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Fab and falling

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I was chatting to someone earlier who was quite wary due to having 4 people fall for them from the swinging world and make it awkward . It's happened twice to me on here...is it quite common? Have most people who meet regularly found it a problem?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple over a year ago

Bedworth

It’s terrible, leads to all sorts of problems like marriage

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go."

I thought the same but I think maybe i chat too much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have fallen for people and I've had people fall for me. If you're going to be intimate with people there is always going to be at least a slight risk of that.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It's happened a couple of times on here and somewhere else.

I see it as a type of controlling behaviour tbh.

They profess their love, say they've "fallen for you", then want you to be exclusive...

And get shitty if you don't acquiesce...

No ta.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go."

Me too. I couldn’t be clearer but it’s happened twice. Once with a man once with a woman

The man was an absolute nightmare. The reason I left the first time. Had to get the police involved, I can’t even describe how scary it got. Half the reason I don’t meet many people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's happened a couple of times on here and somewhere else.

I see it as a type of controlling behaviour tbh.

They profess their love, say they've "fallen for you", then want you to be exclusive...

And get shitty if you don't acquiesce...

No ta."

Oh no, it's not been like that when I've experienced it. That sounds awful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

I might when I get my hands on those boobies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

I might when I get my hands on those boobies

you’re too cute making me feel all wanted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

I might when I get my hands on those boobies

you’re too cute making me feel all wanted

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman over a year ago

Hull

I have fallen for two people only. They were honest about they wouldn't want anything more. I try to keep my "fab" head on as best I can but sometimes it's not easy when you get the "feels" and you enjoy their company so much and the sex haha. I recognise it now and would stop seeing someone if it happened again or was going that way.

So far no one has fallen for me. (not sure if that's good or bad)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a guy from here, we fucked for a year, I fell in love, took him another 6 months... We got together and had a 2.5 Yr relationship... We ain't together anymore, but have stayed good friends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have fallen for two people only. They were honest about they wouldn't want anything more. I try to keep my "fab" head on as best I can but sometimes it's not easy when you get the "feels" and you enjoy their company so much and the sex haha. I recognise it now and would stop seeing someone if it happened again or was going that way.

So far no one has fallen for me. (not sure if that's good or bad)

You’re stunning and a lovely person to boot !!

Men are ridiculous xxx

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x "

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Only once.

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By *r MoriartyMan over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I'm surprised when it doesn't happen

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman over a year ago

Hull

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive only ever fallen for someone once but was just not to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x "

That’s lovely

. Wouldn’t bother me if I liked them. Mine was more of a stalker!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am in love with you op

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

I bet they have!

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman over a year ago

Hull

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am in love with you op "

I know you are but I have told you...when you shave your beard I'll move in with you

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It's happened a couple of times on here and somewhere else.

I see it as a type of controlling behaviour tbh.

They profess their love, say they've "fallen for you", then want you to be exclusive...

And get shitty if you don't acquiesce...

No ta."

The controlling bit rings true to me actually,he couldn't even like the fact I was chatting to 'strangers' on the forum's,why would I want to do that etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

I’m half way there honey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x

That’s lovely

. Wouldn’t bother me if I liked them. Mine was more of a stalker! "

The last one was rather nuts.. put me off fab completely and I stopped meeting and took a long break.. Then this weirdo came for a brew..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

Can I join?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've not fallen for anyone on FAB. I did have someone fall for me though, reacted with quite a bit of hostility when I explained it was way too soon for me to even think those thoughts.

It's changed my approach a little if I'm honest. Not everyone can handle a certain level of intimacy without getting all giddy about it. So I tend to wait till I've met them before we become proper penpals.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

Can I join?

Hell yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x

That’s lovely

. Wouldn’t bother me if I liked them. Mine was more of a stalker!

The last one was rather nuts.. put me off fab completely and I stopped meeting and took a long break.. Then this weirdo came for a brew..

Hahaha. Give it time. You’ll be hiding from him innit. Peace

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By *kblueeyesCouple over a year ago

kilkenny

Nope it's just fun with benefits x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x

That’s lovely

. Wouldn’t bother me if I liked them. Mine was more of a stalker!

The last one was rather nuts.. put me off fab completely and I stopped meeting and took a long break.. Then this weirdo came for a brew..

Hahaha. Give it time. You’ll be hiding from him innit. Peace

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Happened to me within months of joining - jealous peacock syndrome.. drama or drama!

