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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously? Some people get literally hundreds of messages... if they replied to all of them they wouldn’t have time for anything else
You’re not entitled to a reply just for being nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice would be suck it up buttercup....
Women and couples on here get literally hundreds of messages and day! Would you have time to reply to all of them? I sure as shit don't!
Don't take it personally. |
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we tried to reply but it opens at can of worms for message after message of somebody who thinks you want to be friends and you really couldn't care so I respect people who just go no it they're right and I can see why they would. |
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over a year ago
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On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question 
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you "
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated. "
I don’t wanna spend my days replying to folk I’m not interested in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once you have communicated with someone, unless you specifically block their profile, filters do not apply to further messages.
"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you "
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So ... just to put into context, you messaged them, even though you fell outside of their criteria and you're complaining they didn't reply. Really?
People would spend ages replying to every "nice" message they get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken "
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange  . Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quoted from the Site FAQs page:
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone.
If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested.
If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated. "
When single ladies can get literally 100s of messages in no time at all I'm pretty sure it take a hell of a lot more than a minute to reply to them all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated. "
See this really annoys me...
You're right, it doesn't take a minute to reply to ONE message...but hundreds would take hundreds of minutes!
Plus you'd then have to contend with the large portion of people who think that a brief "thanks for the compliment" message means you want to meet them...and those who get nasty when you reiterate that you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Once you have communicated with someone, unless you specifically block their profile, filters do not apply to further messages.
I know, these are new people x
On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x"
Blame tea monkey.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Blame tea monkey.. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated.
I don’t wanna spend my days replying to folk I’m not interested in "
This.
This old bloody chestnut again.
If i replied to everyone I'm not interested in to say " thanks, but no thanks" I would never have time to chat to the people thete is interested in
I suffer with health problems and am visually impaired so i've done an amazing job if i reply to a dozen messages in a day.
I would like to reply to complimentary messages just to say thanks, but when i do that some take it as a sign I want a meet rather than politeness. It's easier to not reply.
I've been accused of blanking someone i chat to because i hasn't seen a message of theirs.
People rarely see the bigger picture.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated.
See this really annoys me...
You're right, it doesn't take a minute to reply to ONE message...but hundreds would take hundreds of minutes!
Plus you'd then have to contend with the large portion of people who think that a brief "thanks for the compliment" message means you want to meet them...and those who get nasty when you reiterate that you don't. "
If you said thanks but no I'd just block you ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So ... just to put into context, you messaged them, even though you fell outside of their criteria and you're complaining they didn't reply. Really?
People would spend ages replying to every "nice" message they get. "
Not only that they are complaining that they made the mail 'personal' because of mentioning a picture. It's times like this that we should rejoice in remembering we all get emails from arseholes....it really does sometimes make you think you're going mad, then insanity hits the forum and normal order is resumed |
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
If they had replied it would allow you to permanently circumvent any filters that they chose to apply in the future. Don't take it personal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Blame tea monkey..
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Empty your cookie jar and cache, etc. It might jiggle it a bit. |
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I always say thank you if someone pays me a compliment. Manners cost nothing and compliments are much appreciated.x
If someone says "hi" or "how was your week" etc then i dont always have time to nessage back. Rude messages get ignored.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Blame tea monkey..
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These people may have winked you whilst you removed your filters. If they did they'll be able to send you messages now.
I have men blocked but sometimes I'll receive a message from someone I've not spoken to before. My guess is they have winked or messaged me previously when men weren't blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Blame tea monkey..
. Yep!!
These people may have winked you whilst you removed your filters. If they did they'll be able to send you messages now.
I have men blocked but sometimes I'll receive a message from someone I've not spoken to before. My guess is they have winked or messaged me previously when men weren't blocked."
Oh right didn’t realise if they’d winked they can through filters. Must be that then. Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
A response to a compliment can often lead to an awkward no for a lot of people.
For instance if I responded to a compliment even though I make it clear I do no private meets the conversation always ends with ... Can I have your Kik or your numbers... Why do they need that if I'm only ever going to play in clubs. Then I have to turn them down.
Now days I just block all from messaging me. So peaceful. So lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Blame tea monkey..
. Yep!!
These people may have winked you whilst you removed your filters. If they did they'll be able to send you messages now.
I have men blocked but sometimes I'll receive a message from someone I've not spoken to before. My guess is they have winked or messaged me previously when men weren't blocked.
