoy silence but there's no chance of that anytime soon "

When I'm here alone I have everything off usually. I do the housework in silence apart from the vacuum cleaner. It's pretty quiet around here. I only put soothing music on when I cook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find keeping busy help ,meeting ppl that make you feel good ,keep away from negative ppl they will make you feel like shit just because they can, and if I'm having a bad one I ride the storm because I know it will pass, life's for living not a rehearsal so we need it live it when given the chance , best wishes to you all your all amazing ppl xxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done OP on posting this topic which has got so many replies. Mine began a few years ago, had been in a bad relationship with someone for several years (non-swinging) who turned out to be a psychotic liar. Left that and went into another relationship that ended terribly. Some people recover from these things, some don't do that so well. I'm off any kind of tablets now, I'm not going to have someone I have nothing to do with anymore keep me on them. Work I know makes me feel better, not all of it but some. I used to go to the gym 4-5 times a week but when it all got too bad I gave up and haven't been back since. I hope to, though. It can't conquer severe depression because that is usually too crippling to do anything, but anything from mild-moderate I would recommend it. You feel better about yourself when you're physically stronger and fitter.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman over a year ago

Mijas Costa

I expect not everyone to understand, especially the meet now, fancy a fuck types on fab.

I also give myself regular treats. As I'm single there's no partner doing this, so I've taken that responsibility.

Finally as a playful person i make fun and laugh as much as possible."

Exactly. My life turned round with CUT. It taught me to think about traumatic past events in a more positive way. The realisation that an attempted rape was dragging me down 30 years after the event. Finally I'm able to talk about it's is no longer a negative event.

Actually, fucking dozens of guys last year exorcised my distrust of men. It was a eureka moment to discover that very few of you are violent.

I wish I'd done it earlier!

I've become selfish: making time for myself. I soak in the bath for hours I'd that's what I fancy, see as much of my fb as I can, walk for miles with my dogs where I meet my canine friends and their keepers lol. Like minded people put everything into perspective.

The final piece of the jigsaw was leaving my very stressful job a year ago. So I'm poor but happier than I have ever been.

That said I'll have to stay on sertraline for the rest of my life. My parents mentally abused me for so many years it's hard not to slip into negativity sometimes. How you cope with those negative thoughts is the key to stop the cycle.

But most of all, be kind to yourself, take time to do the things that used to be fun ... For me that includes resurrecting my slurry personality, repressed for so many years.

Look after yourselves and do something positive right now xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any ladies get pms related depression?

Well I had my tubes tied in 2011 so I don't think theyll give me the pill.

It's affecting my relationships with my closest friends as I don't want them round me when I'm feeling like this

I have tried talking to people but no one seems to understand and i don't know how to approach the Doctor about this....

Any women who are in a similar boat I'll lift my filter if anyone has any useful info or ideas

hope you get some relief from it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blackadder videos , laughter helps

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

I Visit Fabs...I chat and take part even if I do say daft things or get it wrong.

My computer is a life saver keeps my mind active in a manner where I dont have to think of the depression that grips me.

Work is very important too and gives me a reason to get up in the morning. Hence I am resisting retirement It would not be good for me to give up work and the interaction it gives me.

Basically keep busy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I expect not everyone to understand, especially the meet now, fancy a fuck types on fab.

I also give myself regular treats. As I'm single there's no partner doing this, so I've taken that responsibility.

Finally as a playful person i make fun and laugh as much as possible."
My Dad died and it hit me for six too ..... and I was very very low for almost two years we was very close I could not see a life without him as around me so much a big part of my life . I Never felt nothing like that in my life until then .. Was like being in a very dark hole and I could not get out just getting up was too much I was screaming inside and only I could hear it. Things that helped me was positive thinking and knowing we pick what to think ... so I would stop myself if I could and read things about how to think positive and know my dad would not wish me to be unhappy. Part of me died with him but I look for joy in my family and animals and things around me as I know I am the thinker in this and I have control of that .

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence

I think it'll be about 20 years before i have some silence !!

I'll have to learn to enjoy silence but there's no chance of that anytime soon "

Silence is golden.

Duck tape is silver

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wish the music thing worked for me. Noise makes me feel edgy and irritable,I have to have silence

I think it'll be about 20 years before i have some silence !!

