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"Interested to hear differing views on this. I know what mines are but they vary greatly.
So maybe we should discuss this....get clearer picture.
Do expectations vary between sexes? "
In my opinion its a friend that you have casual sex with maybe i am wrong? |
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I think it means different things to different people and definitely needs discussion between the people involved to establish boundaries and expectations. Can be lots of fun if everyone's needs are considered and done with the right person x
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I think it means you are friends who don’t go on dates and just have sex occasionally. No expectations of developing any further. No meeting families or each others friends.
What do I think men think it is?
Sex on demand with no care, attention or consideration. No strings. |
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So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol |
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My understanding is that Fwb is sex between two people without any commitment.
Spending time as friends and usually sex when you meet:
Probably best discussing with each other if you’re allowed to have sex with others though. |
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By *enelope2UWoman 23 weeks ago
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They are a friend that you have sex with
THAT you DO treat as a friend who you do go out with who you do see outside of the bedroom who you are legitimately FRIENDS WITH and who you ALSO have SEX BENEFITS as well..
To many people omit the FRIENDS element out.. if you're not doing things with them that you do with friends they aren't a friend with benefits..
You're just fucking |
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By *enelope2UWoman 23 weeks ago
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"So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol "
Welcome to the Exact Definition |
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By *enelope2UWoman 23 weeks ago
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"I think it means you are friends who don’t go on dates and just have sex occasionally. No expectations of developing any further. No meeting families or each others friends.
What do I think men think it is?
Sex on demand with no care, attention or consideration. No strings. "
That's a fuck buddy..booty call |
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"They are a friend that you have sex with
THAT you DO treat as a friend who you do go out with who you do see outside of the bedroom who you are legitimately FRIENDS WITH and who you ALSO have SEX BENEFITS as well..
To many people omit the FRIENDS element out.. if you're not doing things with them that you do with friends they aren't a friend with benefits..
You're just fucking "
I agree!
There must be the socialising aspect as well as the sex part.
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I feel it should be someone you can hangout with as a friend, chat to, a laugh with, but also sex. No dating, or commitment.
I am clear that is what I'm looking for, but definitely find guys dont always get the concept of friendship.
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I think it can differ but this is how i view them....
FWB is someone who you have a bond with and respect. You choose to spend time with them not only for sex.
FB is someone you have an amazing connection with and you plan repeat meets for sex.
Fab friend is someone you fuck when your paths cross |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol "
This is perfect, and I've had that situation before, and it was great.
Too many people forget the friends bit.
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By *ennyjMan 23 weeks ago
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"So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol
This is perfect, and I've had that situation before, and it was great.
Too many people forget the friends bit.
Couldn't of put it any better,
Exactly the way it should be
And the way we both handle it, still keep in touch in between girlfriends/boyfriends
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I think the whole deal of friends with benefits can be a tricky one to navigate . it takes alot of communication in what each party wants and alot of the times can have the propensity to get missunderstood either by each other or from people looking in .
For me friends with benefits is someone who you trust and can socialise with aswell as having sex ,devoid of any commitment and expectations of commitment . kinda like a i'll scratch yours you scratch mine kinda deal .
A fuckbud is someone who you have no other interest in other than having sex when you need it .
Aslong as communication to what each of you expect and want from the situation then it can be a great thing , and given both or one dont change the goal posts futher down the line .
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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A fwb To me its someone who you have regular sex with when you both have time but also someone you can spend time with and enjoy their company so not just sex. A fuck buddy would be someone who just wants to meet regularly just for sex i would treat both with respect personally |
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"So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol "
This had been my experience also.
But we went on dates and adventures too.
A fuck buddy I would say is just turn up and fuck. Very little convo in between times. Whereas a FWB I see as being a best buddy you have sex with and do fun things.....but with a clear understanding its not a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"So I have a friend, known each other for years, she's like one of the boys, good laugh and banter etc
While it started with some flirting and stuff, I made my intention clear that I definitely would and she thought I was just joking but then one time it finally happened and it was great, long session with breaks and just having a chat and laughs in-between going again
it kind felt a bit weird after the first time cause we where mates and all that and we didn't want that to change but we know we had a lot of fun and can have a lot of more fun so I can tell when she's in the mood and I know it's going to happen that night
Occasionally she will just message me and let me know she needs to see me and I pop up.