Oh right didn’t realise if they’d winked they can through filters. Must be that then. Thanks. "
I'm not sure how i worked it out. Someone might have told me, but it's handy to know. |
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I have ignored and/deleted hundreds of messages in just a few weeks and have rarely replied to polite messages from people that don't interest me. The clue as to why is in the word 'hundreds'. Those that appeal to me, I genuinely give time to replying to. If it isn't my thing, I simply don't have the time to reply. If you aren't brutal, it becomes a chore, and messages slip off after a few days, and then you forget who people are, etc. No, best to keep the people who you reply to to a very limited number.
Shelly x |
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A response to any message, no matter how well thought or 'innocent' it is, can open the floodgates to more
Experience has taught me never reply to complimentary messages.
It was my birthday yesterday, so I made an exceptuin.
I started to send replies to folk who'd wished me happy birthday
Unless I knew them all I sent was "Thank you"
After less than 10minutes, over 30 had responded back with a FAF type message.
Most where 100s of miles away, none met my preferences.
I deleted the rest of the messages unread as quite frankly I had better things to do with my time.
I'm sticking to being rude & ignorant from now on. |
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Should people feel obliged to say thanks for an unsolicited message they didn't ask for?
Even if you'd put lots of time and effort in writing it, does that somehow mean they owe you their time even though the didn't ask for it?
I get the frustration of putting effort into a message and getting a simple delete. But it's you who has chose to project your self on to them? Personally I never expect people to be obliged to take the time to message back if not intrested.
I actually think a message delete is fair enough as it's a simple way of saying no without effort. But when a message sits simply unread that is more frustrating. |
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This from a profile which quotes how many unread messages they have in their inbox they have and states that they will reply if and when they get around to it.......hypocrisy at its finest here on Fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And yet the last para of your own profile OP you state you have lots of unread messages to which you will reply to some of if you get time, and apologise if you dont reply to others....  |
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I try to reply because I know how pissed off people get especially the men etc..or how rubbish it feels when you don't get a reply. But at the moment I haven't been organising any meets as such .. only to say hi to friends so my inbox is getting fuller and fuller... So im at the point where I'm gonna have to mass delete because I can't see the normal messages from the people on my actual friends list or the people who I want to chat with.. I feel bad but that's how it is..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
49 people have replied to this post and from what I can see you've not replied to one of them OP. How rude! |
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If it’s blatantly obvious they haven’t read our profile from the content of their message, then we’ll either ignore or block. If the message is along the lines of what we’re looking for then we’ll answer, even if it is a polite ‘no thanks’ kinda response. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
You knowingly ignored their age range, messaged them without any previous contact and then expect them to reply? You shouldn't give out compliments just to get thanks either btw. |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"Would be nice to have automatic reply’s
Thank you but no thank you "
Definitely...
I dont reply to every message I get... It pisses me off no end if I then get a needy "I see you read my message..whats your answer please?" Second message..
Ummm If I didnt reply it means Im not interested no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always say thank you if someone pays me a compliment. Manners cost nothing and compliments are much appreciated.x
If someone says "hi" or "how was your week" etc then i dont always have time to nessage back. Rude messages get ignored.
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Those kind of manners would cost me a couple of hours a night if I had filters down. Fab is a bit of fun, not a half time admin role. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some do ..some Don't...it's not just rudeness.. sometimes the numbers of messages are just too high "
And sometimes its because I don't want to And there is nothing wrong with that. |
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"I always say thank you if someone pays me a compliment. Manners cost nothing and compliments are much appreciated.x
If someone says "hi" or "how was your week" etc then i dont always have time to nessage back. Rude messages get ignored.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always say thank you if someone pays me a compliment. Manners cost nothing and compliments are much appreciated.x
If someone says "hi" or "how was your week" etc then i dont always have time to nessage back. Rude messages get ignored.
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I don't think it's rude not to reply, it's rude to except one then moan when you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Nobody gets more messages than me if they so god help them it's a pain to reply as someone said it opens a can of worms but reply I do unless I forget for some reason and no I'm not "beefin"as someone suggested it's the way I am just courteous and a nice sociable person always ha e been. Anyhow that's me done it always ends up the same way getting nasty replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nobody gets more messages than me if they so god help them it's a pain to reply as someone said it opens a can of worms but reply I do unless I forget for some reason and no I'm not "beefin"as someone suggested it's the way I am just courteous and a nice sociable person always ha e been. Anyhow that's me done it always ends up the same way getting nasty replies. "
I find it quite offensive to basically be told I'm not a nice person or am rude because I don't respond to every message I get...