I'll have to learn to enjoy silence but there's no chance of that anytime soon

Silence is golden.

Duck tape is silver

Hhhmmmmm now here's an idea, Dya reckon I'll get away with it on 10 year old 2 6 year olds and a 3 lol

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Not being a negative shitter but !!! Lol

I've lived with the above for 5 yrs and I've got some of my own technics to cope,

What helps you???

Oh and if r u a none sufferer then jog on and don't comment,

Well done sir on getting this subject out there. It's good to see everyone treating it with respect too. Pats on backs people.

There's actually been a few threads on depression/anxiety over the years - well worth searching then out. This is a welcome addition of course.

OP - I don't mean to be critical but your comment about people without depression "jogging on" worries me a lot. People who don't have it can contribute too and it's vitally important they feel involved as understanding of this needs to grow. I don't think it helps paint a good picture tbh.

If I've misinterpreted what you say I sincerely apologise.

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

ive had trouble coping since my dad died suddenly in 2013 im on sertraline but not sure they help

got lots of other things going on that don't help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel for anyone who does suffer from depression, tablets from the Doctor can help but try to make it a short term thing don't begin to rely on tablets.

Best of luck everyone and don't suffer in silence there is help out there"

Not 'relying' on tablets is easier said than done. I'm on them for life as I'm bipolar and no amount of exercise, pool playing, golfing, etc. is going to help keep me out of the dark side. It's a chemical imbalance, and I need to be balanced with drugs. Believe me, I have tried life without them - it doesn't work for me.

That said, a lot depressives do find exercise and the like helpful - that's great. I'm just pointing out that for some of us, it just doesn't cut the mustard

Mrs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Today is a bad day for me, I woke up having a panic attack, and still having it, the earthquake has triggered them of cause it scared me so much. I dropped a cup of coffee all over the kitchen floor which has made it worse.

I'm sat here in silence trying to do my breathing and posting to try and take my mind of it. I feel like I just want to run and run but can't move. I can't swallow or stop shaking.

I know I've got to get my act together as I've got something really nice to look forward to later, but after nearly 40 years i still have no control over when I'm going to have a panic attack.

I don't usually post how I'm feeling at the time I usually concentrate on the positives

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By *aughtyinguMan over a year ago

swindon

Ive had it since I was 11, and there's some good ted talks on it on youtube

Small kids seem the most effective for me, but I do seem to only have so much happiness, so I can go down in mood quickly after being happy.

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Today is a bad day for me, I woke up having a panic attack, and still having it, the earthquake has triggered them of cause it scared me so much. I dropped a cup of coffee all over the kitchen floor which has made it worse.

I'm sat here in silence trying to do my breathing and posting to try and take my mind of it. I feel like I just want to run and run but can't move. I can't swallow or stop shaking.

I know I've got to get my act together as I've got something really nice to look forward to later, but after nearly 40 years i still have no control over when I'm going to have a panic attack.

I don't usually post how I'm feeling at the time I usually concentrate on the positives"

I understand and sympathise K. I suffer with anxiety terribly and do get panic attacks.

I find its best to accept the situation. It will pass.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I feel for anyone who does suffer from depression, tablets from the Doctor can help but try to make it a short term thing don't begin to rely on tablets."

This is pants advice. It depends on the cause of the depression.

Some people can get over depression or find other methods of treating it that are sufficiently effective that they no longer need medication.

Some people have depression, or other mental health problems, that are the result of a physical problem and will need medication long-term, possibly for the rest of their lives.

By all means people should look for other ways to relieve the symptoms and address any issues but there is no reason not to take medication long term in order to treat what is fundamentally just another illness, if that is what is necessary.

As per the links I posted above, depression could well be the result of actual physical illness and not just in the head as some people think.

People should take medication if they need to and for as long as they need to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel for anyone who does suffer from depression, tablets from the Doctor can help but try to make it a short term thing don't begin to rely on tablets.

This is pants advice. It depends on the cause of the depression.

Some people can get over depression or find other methods of treating it that are sufficiently effective that they no longer need medication.

Some people have depression, or other mental health problems, that are the result of a physical problem and will need medication long-term, possibly for the rest of their lives.

As per the links I posted above, depression could well be the result of actual physical illness and not just in the head as some people think.

