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That one thing that stops you hitting the message button
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There's a few profiles I've got on my hotlist, and I can't bring myself to send a message, dunno what it is that's holding me off though, I fit within their requirements, I'm sure if we did get together we'd have a good laugh but I just don't seem to be able to message them.
Anyone else looked at a profile and thought yes yes yes yes yes...... oh hold on  |
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Yep. Had it a few times.
For me it's a lack of confidence or if I'm interested in someone else at the same time I don't wanna have to make the choice between the 2 if by some miracle they both wanted to meet me, heaven forbid on the same day. I'm crap at making decisions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes all the time
Its just my nature not to be too pushy
If I see a profile I like the look of I'll fab the pics..add to hotlist..and keep checking for updates
If their interested then no doubt they'll notice and and hopefully get in touch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a few profiles I've got on my hotlist, and I can't bring myself to send a message, dunno what it is that's holding me off though, I fit within their requirements, I'm sure if we did get together we'd have a good laugh but I just don't seem to be able to message them.
Anyone else looked at a profile and thought yes yes yes yes yes...... oh hold on "
I mean this in the nicest way 
But is it a case of too many knockbacks previously do you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More than one thing, I won't message if
They don't want to meet men
Won't meet smoker's
Won't meet black men
Are into bare back
No point wasting any ones time, by ignoring preferences is there |
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By *anny77Man
over a year ago
glasgow |
I'm actually really shy. I can talk for Scotland in real face to face stuff but I never know what to write. I've met people at socials who I tried to start a conversation with in message (once I get started I'm fine but my initial message are.... lacklustre) failed and then we have a laugh about how we would never have spoken if it had been down to that.
That's why I am always telling people socials are important!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they have loads of verifications. I think they have a massive black book to call upon and I'd have very little chance. I will look at their profile a few times in the hope they might also show an interest and give me a nod. Otherwise I just look. There's lots to look at. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a few profiles I've got on my hotlist, and I can't bring myself to send a message, dunno what it is that's holding me off though, I fit within their requirements, I'm sure if we did get together we'd have a good laugh but I just don't seem to be able to message them.
Anyone else looked at a profile and thought yes yes yes yes yes...... oh hold on
I mean this in the nicest way
But is it a case of too many knockbacks previously do you think?"
Wouldn't say that, had plenty of knock backs but never let it get to me as I know I'm not for everyone, but I've not actively messaged anyone new for quite a while now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a few profiles I've got on my hotlist, and I can't bring myself to send a message, dunno what it is that's holding me off though, I fit within their requirements, I'm sure if we did get together we'd have a good laugh but I just don't seem to be able to message them.
Anyone else looked at a profile and thought yes yes yes yes yes...... oh hold on
I mean this in the nicest way
But is it a case of too many knockbacks previously do you think?
Wouldn't say that, had plenty of knock backs but never let it get to me as I know I'm not for everyone, but I've not actively messaged anyone new for quite a while now. "
Same here mate....I've not been looking to send a message for ages...that may have been my own reasoning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's usually if I think they're too hot. Some ladies on here could be models and it makes me think "they must get 1000 messages a day, they'll never see mine, and if they did they'd never reply".
Possibly lack of confidence on my part, or just a desire to meet someone more real. |
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"I falter where sending messages are concerned because I'm concerned they will think it's a definite fuck for them, because I've shown them interest.
Me too "
Having good seen your profile.I would be hoping for the fuck not necessarily thinking I was going to get it is may add |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
I'm slightly worried at all the guys on here that seem to think that looking at a girl's profile or fabbing a photo is going to be noticed. I haven't looked at the 'Who's Looked At Me' page in months - it's hard enough keeping up with messages, never mind the rest of it.
I know what is meant though - there's loads of profiles where I've ummed and ahhhhed and then just stuck 'em in my hotlist like a wuss  |
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By *anny77Man
over a year ago
glasgow |
I enjoy chatting. I think it's good when it gets going. You can usually tell quite quickly by replies whether someone is on same page.
It's just the initial message.
Don't want to be too laid back... to intense... too serious... too humorous... argh |
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By *Devil77Man
over a year ago
West Midlands |
Knowing I probably won't get a reply,and if I do my lack of being able to accommodate at the moment doesn't help.
Then there's the child care to consider.
I will eventually message and arrange something with the lovely ladies locally to me.
Some,bless em meet for socials already.its the other stuff after the socials that's difficult |
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By *ymph84Woman
over a year ago
durham |
Men that constantly have the same status message on saying never any filthy slurs on here just gonna delete.
Don't say it and then not follow through.
I also won't message anyone with a cock as their profile pic |
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"More than one thing, I won't message if
They don't want to meet men
Won't meet smoker's
Won't meet black men
Are into bare back
No point wasting any ones time, by ignoring preferences is there"
Yeah, but what if they tick all yer boxes, but don't like fishing |
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It's always been a confidence thing for me. I honestly wouldn't mind being ignored, or a 'no thanks', but don't really want to subject myself to 'ha ha ha, you're punching well above your weight love'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time... usually because the other person is way out of my league...
I'll even get as far a writing the message reading it ...
And instead of send I then hit delete...
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
Tipperary |
To be honest, almost always distance related ,no point wasting both of our time if there's virtually no chance we will ever meet up , also if they say they prefer women ,that's usually a good hint |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the time... usually because the other person is way out of my league...
I'll even get as far a writing the message reading it ...
And instead of send I then hit delete...
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Lmfao I do that... lots... I do it in the forum too.. probably not enough to be fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the time... usually because the other person is way out of my league...
I'll even get as far a writing the message reading it ...
And instead of send I then hit delete...
Lmfao I do that... lots... I do it in the forum too.. probably not enough to be fair."
Catch myself about to send and think... Awww Hell NO! Have a word with yourself Thrill  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's lots I would like to message just as they look good fun or to appreciate something on the profile etc But if I'm not up for meeting I just wonder if it makes me look like a timewaster? so I don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the time... usually because the other person is way out of my league...
I'll even get as far a writing the message reading it ...
And instead of send I then hit delete...
Lmfao I do that... lots... I do it in the forum too.. probably not enough to be fair."
Yeah I do it in the forums too...
Then wander back into the man cave and hope no one notices....
You sure we're not related
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Often thought about sending a first message to some forum posters, but always change my mind, usually because I might just want to applaud a post or comment on a thread or that they have some very nice pictures.
I dont send the message as I would not want some to read more into it than that. |
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