No one was nasty to you on this thread... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
The problem with what you did is usually seem as a way to creep in the back door of filters and start chatting. If they're polite in just saying thanks then often many take it as they want to chat more which often isn't the case.
I'm not sure why people feel that others are obliged to acknowledge compliments on fab. It's nothing like the real world as fab clearly tells everyone, no reply means not interested and most take it as that.
Yep it's rude OP but this is fab. It's where people get away with being rude and it's accepted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
You weren’t in their age range, you ignored that and still decided to message.
So they ignored you. Is it really any different?
They are entitled to reply to who they please.
I personally wouldn’t reply to someone who wasn’t within my filters and messaged anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice.
You weren’t in their age range, you ignored that and still decided to message.
So they ignored you. Is it really any different?
They are entitled to reply to who they please.
I personally wouldn’t reply to someone who wasn’t within my filters and messaged anyway."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would reply to whoever messaged me but it does wick me off when ladies don't reply,even if they say no thanks.
Doesn't take a minute to reply.
I do appreciate that some get inundated. "
What would a “no thanks” reply do though? It doesn’t change the fact they’re not interested.
Best to delete your “sent messages” if someone not replying bothers you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice.
You weren’t in their age range, you ignored that and still decided to message.
So they ignored you. Is it really any different?
They are entitled to reply to who they please.
I personally wouldn’t reply to someone who wasn’t within my filters and messaged anyway."
They obviously hadn't blocked those out of their filtered age, so as so many told me after I used to say in forums that first thing I look at is age filter and if out of it I just move on without showing any interest, they complained as saying we still open to chat and see. I still don't bother however. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's nice to compliment. But I don't ever expect a reply, simply because women get hundreds of messages every day. They'd need a full time P.A.!!
A female friend from here once showed me her in-box (no not that one!), 263.....incredible to see! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Physically couldn't reply to every message even with the age restrictions we have as a filter. We're here for NSA not much else. Harsh as that sounds x"
Same here.
When my profile is visible I get a ton of messages.
I was Number 1 in Hot Photos before and it was the evening, I went to bed early as I had a really long day the next day, didn’t log into Fab until the evening when I was on the train home.
No joke I had 1100+ messages, hundreds of friend requests, I hide my profile for weeks after that, and regularly do so now.
This was with filters aswell.
I couldn’t care less if someone I’m not interested in calls me rude to be honest. We all use Fab in the way that works for us!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice.
You weren’t in their age range, you ignored that and still decided to message.
So they ignored you. Is it really any different?
They are entitled to reply to who they please.
I personally wouldn’t reply to someone who wasn’t within my filters and messaged anyway.
They obviously hadn't blocked those out of their filtered age, so as so many told me after I used to say in forums that first thing I look at is age filter and if out of it I just move on without showing any interest, they complained as saying we still open to chat and see. I still don't bother however."
Yes they probably just added the preferred age at registration but didn’t block them via “message filters” which you have to do afterwards.
I did the same thing when I was new, was chatting to a woman about messages and she mentioned I need to block those out of my age range through message filters. Which I did! |
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I get that many messages from men that I can't possibly reply to all also I've found if you reply it seems to be taken as an invitation for sex , when you refuse they sometimes get very nasty so these days I just delete |
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over a year ago
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"I just live with the no reply. What I do is block them as not to approach again.
There loss in my eyes "
For it to be a loss, they’d have had to meet you & then ignore you, that would be a loss.
Them not wanting to meet with someone they have never met, technically wouldn’t be a loss.
Maybe a missed opportunity, but then anyone we don’t want to meet could be seen as that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just live with the no reply. What I do is block them as not to approach again.
There loss in my eyes
For it to be a loss, they’d have had to meet you & then ignore you, that would be a
Them not wanting to meet with someone they have never met, technically wouldn’t be a loss.
Maybe a missed opportunity, but then anyone we don’t want to meet could be seen as that! "
Yes... a missed opportunity. I stopped worrying about it when I saw a females inbox after one day.
They have it hard I tells ya !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice.
You weren’t in their age range, you ignored that and still decided to message.
So they ignored you. Is it really any different?
They are entitled to reply to who they please.
I personally wouldn’t reply to someone who wasn’t within my filters and messaged anyway.
They obviously hadn't blocked those out of their filtered age, so as so many told me after I used to say in forums that first thing I look at is age filter and if out of it I just move on without showing any interest, they complained as saying we still open to chat and see. I still don't bother however.
