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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
No one knows about me on here. But I bet those saying that would consider looking on here. There’s a persona that people believe swinging brings. Those keys in bowls etc |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
No because i wouldnt talk about it with anybody that wasnt a swinger |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
just out of curiosity how did this topic come about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
That no good has become of it?
Nah, all good for me  |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this?
No one knows about me on here. But I bet those saying that would consider looking on here. There’s a persona that people believe swinging brings. Those keys in bowls etc"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this?
No one knows about me on here. But I bet those saying that would consider looking on here. There’s a persona that people believe swinging brings. Those keys in bowls etc"
Exactly. It's way broader than that. The site needs a name change me thinks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? just out of curiosity how did this topic come about "
Talking about Facebook and apps. |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? just out of curiosity how did this topic come about
Talking about Facebook and apps. "
then you casually dropped fab into the conversation maybe the company you were out with tonight are just boring old farts  |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
Lol! It was a friend in the pub who told me I should get off Tinder and get on here, cos this was more what I was looking for. He was right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friends, who are all on Tinder, call this my 'dirty wee site'! But they're all meeting far more people than I am for the same thing! I just get to do better, more straightforward vetting I think. And don't have to pretend I want a boyfriend. |
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We're still a society that's got a religious bent, with sex being for within marriage, whilst we grow up expecting a Disney romance. Monogamy and long term partners is assumed as correct and 'normal', with deviants being the rest of us, who are probably devil worshipping too.
I'd speak individually with some people selectively but I generally just share experience/safety type stuff with close friends. I don't think you could easily educate people in a really brief chat - in part because fab and swinging, the peoples' within them needs - are really broad and complex.
I generally just let others know, if important, that I have an interesting and satisfying life, without sharing any other information at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friends, who are all on Tinder, call this my 'dirty wee site'! But they're all meeting far more people than I am for the same thing! I just get to do better, more straightforward vetting I think. And don't have to pretend I want a boyfriend."
Dont let them fool you, Tinder is just a sex contact app, disguised as a dating app. A lot of my mates are on it too and I know for a fact they're only on it for one thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure that a single bloke looking to meet women is swinging even if a swinhing site is used to facilitate it.
So the real question is why do they think you are swinging and why do you have friends that are so judgemental about what is in effect NSA sex?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good job this isn’t a swinging site then it’s just a sex site where the fantasist has a field day talking about his Walt Disney wife and the singletons come to find lurvvvveeeeee. Apart from that bit of cake eating a few happy birthdays, the occasional tits out on a Tuesday. Apart from that and a few cum shots not much to see and get to a club or manor party run by hyacinth and chuck your keys in the keys in the bowl and hope for the best x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
lol think about it again, my thought is if you like something do it and if you don't then don't but people have different opinions on everything and especially here, that question can only be generally answered one way here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
This totally happened and not you using your own opinion under the guise of someone else’s. |
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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago
Land of the giants... ;-) |
"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
Tell them to go Fuck themselves... whilst you're have a great time fucking others..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this?
This totally happened and not you using your own opinion under the guise of someone else’s."
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
Yes I have. And yet she is a prostitute and now a crack head. But I’m the sleazy one for being here. An old friend. Not anymore. Many males also talk down about females being here too. I’ve met some lovely people here. And have found they are more safe than people in the vanilla world. I talk a lot. An too many people. This has been my experiences lol  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Nobody knows we are on here but occasionally the subject of swinging will crop up at work or with friends. The general consensus is that it is dirty, depraved, those who do it are immoral etc etc.
It is so hard to keep quiet and not jump to the defence for fear of giving ourselves away. The irony is that if you have been to Newcastle (or any other major town) on a Saturday night there is far worse going on but this is laughter off and ignored.
We are all going to hell apparently, but at least we will have fun on the way there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy twisting conversations like that..
I'm immoral am I? What job is it you do? Theres usually a chink in the armour.. a place you can unravel and start dissecting their selective moral compass.
All whilst defending my own view of what I do.
