I have a work friend and we get on like a house on fire, definitely on my level but I'm positive I'm in the friendzone
I've made it quite clear that given the opportunity, I definitely would walk through that door but it's not reciprocated
She's happy to talk about sex and stuff and I'm not a jealous person when she tells me all about the guys she getting with but listening to her and the things she does, I can't help but want to experience it for myself.
Not sure if it's the whole work thing, or cause we are good friends etc but fuck me, sitting in the friendzone is frustrating lol
I get that I really should just let it die out and walk away instead of sitting on a hook in the hope of something but she is a laugh
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Honestly best advice would be to leave it alone. If she has made it certain she's not interested then pursing it further at best thats pest behaviour . If your unable to be just friends then its better to nip any flirting , sex talk in the bud especially if your work colleagues it leaves you in a vulnerable position in work . Perhaps put boundaries in place to what you want that friendship to be, explain to her the situation youve found yourself in. |
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There's no such thing as the friend zone and women are not vending machines that you put kindness tokens into until sex falls out.
She only sees you as a friend. I understand that may be disappointing for you, but if you can't just be that for her then you should distance yourself. |
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"Honestly best advice would be to leave it alone. If she has made it certain she's not interested then pursing it further at best thats pest behaviour . If your unable to be just friends then its better to nip any flirting , sex talk in the bud especially if your work colleagues it leaves you in a vulnerable position in work . Perhaps put boundaries in place to what you want that friendship to be, explain to her the situation youve found yourself in. "
Whenever I start to make advances or suggestions, she all of a sudden stops responding even though we might have been messaging for the last 45mins so I'm already reading that as an unspoken boundary.
But you can understand that when someone starts to talk about the stuff they are doing (and in detail) it can send the wrong message or at least it has been for me.
I also don't want to just stop chatting or appear to give her the cold shoulder just because I'm not getting what I want, that's not the kinda guy I am so maybe Al just change the subject whenever it starts to go down certain avenues |
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"There's no such thing as the friend zone and women are not vending machines that you put kindness tokens into until sex falls out.
She only sees you as a friend. I understand that may be disappointing for you, but if you can't just be that for her then you should distance yourself. "
With all due respect, there are plenty of other women who do believe in the friendzone and use it to their own ends
Not all women are vending machines but there are some like that and they have a name lol
Seriously, I am joking about that, I have a friend who is a sex worker and not for the money, just in it for the game.
I do understand you point about just being friends and just take the L and move on. |
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By *ergie59Man 11 weeks ago
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"I have a work friend and we get on like a house on fire, definitely on my level but I'm positive I'm in the friendzone
I've made it quite clear that given the opportunity, I definitely would walk through that door but it's not reciprocated
She's happy to talk about sex and stuff and I'm not a jealous person when she tells me all about the guys she getting with but listening to her and the things she does, I can't help but want to experience it for myself.
Not sure if it's the whole work thing, or cause we are good friends etc but fuck me, sitting in the friendzone is frustrating lol
I get that I really should just let it die out and walk away instead of sitting on a hook in the hope of something but she is a laugh
Any advice? "
I would leave it.
It is very easy nowadays, and rightly so, that making a pass in the workplace can be perceived as sexual harassment.
I had a similar situation where a lady would make remarks hinting towards being sex, at first I blanked it but then made a cautious hint back (that couldn’t be taken as an advance) and it was not reciprocated, so I dropped it.
Some people just like to see where they are in the pull ability department.
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