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Debunking sexual/porn-based myths
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This thread was triggered by the preferences thread, some of the kink shaming that has been going in recently, and the two threads about what topics we’d like to see discussed in the forum.
Additionally another forum user and I thought a thoughtful, respectful, educational approach to debunking some of the sexual or porn-based myths, that are detrimental to celebrating and truly enjoying the wonder and diversity of human sexuality, might be good.
What sexual myths would you like to see debunked in this way? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Marc almond swallowed so much sperm he fainted and had to have his stomach pumped lol"
That is an interesting one. But the myths about cum, effects of swallowing it and our responses to cum would be an interesting theme. It would need better framing than that as a question, but given the vehemence if some of the responses to the self-shooting thread this week a sperm related inquiry would be good  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All women squirt 
I don't understand the obsession with this.
Iv had umpteen first messages that start with "do you squirt" "I will make you squirt". "
That’s why we thought a thread endeavouring to take an educational approach to the topic might be good. |
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"Marc almond swallowed so much sperm he fainted and had to have his stomach pumped lol
Haha I remember that one  "
it of course was rubbish you must of heard the Richard gere one about putting a hamster up his bum then that was about the same time lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Marc almond swallowed so much sperm he fainted and had to have his stomach pumped lol
Haha I remember that one it of course was rubbish you must of heard the Richard gere one about putting a hamster up his bum then that was about the same time lol "
Yep! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That anal sex requires no preparation, just stick it in there. "
Yep that one made my eyes water just thinking about it - Anal play best practice sounds a good one. |
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If someone does squirt it isn't necessarily messy e.g if I do its a small amount and is considerably less than how much a man ejaculates. And if the traces of urine is the basis of disgust. Last time I checked, males pee and cum come out the same tube, so it will inherently contain traces of urine too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone does squirt it isn't necessarily messy e.g if I do its a small amount and is considerably less than how much a man ejaculates. And if the traces of urine is the basis of disgust. Last time I checked, males pee and cum come out the same tube, so it will inherently contain traces of urine too. "
What a shocking discovery
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Marc almond swallowed so much sperm he fainted and had to have his stomach pumped lol
Haha I remember that one it of course was rubbish you must of heard the Richard gere one about putting a hamster up his bum then that was about the same time lol "
Ah it went up like a rat up his drainpipe |
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Nobody should be ashamed of bugger all, as long as it's between two consenting adults. When did it become so hard to understand a simple thing? Considering a proportion of people on this site don't admit they are swingers to work colleagues etc I find it pretty baffling |
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Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Nobody should be ashamed of bugger all, as long as it's between two consenting adults. When did it become so hard to understand a simple thing? Considering a proportion of people on this site don't admit they are swingers to work colleagues etc I find it pretty baffling"
Yes! That's exactly the point I was making the other day about hypocritical judgement among the community (not everyone!)
Would love be be accepted and not seen as a souless monstrous sexual deviant, but quite happy to point out and make judgement on what others enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men."
That pretty much sums it all up.
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men.
That pretty much sums it all up.
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Cock size is directly related to race? |
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men.
That pretty much sums it all up.
Cock size is directly related to race?"
Good one! |
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men.
That pretty much sums it all up.
Cock size is directly related to race?
Good one!"
Uncircumcised means unclean |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That I'm not "fully" bisexual because I don't bottom I'm a top. I know what I enjoy when it comes to men. Fed up of couples saying I'm not bisexual because I won't let their husband fuck my arse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums. "
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"That I'm not "fully" bisexual because I don't bottom I'm a top. I know what I enjoy when it comes to men. Fed up of couples saying I'm not bisexual because I won't let their husband fuck my arse. "
That reminds me of another myth!
All gay men like anal sex. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums. "
Haha I like pain and submission as well as DDlg. To many on here I'm a total fuck up with Daddy issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That I'm not "fully" bisexual because I don't bottom I'm a top. I know what I enjoy when it comes to men. Fed up of couples saying I'm not bisexual because I won't let their husband fuck my arse.
That reminds me of another myth!
All gay men like anal sex."
Which is stupid . It's simple. Top, versatile, bottom. And then some people believe all bottoms are subs. But you got power bottoms which are dominant bottoms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Haha I like pain and submission as well as DDlg. To many on here I'm a total fuck up with Daddy issues."