Usually ends up with them asking more sexual and technical questions "What's the name of that site again?". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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May mate in work told me earlier this week that a girl in work had seen me on a dating site. As he's a friend I explained what the site was and he just laughed and said I hope you're enjoying yourself. I think he was jealous to be honest as he's "happily" married lol |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
What I have experienced is after telling a friend of over 10 years that I swing and have a FWB, seems to be ignoring me since that conversation. Even though she has brought home strangers from a vanilla club whilst her children were upstairs. How is that better?
I think the media has a lot to answer for society’s perception on swinging.
J |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
Wales |
No.
I’ve only encountered judgemental people on here.
You don’t accommodate? Must be cheating?
You have so many pics - must be a narcissist
You don’t sleep with everyone who asks? - you’re not a swinger!
I don’t get that shite down the local pub. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve spoken to a couple of my friends about some experiences I’ve had from here, and these two closest friends know I’m on here in particular, and their approach is ‘if you’re happy, I’m happy’. I don’t believe in monogamous committed relationships, and the idea of settling down to get married bores and frightens me in equal measure aha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
That's the mainstream view.
There are elements that are, indeed sleazy, but it's also possible to remain classy, it's all a choice.
I wouldnt choose to disclose swinging to random people in the pub though! |
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We have had friends who have checked this site out and consider it no more different then the likes of tinder with NSA fun being the objective! Swinging is really an activity for couples and the broad spectrum on here does raise some concerns. A transgender friend of ours did not like TS being grounded with TV’s as gender and sexual preferences are very different. |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"We have had friends who have checked this site out and consider it no more different then the likes of tinder with NSA fun being the objective! Swinging is really an activity for couples and the broad spectrum on here does raise some concerns. A transgender friend of ours did not like TS being grounded with TV’s as gender and sexual preferences are very different. "
Is it fab cliche day?
Swinging is not really an activity for couples. It's for any who wish to participate irrespective of age gender marital status etc...
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Those that know about us on here have never looked down at us. Some have been inquisitive, some haven’t even commented. Having said that we don’t announce it under normal (vanilla) friendship circles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have caught a friend and a relative watch swinging and some hardcore bdsm porn. But if you look at their persona outside, they act like the protectors of morality in the realm. Most people have some kind of fetish which they hide. They want to protect the image of themselves they have built over the years. I bet you, at least half of the people who looked down upon you would have gone back home and checked what it's all about. |
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
I think that is the general thought for most people until joining. |
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"We have had friends who have checked this site out and consider it no more different then the likes of tinder with NSA fun being the objective! Swinging is really an activity for couples and the broad spectrum on here does raise some concerns. A transgender friend of ours did not like TS being grounded with TV’s as gender and sexual preferences are very different.
I suggest you check the history of swinging!
Is it fab cliche day?
Swinging is not really an activity for couples. It's for any who wish to participate irrespective of age gender marital status etc...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
Not really, my friends think it’s funny or they are curious about my adventures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? No because i wouldnt talk about it with anybody that wasnt a swinger"
Exactly x |
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By *ay SableMan
over a year ago
Northampton/Birmingham |
"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this?
No one knows about me on here. But I bet those saying that would consider looking on here. There’s a persona that people believe swinging brings. Those keys in bowls etc
Exactly. It's way broader than that. The site needs a name change me thinks"
Interesting. I wonder what the new name would be. |
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A lad at work once mentioned Townhouse as he lives on the Wirral. Said it was a grotty little sex club, at that point I knew he hadn't been in it's quite a nice clean place. I decided I wouldn't admit to being in there once |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"When in the pub tonight I felt looked down upon after telling people that I chat on a swinging site.
I was told it is sleazy, immoral and basically that no good would become of it.
Has anyone else experienced this? "
No, because I don't tell anyone.
It's my personal business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging is perverted, dirty, unhealthy, immoral, against all that is holy.
Fucking random pissed strangers every weekend after the pubs kick out is wholesome, heart warming, good for families. |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
I unwisely told a friend about some stuff I'd done & he gabbed to everyone he could. They were probably as shocked at the act as they were that it was their reserved good boy pal. One of the more open minded asked me about it with a slight air of 'what the fuck though' & I later found out another is super submissive/into really rough stuff, so I'm sure it's hiding in everyone.
I didn't mention fab though, so they thought it was through feeld or whiplr. Not sure they could handle finding out just yet. |
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