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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many. "
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland |
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland "
I think a lot of people care very wary of giving an exact location. If they're interested in meeting they could say south of the city for instance or ask to meet someone neutral. |
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When you ask for a location you need to explain your reason for asking ... ie
“Would you consider a meeting and may I ask a rough location to see if it’s viable for us both”
It’s less direct and gives the recipient the opportunity to decline if they wish |
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over a year ago
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland "
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.   |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"When you ask for a location you need to explain your reason for asking ... ie
“Would you consider a meeting and may I ask a rough location to see if it’s viable for us both”
It’s less direct and gives the recipient the opportunity to decline if they wish"
This is what I do but fab of late don’t seem to be working as I remember it. I understand the reason to separate this from your personal life I have one myself |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you. "
Bit lost with your comment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.
Bit lost with your comment?"
It seems that way you keep asking and people will keep avoiding you. |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex/Kent |
"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.
Bit lost with your comment?
It seems that way you keep asking and people will keep avoiding you. "
If you don’t ask a vicinity of London how do you progress to a meet then? enlighten me with your gem? |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex/Kent |
"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.
Bit lost with your comment?
It seems that way you keep asking and people will keep avoiding you. "
For instance if you asked and I’m not saying you would I’d say I’m on the Strand or in Islington I don’t see that as giving an exact location |
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I’m in sympathy with the op, it’s not as though u are asking for their address, phone number or inside leg measurements.. the fakers and time wasters have really fucked this site up for the genuine.. either them who want sex or just add to yr friends list and have chat and fun and if possible sex ..... there’s always the block button doesn’t care what comma yr using.. all u have to give if think it’s a genuine question is a wide area of location .. I dunno that’s my thought process anyway |
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over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with asking! As stated, sometimes people are miles away and little chance of meeting. Also they maybe too close for comfort!!!!! How precise the information you give is up to you. |
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"Nothing wrong with asking! As stated, sometimes people are miles away and little chance of meeting. Also they maybe too close for comfort!!!!! How precise the information you give is up to you. "
Just checked mine and apparently I live within 10 miles of maself  |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"I’m in sympathy with the op, it’s not as though u are asking for their address, phone number or inside leg measurements.. the fakers and time wasters have really fucked this site up for the genuine.. either them who want sex or just add to yr friends list and have chat and fun and if possible sex ..... there’s always the block button doesn’t care what comma yr using.. all u have to give if think it’s a genuine question is a wide area of location .. I dunno that’s my thought process anyway "
God I’m glad someone understands my point. As a fella I’m quiet good with the block button as I try to keep my fun as realistic as possible. I’ve got some quiet attractive ladies on my block list as our requirements just don’t match for one reason or another |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with asking! As stated, sometimes people are miles away and little chance of meeting. Also they maybe too close for comfort!!!!! How precise the information you give is up to you.
Just checked mine and apparently I live within 10 miles of maself "
You’re 10 miles from yourself?   |
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over a year ago
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"I simply won't divulge my location to strangers on the internet.
I think Hundred Acre Wood is just up the road from Cloud Cuckoo Land   "
So it's you I've seen peeking through my windows  |
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"Nothing wrong with asking! As stated, sometimes people are miles away and little chance of meeting. Also they maybe too close for comfort!!!!! How precise the information you give is up to you.
Just checked mine and apparently I live within 10 miles of maself
You’re 10 miles from yourself? "
Good job I've got a long penis innit  |
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I have no problem with anyone asking my location.
My postcode on here isn't totally accurate either.
I'm chatting with someone I'll ask the question.
It's all about establishing if actually meeting that person is viable.
I don't need an exact, pinpoint address, just a rough location.
I spent several weeks chatting with someone, I assumed he'd looked at my profile, had a basic knowledge of England's geography.
We planning a social, he asked where I was - rough location given, at which point he deemed it too far
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"I simply won't divulge my location to strangers on the internet.
I think Hundred Acre Wood is just up the road from Cloud Cuckoo Land
So it's you I've seen peeking through my windows "
Damn, you've sussed me, I'll have to find a new tree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.
Bit lost with your comment?
It seems that way you keep asking and people will keep avoiding you.
For instance if you asked and I’m not saying you would I’d say I’m on the Strand or in Islington I don’t see that as giving an exact location "
I don’t see any problem with asking that. I’ve always asked where someone lives and they have done the same with no problems. It’s a pretty normal question I think. I’m not giving them my address. |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with asking! As stated, sometimes people are miles away and little chance of meeting. Also they maybe too close for comfort!!!!! How precise the information you give is up to you.
