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Does the number of sexual partnerships bother you??
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By *hireLad OP Man 6 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high???  |
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By *hyme2020Woman 6 days ago
Glasgow Scotland |
"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
Can I ask why did that come into conversation? Did you ask her or vice versa?
If you asked her you were obviously curious and only you can decide if it bothers you or not. There will be many people on here who have been with a lot of people. It is a swingers site after all.
I just don’t think I would ask this question as an “adult”
I have been asked and I know exactly how many, but it’s not a regular conversation I have. Has she been with more than you? Is that what bothers you more?
She might have had 175 one night stands and not be great in bed or have had 10 quality partners and be amazing.
If you get on, and it’s something you want to explore then good luck. I can’t say it wouldn’t bother me, but I think I would rather not know lol |
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By *hireLad OP Man 6 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
I didn't ask the question as you put it. We were talking about things we would like to try and do. She replied shes basically done it all as been with that number of people. I was just a little shocked someone could get a number that high that was all |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
Swinging scene obviously not for you then mate lol |
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You’ve been on this site for 6 years in various guises you say…
A meet every fortnight (which isn’t a lot) could’ve had you at the exact same figure. Or what will be your thinking as your own meets/veries potentially increase as time goes on…? |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
So if you had met her on here it'd be better?!?
You are on a swinging site
I presume to meet people and have sex
You seem to be judging a person on her number !?!
How exactly does that work |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
What exactly is it that worries you about that number?
What did you reply when she told you that?
Does seem a bit weird to come out wi that randomly anyways |
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By *hireLad OP Man 5 days ago
Aberdeenshire |
I was just taken by suprise to start with. My brain went straight away to thats a guy every weekend for nearly 4 years running i mean that's impressive but someone also said its like having 8/9 people every year and when you say it like that that's not too bad haha.
Maybe she was just looking for a reaction out of me I'm not sure i did find it strange she just dropped a number in. |
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Or put it another way, she maybe just had a few gangbangs. Figure could be way higher (or worse in your eyes) if she did that every weekend! Enjoying sex isn’t a bad thing it’s healthy!
This is coming from a female who’s never had a guy chat her up on a night out and never had a one night stand! I’m quite proud of vanilla me - v - fab me! |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
No, why would it? |
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"I was just taken by suprise to start with. My brain went straight away to thats a guy every weekend for nearly 4 years running i mean that's impressive but someone also said its like having 8/9 people every year and when you say it like that that's not too bad haha.
Maybe she was just looking for a reaction out of me I'm not sure i did find it strange she just dropped a number in."
Well if your still talkin ect you met up wi her n had fun or that? |
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"Speaking with a really nice girl, (actually not on this site) get along great but shes just said she's slept with around 175 guys, i mean I'm no prude but thats a high number.. would anyone else be put of by someone saying a number that high??? "
How does she know the exact number ?
Just wondering because if someone asked me I would need to give a rough guess
Maybe she has a little black book for her conquests  |
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I'd say if you're in the swinging or other sex scene 175+ would be pretty common for many (not all). If you're not then yes you could consider it high.
I'm not sure why anyone has a problem with this personally though. What's the difference between someone having sex with one person hundreds of times over a few years and having sex with hundreds of men once over a few years?
They've still had a lot of sex before you come along |
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Absolutely no issue with a number. End of the day we enjoy (usually) the carnal and exercises. Whether that’s a single partner over many years or many partners over many years I wouldn’t give two shits what a number is nor would I care about asking! I would be concerned only about safety which is why safe sex regardless is paramount to me |
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Possibly the wrong place if your looking for a low bodycount, it probably bothered me in my late teens and early 20s, but now it doesnt really matter, could be 200 guys only done it once each or 10 guys and pumped nightly for the last 20years, theres not and diffrence too me |
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"No, but definitely not a good topic to bring up with someone. Finding stuff like this can start playing tricks with your head. "
Actually a very good topic to bring up. She probably didn't want to waste her time on someone who had a problem with her history. |
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In all honesty I find folk that keep score on how many people they've had sex with infantile . Who cares about numbers . If it feels right in the moment then do it .
Also think that knowing someone's number can't be a good thing either .. sometimes its an out and out lie too .
Only you can decide if your OK with knowing , if it was me I think I'd be more put off with someone counting notches rather than how many notches there's been . |
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I honestly don't know my number. I'd say it's a little over 100 I think. I've been on the site for 12/13 yrs - never had a potential meet ask and I'd never think to volunteer it, not sure why she felt the need to mention it but it's nothing to be ashamed of either. Turns Shogun on a bit tbh |
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