I compartmentalise - keeps things simple and enjoyable, even when repeated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go.

Me too. I couldn’t be clearer but it’s happened twice. Once with a man once with a woman

The man was an absolute nightmare. The reason I left the first time. Had to get the police involved, I can’t even describe how scary it got. Half the reason I don’t meet many people.

I’m sorry I was a pain Nora, please forgive me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go.

Me too. I couldn’t be clearer but it’s happened twice. Once with a man once with a woman

The man was an absolute nightmare. The reason I left the first time. Had to get the police involved, I can’t even describe how scary it got. Half the reason I don’t meet many people.

I’m sorry I was a pain Nora, please forgive me

Oi the injunction doesn’t even allow you to converse with me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had it several times, I'm sure most of us have. I generally just back off and leave them to it. Although recently I have reciprocated the feeling.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've not fallen for anyone but I have had a couple of people declare deeper feelings than I would want on here. They were both quite adult about the fact that it wasn't reciprocated though, nothing like some of the horror stories I've heard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve fallen off the radar, does that count?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, guys know where they stand with me from the word go.

Me too. I couldn’t be clearer but it’s happened twice. Once with a man once with a woman

The man was an absolute nightmare. The reason I left the first time. Had to get the police involved, I can’t even describe how scary it got. Half the reason I don’t meet many people.

I’m sorry I was a pain Nora, please forgive me

Oi the injunction doesn’t even allow you to converse with me!"

It ran out this morning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had it a couple of times where men have declared deeper feelings for me, but my cynical side always thinks they are just saying it in order to claim exclusively.. i think its a bit sneaky if its not even supposed to be on the agenda in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

"
can I watch?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have fallen for people and I've had people fall for me. If you're going to be intimate with people there is always going to be at least a slight risk of that. "

I agree I suppose its natural in some way when you find a connection with someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No ones fallen for me ...

What’s wrong with me

Nothing you gorgeous woman..

Nothing wrong with you either

Fuck it shall we just become lesbians

can I watch?

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By *attooedBBWWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

Happens to my partner too much, drives him mad ha

I’ve only had one guy fall for me off here

It does make it awkward and people should probably avoid swinging if they’re the type to fall easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have fallen for people and I've had people fall for me. If you're going to be intimate with people there is always going to be at least a slight risk of that.

I agree I suppose its natural in some way when you find a connection with someone "

I don’t see an issue with it to be honest as long as everyone knows the score. But then maybe I’m looking for something different to most. I can’t do random meets, I need to feel something even if it’s just a strong connection. I had a FWB for 5 years and loved him to bits, I will only ever want a FWB situation though. I seem to be able to separate it from real life as I will never ever want to mix the two no matter what. I have too many responsibilities in real life and I know I don’t want anyone else in it. I actually think it’s better if some feelings are involved personally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had a few guys get really intense in the past.. wasn't what I wanted so I cut ties.

This time I wasn't looking for a fab meet.. just a coffee with someone I laughed with. Can't imagine being without him now. Sometimes things just fit.

Saff x

That’s lovely

. Wouldn’t bother me if I liked them. Mine was more of a stalker!

The last one was rather nuts.. put me off fab completely and I stopped meeting and took a long break.. Then this weirdo came for a brew..

Hahaha. Give it time. You’ll be hiding from him innit. Peace

Was gonna say awwwww, peace, love hearts etc, but, no, fuck you all!

Xteve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I catch feelings easily, but regularly slap myself around the chops with a firm dose of reality.

It would be lovely if it was reciprocated, but it's not happened yet.

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

London

Maybe you are too delicious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have fallen for people and I've had people fall for me. If you're going to be intimate with people there is always going to be at least a slight risk of that.

I agree I suppose its natural in some way when you find a connection with someone

I get this

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By *abarellaWoman over a year ago

Warminster

Falling is quite strong.

If I'm meeting someone regularly then I start to get feelings for them, it's only natural. But it's more like the feelings you have for a close friend. Not get married type feelings.

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By *hesterXXXMan over a year ago

in your dreams

Yes I've had 2 stalkers off here over the years. Couldnt understand that i didnt want a relationship with them. Just makes you more careful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a problem with an infatuation a few years ago on here. I stopped meeting for 5 years because I didn’t want that kind of shit happening again.

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