Just checked mine and apparently I live within 10 miles of maself
You’re 10 miles from yourself?
Good job I've got a long penis innit "
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have no problem with anyone asking my location.
My postcode on here isn't totally accurate either.
I'm chatting with someone I'll ask the question.
It's all about establishing if actually meeting that person is viable.
I don't need an exact, pinpoint address, just a rough location.
I spent several weeks chatting with someone, I assumed he'd looked at my profile, had a basic knowledge of England's geography.
We planning a social, he asked where I was - rough location given, at which point he deemed it too far
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Just this exactly |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex/Kent |
"Why do you need to know that? It just smacks stalker to many.
It’s not for stalking purposes it’s to see if a meet is viable as a lot of profiles say London but then you actually find out they are in the outer Hebrides.
Ie: I’v Seen a few profiles that say for instance London Dublin or Ireland
You asked why I told you! Yuo9 just ignore keep asking and keep getting people then avoiding you.
Bit lost with your comment?
It seems that way you keep asking and people will keep avoiding you.
For instance if you asked and I’m not saying you would I’d say I’m on the Strand or in Islington I don’t see that as giving an exact location
I don’t see any problem with asking that. I’ve always asked where someone lives and they have done the same with no problems. It’s a pretty normal question I think. I’m not giving them my address. "
And this |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"My profile says west Cornwall and states if you won't drive to Lands End for a coffee then you're wasting your time but guys still don't get where I am  "
I was down that neck of the woods about 2 weeks ago |
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"My profile says west Cornwall and states if you won't drive to Lands End for a coffee then you're wasting your time but guys still don't get where I am
I was down that neck of the woods about 2 weeks ago "
Hope you had a great holiday |
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?"
Because reality has kicked in and now they’re wobbling a little. Either because they are shy/nervous, completely fake or just a fantasist grabbing a cheeky wank? Who knows?
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"My profile says west Cornwall and states if you won't drive to Lands End for a coffee then you're wasting your time but guys still don't get where I am
I was down that neck of the woods about 2 weeks ago
Hope you had a great holiday "
It is very nice and relaxed down there. Plus people genuinely meet I had 2 meetings within 10 days |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?
Because reality has kicked in and now they’re wobbling a little. Either because they are shy/nervous, completely fake or just a fantasist grabbing a cheeky wank? Who knows?
Ed"
Unfortunately the product of free sites |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?"
It's not a problem I've experienced to be honest OP are you sure it's that that has put them off? Either way you can get an indication for how close they are from the thing in their profile that tells you how far away they are.
I usually use that as a guideline and if our conversation progresses to the point where we're likely to meet, if it's not cropped up in conversation already I'll ask roughly where they're located. |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?
It's not a problem I've experienced to be honest OP are you sure it's that that has put them off? Either way you can get an indication for how close they are from the thing in their profile that tells you how far away they are.
I usually use that as a guideline and if our conversation progresses to the point where we're likely to meet, if it's not cropped up in conversation already I'll ask roughly where they're located."
That’s what I do I don’t ask for a location immediately |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
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"My profile says west Cornwall and states if you won't drive to Lands End for a coffee then you're wasting your time but guys still don't get where I am
There was a dude on here a few years back that had 27°59' N 86°56' E as his location "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?
It's not a problem I've experienced to be honest OP are you sure it's that that has put them off? Either way you can get an indication for how close they are from the thing in their profile that tells you how far away they are.
I usually use that as a guideline and if our conversation progresses to the point where we're likely to meet, if it's not cropped up in conversation already I'll ask roughly where they're located.
That’s what I do I don’t ask for a location immediately "
In that case I'm not sure what the problem is? If the distance away thing has given you a guideline that is an acceptable distance for you and they've already talked about meeting you and been agreeable to doing so - perhaps rather than asking their location ask for suggestions where they'd like to meet which enables them to pick somewhere safe for them? |
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over a year ago
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Surely you can manage to hold out long enough to see if there is sufficient spark on both sides to discuss meeting, which will then lead to discussing a venue, and in turn locations.
Some people like to really get to know someone before considering a meet. If they are worth meeting, you'll travel.
Maybe if you lead in early with a location, it seems pushy? |
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Nothing wrong with asking at all. You don't have to be precise with it. I say the area of Bristol I'm from because it's a city and I live 8 miles from the centre which can take an hour or more to get to. The other side of Bristol is even longer.
