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"I would love to go to a social but my problem is being afraid of being rejected due to my disabilities and the way I look or it could be what happen to me when I was younger which has made me not go out but in all honest I only got to blame myself for my short coming in the end and do not know how to get over it. "Councelling might help Also going to an organised social, where there are no expectations of taking anything beyond just having a drink and a chat, might help too | |||
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"I would love to go to a social but my problem is being afraid of being rejected due to my disabilities and the way I look or it could be what happen to me when I was younger which has made me not go out but in all honest I only got to blame myself for my short coming in the end and do not know how to get over it.
Councelling might help
Also going to an organised social, where there are no expectations of taking anything beyond just having a drink and a chat, might help too"i know that but i thought talking to people here too would help i try the next one but thanks for telling me  | |||
"I would love to go to a social but my problem is being afraid of being rejected due to my disabilities and the way I look or it could be what happen to me when I was younger which has made me not go out but in all honest I only got to blame myself for my short coming in the end and do not know how to get over it.
Councelling might help
Also going to an organised social, where there are no expectations of taking anything beyond just having a drink and a chat, might help too i know that but i thought talking to people here too would help i try the next one but thanks for telling me "Well i didn't realise you had been to a social tonight... Cant believe you turned up and no one talked to you or vice versa but takes all sorts i suppose | |||
"I would love to go to a social but my problem is being afraid of being rejected due to my disabilities and the way I look or it could be what happen to me when I was younger which has made me not go out but in all honest I only got to blame myself for my short coming in the end and do not know how to get over it.
Councelling might help
Also going to an organised social, where there are no expectations of taking anything beyond just having a drink and a chat, might help too i know that but i thought talking to people here too would help i try the next one but thanks for telling me
Well i didn't realise you had been to a social tonight...
Cant believe you turned up and no one talked to you or vice versa but takes all sorts i suppose"i know i blame myself as i a bit shy too | |||
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"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? " ya | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya" Did you try to speak to people while you were there? It is a two way thing and if you won't say hello you are unlikely to strike up a conversation with anyone. Social anxiety is awful but not impossible to overcome. One of the best ways to try and improve your social skills is to make yourself chat with people everywhere you go. Yes, you will feel very self conscious and uncomfortable but it gets easier the more you do it. Keep practicing and things will get better. Treat a swingers social just the same as any other social event. It really isn't that different. The people you meet there are the same people you would chat to at a supermarket or the pub. | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya" How many people were there? Pretty rotten if no one said hello. Did you make yourself known? | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya" Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. | |||
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"We're missing something here: "the way I look" doesn't fit with the profile pics." What do you mean? Did you meet him at the social? | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. " Hello 
Chester Social organisers here *waves*
Just wondering where the venue the OP was at last night is?
Two reasons for asking this, which I shall tell you once he has had a chance to reply.
Jem x | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. Hello
Chester Social organisers here *waves*
Just wondering where the venue the OP was at last night is?
Two reasons for asking this, which I shall tell you once he has had a chance to reply.
Jem x"i maybe gone to the wrong place i went to the peacock | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. Hello
Chester Social organisers here *waves*
Just wondering where the venue the OP was at last night is?
Two reasons for asking this, which I shall tell you once he has had a chance to reply.
Jem x i maybe gone to the wrong place i went to the peacock"Well that would explain a lot! Firstly, the social scheduled for last night was cancelled 4 weeks ago and the guest list removed from the forum, and secondly the venue of the event is only given out to those on the guest list the day before. So, you in effect turned up to a random pub on a random night then complain that nobody spoke to you. Did you not notice that there wasn't a large group of people socialising in there?  | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. Hello
Chester Social organisers here *waves*
Just wondering where the venue the OP was at last night is?
Two reasons for asking this, which I shall tell you once he has had a chance to reply.
Jem x i maybe gone to the wrong place i went to the peacock
Well that would explain a lot!
Firstly, the social scheduled for last night was cancelled 4 weeks ago and the guest list removed from the forum, and secondly the venue of the event is only given out to those on the guest list the day before.
So, you in effect turned up to a random pub on a random night then complain that nobody spoke to you.
Did you not notice that there wasn't a large group of people socialising in there? "oh okay i did not note well my fault i am to blame | |||
"So are you saying you went to the Chester social, but no one spoke to you at all? ya Did the social organisers not say hello at least? At all the socials I've been to, the organisers have been great at welcoming newbies. Hello
Chester Social organisers here *waves*
Just wondering where the venue the OP was at last night is?
Two reasons for asking this, which I shall tell you once he has had a chance to reply.
Jem x i maybe gone to the wrong place i went to the peacock
Well that would explain a lot!
Firstly, the social scheduled for last night was cancelled 4 weeks ago and the guest list removed from the forum, and secondly the venue of the event is only given out to those on the guest list the day before.
So, you in effect turned up to a random pub on a random night then complain that nobody spoke to you.
