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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I agreed to a last minute meet with two couples. Before I even got there one couple had bailed and had stopped responding to our messages. So we decide to have a bit of a night out, which went great apart from being shown pics of their kids every 10 mins and her calling her mum constantly.
When we eventually made it back to the hotel, he seemed to get offended by us (FF) playing and stormed out. When he came back the shouting, screaming and swearing started, while I just sat there butt naked wondering if I would be able to get a taxi home at this time. ( I really should have a left at this point!)
So everything calmed down and we were started playing together again. Now it was turn her turn to get offended/very jealous and storm out. Now she eventually came back there was more shouting, screaming and swearing. She went down to reception to get us kicked out of the hotel. By this point my clothes were back on and I was trying desperately to get a taxi home.
He decided it would be a great idea to lock her out of the room. So she was trying to kick the door down. When I eventually managed to get a taxi, I heard the manager telling the security to kick everyone out of the room.
This is why I'm taking a break from meeting couples. I can't be bothered with crazy jealous people, why arrange a meet if you're going to go mad when your partner starts playing with someone else.
Worst meet ever!! |
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Oh honey, that sounds like a horrendous night  I’m sorry that’s happened to you, it’s not a normal thing to happen?! It’s a shame it’s put you off couples as we would both love to have fun with you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for laughing OP but lol
This is what happens I guess when insecure couples involve others in their sex lives.
Although right now u may think otherwise, I’m sure eventually u will see the funny side. Plus it’s a great story to tell when u are out meeting people in the lifestyle
We had a meet so shocking I wouldn’t want to post about it but looking back we sometimes mention it to each other and burst out laughing
This crazy lifestyle eh ?? |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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This happened to a friend of mine at a club. It seemed like it was the couples thing to get furiously jealous of each other during playtime. In the end he just left them arguing and went to play in another room  |
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For couples I think the dynamic can be really hard to understand for singles meeting them. I almost always have a social meet first when meeting couples, see how "together" they are, how they bounce off one other, how they interact, its not fool proof and I have had a fair share of unpleasant encounters.....but in the main it helps
I'm just glad you got out safely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow!! Glad you got out safe. Clearly they have issues and shouldnt be inviting people to play if they are feeling jealous,ect. Some couples are crazy.. we have witnessed that. Very pleased to say were not like it ourselves  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was just so confused. I had done my homework before hand, checked out their profile and all their verifications. Everything looked fine. They were telling me that they have been swinging for years and how much they love the lifestyle. Then it all went wrong as soon as we started playing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Was the woman intimidated perhaps by u ? And it caused self doubt and that set it off ?
Either way it’s not a reflection on u, it’s their issues "
I'm not sure. She said I looked pretty than she expected from my pics. I thought it was just a compliment. Maybe not ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow sounds awfulthe the main thing is you're OK, might have been a mixture of drink and powdering their noses, you got home ok and that's the main thing x |
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We agree they should be ashamed, if either felt of them felt jealous or uncomfortable they should have politely stopped the evening going any further. That kind of consideration should be given to anyone you meet couple, guy or girl (but the safety aspect for a single lady does make this situation even worse). The last thing anyone should want to do is cause hurt or upset, to anyone. I hope they have dropped off the site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We agree they should be ashamed, if either felt of them felt jealous or uncomfortable they should have politely stopped the evening going any further. That kind of consideration should be given to anyone you meet couple, guy or girl (but the safety aspect for a single lady does make this situation even worse). The last thing anyone should want to do is cause hurt or upset, to anyone. I hope they have dropped off the site"
Well they blocked me this morning 
I asked both of them multiple times during the night if they were ok with everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh honey, that sounds like a horrendous night I’m sorry that’s happened to you, it’s not a normal thing to happen?! It’s a shame it’s put you off couples as we would both love to have fun with you x"
I agree with Janet hun, it’s a bad experience, we’ve all had them - generally when we’ve not chatted loads to a couple before the meet. Try not to let it put you off this crazy lifestyle...some of us are normal, promise xx |
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Then you can’t do anymore, we have had a few awful experiences along the way. Now we look back on them with a smile but at the time we didn’t. All you can do is check there veri’s and the veri’s of the verifiers if that makes sense so you only meet ‘genuine’ people, like other people said on the thread there are very nice respectful people on here, the trick is finding them. Hope you feel better today
J x |
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"So I agreed to a last minute meet with two couples. Before I even got there one couple had bailed and had stopped responding to our messages. So we decide to have a bit of a night out, which went great apart from being shown pics of their kids every 10 mins and her calling her mum constantly.