Absolutely. Iv had the same thrown at me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men."
This is a great list |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bigger cocks are better
This is I suspect the root cause of a lot of men worrying about the size if their chopper
Could also be said it's the reason a lot if guys with big cocks automatically assume they are superior lovers the less well endowed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bigger cocks are better
This is I suspect the root cause of a lot of men worrying about the size if their chopper
Could also be said it's the reason a lot if guys with big cocks automatically assume they are superior lovers the less well endowed "
And the assumption that all women love a big cock. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That I'm not "fully" bisexual because I don't bottom I'm a top. I know what I enjoy when it comes to men. Fed up of couples saying I'm not bisexual because I won't let their husband fuck my arse. "
Good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bigger cocks are better
This is I suspect the root cause of a lot of men worrying about the size if their chopper
Could also be said it's the reason a lot if guys with big cocks automatically assume they are superior lovers the less well endowed
And the assumption that all women love a big cock. "
And also why a lot of men lie about their size. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess mine are more about prejudice than myth:
That swingers somehow look different so you can’t be seen together in public.
That swingers are incapable of having normal social chats or telephone conversations.
That people EITHER attend clubs and constantly indulge in massive orgies OR have just sensual 121 meets.
Hoping someone will come along soon to run through all the ‘black men’ myths.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All women squirt
I don't understand the obsession with this.
Iv had umpteen first messages that start with "do you squirt" "I will make you squirt". "
Maybe you’ve never been squeezed hard enough?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having kids doesn't make you have a wizard sleeve (hate that term) nor does not having kids mean you have a tight vagina. Never understood how anybody measured this tbh "
I think both of your posts are important areas to deal with |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nobody should be ashamed of bugger all, as long as it's between two consenting adults. When did it become so hard to understand a simple thing? Considering a proportion of people on this site don't admit they are swingers to work colleagues etc I find it pretty baffling
Yes! That's exactly the point I was making the other day about hypocritical judgement among the community (not everyone!)
Would love be be accepted and not seen as a souless monstrous sexual deviant, but quite happy to point out and make judgement on what others enjoy. "
Tolerance and acceptance are prerequisites for us being able to celebrate the diversity of what we enjoy sexually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That dominants are control freaks that control every aspect of your life amount of girls who say they dont want to date me because they dont want some to control their lives when they find out I'm a dominant. I'm only dominating in the bed room . And I mainly just use restraints and paddles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums. "
Yep I’ve seen them too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Right I’m in danger of trying to respond to all the responses in this thread and I don’t want to end up being banned before we start debunking. I really appreciate all the contributions so far. Please keep it going.
I’ll collate and sort these into some themes when I have time. However there’s already a great source of ideas for some respectful mutual inquiry into them. If you feel moved to start a thread fill your boots ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too "
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I guess mine are more about prejudice than myth:
That swingers somehow look different so you can’t be seen together in public.
That swingers are incapable of having normal social chats or telephone conversations.
That people EITHER attend clubs and constantly indulge in massive orgies OR have just sensual 121 meets.
Hoping someone will come along soon to run through all the ‘black men’ myths.."
I think the myths and prejudices are both born out of ignorance, fear and poor sexual education |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception."
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess mine are more about prejudice than myth:
That swingers somehow look different so you can’t be seen together in public.
That swingers are incapable of having normal social chats or telephone conversations.
That people EITHER attend clubs and constantly indulge in massive orgies OR have just sensual 121 meets.
Hoping someone will come along soon to run through all the ‘black men’ myths..
I think the myths and prejudices are both born out of ignorance, fear and poor sexual education "
Plus the fetishisation (not sure sure that's how you spell it) of black males. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it. "
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I guess mine are more about prejudice than myth:
That swingers somehow look different so you can’t be seen together in public.
That swingers are incapable of having normal social chats or telephone conversations.
That people EITHER attend clubs and constantly indulge in massive orgies OR have just sensual 121 meets.
Hoping someone will come along soon to run through all the ‘black men’ myths..
I think the myths and prejudices are both born out of ignorance, fear and poor sexual education "
Most people fear what they don't understand. And most of them stop that fear from allowing them to educate themselves on it. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial."
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition. "
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition. "
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help? |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all."