Yes they probably just added the preferred age at registration but didn’t block them via “message filters” which you have to do afterwards.
I did the same thing when I was new, was chatting to a woman about messages and she mentioned I need to block those out of my age range through message filters. Which I did! "
As I said I always just skip them without even looking now. This also tends to be my response if someone clearly has me filtered out and messages with a shot how are you or nice pics or hi. I might say thanks but don't show further interest. Theres need to tell me even though I've filtered out your age I'm interested. Not hard to compose. |
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No reply means no interest, whether they appreciated the compliments or not. It's worthwhile knowing the Fab style of doing things, as it's got its own norms and official site rules too.
Many people don't reply to gorgeous messages and people - they fit their behaviour to the site, their time and other limitations, as well as what they may be needing at any one point in time. Couples accounts may be variously used by either partner or both, so compliments may not reach the intended half. Think of any response as a bonus, rather than an expectation. |
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"Physically couldn't reply to every message even with the age restrictions we have as a filter. We're here for NSA not much else. Harsh as that sounds x
Same here.
When my profile is visible I get a ton of messages.
I was Number 1 in Hot Photos before and it was the evening, I went to bed early as I had a really long day the next day, didn’t log into Fab until the evening when I was on the train home.
No joke I had 1100+ messages, hundreds of friend requests, I hide my profile for weeks after that, and regularly do so now.
This was with filters aswell.
I couldn’t care less if someone I’m not interested in calls me rude to be honest. We all use Fab in the way that works for us!! "
Exactly our thoughts, we don't like the site to get in the way of our "normal" life, time is precious for everyone. x |
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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago
Chorlton, Manchester |
"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x"
Did you press save when you put filters back on? Sounds obvious but easily missed!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Did you press save when you put filters back on? Sounds obvious but easily missed!!"
Was my fault. I changed the age range back but forgot to block all other ages from messaging me on the filters part |
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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago
Chorlton, Manchester |
"On the subject of messages, if I may be so rude as to briefly interrupt this thread to ask a quick question
I removed my filters yesterday to take part in a forum game. I then put them back to normal but I am still getting messages from the very very young and the very very old. Any ideas?
Thank you
Anyone you messaged whilst your filters were off will still be able to message you, otherwise should've returned to normal. Maybe contact admin? They'll fix owt that's broken
Yeah it’s not just people I messaged though. It’s lots of new ones. Strange . Thanks x
Did you press save when you put filters back on? Sounds obvious but easily missed!!
Was my fault. I changed the age range back but forgot to block all other ages from messaging me on the filters part "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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You sent them a message knowing that you weren't in their age range, they shouldn't feel obliged to reply, nor should you expect one. It was a nice thought, but lots do this to try to get others to change their minds about meeting. This can also lead to being pestered or abuse. |
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"Why should they reply.
I don't reply to all my messages. Some I delete, some I block, some I read and don't reply.
It's personal choice end of."
Exactly this.
Fab rule states no reply not interested.no reply doesn't mean rude. |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"One thing I hate is people not having the decency to at least say thanks when you pay a complement. For instance a local couple I praised the photos of the woman but my message was deleted. I did fall outside of the age limit of people they want to meet but I didn't want to anyway but a thank you would have been nice. "
Some do, some don't. Ultimately you form an opinion based on the interaction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive had 400 messages to day
Im not replying to all
That’s mental - how can you manage when you have to sift through them?? "
I dont look at all.i just cant, if a pic catches my eye i will look |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive had 400 messages to day
Im not replying to all
That’s mental - how can you manage when you have to sift through them??
I dont look at all.i just cant, if a pic catches my eye i will look "
When our inbox is busy we go by fun subject titles...
Heys get deleted pdq! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive had 400 messages to day
Im not replying to all
That’s mental - how can you manage when you have to sift through them??
I dont look at all.i just cant, if a pic catches my eye i will look
When our inbox is busy we go by fun subject titles...
Heys get deleted pdq! "
Any text speak or saying use instead of you and they are deleted asap |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive had 400 messages to day
Im not replying to all
That’s mental - how can you manage when you have to sift through them??
I dont look at all.i just cant, if a pic catches my eye i will look
When our inbox is busy we go by fun subject titles...
Heys get deleted pdq!
Any text speak or saying use instead of you and they are deleted asap "
Ha ha - I noticed that catchy/fun titles get more attention. This is good info chaps, take note
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