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Are you reading the profiles before you message to see if you’re what they are looking for ? Chances are the fact they are replying is them trying to be polite and then after a while they get tired of endlessly replying to guys trying to be polite because it’s exhausting |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
I disagree OP i give guys chances all the time to meet for a social and regularly get cancelled on or ghosted. For instance there's a thread where I even offered a social to help guys get verified and even that was a disaster. This is the reason in my opinion genuine guys struggle to get meets. |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently
I disagree OP i give guys chances all the time to meet for a social and regularly get cancelled on or ghosted. For instance there's a thread where I even offered a social to help guys get verified and even that was a disaster. This is the reason in my opinion genuine guys struggle to get meets. "
I think most men in here struggle even to get a reply, myself included.
Not sure but I’m guessing the ones who come across as “exceptional” will be doing most of the meets and ghosting. |
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By *he_Wite_NiteMan 4 days ago
Manchester for a wee bit, but usually Dundee and around |
Completely.
I would say that 50% of my messages get a reply, because I check compatibility, etc, but even though your compatible, you might not be what they are looking for at that particular time.
This isn't an issue, just requires all of us guys to up our game.
Don't see an issue with that. |
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"Completely.
I would say that 50% of my messages get a reply, because I check compatibility, etc, but even though your compatible, you might not be what they are looking for at that particular time.
This isn't an issue, just requires all of us guys to up our game.
Don't see an issue with that."
It's not just guys that have to do this. Alot of couples need more than minimum effort too. Takes alot to be sandwiched in a couple, believe it or not women have to graft too |
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"...I think most men in here struggle even to get a reply, myself included.
Not sure but I’m guessing the ones who come across as “exceptional” will be doing most of the meets and ghosting."
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The initial hurdle is the profile, or the quality thereof. Most women will look at the sender's profile before even reading the message, if at all.
How do you determine "exceptional"? |
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"...I think most men in here struggle even to get a reply, myself included.
Not sure but I’m guessing the ones who come across as “exceptional” will be doing most of the meets and ghosting.
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The initial hurdle is the profile, or the quality thereof. Most women will look at the sender's profile before even reading the message, if at all.
How do you determine "exceptional"?"
Yes, I wondered how to determine exceptional also, but it’s a word I’ve heard (or the equivalent of) on quite a lot of profiles. |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
You have 34 meets by 34 men. Are you sure you are looking for women. Or are men the back up when times get tough with no fanny action |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
Imagine you had lots of messaging you everyday. Would you reply to every single one. Or choose the ones you like the look of or fit your criteria.
If you say the first option you would probably need to dedicate every waking hour to fab and even then hire a PA.
Also if you have can’t accommodate and no face pics on your profile, your already a few places down the queue.
Supply and demand my friend, the way of the world, including fab. |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
Patience is a virtue 😉 |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
Thb your profile is a little confusing as you state you are straight but looking to meet MM profiles .
Also the fact all your veries are from males yet none from any of the females you have apparently met at these meets .
I find it a little off putting if Im honest .
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Women a very outnumbered on here and guys bombard them with dick pics and fuck me now messages, and a lot wont touch guys who touch guys🤷, its an absolute head fuck at times but occasionally you get a good one who will restore your faith in the place, just keep hunting and dont take it so seriously, it will happen in due course |
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"Sorry it’s confusing for you it says my profile what am into
Can’t make any easier than it is
Hot profile u have amazing tits x😍
It’s beyond me why you aren’t getting a reply Me too lol  "
Now that you’ve checked the profile, it’s beyond me also 🙂 |
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"This right here is the caliber of single entitled guys.
Never shocks me they are of a certain age and counting down to their last shag. Desperados🤣"
very nice of you calling guys desperate we must be chatting to you 🤣 |
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"Is there any point
In messaging females or couples on this site"
Honest answer! Probably not!
Networking is your best option. That is done through going to socials, events, and clubs. Get known for the right reasons. Get verified.
Build your profile. Build your presence online for the right reasons, forums, chatrooms. Get verified.
The more to put in the more interesting you become. You stand out from the vast single male populous.
That's when you become interesting to females and couples.
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Thanks for your advice i don’t need any
Am making a point that guy’s contact females don’t even get message back That’s all got laugh some nonsense I have heard from females saying guys are desperate I no females I see regularly that are married don’t want put verifications up. Not problem I said there is no point start of my conversation
Well I have had loads females chatting now lol x |
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"Thanks for your advice i don’t need any
Am making a point that guy’s contact females don’t even get message back That’s all got laugh some nonsense I have heard from females saying guys are desperate I no females I see regularly that are married don’t want put verifications up. Not problem I said there is no point start of my conversation
Well I have had loads females chatting now lol x"
In reply to your op .
Just like many women like attention so do many males & couples its not gender specific.