We come across that a lot. We don't bother after initially trying to have a discussion. There are certain things about the way we play that some people refuse to try and understand so entrenched are their opinions. You can't teach someone who's unwilling to learn. One of the greatest assets to good sex is an open mind one of the biggest myths in swinging is that all swingers are open minded |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all."
Yep uncovering the assumptions that underpin our positions would be needed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Women don't actually have orgasms. Porn needs to stop promoting that myth! "
Thankfully that isn’t a myth however their are plenty about how to achieve them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't actually have orgasms. Porn needs to stop promoting that myth!
Thankfully that isn’t a myth however their are plenty about how to achieve them"
You'll be telling me women enjoy sex next! Another myth promoted by porn! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all.
We come across that a lot. We don't bother after initially trying to have a discussion. There are certain things about the way we play that some people refuse to try and understand so entrenched are their opinions. You can't teach someone who's unwilling to learn. One of the greatest assets to good sex is an open mind one of the biggest myths in swinging is that all swingers are open minded "
The mind is like a parachute. It only works effectively if and when it opens. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?"
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Women don't actually have orgasms. Porn needs to stop promoting that myth!
Thankfully that isn’t a myth however their are plenty about how to achieve them
You'll be telling me women enjoy sex next! Another myth promoted by porn!"
Hmmm there’s a myth in there somewhere |
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men."
C'mon Lacey ... that's good for starters........ I'm sure there's more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Porn is entertainment. It's like watching action films and expecting to recreate the stunts. It shouldn't be used as a template for real sexual experiences.
A lot of guys seem to expect women to behave like porn stars and be ready for action at the drop of a hat. In reality it takes a lot of us some effort to get to that point. Whether that happens in our own heads before a meet or with a partner varies though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all.
We come across that a lot. We don't bother after initially trying to have a discussion. There are certain things about the way we play that some people refuse to try and understand so entrenched are their opinions. You can't teach someone who's unwilling to learn. One of the greatest assets to good sex is an open mind one of the biggest myths in swinging is that all swingers are open minded "
Unfortunately that’s far from the case. And, within the limits of sane and consensual, totally agree with you. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
It is but it's also hard to educate when people believe there is something wrong with you in the first place for liking what you like and therefore think you're not worth listening to at all.
We come across that a lot. We don't bother after initially trying to have a discussion. There are certain things about the way we play that some people refuse to try and understand so entrenched are their opinions. You can't teach someone who's unwilling to learn. One of the greatest assets to good sex is an open mind one of the biggest myths in swinging is that all swingers are open minded "
All very true! |
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over a year ago
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"Porn should stop showing that all men mave small cocks. But maybe that's just from my perspective. Ha! How the FUCK do you manage to reach the keyboard ????"
I also use my willy to type with. |
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over a year ago
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"The myth I would like debunked WITH PROOF and male contribution is ...........
Men will fuck anything.
Any hole is a goal.
Cos ...... y know i'm gonna take some convincing."
I'm not shallow. I require that a lady is intelligent, witty, fun. There has to be chemistry. Oh and she must have an awesome rack. |
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"The myth I would like debunked WITH PROOF and male contribution is ...........
Men will fuck anything.
Any hole is a goal.
Cos ...... y know i'm gonna take some convincing.
I'm not shallow. I require that a lady is intelligent, witty, fun. There has to be chemistry. Oh and she must have an awesome rack. "
What if there are spaniels ears on the rack ? |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing. "
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience. |
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over a year ago
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"The myth I would like debunked WITH PROOF and male contribution is ...........
Men will fuck anything.
Any hole is a goal.
Cos ...... y know i'm gonna take some convincing.
I'm not shallow. I require that a lady is intelligent, witty, fun. There has to be chemistry. Oh and she must have an awesome rack.
What if there are spaniels ears on the rack ?"
I'll be honest. I only made that last comment with humourous intent. I don't care if a lady is petite upstairs or busty. I'm not shallow in that way. As long as she has a great ass. |
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over a year ago
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"The myth I would like debunked WITH PROOF and male contribution is ...........
Men will fuck anything.
Any hole is a goal.
Cos ...... y know i'm gonna take some convincing."
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience. "
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential |
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over a year ago
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Porn will have you believe that black men are rarely submissive I’d say myth
That anal doesn’t get messy, BIG MYTH it can get very messy.
That girls are more submissive than men. Well not on here so MYTH
There’s loads |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience.