People should take medication if they need to and for as long as they need to."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel for anyone who does suffer from depression, tablets from the Doctor can help but try to make it a short term thing don't begin to rely on tablets.

This is pants advice. It depends on the cause of the depression.

Some people can get over depression or find other methods of treating it that are sufficiently effective that they no longer need medication.

Some people have depression, or other mental health problems, that are the result of a physical problem and will need medication long-term, possibly for the rest of their lives.

As per the links I posted above, depression could well be the result of actual physical illness and not just in the head as some people think.

People should take medication if they need to and for as long as they need to."

16 years I have been taking mine. I wouldn't be here without them any more than a diabetic would survive without insulin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sat here in silence trying to do my breathing and posting to try and take my mind of it. I feel like I just want to run and run but can't move. I can't swallow or stop shaking.

I know I've got to get my act together as I've got something really nice to look forward to later, but after nearly 40 years i still have no control over when I'm going to have a panic attack.

I don't usually post how I'm feeling at the time I usually concentrate on the positives"

That's the thing with panic attacks, no one has any control over when they will strike. I used to pass out from them in the pub I worked in. Quite embarrassing. I realised I wasn't happy there anymore and got out.

Now I get the odd one or two panic attacks. The worst, I find, is when I'm driving along somewhere familiar but I have no idea where I am! I just keep driving till I recognise something

The best way for me to deal with panic attacks is to recognise them for what they are. Then I think to myself, "oh, here we go again. I'll be alright in a bit." Not being frightened of them helps me through.

Good luck.

Mrs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I take over 20 really strong tablets a day, if I stopped taking then I'd be hospitalised within a month. They allow me to function in society and have a reasonable quality of life.

I have severe bipolar and borderline personality disorder. Up to 15% of people with bipolar will take their own lives.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"16 years I have been taking mine. I wouldn't be here without them any more than a diabetic would survive without insulin "

I've been on and off them since my teens with more on that off. It's likely I'll need to be on medication for the rest of my life but I take it as it comes.

I wouldn't be here without medication either.

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

It's undeniably true that many people need to take medication and there is an underlying imbalance there.

I do think that tablets are dished out to people who would be better off seeking other alternatives such as exercise and various therapies.

I was put on them and got it in my head I had a chemical imbalance. I guess it was possible I did, but the bottom line is I was never tested for those the levels of the chemicals and nor has anyone else I've ever met.

I'm suffering terribly with anxiety at the moment and depression has crept in for the first time in years. I'll be honest and say I was in such a state I phoned the Samaritans the other day.

However, in my calmer moments I can see that my problems are currently down to a decision over my career that has backfired badly and loneliness compounded by powerful unrequited love for someone. I have thoughts if ending it all, but if I could sort the job issue and that woman suddenly decided she loved me, I would be the happiest guy around.

I guess I'm saying that the difference between situational depression/anxiety and the "real" condition described by done here.

For me, the side effects of the tablets were terrible and they still affect me today. I'll never take them again. Of course, they are not all the same.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I was never tested for those the levels of the chemicals and nor has anyone else I've ever met."

It's not possible to test for depression. Diagnosis is based on observation and responses.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I can see that my problems are currently down to a decision over my career that has backfired badly and loneliness compounded by powerful unrequited love for someone. I have thoughts if ending it all, but if I could sort the job issue and that woman suddenly decided she loved me, I would be the happiest guy around.

I guess I'm saying that the difference between situational depression/anxiety and the "real" condition described by done here."

Situational problems can cause an increase in other hormones, cortisol for example, which throw off the balance of everything else.

Sometimes it takes medication to bring the balance back to enable someone to seek other coping strategies and to look for ways to resolve their problem or deal with the stress and anxiety.

Situational problems can cause chemical imbalances which are just the same as those in the "real" condition.

It can take a long time to re-establish the balance sometimes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"It's undeniably true that many people need to take medication and there is an underlying imbalance there.

I do think that tablets are dished out to people who would be better off seeking other alternatives such as exercise and various therapies.

I'm suffering terribly with anxiety at the moment and depression has crept in for the first time in years. I'll be honest and say I was in such a state I phoned the Samaritans the other day.

I guess I'm saying that the difference between situational depression/anxiety and the "real" condition described by done here.