When we eventually made it back to the hotel, he seemed to get offended by us (FF) playing and stormed out. When he came back the shouting, screaming and swearing started, while I just sat there butt naked wondering if I would be able to get a taxi home at this time. ( I really should have a left at this point!)
So everything calmed down and we were started playing together again. Now it was turn her turn to get offended/very jealous and storm out. Now she eventually came back there was more shouting, screaming and swearing. She went down to reception to get us kicked out of the hotel. By this point my clothes were back on and I was trying desperately to get a taxi home.
He decided it would be a great idea to lock her out of the room. So she was trying to kick the door down. When I eventually managed to get a taxi, I heard the manager telling the security to kick everyone out of the room.
This is why I'm taking a break from meeting couples. I can't be bothered with crazy jealous people, why arrange a meet if you're going to go mad when your partner starts playing with someone else.
Worst meet ever!!"
Just saw your status and had to nose what happened 
This is the problem with fab, Literally anyone can join...including couples who act like kids.
Don't let this put you off, Theres plenty of sound people on fab.
If your worried about safety maybe just try first meets in a club? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I agreed to a last minute meet with two couples. Before I even got there one couple had bailed and had stopped responding to our messages. So we decide to have a bit of a night out, which went great apart from being shown pics of their kids every 10 mins and her calling her mum constantly.
When we eventually made it back to the hotel, he seemed to get offended by us (FF) playing and stormed out. When he came back the shouting, screaming and swearing started, while I just sat there butt naked wondering if I would be able to get a taxi home at this time. ( I really should have a left at this point!)
So everything calmed down and we were started playing together again. Now it was turn her turn to get offended/very jealous and storm out. Now she eventually came back there was more shouting, screaming and swearing. She went down to reception to get us kicked out of the hotel. By this point my clothes were back on and I was trying desperately to get a taxi home.
He decided it would be a great idea to lock her out of the room. So she was trying to kick the door down. When I eventually managed to get a taxi, I heard the manager telling the security to kick everyone out of the room.
This is why I'm taking a break from meeting couples. I can't be bothered with crazy jealous people, why arrange a meet if you're going to go mad when your partner starts playing with someone else.
Worst meet ever!!"
I would never meet after just 9 hours. I like to know who I am meeting. Been talking to someone here for years and never met him. We know each, have spoken and cammed off here.
Get to know them first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had this with couples too. In our experience it’s usually caused by them having consumed to much alcohol. We had to physically separate one couple. Needless to say the meeting was cut short and this was despite them having wonderful verifications  |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
Oh wow!
Like others have said just learn some lessons, move on and enjoy the fact that you have a great story to tell others.
Insist on a social first and use clubs.
Couples can be hard work, which is why I am taking a break from meeting any except when I’m at a club. |
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Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily. |
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"This sounds absolutely horrific OP!! At least you got out of there in one piece"
Hardly think horrific is correct. A couple kicked off so she left early, unharmed and now has a 'worst meet' story to tell. |
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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
"Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily. "
Why does it matter that OP is female? The couple in question behaved appallingly either way... |
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"Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily.
Why does it matter that OP is female? The couple in question behaved appallingly either way..."
Because if a male posted this he'd have been ripped a new one for complaining. He'd have been told to be grateful he had a meet in the first place. He'd have been lambasted for posting details if a meet with a couple off here without giving them the opportunity to out their side across.
The double standards on here for single men and women are blatant. Stick around and you'll see. |
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"Last minute meet. Those 3 words are where it all went wrong.
When I say last minute, I mean 9 hrs. Which is pretty last minute for me
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I'm due to meet a couple for a first meet in 2 weeks, booked a week ago and it's only a social lol.
To me 9 hours is very last minute.
Having said that I do sympathise, sorry to hear you bad such a shit experience! |
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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
"Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily.
Why does it matter that OP is female? The couple in question behaved appallingly either way...
Because if a male posted this he'd have been ripped a new one for complaining. He'd have been told to be grateful he had a meet in the first place. He'd have been lambasted for posting details if a meet with a couple off here without giving them the opportunity to out their side across.
The double standards on here for single men and women are blatant. Stick around and you'll see. "
I get that is the overall picture here however still think the couple are in the wrong rather than OP. As you say there are 2 sides... |
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"Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily.
