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As a single bloke with no swingers club experience - any single females out there in similar situation or just wanting to attend but not turn up on their own? I'm thinking a few social meets and if we click then go together - not to then be together when there but just as moral support?!! |
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over a year ago
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A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you. |
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"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you."
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not?"
They wouldn't the first time you went. But if you started showing up with different women they would get onto the fact you are single and clubs keep your information on their hard drive. He turned up with Jane the other week and now he's turned up with Sarah. He must be single. He's winding us up.
Best thing to do is, go to your nearest club when they let single guys in. You'll be fine.  |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
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You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway. |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway."
I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue. |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway.
I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue."
Since you have no swinging experience what makes you think that? |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you.
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not?"
they wouldn't. I know loads of guys that take different women all the time |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway.
I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue.
Since you have no swinging experience what makes you think that? "
Common sense. A club won't mind if two people arrive together. They also do t mind if you know each other. They actually quite like people socialising I think!!! |
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"I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue."
There is a supposed too. A couple in the swinging scene is a long term relationship. Not some random you met last week. You won't get very far if you take different women all the time, the club will probably take your membership off you.
Go on your own and meet someone in your local club. If you are pissed off about paying a higher price cause you a single bloke, deal with it. Private members clubs can charge what they like. |
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"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you.
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not? they wouldn't. I know loads of guys that take different women all the time "
Thanks sassy. This is my thinking too! |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you.
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not? they wouldn't. I know loads of guys that take different women all the time
Thanks sassy. This is my thinking too!"
But most women won't go with a club and swinging novice either. And all these guys have been going by themselves for ages |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway.
I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue.
Since you have no swinging experience what makes you think that?
Common sense. A club won't mind if two people arrive together. They also do t mind if you know each other. They actually quite like people socialising I think!!!"
Might as well delete all this then since you have this swinging sussed  |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway.
I don't think really there is any "supposed to" but if you both had single membership and turned up together there wouldn't be an issue.
Since you have no swinging experience what makes you think that?
Common sense. A club won't mind if two people arrive together. They also do t mind if you know each other. They actually quite like people socialising I think!!!
Might as well delete all this then since you have this swinging sussed "
Given what I've said is actually correct based on what others have said to me not so necessary. Not entirely sure why you're commenting on the thread and being so sarcastic. It was a harmless question that required 0 input or opinion from those who don't like the idea. |
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OP some clubs take a very dim view on people "coupling up" just for the night. It is often tried by single men to get into events that are for couples and single ladies only and also it gets them reduced entry. These clubs will have rules such as you must both arrive and leave together and stay together all night - no splitting up once you are inside.
It can be difficult to find a lady to go with too. Most of us have been approached to be a cheap entry ticket for a single man. I've had guys come up to me in the car park while I was waiting for my regular FB asking me to go in with them so they get in cheap!
It's much less hassle to just pluck up the courage and go by yourself. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you.
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not? they wouldn't. I know loads of guys that take different women all the time
Thanks sassy. This is my thinking too!
But most women won't go with a club and swinging novice either. And all these guys have been going by themselves for ages "
Or with someone they don't know that well. I'm always getting random guys asking me to go to clubs with them. I would only go with a trusted friend, or I'd simply go on my own. |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"A lot of club's won't let you do that. Every time I've been to my local club, I've been on my own. Never had a problem. Tell them you haven't been to any club before, they should show you around and look after you.
Interesting. How would they know? I wonder why not? they wouldn't. I know loads of guys that take different women all the time
Thanks sassy. This is my thinking too!
But most women won't go with a club and swinging novice either. And all these guys have been going by themselves for ages
Or with someone they don't know that well. I'm always getting random guys asking me to go to clubs with them. I would only go with a trusted friend, or I'd simply go on my own. "
my ex to be fair took new women most weeks to clubs when I first met him. So some women will x |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway."
Most clubs will specify two individuals on a couples membership. I've gone in with other single male members (in their own right) of clubs as a couple with no issues but if you got a couples membership with one particular person then in reality used it for getting anyone in that you fancy they'll not usually allow that.
OP, as a single women, it's quite rare for me to go to a club with a guy as it changes my night. I lose the flexibility to play with who I like. But you may get lucky. You're also stuck with that person if you don't know them and any bad behaviour on their part gets associated with you too. |
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"Would they mind given you're with a woman - seems judgemental of a club to be fussed about someone attending with someone different now and again.
You are supposed to be going with your long term girlfriend or wife. If you keep showing up with different women all the time, it will get sussed. Obviously if you did go with a longterm girlfriend or your wife and you did genuinely spilt up, you should have been going to the club a while and the owners/regulars would have gotten to know you both as a couple. Who knows, wifey might want the membership as part of the divorce settlement and you are back to square one, anyway.
Most clubs will specify two individuals on a couples membership. I've gone in with other single male members (in their own right) of clubs as a couple with no issues but if you got a couples membership with one particular person then in reality used it for getting anyone in that you fancy they'll not usually allow that.
OP, as a single women, it's quite rare for me to go to a club with a guy as it changes my night. I lose the flexibility to play with who I like. But you may get lucky. You're also stuck with that person if you don't know them and any bad behaviour on their part gets associated with you too. "
Thanks.x |
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"OP some clubs take a very dim view on people "coupling up" just for the night. It is often tried by single men to get into events that are for couples and single ladies only and also it gets them reduced entry. These clubs will have rules such as you must both arrive and leave together and stay together all night - no splitting up once you are inside.
It can be difficult to find a lady to go with too. Most of us have been approached to be a cheap entry ticket for a single man. I've had guys come up to me in the car park while I was waiting for my regular FB asking me to go in with them so they get in cheap!
It's much less hassle to just pluck up the courage and go by yourself. "
Really? In the car park?! That's a bit bloody cheeky! Not exactly a turn on and pretty cheap too! |
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