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Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again  |
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By *maiCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
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over a year ago
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" How are you both getting on? 
Doing ok, it can be a bit overwhelming so easing into it. Looking forward to clubs opening again. Closed just as we signed up  "
Yeah I can understand that. Oh no, you got to try any at all? |
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"Hiya. Welcome.
Good on you for finding the confidence to say hi despite your shyness.  "
Thank you! It’s really nerve wracking saying hi somewhere with established friend groups, thank for for welcoming me!
I’m ridiculously shy, it’s a pain. But I’m working on it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Yeah I can understand that. Oh no, you got to try any at all?
We got to go to CJ’s once, I was far to shy first time around so just chatted with a couple, so we’ll see how it goes next time "
Good luck and well done for getting your selves out there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well hello guys...and well done on tentatively stepping back into this world..i think your doing the right thing by starting off in the forums. I find often its the genuine folk who spend the time to chat in the forums.
Hope you find those genuine folk to start making memories with |
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"Well hello guys...and well done on tentatively stepping back into this world..i think your doing the right thing by starting off in the forums. I find often its the genuine folk who spend the time to chat in the forums.
Hope you find those genuine folk to start making memories with "
Thank you, it’s been lovely so far! Once I get over being so nervous I think it will be a whole heap of fun! Our inbox is overflowing, so that’ll be tomorrow’s job  |
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"Well hello guys...and well done on tentatively stepping back into this world..i think your doing the right thing by starting off in the forums. I find often its the genuine folk who spend the time to chat in the forums.
Hope you find those genuine folk to start making memories with "
Genuine !!
Or like me sad and pathetic with nowt else to do lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well hello guys...and well done on tentatively stepping back into this world..i think your doing the right thing by starting off in the forums. I find often its the genuine folk who spend the time to chat in the forums.
Hope you find those genuine folk to start making memories with
Thank you, it’s been lovely so far! Once I get over being so nervous I think it will be a whole heap of fun! Our inbox is overflowing, so that’ll be tomorrow’s job "
Well i might as well join the queue...would be rude not to offer to show you the sights lol |
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"Hello. We know how you feel. We’d decided to really ‘go for it’ by going to socials, signed up to a few, then COVID hit.
Hope you have a great time here  "
We have a free couple of days at the end of the month and have everything crossed that CJ’s or the like will be open again |
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"Good morning and welcome to Fab we all started at one point and had a few nervous moments chat away and get to know a few people x "
Good morning
Everyone has been so welcoming! So lovely to meet everyone |
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"Morning, forums are a good way to see a bit of what goes on in fab life.
Hope you have a fab time "
We’ve sort of lurked for a while and some chats are hilarious, we’ve learnt a lot too.
It’s been fun so far |
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"Welcome and I hope you get over your shyness as this could be very overwhelming for you. Good luck OP! X"
Life overwhelms me most days haha
We’ve had a meet and it was really nice, I’ve been the shy one since I was wee, so hopefully I can let it go a little |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
We’re in the same position. Made it to CJs once then everything locked down. We’re being cautious about getting back out there, as we’ve both only had one vaccination so far. We also have a degree of shyness/social anxiety, so it’s gonna be a slow process. But hello to you! |
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" We’re in the same position. Made it to CJs once then everything locked down. We’re being cautious about getting back out there, as we’ve both only had one vaccination so far. We also have a degree of shyness/social anxiety, so it’s gonna be a slow process. But hello to you! "
Oh, I can bet you now if we ever met in a club I am a million times more awkward/shy than anyone you’ve ever met I try and play it cool as well ha!
Hello to you too! |
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My ex who wasn’t really into the whole fab thing but had joined because he went on a fab weekend met with his pals to Liverpool and we met through the following year trip planning was one of the worst people you could meet for social anxiety, the amount of times I’d end up dropped at the door to Cjs and he would go back to hotel alone was unbelievable but get a few drinks and “Barry” would come out lol his alter ego lol was the nickname he got after one fellow fabber mistook him for wee Barry bow tie and let’s say when my ex was sociable sometimes hilariously so xx thing is he was never made to feel bad about it and no one ever pushed him, there’s a healthy amount of respect for the most part on fab |
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"Nothing to be scared about … you have a magnificent figure nice to meet you and hopefully everything will open up and even get a drink or something get that shyness out of you x "
Haha thanks, I’m getting there, we’ve had one meet and I was beyond nervous, I don’t drink… maybe I should ?? |
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"My ex who wasn’t really into the whole fab thing but had joined because he went on a fab weekend met with his pals to Liverpool and we met through the following year trip planning was one of the worst people you could meet for social anxiety, the amount of times I’d end up dropped at the door to Cjs and he would go back to hotel alone was unbelievable but get a few drinks and “Barry” would come out lol his alter ego lol was the nickname he got after one fellow fabber mistook him for wee Barry bow tie and let’s say when my ex was sociable sometimes hilariously so xx thing is he was never made to feel bad about it and no one ever pushed him, there’s a healthy amount of respect for the most part on fab "
Haha maybe I should get an alter ego?!