Im guessing the reason women dont message you back is because they ain't interested in interacting with or meeting you .
If you read the site rules it tells you a no reply should be taken as a thanks but no thanks .
Im sure you dont reply to every bit of junk mail you get at home so its no different on here .  |
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"This right here is the caliber of single entitled guys.
Never shocks me they are of a certain age and counting down to their last shag. Desperados🤣 very nice of you calling guys desperate we must be chatting to you 🤣"
Naw pal..im calling you desperate. |
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i don't know about everyone else but we get a lot of messages from guys chancing their luck and disregarding the fact that we're not looking to meet men and when we politely point this out they're quick to get abusive which is all the more reason for us not to want to meet single men. |
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You post a question asking opinions, then later get huffy and say you don't need advice.
You say you're clear what you're looking for, when no, you're not, going by your profile and how you string a sentence. You're also clearly not straight, but that's none of my business.
You jump to private messaging a woman asking for group sex, when nothing she said hinted at any interest in you. You didn't like her responses, so you switched from wanting to fuck her to 'she's crazy/you're not desperate.' Poorest show there is. Another woman says something and you come out with 'great tits'. 🙄
Yep, clearly all women 'just want attention'... from someone who isn't you, and knows how to speak to them like a decent human being. Seriously dude, you can't see how ridiculously rude and entitled you sound? Everyone now knows exactly what you are. 😂
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"Woman are be rude to me just giving it back
They don’t like it Just bit fun 💋 "
No one was being rude to you. Giving you advice that you didn't want to hear or take on board. Not helping yourself. Do it your way but dont complain when it doesn’t work put how you want. |
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"...I think most men in here struggle even to get a reply, myself included.
Not sure but I’m guessing the ones who come across as “exceptional” will be doing most of the meets and ghosting.
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The initial hurdle is the profile, or the quality thereof. Most women will look at the sender's profile before even reading the message, if at all.
How do you determine "exceptional"?
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Yes, I wondered how to determine exceptional also, but it’s a word I’ve heard (or the equivalent of) on quite a lot of profiles."
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I could insert "megalomaniac" into my profile but it wouldn't necessarily make me one. Profiles are often prone to hyperbole. |
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"Woman are be rude to me just giving it back
They don’t like it Just bit fun 💋 "
Its rude af if u werent getting anywhere wi women you certainly wont when women sew this thread and your disgusting replies as soon as they dont wanna f*uck you |
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"You post a question asking opinions, then later get huffy and say you don't need advice.
You say you're clear what you're looking for, when no, you're not, going by your profile and how you string a sentence. You're also clearly not straight, but that's none of my business.
You jump to private messaging a woman asking for group sex, when nothing she said hinted at any interest in you. You didn't like her responses, so you switched from wanting to fuck her to 'she's crazy/you're not desperate.' Poorest show there is. Another woman says something and you come out with 'great tits'. 🙄
Yep, clearly all women 'just want attention'... from someone who isn't you, and knows how to speak to them like a decent human being. Seriously dude, you can't see how ridiculously rude and entitled you sound? Everyone now knows exactly what you are. 😂
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Definetly agree x |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently
You have 34 meets by 34 men. Are you sure you are looking for women. Or are men the back up when times get tough with no fanny action"
I actually spat out my tea lol I was also thinking this too lol if you can’t get what you want you settle for anything that’s available !! Major red flag |
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By *e MonkMan 2 days ago
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"These threads are always useful for adding to the block list"
Totally agree with this
I find it cringeworthy as a single male to come in here and read some threads similar to this where young guys can’t get meets.
Then when constructive advice is given to them they get all shirty and lose their shit.
Is it any wonder the site is losing its veneer when trying to enjoy the life |
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"These threads are always useful for adding to the block list
What rubbish you talking about pal
Totally agree with this
I find it cringeworthy as a single male to come in here and read some threads similar to this where young guys can’t get meets.
Then when constructive advice is given to them they get all shirty and lose their shit.
Is it any wonder the site is losing its veneer when trying to enjoy the life "
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently
You have 34 meets by 34 men. Are you sure you are looking for women. Or are men the back up when times get tough with no fanny action
I actually spat out my tea lol I was also thinking this too lol if you can’t get what you want you settle for anything that’s available !! Major red flag "
Remember all the women hes shagged are married and absolutly none of them want to leave a verification  hahahahaha |
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By *e MonkMan 2 days ago
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"What garbage you talking about
Mate with the funny profile and he has blocked me Holly fuck another rocket 🚀 "
Is this directed at me ???
