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Expectation of meeting
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What are your expectations of meeting someone?
Just a kiss and cuddle.
Just to suck/be sucked.
Just to masturbate.
Full on anal protected/unprotected sex.
Just a coffee chat to see if there’s a spark.
Something kinky.
Just to dress and be admired.
Just a quickie to get another verification so you can look for the next one. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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Good thing to speak about as the gap between the possible to the fantasy is vast as are the grounds for the meet too.
Couple inviting a guy to theirs for a spontaneous threesome I think you can expect to play.
Female offering to meet for coffee and cake for a social highly reduces the chances of getting your kegs off. |
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For me I tend to have a social first, coffee and a blether in a public place to see what connection we have. I have had meets where ive skipped the social and had guys at mine or went to theirs but thats down to verifications they have and me knowing some of the people who have verified them  |
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By *exsaCouple 14 weeks ago
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I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.
The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear. |
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"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.
The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear. "
Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet. |
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"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.
The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear.
Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet. "
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.
We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.
I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.
Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.
Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.
I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.
I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am
So to go back to the original question
NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place
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I’ve been on and off fab for many years and my opinion has changed over the years. Unfashionably for a male I actually prefer a social meet first. Coffee and a wee blether and if we click that’s great. If we don’t I’m not one to pursue. Older and wiser . Needs to be a connection for me |
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"Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.
We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.
I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.
Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.
Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.
I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.
I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am
So to go back to the original question
NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place
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Wow I’m so sorry you experienced that. Just shows it’s not just the ladies that have to be mindful that there’s a world of crazy folk out there!! |
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I personally have no expectations, well other than to be treated with some level of mutual respect.
Each situation can be different so will never pass chat here, some a social, some play fun. All parties are and should feel able to say "no thanks, nothing further".
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Always a social for me coffee cake and quick escape route ! Even if there’s a bit of chemistry during the social how the messages go after can quickly turn me off someone so it’s always good to go home and mull it over, my days of spontaneously getting my kit off are few and far between  |
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"Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.
We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.
I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.
Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.
Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.
I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.
I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am
So to go back to the original question
NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place
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That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured |
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For me a nice social. Over a cuppa your choice, usually a hot one (the cup) in this climate.
As fabbers you might skip the cake and head straight for home.
However, heels to the ears may require more than a kiss on the cheek  |
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I actually enjoy the getting to know in here . So many in a hurry i find whilst the art of discussion sharing thoughts and desires seems a miss. For me meeting first time so much easier when your understand some ones preferences |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured "
Is this the one that was sprayed in the face with the bear spray? Madness |
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By *y_1Man 14 weeks ago
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Usually a social first to get to know the person with no expectations that anything more than a social will happen in the future.
Ive met loads of folk over the years socially and still meet socially with them but have maybe only played once if ever with some of them.
Then there is the spontaneous meets that every now and agin just happen.
I never have any expectations though. |
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"For me I tend to have a social first, coffee and a blether in a public place to see what connection we have. I have had meets where ive skipped the social and had guys at mine or went to theirs but thats down to verifications they have and me knowing some of the people who have verified them "
100% same for me |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"Meeting socially can be fun if you click because then you also get the opertunity to flirt a little then continue that with some flirty messages until a meet can be arranged  "
Have fond memories of flirting with ice |
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"Meeting socially can be fun if you click because then you also get the opertunity to flirt a little then continue that with some flirty messages until a meet can be arranged
Have fond memories of flirting with ice "
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By *enelope2UWoman 13 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
Zero.
My only expectations is they actually show up and match their keyboard words and WhatsApp or picture images..
The rest is based on chemistry
THAT'S IT..what happens next is based on everything!! Matching and flowing |
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By *enelope2UWoman 13 weeks ago
Doesn't matter cant block distances |
"Always a social first very clear on my profile
Although most don’t read so expect sex after the social
My block list is growing with folk who clearly can’t or won’t read it’s very clear "
SAME!! Probably blocked all of Fife and Edinburgh which is shit because I'm actually looking for LEGITIMATE and local |
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That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured
Is this the one that was sprayed in the face with the bear spray? Madness "
Yeah it was awful |
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"Always a social first very clear on my profile
Although most don’t read so expect sex after the social
My block list is growing with folk who clearly can’t or won’t read it’s very clear
SAME!! Probably blocked all of Fife and Edinburgh which is shit because I'm actually looking for LEGITIMATE and local "
Same, refreshing to read, thought it was just me!!! Haha |
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By *exsaCouple 13 weeks ago
Dunfermline |
"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.
The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear.
Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet. "
Oh jeezo, thats not good at all! Hope you were ok after? x |
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We are pretty laid back and just go with the flow. We usually discuss with the people we are meeting beforehand what the expectations are. All meets are different and that's that makes it fun  CG xx |
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My expectations are to meet, when everything aligns perfectly between myself and the other person. Meeting can entail a cøffëë, luncheon or a stroll around an årt gallery. If there is a mutual desire then we would both realise our expectations to take things further for naked entwinement. |
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