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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make your opinion if you want to, i personally don't think the backlash is ever that bad.
Sometimes i feel a topic isn't worth commenting in or someone else has already said what i want to say, but i'd never keep quiet for fear of offending anyone or being scared of what they've got to say. Sometimes you learn something new too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death. |
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"I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death."
Same. I don't have the vocabulary or the knowledge. |
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"I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death.
Same. I don't have the vocabulary or the knowledge."
This for me too. I know very little about politics/current affairs so I generally don't bother, especially when they descend into personal attacks. I like the people threads that open up topics that interest me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm too much like a bloody bull in a china shop for that  But some of the threads on here really feel like the equivalent of public stonings so I do worry that it puts some people off. Over time I've had a few people PM me to say they've agreed with some of my points but would never say so publicly. Some poor woman started a ghost thread earlier today and people weighed into her like she was a punch bag.
Sometimes people bring it on themselves... and sometimes they seem to be thick skinned enough and enjoy it... sometimes what has been posted is genuiney disgusting... and so there are times when such aggressive swarming responses have some merit.
But I worry sometimes that some people on here have got a little too familiar with the frank brutality they can exhibit with other long time forumites... and use that same manner with newbies or people just looking to strike up an interesting conversation.
Just my point of _iew  Continue as you were |
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"I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death.
Same. I don't have the vocabulary or the knowledge.
This for me too. I know very little about politics/current affairs so I generally don't bother, especially when they descend into personal attacks. I like the people threads that open up topics that interest me. "
I don't post in those because they bore me stupid  I will stick to the cat threads |
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
. As this is Cyberland you can say what you like .It is not like having a conversation in the real world .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death.
Same. I don't have the vocabulary or the knowledge.
This for me too. I know very little about politics/current affairs so I generally don't bother, especially when they descend into personal attacks. I like the people threads that open up topics that interest me. I don't post in those because they bore me stupid I will stick to the cat threads "
My big fear is the "fuck me, beer with me, run away from me" threads... I've said too much rubbish on these forums to want to know how many people dislike me lol I just assume my presence on the thread would provoke a stampede in the wrong direction lol Plus I'm crap at small talk |
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As this is Cyberland you can say what you like .It is not like having a conversation in the real world .."
I'd totally disagree with that. I don't think you can say whatever you like, firstly because there's a set of rules you have to follow and secondly I wouldn't speak to someone badly here just like I wouldn't in the real world. Whilst some may be warriors hiding behind their keyboards, the majority of people here are decent, normal people and those I've met from online forums, either swinging or vanilla, are now friends in real life.
My conversations in both are equally real, the difference is that in real life you have tone and expression which generally helps garner the intention of the words.
I think it's quite sad that people are rude and unnecessarily harsh in some topics. There are a lot of socially inept people both online and in real life. It doesn't make it acceptable to say what you like just because you're not face to face.
I figure be polite, have manners and treat people as you would wish to be treated. Banter is all well and good but I'd agree with mpassion, sometimes those of us who have been around a long time and are familiar with the forum workings between the regulars probably should cut the newbies some more slack.
It saddens me that some people feel the can't comment for fear of being jumped on in the forums. Everyone's right to do so is a given, it is not a right to ridicule posters because you disagree with their opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I comment on threads where I think I have a valid point, if there's a backlash then so be it.
However, there have been some recent threads where tbh I haven't felt intellectually capable & any coment made would have been nit picked to death.
Same. I don't have the vocabulary or the knowledge.
This for me too. I know very little about politics/current affairs so I generally don't bother, especially when they descend into personal attacks. I like the people threads that open up topics that interest me. "
I've actually felt a bit of a durrr this last week.... 
Scarlet Stars post today was interesting as is this one..  |
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
I bite my tongue 99per cent of the time because trying to reason with idiots is a thankless task...it takes all my effort to let my eyes glaze over an read some of the other good threads instead...I'm sure a lot of people are the same as me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As this is Cyberland you can say what you like .It is not like having a conversation in the real world ..
I'd totally disagree with that. I don't think you can say whatever you like, firstly because there's a set of rules you have to follow and secondly I wouldn't speak to someone badly here just like I wouldn't in the real world. Whilst some may be warriors hiding behind their keyboards, the majority of people here are decent, normal people and those I've met from online forums, either swinging or vanilla, are now friends in real life.
My conversations in both are equally real, the difference is that in real life you have tone and expression which generally helps garner the intention of the words.
I think it's quite sad that people are rude and unnecessarily harsh in some topics. There are a lot of socially inept people both online and in real life. It doesn't make it acceptable to say what you like just because you're not face to face.
I figure be polite, have manners and treat people as you would wish to be treated. Banter is all well and good but I'd agree with mpassion, sometimes those of us who have been around a long time and are familiar with the forum workings between the regulars probably should cut the newbies some more slack.
It saddens me that some people feel the can't comment for fear of being jumped on in the forums. Everyone's right to do so is a given, it is not a right to ridicule posters because you disagree with their opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends how strongly I feel about the subject being discussed.
If I have very strong opinion on it, it is usually better that I stay away from posting.
If I can help, advise or lark about with a thread I will usually make one or two comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only really post anything controversial if the entire thread has it wrong. not worth the effort if two people spend two days rowing over wether terrorists can swim. "
terrorists can't swim!!!  |
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If it's a thread that interests you the go ahead,if it's a comment you don't agree with the go ahead. You will always get the ones who shout down your post with numbers and statistics but if you post genuinely with a _iew to having your mind exposed to an alternative then go ahead. I think it's the ones who post with an ulterior motive and a plant to put you down are the ones who should think twice about posting ?? |
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Depends on my mood. Some threads I ignore (look at me and fab pic ones mostly), some I do this  and move on, some I'll make some glib comment that doesn't add anything to the conversation, some I get my soap box out.