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential "
If it's a thread asking for opinions either way that's one thing but if you started a thread looking for other people who also didn't like kissing to for example, discuss other ways you build intimacy, I personally think that those who do enjoy kissing shouldn't fill your post with comments about why not enjoying kissing is weird and wrong. Crazy idea eh! |
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over a year ago
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience.
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential "
I don’t think that should prevent us from having a bloody good go at seeing if we can be successful. |
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The mith that if you are submissive to your partner and enjoy BDSM and would call yourself a sub or slave or pup or girl that you are submissive to every man that walk in your life. That you would just drop to your knees and start sucking.
Most women that are subs are subs for their partners only and there is alot of trust that goes into building that relationship. |
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over a year ago
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience.
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential
If it's a thread asking for opinions either way that's one thing but if you started a thread looking for other people who also didn't like kissing to for example, discuss other ways you build intimacy, I personally think that those who do enjoy kissing shouldn't fill your post with comments about why not enjoying kissing is weird and wrong. Crazy idea eh!"
I think we’ll need to be careful in how we frame questions to give ourselves starting conditions that are most likely to be successful.
That reminds me I wonder how Clem’s list is going |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That lots of cock gives woman a fanny like a wizards sleeve. Usually used in a derogatory way by men who have been turned down."
That a ‘wizards sleeve’ makes any sense as a fanny comparison... |
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over a year ago
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"Here's a myth: All porn is visual. A lot of people like written or audio porn. It's been discussed here before but it's worth mentioning again. "
Mind you, porn star moaning like a Stuka siren isn't a sign great sex. |
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience.
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential
I don’t think that should prevent us from having a bloody good go at seeing if we can be successful."
I don't either. I will be interested to see how things pan out. The often denied dynamics at play in the forum will no doubt reveal themselves. |
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over a year ago
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men."
I would have to take issue with 4 of those that are at least debatable |
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over a year ago
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"If a woman is into pain,submition or humiliation then something bad must have happened to her or she has mental health issues. Iv seen comments along those lines many times on the forums.
Yep I’ve seen them too
Or has self-esteem problems. That’s a common misconception.
Because only "damaged" women could possibly enjoy this. I do understand its difficult to get your head round if you don't understand it.
I think that’s why an educational approach to the topics might be beneficial.
I often say that it's better to educate than patronise. It won't happen all the time people see fab as a competition.
That’s why I think the approach we take on each of the topics needs to be conducive to educating and learning, perhaps with some ground rules and closer moderation to help?
I think someone who starts a thread can certainly ask for ground rules to be followed however speaking only on my own behalf I wouldn't want to see any part of the fora subject to different rules or greater moderation than another.
Often a thread follows the tone of the first couple of responses and hopefully they would be in the spirit of educating, discussion and informing.
I tried that once. I asked to hear from those who enjoyed something and not comments about why people don't. What I got was 101 comments from people who didn't enjoy it and angry comments that it's an open forum and I can't police who can comment. Which is fair but when your post just gets filled up with dozens of comments from people just saying they don't like the thing you're trying to discuss, it drowns out the voices of anyone who does and also puts others who do off commenting when there is that much negativity. Also any sensible person is already aware that not everyone is into something and if it's something niche, a lot won't.
It was a long time before I started a forum post again after that experience.
I understand what you're saying I feel the same when I'm the lone voice saying I don't like kissing among 174 who say it's absolutely essential
I don’t think that should prevent us from having a bloody good go at seeing if we can be successful.
I don't either. I will be interested to see how things pan out. The often denied dynamics at play in the forum will no doubt reveal themselves. "
Dealing with them will be interesting too. |
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over a year ago
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"All older women want to fuck younger guys... doesn’t matter what they look like either as long as they are young "
Sounds like somebody's in denial. lol |
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"All older women want to fuck younger guys... doesn’t matter what they look like either as long as they are young
Sounds like somebody's in denial. lol"
Haha see I rest my case |
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"All older women want to fuck younger guys... doesn’t matter what they look like either as long as they are young
Sounds like somebody's in denial. lol
Haha see I rest my case "
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Not sure if this is the place for this comment, but would like to see the removal of the vomit emoji. It makes it too easy for people to lay into someone without proper thought about their feelings. It doesn't contribute anything to the discussion just hatred |
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over a year ago
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All women automatically want to fuck and suck huge cocks. They don't worry about taking on something so big.
