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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done both but find if I go down the "sorry..." road to lots of people that means we've entered into a conversation of sorts and I get more messages.
I've currently got 900 unread messages in my inbox, not ignored just not got round to reading. If I replied to them all I'd be here forever.
I think I should get braver and start to use the block function! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I said no thanks to someone earlier and got told I was abit rude so I turned round and said that no thanks was actually polite and I could've just said fuck off! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To delete, that way if they try to message again they'll get a helpful screen/message telling them their last message was not replied to and so won't waste their time messaging again...whether they pay attention or ignore it is another matter |
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"I get people asking me to block them,, not sure why I would do that,, when they haven't insulted me or been rude  , just because I've said no thanks "
So they don't contact you again and possibly cause annoyance. |
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By *km45Man
over a year ago
UTTOXETER |
"A polite no thanks, and wish them well usually works"
That's what I like to get back if they are not interested esp as I've spent time working out what to put in the message.
And I always reply to new messages. Not that I get the number you ladies get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am always polite , though to be honest I don't really get that many messages.
I know you ladies are bombarded it must be jolly frustrating and impossible to answer them all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they've taken the time and trouble to write nicely, then I'll do the same but with a polite decline...
If they've sent the usual disrespectful 3-word rubbish "How r u ?" etc - ignore, delete and probably block if I can be bothered...!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"
It would depend on the message personally. How am I supposed to respond to a message just saying "nice tits" I say thanks & then they think I want to chat and I don't always or I say "Sorry I'm not interested" and then I get told they're not interested either.
I can't win  |
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If anyone messages you and you don't want to chat, send them to your new social secretary - moi 
Or
Do what I do- send a cut n paste reply vis-a-vis "thank you for your message but it has been deemed too dull to reply to". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer"
Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take. |
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"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer
Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take. "
If it makes you feel better I get told I look like her lot so it's not just you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer
Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take.
If it makes you feel better I get told I look like her lot so it's not just you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be brutally honest it all depends on the message received in the first place. A well though out and written, personalised message will receive a no thanks if that's the case.
How some guys want us to reply to a message that just says 'wow' is a mystery so they get filed under B1N pretty sharpish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.
If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.
A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure  "
I knew it 10 hail Mary's pitstop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.
A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure "
Wanna shag? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write. "
It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write. "
Why should we reply to a message that just says 'wow'? |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"
OP all I can say is treat others how you would want to be treated yourself in this debauched sex meets world .
If you do that then your staying true to yourself and at the end of the day that's all that matters .
If your mean be mean if your kind be kind like attracts like at the end of the day.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.
If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two. "
What's the difference between not answering someone you're not interested in or just blocking someone you're not interested in? You don't tell the person why you've blocked them so why should you tell them why you haven't replied to their message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.
A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure
Wanna shag?"
Yeah, go on then. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Ledbury |
"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.
It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response. "
I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.
It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.
I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere.... "
Polite to reply
But sometimes too tedious
So silence persists
I'm more of a haiku kind of woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.
It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.
I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere....
Polite to reply
But sometimes too tedious
So silence persists
I'm more of a haiku kind of woman."
I think you needed a space between your haiku and your haiku explanation, as I read it as a fourth line |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.
To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.
It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.
I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere....
Polite to reply
But sometimes too tedious
So silence persists
I'm more of a haiku kind of woman.
I think you needed a space between your haiku and your haiku explanation, as I read it as a fourth line "
I meant  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the message, if they are really nice its a sorry but if they are rude, just over the top etc its a straight out ignore and possibly block. I have it written in my profile apologising in advance as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????
OP all I can say is treat others how you would want to be treated yourself in this debauched sex meets world .
If you do that then your staying true to yourself and at the end of the day that's all that matters .
If your mean be mean if your kind be kind like attracts like at the end of the day. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Manners are there to make it easier to understand other people, so rejecting someone (you would think) would make it clear you don't fancy them.
You don't have to use manners if you don't want to, nobody is obligated to interact with anyone they don't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tried to, the fecking formatting removed it 
Replies in haiku
Should be the standard no thanks
Better than blocking
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On fab I'm wasted
Underappreciated
I'm more than nice abs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get people asking me to block them,, not sure why I would do that,, when they haven't insulted me or been rude , just because I've said no thanks
So they don't contact you again and possibly cause annoyance."
Then they should block me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.
If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two.
What's the difference between not answering someone you're not interested in or just blocking someone you're not interested in? You don't tell the person why you've blocked them so why should you tell them why you haven't replied to their message?"
pitstop the difference is manners if a guy sends a polite message it's polite to say not interested ,blocking is final and rude  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Manners are there to make it easier to understand other people, so rejecting someone (you would think) would make it clear you don't fancy them.
You don't have to use manners if you don't want to, nobody is obligated to interact with anyone they don't want to."
Agree |
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I always used to reply to everyone but it fostered inane chat too often, where they'd cling to the hope that they'd get a change of heart..
Now I reply to some. Blocking is helpful too.
Leave it to your preference, judgment and time availability. All are equally fine in Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they've taken the time and trouble to write nicely, then I'll do the same but with a polite decline...
If they've sent the usual disrespectful 3-word rubbish "How r u ?" etc - ignore, delete and probably block if I can be bothered...!
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Same as me.
I try to be polite but if I get a shitty message than its delete and block |
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