I’ve always been shy, my husband is one of those - confident in any situation - kind of people, he’s an amazing support for someone as socially anxious as I am. I’ll keep working on it |
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"My ex who wasn’t really into the whole fab thing but had joined because he went on a fab weekend met with his pals to Liverpool and we met through the following year trip planning was one of the worst people you could meet for social anxiety, the amount of times I’d end up dropped at the door to Cjs and he would go back to hotel alone was unbelievable but get a few drinks and “Barry” would come out lol his alter ego lol was the nickname he got after one fellow fabber mistook him for wee Barry bow tie and let’s say when my ex was sociable sometimes hilariously so xx thing is he was never made to feel bad about it and no one ever pushed him, there’s a healthy amount of respect for the most part on fab
Haha maybe I should get an alter ego?!
I’ve always been shy, my husband is one of those - confident in any situation - kind of people, he’s an amazing support for someone as socially anxious as I am. I’ll keep working on it "
Verified by 2 men, 2 meets I think you like playing the shy wife role, we can see your a raving nympho |
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
Hello, welcome to the fab forum. |
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" Verified by 2 men, 2 meets I think you like playing the shy wife role, we can see your a raving nympho "
1st meet was just a hello while out, the second was an actual meet and I have never been more nervous in my life, like I said - working on it
Socially awkward, ridiculously shy but so ready to give everything a go, I barely spoke the first time I went to a club haha! |
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Hello and welcome, I'm really shy as well (a few folk will come along and mock me) I cover this up by babbling so totally get you.The first time I went to a social I was a nervous wreck.
Hopefully when things reopen you'll get along to some socials etc. Good luck 
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"Hello and welcome, I'm really shy as well (a few folk will come along and mock me) I cover this up by babbling so totally get you.The first time I went to a social I was a nervous wreck.
Hopefully when things reopen you'll get along to some socials etc. Good luck
K"
I am 99% sure you are the first couple we ever spoke to in CJs, I was nervously sat on the sofa in a pretty dress. And you said I gave off school teacher vibes
You were both really lovely! And assured me how nervous you were too, you both made our night being so lovely! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm really shy too, have been through loads of therapy for social anxiety. When I was married I'd often have to get my husband to do the shopping as I couldn't even go into a shop.
We broke up just over 5 years ago and I've now started coming out of my shell finally at 41 years old. Not met anyone on here yet though as I'm most too nervous and self conscious especially after my recent weight gain and of course the joys of ageing and having a mum tum.
Keep putting my profile to hide as don't even know how to reply to people here without making myself sound dumb. Glad I'm not the only shy one here. |
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"I'm really shy too, have been through loads of therapy for social anxiety. When I was married I'd often have to get my husband to do the shopping as I couldn't even go into a shop.
We broke up just over 5 years ago and I've now started coming out of my shell finally at 41 years old. Not met anyone on here yet though as I'm most too nervous and self conscious especially after my recent weight gain and of course the joys of ageing and having a mum tum.
Keep putting my profile to hide as don't even know how to reply to people here without making myself sound dumb. Glad I'm not the only shy one here. "
I’m so happy it’s not just me! So many here and in clubs are so confident, which is amazing.. and here’s me having a panic attack first time we went to a club, so I’m right there with you!
I’ve had kids too, I hear no one bothers about the mum tum, my husband certainly doesn’t mind but I think having it out infront of strangers might be nerve wracking. Well done for saying hello  |
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"I'm really shy too, have been through loads of therapy for social anxiety. When I was married I'd often have to get my husband to do the shopping as I couldn't even go into a shop.
We broke up just over 5 years ago and I've now started coming out of my shell finally at 41 years old. Not met anyone on here yet though as I'm most too nervous and self conscious especially after my recent weight gain and of course the joys of ageing and having a mum tum.