For me, the side effects of the tablets were terrible and they still affect me today. I'll never take them again. Of course, they are not all the same."
it took well over 20 years to get my medication right, in fact its only been around five years that they've got it spot on.

I do think some people are misdiagnosed and can be seen as "trendy" by some to have a mental illness.

I have it on good authority from professionals that some people go with a list of symptoms that they have just copied from the internet. It takes trial and error to be diagnosed with a mental illness and I don't believe a doctor is qualified to make an assessment in a five minute appointment and give you antidepressants or such like.

Being given the wrong medication can fuck you up more than the illness itself and then you have to factor in that two people can have the same illness but the same medication wont suit them.

I was on lithium for about 6 years, that's 6 years I will never get back.

Its hard to diagnose a mental illness its not as simple as having a blood test.

I had a friend commit suicide while on the list to be seen.

There very good at trying to put you in boxes as well but this doesn't work with mental illness. I have some characteristics of schizophrenia but I don't have schizophrenia.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tablets and talking.. Talking really is the best therapy.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I wasn't correctly diagnosed until my mid 30s, despite having had mental health problems since my teens.

The meds I was on at the time, due to misdiagnosis, were making my condition worse.

Some of the meds I've been on have made me ill. One made me pile weight on and bloat really badly.

Getting the right treatment is trial and error, even once the diagnosis is right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exercise.

Good diet.

Getting out in daylight as much as possible.

Making an effort to socialise.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and talking therapies

Vitamin D supplement 125mg-250mg daily through the darker months.

Omega 3 supplements.

Relaxation exercises.

Finding things you love to do and making time for yourself to do them.

Decluttering your surroundings and keeping things organised.

Learning your own triggers and learning how to deal with them."

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By *anddancer79Man over a year ago

s/ shields

Music

X box

Painting

Writing

Drawing

Cooking

Working (sometimes)

Talking

Films funny ones when I'm spiralling

Meds are hit and miss for me

Gentle exercise

And having people around me who know me and understand when I shut down and drag me out

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By *heOwlMan over a year ago

Altrincham

I have spent the last few years slowly getting myself to the point where I don't wake up every day with the first thought being damn still here (and yes, during those dark moments, I have worked out my preferred escape method, which would cause the lease inconvenience and disruption to others).

I couldn't really say what I did to get to where I am now, as there was no large things, it was lots and lots of little steps which eventually helped my out of the latest hole. Since then I have found a few things that help me stay at least a little more upbeat and some that don't.

Things that don't help me:

I've tried CBT a while ago but as I've since found the issues were a wee tad too deep and too well buried. Now I am consciously aware of them, I'm still not convinced that CBT would have actually helped even if they weren’t buried.

I hate pharmaceutical drugs so do my best to avoid them and stick to natural extracts.

Work doesn't tend to help. Actually that's not true, it is one of the things that gets me up in the mornings and gets me active (cycling to and from work) it's the office that doesn't help. I'm an introvert and have difficulty working in a noisy open plan office - so I would much rather be at home away from the place.

Things that do help me:

St Johns Wort - takes a slight edge off.

Cycling to work along the canal towpath - keeps me fit and avoids the unwanted stress of rush hour traffic.

Rowing - easily the most important part. Always been chilled on the water, so rowing a wee boat narrower than the bum sat on it, keep my mind occupied on getting it right (and not rolling into the canal) and strangely enough keeps me calm and relaxed.

Oh and opening up long closed off memories and attempting to deal with the issues and effects associated with them - kinda helped by finding out that that those I knew at the time encountered the same problem. Amazing how isolation can amplify a situation.

That hole is still there, but it is a little easier to skirt around it (at the moment).

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS over a year ago

Epsom

St John's wart.... Good as long as you stay on it.... But the come down is a bitch.

What are peoples symptoms?

Mine (main) is rage. Uncontrollable rage....but it's within. On the outside I looked normal, my boss didn’t see it nor my family. I was like a volcano waiting eruption.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS over a year ago

rochdale

"Excercise is supposed to be the no 1 way to help due to the chemicals it produces in your body which raise your mood.

Other than that socialising or upbeat music

Felt mine coming on in the early hours this week & realised what was looking, I hadn't ridden properly for weeks due to a chest infection.

A few hard sessions on the turbo trainer has lifted my mood but its not the same as a proper outdoor ride

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