In my experience, many ladies are worried when they unveil a huge willy. |
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"Oh god I could think of loads!
Giving a blowjob is all the foreplay women need.
Most women can orgasm just from Jack hammer penetration.
Massive cocks are better.
Sex is over when the man cums.
Male submissives always like humiliation.
BDSM always has to be painful.
Kinky people always wear leather.
Clit rubbing like you're trying to start a fire is commonly enjoyed.
Anal sex is just as easy as vaginal sex.
Young, submissive women are always into older men.
I would have to take issue with 4 of those that are at least debatable "
Which 4? |
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"Not sure if this is the place for this comment, but would like to see the removal of the vomit emoji. It makes it too easy for people to lay into someone without proper thought about their feelings. It doesn't contribute anything to the discussion just hatred "
It is a really good point and I’d agree with you having seen how it has been used recently. Site feedback would be the best place to put the comment if you would like to see action taken. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread) "
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time. "
Haha you are aware you are three years shy of 40? |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time.
Haha you are aware you are three years shy of 40? "
Pffttt a trifling detail. More desperate deflection on your part! |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread) "
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time. "
This is a thread about sexual myths.  |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time.
This is a thread about sexual myths. "
More deflection! |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet."
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time.
This is a thread about sexual myths.
More deflection! "
Just think he is enjoying the attention |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
Don't listen to her. She's deflecting as she's secretly craving those younger men all the time.
This is a thread about sexual myths.
More deflection!
Just think he is enjoying the attention "
(It's the only attention I ever get from the ladies. But don't tell anybody. Shhh!) |
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over a year ago
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that. "
I think it all depends on the priority people place on penetrative sex. I think it’s another good theme though |
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over a year ago
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that. "
Yeh I get overlooked |
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"Not sure if this is the place for this comment, but would like to see the removal of the vomit emoji. It makes it too easy for people to lay into someone without proper thought about their feelings. It doesn't contribute anything to the discussion just hatred
It is a really good point and I’d agree with you having seen how it has been used recently. Site feedback would be the best place to put the comment if you would like to see action taken."
Thank you newbie and didn't know where best to post |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that.
I think it all depends on the priority people place on penetrative sex. I think it’s another good theme though "
Another good point, as someone who also sleeps with women I often find that a lot of heterosexual people are very penetration centric. I'm not denying that penetetration is a great deal of fun but it seems to be the whole of sex for many. For example many do not count people they have only had sexual activity with other than penetration as someone they have had sex with. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that.
I think it all depends on the priority people place on penetrative sex. I think it’s another good theme though
Another good point, as someone who also sleeps with women I often find that a lot of heterosexual people are very penetration centric. I'm not denying that penetetration is a great deal of fun but it seems to be the whole of sex for many. For example many do not count people they have only had sexual activity with other than penetration as someone they have had sex with."
There are quite a lot of women who don’t like oral sex and a smaller group who don’t like fingering- so I guess PVI is necessarily more important to them. |
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"Not sure if this is the place for this comment, but would like to see the removal of the vomit emoji. It makes it too easy for people to lay into someone without proper thought about their feelings. It doesn't contribute anything to the discussion just hatred
It is a really good point and I’d agree with you having seen how it has been used recently. Site feedback would be the best place to put the comment if you would like to see action taken.
Thank you newbie and didn't know where best to post "
Welcome to the forum I’m really enjoying reading the points you are making. I wouldn’t worry too much where you post stuff- if it’s important someone will point it out or if it’s a thread mods will move it. |
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that.
Yeh I get overlooked "
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that.
I think it all depends on the priority people place on penetrative sex. I think it’s another good theme though
Another good point, as someone who also sleeps with women I often find that a lot of heterosexual people are very penetration centric. I'm not denying that penetetration is a great deal of fun but it seems to be the whole of sex for many. For example many do not count people they have only had sexual activity with other than penetration as someone they have had sex with.
There are quite a lot of women who don’t like oral sex and a smaller group who don’t like fingering- so I guess PVI is necessarily more important to them."
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"From a woman’s perspective the assumption that older men have less stamina and erectile issues (as seen on a different thread)
I think the assumption of course is wrong but I think many play the probabilities to minimise the risks of disappointment. I understand this and I’m therefore unsurprised that it often guides decisions about who not to meet.