Not offended when people ask. Am annoyed when people don't live even slightly close to Bristol at all and my profile clearly says I can't accommodate. No I don't want to drive for three hours to sit on your face! Hahaha |
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We don’t mind people asking as it shows they are considering the logistics of a meet.
We don’t give much more than ‘ Just outside X’, but that’s enough to work with.
It’s amusing how a lot of people aren’t quite where they say they are. |
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"Nothing wrong with asking at all. You don't have to be precise with it. I say the area of Bristol I'm from because it's a city and I live 8 miles from the centre which can take an hour or more to get to. The other side of Bristol is even longer.
Not offended when people ask. Am annoyed when people don't live even slightly close to Bristol at all and my profile clearly says I can't accommodate. No I don't want to drive for three hours to sit on your face! Hahaha "
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"Nothing wrong with asking at all. You don't have to be precise with it. I say the area of Bristol I'm from because it's a city and I live 8 miles from the centre which can take an hour or more to get to. The other side of Bristol is even longer.
Not offended when people ask. Am annoyed when people don't live even slightly close to Bristol at all and my profile clearly says I can't accommodate. No I don't want to drive for three hours to sit on your face! Hahaha
*Fires up the Quattro "
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I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
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When they ask me that, I literally answer with where I'm from orginally |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
When they ask me that, I literally answer with where I'm from orginally "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
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I don't think it's weird at all - it's just a normal question that's part of the conversation flow and no different from the kind of conversation you'd have with a work colleague etc - if however someone is expecting pinpoint details then that's slightly different.
As with anything on here it all relates to how/why the question is asked |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
When they ask me that, I literally answer with where I'm from orginally "
I give two answers, where I’m from and where I currently live. |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don't think it's weird at all - it's just a normal question that's part of the conversation flow and no different from the kind of conversation you'd have with a work colleague etc - if however someone is expecting pinpoint details then that's slightly different.
As with anything on here it all relates to how/why the question is asked"
I personally do.
As I state quite clearly I travel.
There is no relevance to someone asking precisely where in a city I am from, especially when we haven’t even arranged to meet.
I find it strange. I’ve had stalkers from elsewhere, one who went as far as to egg my windows once, also, the single time you tell someone the precise town you can expect they’ve “seen you before”, so I’m incredibly wary of anyone asking for my precise location when I state I don’t accommodate. |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
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I don’t think that’s weird. I state south east London and it’s a big place. I would want to know where about in that area if I was asking the question. |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don’t think that’s weird. I state south east London and it’s a big place. I would want to know where about in that area if I was asking the question. "
Birmingham is a big place too, but I still don’t think I need to go into details.
I’ve answered some people and stated whether I’m in South/North etc and they still want specifics. A message usually follows with “Yes but what town” or similar.
If I’m the one travelling, I feel I don’t need to go into details. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don't think it's weird at all - it's just a normal question that's part of the conversation flow and no different from the kind of conversation you'd have with a work colleague etc - if however someone is expecting pinpoint details then that's slightly different.
As with anything on here it all relates to how/why the question is asked
I personally do.
As I state quite clearly I travel.
There is no relevance to someone asking precisely where in a city I am from, especially when we haven’t even arranged to meet.
I find it strange. I’ve had stalkers from elsewhere, one who went as far as to egg my windows once, also, the single time you tell someone the precise town you can expect they’ve “seen you before”, so I’m incredibly wary of anyone asking for my precise location when I state I don’t accommodate. "
There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more |
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"We don’t mind people asking as it shows they are considering the logistics of a meet.
We don’t give much more than ‘ Just outside X’, but that’s enough to work with.
It’s amusing how a lot of people aren’t quite where they say they are. "
Totally go with this answer. I don't know what the population of Cheltenham is, but I'm gonna be pretty hard to spot, even with my face on here. What's the problem with being FAIRLY close to where you say you are? Had someone say Wellington (nr Telford) turned out to be halfway between Shrewsbury and Welshpool. A mere 25/30 miles away. |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don't think it's weird at all - it's just a normal question that's part of the conversation flow and no different from the kind of conversation you'd have with a work colleague etc - if however someone is expecting pinpoint details then that's slightly different.
As with anything on here it all relates to how/why the question is asked
I personally do.
As I state quite clearly I travel.
There is no relevance to someone asking precisely where in a city I am from, especially when we haven’t even arranged to meet.