Keep putting my profile to hide as don't even know how to reply to people here without making myself sound dumb. Glad I'm not the only shy one here. "
Big hugs plenty of us with more than just one mum tum I’ve got three and the scars to go along with it now I look like something out Freddy movie that’s what lingerie is for to hide the bits we don’t like and show off the bits we do xx
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Big hugs plenty of us with more than just one mum tum I’ve got three and the scars to go along with it now I look like something out Freddy movie that’s what lingerie is for to hide the bits we don’t like and show off the bits we do xx
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"I'm really shy too, have been through loads of therapy for social anxiety. When I was married I'd often have to get my husband to do the shopping as I couldn't even go into a shop.
We broke up just over 5 years ago and I've now started coming out of my shell finally at 41 years old. Not met anyone on here yet though as I'm most too nervous and self conscious especially after my recent weight gain and of course the joys of ageing and having a mum tum.
Keep putting my profile to hide as don't even know how to reply to people here without making myself sound dumb. Glad I'm not the only shy one here. "
I wouldn't worry so much about aging, a mum tum or sounding dumb (I'm a poet it would seem) a lot of the interest in here is being able hold a conversation like a normal human being, alot of people on fab struggle there, so your already doing well from what I've seen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would love to go to cjs when it can open up properly without social distancing. Not sure I'll ever get the courage to do it though. It all depends on my mood, sometimes my nerves make me talk incessantly and I have literally no control over it
I've been nicely surprised at how lovey everyone on this site has been.
"You have all been so lovely and welcoming! Thank you!
Hopefully get to meet a few if you next time we get a chance to pop to CJ’s, if I’m brave enough to say hello "
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's been easy to talk here as everyone has been so nice, I can clam up face to face and that's a huge worry for me. I'm just continuing to take my time and I've been loving the forums.
"I'm really shy too, have been through loads of therapy for social anxiety. When I was married I'd often have to get my husband to do the shopping as I couldn't even go into a shop.
We broke up just over 5 years ago and I've now started coming out of my shell finally at 41 years old. Not met anyone on here yet though as I'm most too nervous and self conscious especially after my recent weight gain and of course the joys of ageing and having a mum tum.
Keep putting my profile to hide as don't even know how to reply to people here without making myself sound dumb. Glad I'm not the only shy one here.
I wouldn't worry so much about aging, a mum tum or sounding dumb (I'm a poet it would seem) a lot of the interest in here is being able hold a conversation like a normal human being, alot of people on fab struggle there, so your already doing well from what I've seen "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes underwear will be a must of I do get the courage to meet, something to hide my flabby belly and push up my saggy boobies ha ha
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Big hugs plenty of us with more than just one mum tum I’ve got three and the scars to go along with it now I look like something out Freddy movie that’s what lingerie is for to hide the bits we don’t like and show off the bits we do xx
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"Yes underwear will be a must of I do get the courage to meet, something to hide my flabby belly and push up my saggy boobies ha ha
Big hugs plenty of us with more than just one mum tum I’ve got three and the scars to go along with it now I look like something out Freddy movie that’s what lingerie is for to hide the bits we don’t like and show off the bits we do xx
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With those eyes youll have everyone in the palm of your hand
Small talk is overrated....a look tells you all you need to know x |
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I actually had a guy message me and ask if I was an ex user, as in heroin, took that quite badly to be honest, I have dark circles and bags under my eyes it's hereditary plus I'm always working, looking after my kids, studying ect so always tired. So thank you for for making me feel a bit better about my eyes |
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"I actually had a guy message me and ask if I was an ex user, as in heroin, took that quite badly to be honest, I have dark circles and bags under my eyes it's hereditary plus I'm always working, looking after my kids, studying ect so always tired. So thank you for for making me feel a bit better about my eyes "
Jeezo sorry to hear that...what an idiot!! Small minded, nasty men are the worst thing about Fab... instant block.
I for one think your eyes are as pretty as they come x |
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"Hey guys!! Welcome! I don't know if anyone has mentioned it, but CJs is open again, but only for socials. Feel free to have a nosey at our couples profile, StagnMrs. Have fun!xx"
I had seen, but didn’t want to be stupid and ask what a social only was, is that just drinks/chats?
