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Following on from the 'out of your league' thread
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond?"
I'd ask him if he needed a loan of my glasses!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would tell them not to be daft and what is the harm in meeting up for a drink to see how we get on.  "
Yeah, I'm out of nobody's league and as the ice has already been broken I would just continue chatting and hopefully suggest meeting up. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I honestly think I would take it as a polite rejection
Like they feel saying they're out of my league is kinder than saying your not my type "
Even if they were saying you're too good for them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly think I would take it as a polite rejection
Like they feel saying they're out of my league is kinder than saying your not my type
Even if they were saying you're too good for them?"
Yes
Because for anyone to insinuate I'm to good for them is just ridiculous and I wouldn't take it as genuine, I would feel that rather than hurting my feeling by saying I'm not their type they may feel its better ti let me down by saying they felt they was out of my league
I just want to say being told I'm not someone's type does not hurt my feelings but some people seem to think it does and find it hard to say that to others |
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I'd probably block them if they replied that way, as it's not a particularly respectful way to deal with me. I'd not question my league, as everyone is looking for something that's different, and the respondent was obviously not a match and wouldn't know the real qualities that I have, via simple message exchange.
Rejection messages can be hard to draft but it's much better for the sender to retain responsibility, rather than projecting something negative onto the other, and thanking someone for their interest. This keeps the fab world much lighter, and doesn't bring someone down, as we'll never know what someone else is going through.
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"If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond?"
I would think needy with low self esteem, I can't be doing with people who need shoring up in this part of my life. My response would be to politely say that it wasn't a mistake but we wouldn't be taking it further.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd assume they meant it the way that I would mean it if I felt like that about someone who had messaged me - that they wouldn't feel confident or comfortable meeting. So I'd respect it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond?"
I would probably block them as they obviously know me .
But seriously a guy should never let a girl know she is to good for him , even if it is true |
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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago
Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14 |
It would depend on the wording of their reply, but only tongue in cheek do I use 'out of their league' now out of their age range, size, colour, hirsute preference, sexual deviancy level or just plain not to someone's taste..
That is an acceptable line, not what can be decreed as derogatory. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say that it wasn't a mistake but leave the ball in their court after that
Im never going to spend too long trying to convince someone I find them attractice because then they'll become unattractive to me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly think I would take it as a polite rejection
Like they feel saying they're out of my league is kinder than saying your not my type
This. "
×10 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it would actually put me off if they actually said that. I like confident guys. "
Argh!!!! Attack of the "actually"....but you know what i mean  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it would actually put me off if they actually said that. I like confident guys.
Argh!!!! Attack of the "actually"....but you know what i mean "
I actually do...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond?"
I would reply by saying dont be silly . I messaged you as i liked your profile and would like to get to know you.
Though I hardly think that anyone is out of my league. I am no oil painting lol
I dont like the term out of my league we are all the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not quite the same but some guys are surprised I reply to their messages because they see me as out of their league. I find that bizarre but I've had meets that I felt they were out of my league and i wasnt really comfortable.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i thought someone was out of my league recently until i winked and then waited
why just wink wouldnt it be best to send a pm to them about the pic that you like "
as was a quick wink and then i was going to send a message by the time i was ready to send a message i had a message
Im not lazy but sometimes a wink shows interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you messaged someone and they replied asking if it was a mistake, or saying you're out of their league (i.e. you're too good for them), what would you think? How would you respond?"
Her: Be very flattered and suspect it was a polite way of saying no thanks as I dont consider myself high up the league table.
Him: Think fuckin hell this blind cunts on drugs |
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