I find it strange. I’ve had stalkers from elsewhere, one who went as far as to egg my windows once, also, the single time you tell someone the precise town you can expect they’ve “seen you before”, so I’m incredibly wary of anyone asking for my precise location when I state I don’t accommodate.
There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more"
But if it’s already on the profile, I don’t get the reason for asking, especially if it’s from someone I’m not even meeting.
Where I’m from is on my profile, so if someone asked me in a message I’d let them know politely it’s on my profile.
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don’t think that’s weird. I state south east London and it’s a big place. I would want to know where about in that area if I was asking the question.
Birmingham is a big place too, but I still don’t think I need to go into details.
I’ve answered some people and stated whether I’m in South/North etc and they still want specifics. A message usually follows with “Yes but what town” or similar.
If I’m the one travelling, I feel I don’t need to go into details. "
I lived in central Birmingham and Stourbridge, I don’t see that as being over personal. I get to know people for ages and asking where they live is part of getting to know someone. In fact, it’s usually the first question. Never had any problems apart from one guy that wasn’t open to telling. Hence, turns out he was married. I much prefer the open ones. Guy I’m seeing is 2 stops from me and pretty much told me straight away. It did say a mile from me so I was definitely going to ask exactly where. |
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don’t think that’s weird. I state south east London and it’s a big place. I would want to know where about in that area if I was asking the question.
Birmingham is a big place too, but I still don’t think I need to go into details.
I’ve answered some people and stated whether I’m in South/North etc and they still want specifics. A message usually follows with “Yes but what town” or similar.
If I’m the one travelling, I feel I don’t need to go into details.
I lived in central Birmingham and Stourbridge, I don’t see that as being over personal. I get to know people for ages and asking where they live is part of getting to know someone. In fact, it’s usually the first question. Never had any problems apart from one guy that wasn’t open to telling. Hence, turns out he was married. I much prefer the open ones. Guy I’m seeing is 2 stops from me and pretty much told me straight away. It did say a mile from me so I was definitely going to ask exactly where. "
If it’s not someone I’ve even considered meeting and they’re asking me in their first or second message, I do find it too personal for me.
I travel so my precise location isn’t relevant really, unless I’m accommodating (which I am not).
If I meet someone, they will know what town I live in, more so they know how long it takes me to get to them. I myself will not ask for someone’s precise location either, I’ll wait until they tell me, or when it comes to meeting and we are both 100% sure it’s happening, I’ll ask (if they haven’t already said) so I can check distance etc.
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"I find it weird when people ask “where about are you from”.
My location is on my profile & I state I will travel so there isn’t any need in my opinion to know more than the location listed on my profile.
I don’t think that’s weird. I state south east London and it’s a big place. I would want to know where about in that area if I was asking the question.
Birmingham is a big place too, but I still don’t think I need to go into details.
I’ve answered some people and stated whether I’m in South/North etc and they still want specifics. A message usually follows with “Yes but what town” or similar.
If I’m the one travelling, I feel I don’t need to go into details.
I lived in central Birmingham and Stourbridge, I don’t see that as being over personal. I get to know people for ages and asking where they live is part of getting to know someone. In fact, it’s usually the first question. Never had any problems apart from one guy that wasn’t open to telling. Hence, turns out he was married. I much prefer the open ones. Guy I’m seeing is 2 stops from me and pretty much told me straight away. It did say a mile from me so I was definitely going to ask exactly where.
If it’s not someone I’ve even considered meeting and they’re asking me in their first or second message, I do find it too personal for me.
I travel so my precise location isn’t relevant really, unless I’m accommodating (which I am not).
If I meet someone, they will know what town I live in, more so they know how long it takes me to get to them. I myself will not ask for someone’s precise location either, I’ll wait until they tell me, or when it comes to meeting and we are both 100% sure it’s happening, I’ll ask (if they haven’t already said) so I can check distance etc.
We are all different of course! "
I guess I don’t meet just for sex and only meet people I make a friendship with first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile says west Cornwall and states if you won't drive to Lands End for a coffee then you're wasting your time but guys still don't get where I am
There was a dude on here a few years back that had 27°59' N 86°56' E as his location "
Yes! His profile name escapes me. He was at the Cupids forum social we were at. Nice guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it with this site that no matter how long you talk to someone as soon as you ask for their location the conversation goes dead?"
Might just be a coincidence. Maybe they already decided not to meet but they don't like to say.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more
But if it’s already on the profile, I don’t get the reason for asking, especially if it’s from someone I’m not even meeting.