Did you not notice that there wasn't a large group of people socialising in there? oh okay i did not note well my fault i am to blame"Unbelievable  | |||
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"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. " You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour " Yep, you’re right, but like the weather thing so changed, we reached out, as OP could confirm. Nice that you’re following our posts so closely though, in case we ever make a mistake again, we feel sure you’ll point it out to us  | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour Yep, you’re right, but like the weather thing so changed, we reached out, as OP could confirm. Nice that you’re following our posts so closely though, in case we ever make a mistake again, we feel sure you’ll point it out to us "Yup! Happy to help | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. " How have you been trying to help him exactly? | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. How have you been trying to help him exactly?" That’s not for us to say. OP can comment if he so wishes. | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour " thanks for saying It true what you say to a point but they only telling it like is as they have the right to say what they think even if it hurt. In the end they did try to help me which I failed to act on most times beside that I have been label a whiner here which is not that true so I can say it my fault no one else here. Anyway have fun all and sorry for being a pain | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour thanks for saying It true what you say to a point but they only telling it like is as they have the right to say what they think even if it hurt. In the end they did try to help me which I failed to act on most times beside that I have been label a whiner here which is not that true so I can say it my fault no one else here. Anyway have fun all and sorry for being a pain" To try to be objective here, as a co-organiser and host of the socials, (with great feedback), I was, in effect, slagged off in a public forum on this site. As were the regular attendees - a very friendly bunch. Rather than message us on the day, as is the established system, to ask for the venue, or message us yesterday to ask where we were in the pub, you came straight onto the forum and set up a thread which could only damage thr Chester Social's reputation, in the name of eliciting sympathy from those who read your threads. That was out of order. By the way, we only have your word that you were in the pub. You were called on it. You had claimed to have attended a social which never took place as it had been cancelled. Trust me, in the pub you claimed to have been ignored in, a social group of 25+ people would have been very obvious. Your response was not to apologise to the people you had tried to make look stupid, people who have invited you to every social held this year and offered to meet you in the car park to help with your social anxiety, but rather you, yet again, tried to garner more sympathy for your situation. I would suggest that if you are so desperately keen to meet people from fab as you say you are, you should clear your diary for Thursday 13th September, save some money, talk to the hosts for the event in advance to explain your social anxiety and sight issues and get your name well and truly on the guest list. Being a single guy might be an issue, but I will personally ask the host to make an exception for you as you are so keen to attend. So, you should apologise for this thread, and accept the above help/advice. Over to you Phil | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour thanks for saying It true what you say to a point but they only telling it like is as they have the right to say what they think even if it hurt. In the end they did try to help me which I failed to act on most times beside that I have been label a whiner here which is not that true so I can say it my fault no one else here. Anyway have fun all and sorry for being a pain To try to be objective here, as a co-organiser and host of the socials, (with great feedback), I was, in effect, slagged off in a public forum on this site. As were the regular attendees - a very friendly bunch. Rather than message us on the day, as is the established system, to ask for the venue, or message us yesterday to ask where we were in the pub, you came straight onto the forum and set up a thread which could only damage thr Chester Social's reputation, in the name of eliciting sympathy from those who read your threads. That was out of order. By the way, we only have your word that you were in the pub. You were called on it. You had claimed to have attended a social which never took place as it had been cancelled. Trust me, in the pub you claimed to have been ignored in, a social group of 25+ people would have been very obvious. Your response was not to apologise to the people you had tried to make look stupid, people who have invited you to every social held this year and offered to meet you in the car park to help with your social anxiety, but rather you, yet again, tried to garner more sympathy for your situation. I would suggest that if you are so desperately keen to meet people from fab as you say you are, you should clear your diary for Thursday 13th September, save some money, talk to the hosts for the event in advance to explain your social anxiety and sight issues and get your name well and truly on the guest list. Being a single guy might be an issue, but I will personally ask the host to make an exception for you as you are so keen to attend. So, you should apologise for this thread, and accept the above help/advice. Over to you Phil" I apologise to all for posting this thread i did not know it would upset people. | |||
"Sorry OP, we’ve been trying to help you the last few months, as you are only too aware. This time you’ve gone too far. Claiming that people at a social ignored you before being called out that the social didn’t even take place and then trying to blame it on being partially sighted is too much for us. Enjoy your time of FAB, you’ll not be getting any more help from us. You’ve said that before - three weeks ago - “Fair enough, we won't be commenting on any more of your threads from here on in.” You seem to enjoy following the op around on the forums and nit picking his posts. Very odd behaviour thanks for saying It true what you say to a point but they only telling it like is as they have the right to say what they think even if it hurt. In the end they did try to help me which I failed to act on most times beside that I have been label a whiner here which is not that true so I can say it my fault no one else here. Anyway have fun all and sorry for being a pain To try to be objective here, as a co-organiser and host of the socials, (with great feedback), I was, in effect, slagged off in a public forum on this site. As were the regular attendees - a very friendly bunch. Rather than message us on the day, as is the established system, to ask for the venue, or message us yesterday to ask where we were in the pub, you came straight onto the forum and set up a thread which could only damage thr Chester Social's reputation, in the name of eliciting sympathy from those who read your threads. That was out of order. By the way, we only have your word that you were in the pub. You were called on it. You had claimed to have attended a social which never took place as it had been cancelled. Trust me, in the pub you claimed to have been ignored in, a social group of 25+ people would have been very obvious. Your response was not to apologise to the people you had tried to make look stupid, people who have invited you to every social held this year and offered to meet you in the car park to help with your social anxiety, but rather you, yet again, tried to garner more sympathy for your situation. I would suggest that if you are so desperately keen to meet people from fab as you say you are, you should clear your diary for Thursday 13th September, save some money, talk to the hosts for the event in advance to explain your social anxiety and sight issues and get your name well and truly on the guest list. Being a single guy might be an issue, but I will personally ask the host to make an exception for you as you are so keen to attend. So, you should apologise for this thread, and accept the above help/advice. Over to you Phil I apologise to all for posting this thread i did not know it would upset people. "Accepted. Now get yourself to the September Social | |||
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