It’s a bit of a drive from ours, so wasn’t sure if it was worth the drive until it was open properly, thank you |
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"I actually had a guy message me and ask if I was an ex user, as in heroin, took that quite badly to be honest, I have dark circles and bags under my eyes it's hereditary plus I'm always working, looking after my kids, studying ect so always tired. So thank you for for making me feel a bit better about my eyes "
What a horrible, unnecessary comment for someone to male, I hope you realise this guy probably set out to just make comments to bring people down and it had no bearing on you personally! |
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"Hey guys!! Welcome! I don't know if anyone has mentioned it, but CJs is open again, but only for socials. Feel free to have a nosey at our couples profile, StagnMrs. Have fun!xx
I had seen, but didn’t want to be stupid and ask what a social only was, is that just drinks/chats?
It’s a bit of a drive from ours, so wasn’t sure if it was worth the drive until it was open properly, thank you "
Yeah I'd imagine drinks/chats, no playing on site etc, still probably worth a visit for the night out I'd say |
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"Hiya and welcome to the forums, I hope you both enjoy 
Thank you, it’s been really lovely so far! Not as scary as I thought Yeah the scary ones havnt posted yet "
Ha ha noooo don’t say that, I was just getting comfy… |
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"I actually had a guy message me and ask if I was an ex user, as in heroin, took that quite badly to be honest, I have dark circles and bags under my eyes it's hereditary plus I'm always working, looking after my kids, studying ect so always tired. So thank you for for making me feel a bit better about my eyes "
No need for comments like that and if ever you fancy a night at Cjs there’s usually always at least one pre Cjs get together going on around town or even in the car park for newbies
The lovely Mrs volunteered up to meet my pal a few weeks back for his first time as I’m not well enough to be venturing out and he’s been twice now and thinks it’s super friendly and everyone really easy going |
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I would love to go to cjs, this is my goal. I want to go once all restrictions are lifted though,I may not feel ready to play the first time, but I want to have the choice and think if I manage to build up the courage to go then I will play.
A meet beforehand or even meeting someone to walk in with sounds like a fantastic idea.
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No need for comments like that and if ever you fancy a night at Cjs there’s usually always at least one pre Cjs get together going on around town or even in the car park for newbies
The lovely Mrs volunteered up to meet my pal a few weeks back for his first time as I’m not well enough to be venturing out and he’s been twice now and thinks it’s super friendly and everyone really easy going "
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
Hi and welcome to Fab lol, Please don’t be shy and feel free to message if you’d like to chat |
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Yeah just take it slow and at your own pace, once your comfortable you'll be having a great time!
Yeah I've always thought meeting with someone or a social before a club would be a great plan
"I would love to go to cjs, this is my goal. I want to go once all restrictions are lifted though,I may not feel ready to play the first time, but I want to have the choice and think if I manage to build up the courage to go then I will play.
A meet beforehand or even meeting someone to walk in with sounds like a fantastic idea.
No need for comments like that and if ever you fancy a night at Cjs there’s usually always at least one pre Cjs get together going on around town or even in the car park for newbies
The lovely Mrs volunteered up to meet my pal a few weeks back for his first time as I’m not well enough to be venturing out and he’s been twice now and thinks it’s super friendly and everyone really easy going "
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"I would love to go to cjs, this is my goal. I want to go once all restrictions are lifted though,I may not feel ready to play the first time, but I want to have the choice and think if I manage to build up the courage to go then I will play.
A meet beforehand or even meeting someone to walk in with sounds like a fantastic idea. "
Maybe we’ll see you there! |
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"I would love to go to cjs, this is my goal. I want to go once all restrictions are lifted though,I may not feel ready to play the first time, but I want to have the choice and think if I manage to build up the courage to go then I will play.
A meet beforehand or even meeting someone to walk in with sounds like a fantastic idea.
Maybe we’ll see you there! "
I was petrified my first time but when you getting in everybody is so nice and friendly your worries just disappear and the excitement takes over. |
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
Hello from and the wifeshape |
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"Hello, we are sort of new around here, joined a year ago and then 2020 happened. We got to visit CJ’s once before everything closed.
I’m really shy, (I’m the Mrs) like painfully shy, so taking this huge step and coming to say hello and to ‘meet’ a few others, maybe make some friends before things open up again "
Hi to you both! Hope you're enjoying your time on fab. I've yet to go to CJ's bit nervous about going along to one of the nights but I'm sure I'd be fine once I'm there lol how did you find it? |
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