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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "
Nope, not in the slightest! |
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Apologies for jumping in with some mansplaining 
To be fair to the clumsy fella, there are plenty of women on here that like that direct, confident and dirty approach. Clearly you are not one of them.
Unlike many women on here you do state what you are looking for, and not, so he clearly did not read your profile.
So I sympathise and apologide for all the clumsy, rude, desperate men out there.
Although to be honest having read through your profile, as a man on here I am very unclear on what you are looking for?
You are happily married, have a FWBs with whom you suggest you have great sex and connection already. So exactly where would I or any other new sexy, bearded, tattoed 'fantasy' man fit in?
Perhaps Mr.Gray was correct. Women are pretty daydreamers from Venus and men are direct brutes from Mars?
Delete. Laugh. Move on. Keep being you and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The way to find out what someone is looking for in detail is to strike up a conversation. Not to go head first assuming I’m done whore who deserves to be spoken to like that.
I asked the question of who actually likes those sorts of messages right from the word go as I find it hard to believe that many women do. How did you come to that conclusion? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for some guys they know that won't work. They can't be arsed putting the effort in to actually strike up conversation so they just get their kicks from sending that type of message, the fact they've said something dirty to a woman is enough. Obviously they have a tiny bit of hope she'll reply. |
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"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "
I don’t give them the time of day .
Just block them and leave them to it .
I do often wonder if that approach actually works for them lol |
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"I think for some guys they know that won't work. They can't be arsed putting the effort in to actually strike up conversation so they just get their kicks from sending that type of message, the fact they've said something dirty to a woman is enough. Obviously they have a tiny bit of hope she'll reply. "
I would say that this is a good summation. |
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I personally always send polite and respectful messages to anyone that I message and never get many replies.
I think that some women might look at his profile and if he was fairly attractive, would possibly answer back as a lot of women seem to prefer cheeky/ slightly forward guys.
Could be wrong , just my experience of the site so far, so please don't give me a hard time x |
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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago
Fife |
"I’ve just got a message from a man, calling me a little fuck and telling me what he’d like to do to me. No “hi, how are you…”. Straight into assuming I’m up for a chat like that right away. My question is, do any women actually like that as a first message? I gave him a reply explaining why that message was not to my taste. Then he blocked me hahahaha. "
It's a bit like the "I'm free now, fancy a fuck" messages. I always wonder if they actually get anywhere with a message like that.
 Each to there own and all that jazz but it doesn't inspire me to reply anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't like messages like that. Either give him a block straight off the bat or give him a curt response and block him before he gets a chance to reply x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, not really my thing. At least not straight out the gate.
I'm also not a fan of the first message being a 1000 word erotic novella detailing what they want to do to me. Especially when what they want usually boils down to an evening out followed by fairly vanilla sex  |
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I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao  |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao "
Howdy Miss Cowgirl
My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.
Is this boring enough?  |
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"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao
Howdy Miss Cowgirl
My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.
Is this boring enough? "
Hold my beer Davie  |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao
Howdy Miss Cowgirl
My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.
Is this boring enough?
Hold my beer Davie "
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"I have a strong distaste for the first message to be sex chat. Also I love the element of surprise so for a person to detail what they are going to do would ruin it for me and also they usually describe stuff that I’m like nope don’t like it like that so they are kind shooting them selves in the foot as well doing that. I just like a very boring bog standard first message shows they are normal and safe to meet lmao
Howdy Miss Cowgirl
My name is Trampas, I love cowboy films and I started in the Virginian. Nowadays I like to listen to Radio 4 in my housecoat and slippers.
Is this boring enough? "
Lovely, Nice and mundane just the way I like it thank you that was appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry I won’t do it again!
(It wasn’t me)
If I wouldn’t do it in a bar I won’t do it behind a computer screen. Personally believe respect and finding a detail in the profile to highlight you’ve read throughout |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.
That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.
Us woman are so ungrateful eh! "
Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way |
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By *4Fun11Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.
That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.
Us woman are so ungrateful eh!
Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way "
Haha you wish! |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.
That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.
Us woman are so ungrateful eh!
Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way
Haha you wish! "
Just a lashing will do  |
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"3,904,727,342 that is the amount of women in the world.
That man has picked you to spend some special time with, surely you must be honoured.
Us woman are so ungrateful eh!
Oops...I can feel a tongue lashing coming my way
Haha you wish!
Just a lashing will do "
Get a room, you two! |
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