Understandable but surely meeting someone should be based on if there is attraction, chemistry or a connection of sorts...
But I guess we are all guilty of making assumptions based on past experiences... so perfectly good people can be overlooked based on that.
I think it all depends on the priority people place on penetrative sex. I think it’s another good theme though
Another good point, as someone who also sleeps with women I often find that a lot of heterosexual people are very penetration centric. I'm not denying that penetetration is a great deal of fun but it seems to be the whole of sex for many. For example many do not count people they have only had sexual activity with other than penetration as someone they have had sex with.
There are quite a lot of women who don’t like oral sex and a smaller group who don’t like fingering- so I guess PVI is necessarily more important to them.
When neither of you have a penis you have no choice but to be more inventive "
And I thought it was all just a matter of strapping a dildo on and banging each other’s brains out |
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance! "
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat |
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat "
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat
You talking about my dodgy snake oil Nora? "
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat "
Whichever man said that, he was doing the world a grand service! |
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"That a pussy has to be smooth
The bush is making a comeback "
Talking about bushes making a comeback I need to get the hedge trimmer out and cut back the bushes in the garden, |
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat
You talking about my dodgy snake oil Nora?
It works wonders doc "
That’s what I keep saying but no bugger believes me |
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat
Whichever man said that, he was doing the world a grand service! "
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"All women love cum. Everywhere. All the time. They'd drink it in smoothies if they had the chance!
But it is good for the skin and cures a sore throat
Whichever man said that, he was doing the world a grand service!
I’m damn sure it was a man who said it! "
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
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I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread |
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
XX
I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread "
I think that depends on why you're seeking sex. If it's intimacy that you're after then spiritual and mental engagement will be required if the experience of sex with a complete stranger is your most desired fantasy then those things won't be.
I think in discussing debunking sexual myths we need to be careful we don't build up myths or opinions that exclude just as much as the ones we're trying to tear down. I think the biggest myth is probably that there is a "right" way to have sex. (Within legal and consensual boundaries of course) |
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
XX
I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread
I think that depends on why you're seeking sex. If it's intimacy that you're after then spiritual and mental engagement will be required if the experience of sex with a complete stranger is your most desired fantasy then those things won't be.
I think in discussing debunking sexual myths we need to be careful we don't build up myths or opinions that exclude just as much as the ones we're trying to tear down. I think the biggest myth is probably that there is a "right" way to have sex. (Within legal and consensual boundaries of course)"
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
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I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread "
Don’t get me wrong I’m not just talking about the “love making” because that not what we are her for.
I also mean that deep primal urges that we all have that some try to turn off. That just the smell of them drives you mind mad with need.
When you just know your going to have them one way or another and the waiting, the build up to getting them at the right time. Then when you do it’s mind blowing,
I’ve got someone who when I see them the thoughts that go on in my head and the gods help him when I do get my hands on him 
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
XX
I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread
Don’t get me wrong I’m not just talking about the “love making” because that not what we are her for.
I also mean that deep primal urges that we all have that some try to turn off. That just the smell of them drives you mind mad with need.
When you just know your going to have them one way or another and the waiting, the build up to getting them at the right time. Then when you do it’s mind blowing,
I’ve got someone who when I see them the thoughts that go on in my head and the gods help him when I do get my hands on him
Molly
XX"
It must be brilliant to have someone that can stir those deep primal urges |
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"Not a myth as much.
But really good sex comes from the mind as well as the body so takes time. It’s not about mindless fucking.
Molly
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I agree at its best I think sex engages us spirutually, mentally and physically. I think it makes for another good theme. The topic has come up in various forms throughout this thread
Don’t get me wrong I’m not just talking about the “love making” because that not what we are her for.
I also mean that deep primal urges that we all have that some try to turn off. That just the smell of them drives you mind mad with need.
When you just know your going to have them one way or another and the waiting, the build up to getting them at the right time. Then when you do it’s mind blowing,
I’ve got someone who when I see them the thoughts that go on in my head and the gods help him when I do get my hands on him
Molly
XX
It must be brilliant to have someone that can stir those deep primal urges "
I can be very primal and listen instincts as much as I can as they don’t normally let me down.
I just need to look at Mike and I get very needful but there are a few couples we know who’s hubby’s I would be love to get out my urges out with 
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