I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on..... |
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But feeling he came over my tits although when I turned round he didn't have a condom on. He said he popped the 2 used ones in my bin in the bathroom only to find no wrappers or said condoms in my bin. Must have taken them with him.
Strange behaviour... |
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It's a difficult one. I suspect the OP is probably right and he did stealth her and that's appalling behaviour , but if he didnt cum inside her, it can't be proven.. He would just say he did take the used condoms away with him and never said he put them in her bin.
I think it's a getting checked out and putting down to experience thing... |
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"I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet"
Don't name him at all. Nothing can be done about it without evidence.
Take advice from the GUM clinic on the best time to get checked. I think that the day after sex would be too soon.
What you HAVE done is made it clear to forum users that you MAY have had unprotected sex. Best that you don't arrange any more meets until you are given the okay. |
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Could be argued that this is a form of non-consensual sex if it was made explicitly clear to the arsehole in question that your meet was “safe sex only”. Could be wrong but I’m fairly sure that an incident like this is the very reason that Julian Asante is facing non-consensual sex allegations (or was) in Sweden as he had sneakily barebacked a woman |
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I would think the same that it becomes non consensual if he took the condom off without your permission.
In terms of testing, GUM advise 2 weeks before testing unless you develop specific symptoms sooner. You can go sooner but might need to test again after a specific time. |
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I'd say it was definitely non consensual if you want them to use a condom and they carry on without. I had a hotel meet where he didn't want to wear one after we'd discussed before the meet I only play safe, he was supposedly fine with this. He said he'd pull out, I said he could fuck off and showed him the door. I sent a veri saying what an arse he was and what he'd done. He left the site shortly after. No one has the right to do that. |
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Sorry to hear this OP and hope you're ok.
No point naming or reporting as nothing will be done.
Focus on yourself. Go and get checked out, I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine but your mind won't be at rest until you do.
Look after yourself OP. Big hugs. |
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"I fully intend to get checked. I haven't named him as yet
Don't name him on here, but you could report him to admin, not sure what they can do though."
excommunicate him |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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It amazes me how many people try this sort of thing. It is bad enough having to control those who have safe sex only on their profile and then try and push for bareback during the meet but then agreeing to it and stealthing is just appauling.
I don't want ti be alarmist and I suspect the risk is small but whilst the advise on GUM visits is right for most STIs a visit within 24h would potentially allow PEP treatment if HIV is considered. |
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"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on....."
You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.
I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....
You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.
I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place."
Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what? |
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"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....
You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.
I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place.
Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what?"
Dont like leaving my seed at the scene  . |
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"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on....."
you felt more sensation on the inward maybe
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By (user no longer on site)
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In a court case a few years back a female stalker had rummaged through a married mans dustbin found a used condom and smeared the cum into her knickers and claimed she had been rxped by the man. Let's be honest there are some pretty strange people out there. Stealthing is something to watch out for in gay saunas, some many guys want bareback only.  |
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"I firmly believe whilst being done doggy my last meet who's now hidden his profile stealthed me in other words removed his condom without my permission. I can't prove it just a couple of things didn't add up. Started cow girl with a raincoat on.....
You started cowgirl with raincoat on? Did you not check he had put a condom on? You say you felt he came over your tits, then you turned around. Was that to proceed with doggy. If that was the case then surely you would gave known he didn't have a condom on and you turned to allow doggy. I'm just asking questions here I'm not condoning the action at all.
I never leave my condoms at the ladies house. I always take my mine away with me. Just as a precautionary measure and dispose at my place.
Why? I mean taking the used condom away with you? Precaution of what?
Dont like leaving my seed at the scene . "
I don’t understand this mentality. You’re happy enough to place your genitals inside someone else but you can’t trust that they’re not going to do ‘something’ with your ejaculate?! Perhaps you should meet people that you have built up a connection or trust with beforehand?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Rather random but have you checked its not actually inside you?
I had a meet where the condom had come off while inside. Luckily the gentleman I was with told me of the situation and we were able to remove it after some awkward rummaging and both arranged to be tested.
But maybe he felt embarrassed? It's no excuse but better to rule it out.
Hopefully he hasn't stooped so long as to stealth you. People that do this really are the scum of the earth |
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I think it's worth reporting as such details on record help to influence action to take - especially if not an isolated incident.
Consider how you could retain more visibility and control in future - it may limit choice but keeps you safer.
People behaving this way should be stopped and have sanctions and punishments as appropriate.
Should someone get pregnant, there's also an additional care need that helps support this incident being recorded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A guy did this to me 2 years ago so I know how you feel, he’s actually a member on here now aswell.
Thankfully all clear and no pregnancy scare but the wait is worrying.
I hope you’re okay & all results come back clear.
The fact your meet has hidden his profile is very very telling in my opinion.
If you have any female friends on here it would probably be a good idea to warn them of this person just in case. X |
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