I've done the same to her and she's turned up ready to go and it's been a lot of fun
She had boyfriends in between and I've been on and off as well but when we are both single, we know if we need some attention, we will help with other out.
Sounds weird but we've never really wanted the whole dating thing, just a mate with great hot, sweaty sex sessions
She's 3 Months into a new boyfriend so I kinda back off cause I don't want to interfere but I still WhatsApp her when she messages me but we stay clear of the FWB stuff so I'm back on here lol
This had been my experience also.
But we went on dates and adventures too.
A fuck buddy I would say is just turn up and fuck. Very little convo in between times. Whereas a FWB I see as being a best buddy you have sex with and do fun things.....but with a clear understanding its not a relationship "
well put exactly how i see it  |
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I had a very good friend infact the friendship we had over the years was very close. Loads of laughs the odd flirting and someone to vent to when things weren’t good We had a night out other friends had called of and we went to a party on our own things got heated that night. And next day we spoke about what happened. And agreed we enjoyed what had happened and decided to be FWB things were great for a long while. But feelings change with emotions and pressures and in the end I lost a good friend We still speak if we meet. But I miss the fun we had before the benefits started |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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FWB= a friend, just like any other friend in your social circle, except also have sex with when mutually agreeable without the drama of relationship/commitment
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FB = meet purely to scratch that itch.
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The way I read into it as people who actually get along spend time with each other (in person or chatting on the phone ect) who also enjoy sex with each other while respecting each other's boundaries. |
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A fwb for me is someone who makes the effort and shows an interest.
To have sex and respect me.
To meet regularly (min once a week).
To be open to spending a wee bit of time together ( going to cinema, a walk, food).
Just enjoying no stress time together. |
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By *uietbloke67Man 22 weeks ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
Someone who's company you can enjoy away from the hassle and bustle of real life.
A confidante if you will. Not necessarily just sexual, though a sexulality in nature.
I actually enjoy the company of women and not just sexusl. |
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"Interested to hear differing views on this. I know what mines are but they vary greatly.
So maybe we should discuss this....get clearer picture.
Do expectations vary between sexes? "
I don't think there is an exact definition
But we have used that term and a wee explanation of what we mean so everyone is on the same page
For us we have a friend that we also meet up with for extra stuff,but no feelings it's just dirty fun then back to friend zone
We have also thought it would be good to meet a couple we can socialise with
But also have extra fun,no strings,no feelings for
So someone you meet regularly but not in relationships with |
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By *uietbloke67Man 22 weeks ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
"Interested to hear differing views on this. I know what mines are but they vary greatly.
So maybe we should discuss this....get clearer picture.
Do expectations vary between sexes?
I don't think there is an exact definition
But we have used that term and a wee explanation of what we mean so everyone is on the same page
For us we have a friend that we also meet up with for extra stuff,but no feelings it's just dirty fun then back to friend zone
We have also thought it would be good to meet a couple we can socialise with
But also have extra fun,no strings,no feelings for
So someone you meet regularly but not in relationships with "
This |
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"They are a friend that you have sex with
THAT you DO treat as a friend who you do go out with who you do see outside of the bedroom who you are legitimately FRIENDS WITH and who you ALSO have SEX BENEFITS as well..
To many people omit the FRIENDS element out.. if you're not doing things with them that you do with friends they aren't a friend with benefits..
You're just fucking "
This... |
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"Interested to hear differing views on this. I know what mines are but they vary greatly.
So maybe we should discuss this....get clearer picture.
Do expectations vary between sexes?
I don't think there is an exact definition
But we have used that term and a wee explanation of what we mean so everyone is on the same page
For us we have a friend that we also meet up with for extra stuff,but no feelings it's just dirty fun then back to friend zone
We have also thought it would be good to meet a couple we can socialise with
But also have extra fun,no strings,no feelings for
So someone you meet regularly but not in relationships with "
I think this but I've never actually had a fwb before  |
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is really someone with whom you skip the dating and relationship up and downs to enjoy proper physical mutual appreciation 