I'm like this is real life though able to articulate myself better in real life discussions |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"I only really post anything controversial if the entire thread has it wrong. not worth the effort if two people spend two days rowing over wether terrorists can swim. "
Swimming terrorists? |
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't .
I bite my tongue 99per cent of the time because trying to reason with idiots is a thankless task...it takes all my effort to let my eyes glaze over an read some of the other good threads instead...I'm sure a lot of people are the same as me."
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"If it's a thread that interests you the go ahead,if it's a comment you don't agree with the go ahead. You will always get the ones who shout down your post with numbers and statistics but if you post genuinely with a _iew to having your mind exposed to an alternative then go ahead. I think it's the ones who post with an ulterior motive and a plant to put you down are the ones who should think twice about posting ??"
Please forgive any spelling the auto correct seems to in force tonight!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
I often refrain from commenting, on topics I feel strongly about but most of the time its not because I'm worried about the backlash, more because I sometimes struggle to be articulate and concise, and phrase things so that the context is understood.
I couldn't care less about 'backlash' as everyone is entitled to an opinion, and thats what the forums are for.
Sasha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As this is Cyberland you can say what you like .It is not like having a conversation in the real world ..
I'd totally disagree with that. I don't think you can say whatever you like, firstly because there's a set of rules you have to follow and secondly I wouldn't speak to someone badly here just like I wouldn't in the real world. Whilst some may be warriors hiding behind their keyboards, the majority of people here are decent, normal people and those I've met from online forums, either swinging or vanilla, are now friends in real life.
My conversations in both are equally real, the difference is that in real life you have tone and expression which generally helps garner the intention of the words.
I think it's quite sad that people are rude and unnecessarily harsh in some topics. There are a lot of socially inept people both online and in real life. It doesn't make it acceptable to say what you like just because you're not face to face.
I figure be polite, have manners and treat people as you would wish to be treated. Banter is all well and good but I'd agree with mpassion, sometimes those of us who have been around a long time and are familiar with the forum workings between the regulars probably should cut the newbies some more slack.
It saddens me that some people feel the can't comment for fear of being jumped on in the forums. Everyone's right to do so is a given, it is not a right to ridicule posters because you disagree with their opinion.
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Wise words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's a thread that interests you the go ahead,if it's a comment you don't agree with the go ahead. You will always get the ones who shout down your post with numbers and statistics but if you post genuinely with a _iew to having your mind exposed to an alternative then go ahead. I think it's the ones who post with an ulterior motive and a plant to put you down are the ones who should think twice about posting ??
Please forgive any spelling the auto correct seems to in force tonight!!!"
Don't worry, the spelling police will be along to help soon... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Just post within the rules and enjoy it. There have always been disagreements and that won't change, it adds to the dynamic of the forum.
I like seeing spirited people put forward their point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
So long as you form an argument, back it up with evidence then speak your mind. A hater's always gonna hate, and you'll never make everyone happy, but don't back down if you believe in something. Fuck 'em! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just post if I want to. Don't care about any backlash. I'll ask a question but don't care if it makes me look stupid. Don't ask don't learn. "
No such thing as a stupid question! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't .
So long as you form an argument, back it up with evidence then speak your mind. A hater's always gonna hate, and you'll never make everyone happy, but don't back down if you believe in something. Fuck 'em! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just post when there is something I want to say. I've never felt that the backlash was that bad, and I wouldn't care if it was.
Most of the time the forums are good fun, even with serious topics
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm more likely to post if I disagree with them. But there are threads I've posted on (particularly the political ones) which have started out quite interesting, and then a few usual suspects appear who you just know are going to run it into the ground, and those I can't really be arsed with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have posted some things that have caused backlash, if there is valid reason for me to back down, I do so, but if I feel that the other person is wrong, I try not to attack, but make a flippant remark to accentuate the flaws in their logic. How it is received I cannot control, but I worry about irking people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
There's a lot to be gained by challenging our own thinking against the _iews and opinions of other contributors ,,,,,,, I think of it as healthy and enthusiastic thought exchange rather than simply disagreeing with people......
But then again as everyone will tell you, I'm never wrong.... |
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't .
There's a lot to be gained by challenging our own thinking against the _iews and opinions of other contributors ,,,,,,, I think of it as healthy and enthusiastic thought exchange rather than simply disagreeing with people......
But then again as everyone will tell you, I'm never wrong.... "
That makes two of us then.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to know how many people trawl through the topics on the forums , read through the comments, and maybe disagree with what is being said, but refrain from making their point of _iew known as it seems that their would be a backlash
I only come on here now to read the forums but there are times when I want to make my opinion known but don't ."
Completely with you on this.... in the ''real world'' I speak my mind..... so refrain from commenting on some forum threads as I would be in a lot of trouble if I expressed my true opinions |
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I am by my nature a very diplomatic person who would take advice or opinion at face value in the spirit it is meant. I'm not the kind of person who would go out of my way to upset somebody or make them feel belittled. ( if that makes sense )
In reality, I pride myself on the efforts I go to to try to be the nicest person anyone can possibly meet, whether in my personal or professional lives?
( if that makes any sense? ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, I do refrain from commenting on some threads, sometimes because I know I cannot either articulate myself sufficiently or have enough knowledge to add anything worthwhile and sometimes because I know my opinion may be considered contraversial by some on here and I don't always want to be drawn into justifying my opinion further than my initial comment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I enjoy a good debate about things which interest me, but some times my opinions are mood dependant and therefore, the wording might be a little brutal. It's just banter and patter and I don't take much of this seriously. |
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