Where I’m from is on my profile, so if someone asked me in a message I’d let them know politely it’s on my profile.
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They ask because (a) Birmingham covers a huge area so are probably trying to narrow it down a little to give them common points to talk about - for instance if I were to message you I'd be interested to know if you were in a rough area of Birmingham that I know something about so I could say "Oh I used to go to such and such a place there" which then sparks further conversation and (b) because as has already been shown on this thread some people give a location some distance from where they really are - so you can't always go by the location shown.
It's a perfectly normal question if just asking for a vague location to work from and nothing weird about it in that context. |
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There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more
But if it’s already on the profile, I don’t get the reason for asking, especially if it’s from someone I’m not even meeting.
Where I’m from is on my profile, so if someone asked me in a message I’d let them know politely it’s on my profile.
They ask because (a) Birmingham covers a huge area so are probably trying to narrow it down a little to give them common points to talk about - for instance if I were to message you I'd be interested to know if you were in a rough area of Birmingham that I know something about so I could say "Oh I used to go to such and such a place there" which then sparks further conversation and (b) because as has already been shown on this thread some people give a location some distance from where they really are - so you can't always go by the location shown.
It's a perfectly normal question if just asking for a vague location to work from and nothing weird about it in that context."
It might be a normal question for you, and that’s fine.
For me it isn’t, I’ve had stalkers so I won’t elaborate on my location unless I’m meeting that person.
Plenty of other things I can talk about when it comes to conversation! |
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By * Willis OP Man
over a year ago
London/Essex/Kent |
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There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more
But if it’s already on the profile, I don’t get the reason for asking, especially if it’s from someone I’m not even meeting.
Where I’m from is on my profile, so if someone asked me in a message I’d let them know politely it’s on my profile.
They ask because (a) Birmingham covers a huge area so are probably trying to narrow it down a little to give them common points to talk about - for instance if I were to message you I'd be interested to know if you were in a rough area of Birmingham that I know something about so I could say "Oh I used to go to such and such a place there" which then sparks further conversation and (b) because as has already been shown on this thread some people give a location some distance from where they really are - so you can't always go by the location shown.
It's a perfectly normal question if just asking for a vague location to work from and nothing weird about it in that context.
It might be a normal question for you, and that’s fine.
For me it isn’t, I’ve had stalkers so I won’t elaborate on my location unless I’m meeting that person.
Plenty of other things I can talk about when it comes to conversation! "
This was made in reference to when they’ve said let’s meet |
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"Nothing wrong with asking at all. You don't have to be precise with it. I say the area of Bristol I'm from because it's a city and I live 8 miles from the centre which can take an hour or more to get to. The other side of Bristol is even longer.
Not offended when people ask. Am annoyed when people don't live even slightly close to Bristol at all and my profile clearly says I can't accommodate. No I don't want to drive for three hours to sit on your face! Hahaha
*Fires up the Quattro
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Stick the kettle on then, I'm just round the corner |
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There's a huge amount of difference between asking your precise location and simply where you're from though - the former you're right to be wary of - the latter is simple conversation and can be answered with a vague area and is also not weird at all - it's the kind of question that is all part of keeping the conversation flowing nothing more
But if it’s already on the profile, I don’t get the reason for asking, especially if it’s from someone I’m not even meeting.
Where I’m from is on my profile, so if someone asked me in a message I’d let them know politely it’s on my profile.
They ask because (a) Birmingham covers a huge area so are probably trying to narrow it down a little to give them common points to talk about - for instance if I were to message you I'd be interested to know if you were in a rough area of Birmingham that I know something about so I could say "Oh I used to go to such and such a place there" which then sparks further conversation and (b) because as has already been shown on this thread some people give a location some distance from where they really are - so you can't always go by the location shown.
It's a perfectly normal question if just asking for a vague location to work from and nothing weird about it in that context.
It might be a normal question for you, and that’s fine.
For me it isn’t, I’ve had stalkers so I won’t elaborate on my location unless I’m meeting that person.
Plenty of other things I can talk about when it comes to conversation!
This was made in reference to when they’ve said let’s meet "
Ah!
Likely time wasters then. |
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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago
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The op could state hos location on his profile - people could feel more comfortable if they were sharing reciprocally. Alternatively, as he's been having issues, he could outline where he likes or is open to meeting, of he's not meeting in the vicinity of his home.
There's a time and place for most things and it may be that op you could possibly get the context better, so others are more confident about you or wanting to possibly meet you. |
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