Why does it matter that OP is female? The couple in question behaved appallingly either way...
Because if a male posted this he'd have been ripped a new one for complaining. He'd have been told to be grateful he had a meet in the first place. He'd have been lambasted for posting details if a meet with a couple off here without giving them the opportunity to out their side across.
The double standards on here for single men and women are blatant. Stick around and you'll see. "
I think it's because there's a vulnerability that women have going in to a meet that isn't there as much with a man. So we naturally sympathise with their situation whereas we feel a man can look after himself so we aren't as sensitive to a shit experience he may have had.
I know OP wasn't necessarily in any danger but its just our perspective from afar |
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"Wonder how supportive and empathetic the comments would have been if a guy had posted details of a meet off here?!
Really sorry you had a bad encounter but at least no one was hurt or assaulted etc. You managed to get away fairly easily.
Why does it matter that OP is female? The couple in question behaved appallingly either way...
Because if a male posted this he'd have been ripped a new one for complaining. He'd have been told to be grateful he had a meet in the first place. He'd have been lambasted for posting details if a meet with a couple off here without giving them the opportunity to out their side across.
The double standards on here for single men and women are blatant. Stick around and you'll see.
I get that is the overall picture here however still think the couple are in the wrong rather than OP. As you say there are 2 sides..."
Oh I've no doubt the couple were in the wrong. I was just pointing out that it wouldn't have gotten to this many supportive replies if a guy would have posted. Not just for the situation but for the fact that they are posting about other site users. It's a bit of a no no. |
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By *rIntMan
over a year ago
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"So I agreed to a last minute meet with two couples. Before I even got there one couple had bailed and had stopped responding to our messages. So we decide to have a bit of a night out, which went great apart from being shown pics of their kids every 10 mins and her calling her mum constantly.
When we eventually made it back to the hotel, he seemed to get offended by us (FF) playing and stormed out. When he came back the shouting, screaming and swearing started, while I just sat there butt naked wondering if I would be able to get a taxi home at this time. ( I really should have a left at this point!)
So everything calmed down and we were started playing together again. Now it was turn her turn to get offended/very jealous and storm out. Now she eventually came back there was more shouting, screaming and swearing. She went down to reception to get us kicked out of the hotel. By this point my clothes were back on and I was trying desperately to get a taxi home.
He decided it would be a great idea to lock her out of the room. So she was trying to kick the door down. When I eventually managed to get a taxi, I heard the manager telling the security to kick everyone out of the room.
This is why I'm taking a break from meeting couples. I can't be bothered with crazy jealous people, why arrange a meet if you're going to go mad when your partner starts playing with someone else.
Worst meet ever!!"
Are you sure they weren’t high or d*unk? Or both? Sounds like a hassle and that’s not what you want in this lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I agreed to a last minute meet with two couples. Before I even got there one couple had bailed and had stopped responding to our messages. So we decide to have a bit of a night out, which went great apart from being shown pics of their kids every 10 mins and her calling her mum constantly.
When we eventually made it back to the hotel, he seemed to get offended by us (FF) playing and stormed out. When he came back the shouting, screaming and swearing started, while I just sat there butt naked wondering if I would be able to get a taxi home at this time. ( I really should have a left at this point!)
So everything calmed down and we were started playing together again. Now it was turn her turn to get offended/very jealous and storm out. Now she eventually came back there was more shouting, screaming and swearing. She went down to reception to get us kicked out of the hotel. By this point my clothes were back on and I was trying desperately to get a taxi home.
He decided it would be a great idea to lock her out of the room. So she was trying to kick the door down. When I eventually managed to get a taxi, I heard the manager telling the security to kick everyone out of the room.
This is why I'm taking a break from meeting couples. I can't be bothered with crazy jealous people, why arrange a meet if you're going to go mad when your partner starts playing with someone else.
Worst meet ever!!"
Sweet Jesus spicyearlgray, what a horrible night for you, showing photos of their kids and calling mum? Not exactly a good start to the evening then to be followed by shouting and swearing, that could`ve turned violent, God love you, well may all your future meets be nothing like that one Merry Christmas to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do all our initial meets in clubs (tbh most of our meets now).... Another reason why we do this added to the list, even if thankfully we have never had anything like this so far, but have heard other stories of similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are just like that and probably would have behaved in the same way whether they were meeting or not. We don't do drama
Imagine the carnage in their home  "
They are probably quite church goers in vanilla life..... |
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that's fucked up 