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over a year ago
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If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're thinking too much in to it.
NSA to me means we don't want any deep emotional problems but we may still form some sort of social friendship too.
To others NSA would mean to turn up, fuck and then leave. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You're thinking too much in to it.
NSA to me means we don't want any deep emotional problems but we may still form some sort of social friendship too.
To others NSA would mean to turn up, fuck and then leave. "
I know.. I'm a terrible overthinker. 
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You just find your feet and the way on a person by person basis. If they say they'd have possible free time each month etc and would always give possible notice, to check you're all free, then you'd play it that way - if it suited your needs.
I've had weekly nsa fbs over long periods or others I'd meet if in the area.
Often needs differ to some extent but there can be overlap and compromise. |
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"Alarms bell ring whenever I view a profile or receive a message that contains an inference the person is looking for a regular thing.....
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This wouldn't suit us, that why we prefer the club...turn up, have fun, leave...simples. |
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I respect we are all here for our own reasons and no-ones agenda holds primacy, but I have no desire to compromise what I want in order to satisfy the needs of someone who's motivation differs from my own..  |
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NSA means just that, not sure why you would need or want "rules"
Im happy to oblige though either way and personally i prefer NSA
Cant imagine anyone wanting to attach string to me
Have fun weekend yah all |
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i reckon people have their own rules as to what works for them.
i'd prefer very regular meets with someone NSA as i enjoy sex a lot and look forward to meeting someone regularly, it turns me on more. if someone only gets in touch every few weeks for a fuck then i've lost interest by then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The arrangements I've had with anyone long term have worked perfectly for me....a little chat now and then and meet up when suits us both....have fantastic sex and a laugh then go our separate ways....it's a bit like that friend you have that you rarely see. You aren't really involved in each other's lives but you connect when you meet. No drama. I don't care what they do in between, and they don't care what i get up to. I don't think there are many that really get this. So i guess my main rule is sex with no involvement. |
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"The arrangements I've had with anyone long term have worked perfectly for me....a little chat now and then and meet up when suits us both....have fantastic sex and a laugh then go our separate ways....it's a bit like that friend you have that you rarely see. You aren't really involved in each other's lives but you connect when you meet. No drama. I don't care what they do in between, and they don't care what i get up to. I don't think there are many that really get this. So i guess my main rule is sex with no involvement."
This  works perfectly well for me and my 'friends' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, NSA has to be one off meets
If I start viewing some as a FWB, the WB kinda takes a second place
And as soon as I see someone as a friend, then the sex stops.
Instantly. No matter what has gone before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me NSA can mean both, for instance
I have a lady friend on her and we chat occasionally and have met in the past for NSA fun, however she's still a friend and I helped her out when she punctured her car tyres.
I also know a couple who I've met on here before a few tines and it's been are you free, turn up fuck and go nsa fun.
What works for one may not work for the other but in both instance's its been NSA. |
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I've done the friends with benefits thing.
For me, NSA simply meant that I was really happy for him when he finally got himself a proper girlfriend.
I was filling a gap. Worked for me and him. Sometimes we met for drinks or coffee and a chat, sometimes it lead to more and sometimes it didn't.
I need a replacement for him now though, when I'm meeting again.
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"If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA?"
It means whatever the two of you decide it means - it's all about the dynamic between two people in my view, what naturally develops between you, it is different in every case I find. I have had people I don't need (or really want) to talk to from one meet to the next (without any lack of respect on either side), people I chat to every few days if we both feel like it, and people I can spend hours on the phone with. It's all good - just see what develops!
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"If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA?"
I would discuss the matter with a potential Fuck Buddy and see how you both wish to play it as each individual has different ideas on what is expected and what to expect out of it. |
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"If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA?
It means whatever the two of you decide it means - it's all about the dynamic between two people in my view, what naturally develops between you, it is different in every case I find. I have had people I don't need (or really want) to talk to from one meet to the next (without any lack of respect on either side), people I chat to every few days if we both feel like it, and people I can spend hours on the phone with. It's all good - just see what develops!
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This. It's different for every person you meet I think. |
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I had a brief relationship with a lass back in the early 90's. We are still in contact and occasionally I'll get a text asking if I'm free and vice versa. During that time she has lived abroad for 3 yrs and been married & divorced. There have been times when we have seen each other regularly for a couple of months at a time before not seeing each other for a couple of yrs.
I think that's nsa |
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"If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA?
I would discuss the matter with a potential Fuck Buddy and see how you both wish to play it as each individual has different ideas on what is expected and what to expect out of it. "
Good plan. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If we say we want a NSA fuck buddy type thing then does that mean they only have to get in touch when they want a shag?
If we ask for mutually agreed 'rules' then does that mean it's not NSA?
I would discuss the matter with a potential Fuck Buddy and see how you both wish to play it as each individual has different ideas on what is expected and what to expect out of it.
Good plan. "
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. I'm putting myself on a sex ban because I'm fed up of people just getting in touch when they want some 'fun'