If so my profile states quite clearly I’m not interested in single men therefore I haven’t blocked you per se
I’ve blocked ALL single men |
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"The embarrassing rants was aimed at you OP . Get a grip ffs "
"...the retaliating rants are embarrassing..." I'm really sorry, but pot, kettle, black? OP has made it clear he was open to persuasion as to whether or not others agreed 🤷♂️ |
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OP - as an example when I click on your profile it says you messaged me 9 months ago but if you read my profile you would have known you don’t match/fit what I am looking for. Maybe take the extra few minutes to make sure you could be a match for someone and you might get a higher success rate on messages back 🙂
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"OP - as an example when I click on your profile it says you messaged me 9 months ago but if you read my profile you would have known you don’t match/fit what I am looking for. Maybe take the extra few minutes to make sure you could be a match for someone and you might get a higher success rate on messages back 🙂
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Definitely agree with this. One simple we have found often is height. While Missy is a bit more unusual in a woman in being 6ft tall and doesn't discriminate against people being shorter, after all I'm shorter than her, she does have a soft limit. We sometimes encounter guys who will message but are maybe 5'5"-6", which just isn't going to work for her.
But yeah, reading a profile properly and understanding what the person/people are looking for could help massively. |
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I’ve sent quite a lot of messages since I started out here in December, have had very few replies, some nice, some not, but have also made a couple of friends so it’s been a success for me.
I try to message what I perceive as being compatible. I’m honest about my situation which narrows down my chances considerably.
All I’m saying to the op is, it takes time to get to know people, and finding someone that fits both agendas is quite slim
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"OP - as an example when I click on your profile it says you messaged me 9 months ago but if you read my profile you would have known you don’t match/fit what I am looking for. Maybe take the extra few minutes to make sure you could be a match for someone and you might get a higher success rate on messages back 🙂
Definitely agree with this. One simple we have found often is height. While Missy is a bit more unusual in a woman in being 6ft tall and doesn't discriminate against people being shorter, after all I'm shorter than her, she does have a soft limit. We sometimes encounter guys who will message but are maybe 5'5"-6", which just isn't going to work for her.
But yeah, reading a profile properly and understanding what the person/people are looking for could help massively. "
Exactly! Everyone has there preferences so respect them, and the good old ‘we are the same height lying down’ line does not work 😂 |
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"Personally I avoid anyone from Aberdeen. You know, preferences, suitably and penchants. 😉
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Silly you Nero, you spelt ‘actively seek’ wrong again 🤭 "
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I can offer you vascular hands if that's sufficient enough to woo you? |
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"Personally I avoid anyone from Aberdeen. You know, preferences, suitably and penchants. 😉
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Silly you Nero, you spelt ‘actively seek’ wrong again 🤭
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I can offer you vascular hands if that's sufficient enough to woo you?"
I think you know this is always a deal 😉 |
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"OP - as an example when I click on your profile it says you messaged me 9 months ago but if you read my profile you would have known you don’t match/fit what I am looking for. Maybe take the extra few minutes to make sure you could be a match for someone and you might get a higher success rate on messages back 🙂
Definitely agree with this. One simple we have found often is height. While Missy is a bit more unusual in a woman in being 6ft tall and doesn't discriminate against people being shorter, after all I'm shorter than her, she does have a soft limit. We sometimes encounter guys who will message but are maybe 5'5"-6", which just isn't going to work for her.
But yeah, reading a profile properly and understanding what the person/people are looking for could help massively.
Exactly! Everyone has there preferences so respect them, and the good old ‘we are the same height lying down’ line does not work 😂 "
Its also not true, some people's bellies are higher than others |
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"Personally I avoid anyone from Aberdeen. You know, preferences, suitably and penchants. 😉
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Silly you Nero, you spelt ‘actively seek’ wrong again 🤭
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I can offer you vascular hands if that's sufficient enough to woo you?
I think you know this is always a deal 😉"
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Courtship was never this easy. I have the Tiffany™ for you. 💍 |
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"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently
I disagree OP i give guys chances all the time to meet for a social and regularly get cancelled on or ghosted. For instance there's a thread where I even offered a social to help guys get verified and even that was a disaster. This is the reason in my opinion genuine guys struggle to get meets.
I think most men in here struggle even to get a reply, myself included.
Not sure but I’m guessing the ones who come across as “exceptional” will be doing most of the meets and ghosting."
Agreed. |
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By *ergie59Man 23 hours ago
Aberdeenshire |
"These threads are always useful for adding to the block list
I like when they do it for you. Its like the trash taking itself oot🤣"
It’s an entertaining thread, but there are many men who work away quietly and respectfully, who have no chance of a reply due to the qty of the trash tarring them the same 😕 |
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By *cotWBMan 23 hours ago
West Dunbartonshire |
"In messaging females or couples on this site
To honest females like attention most chat disappear very little ever meet love attention unfortunately any one agree
Or think differently "
Given your Thread title and original post above, and your then subsequent attitude to sage advice, I can only conclude, no it’s not worth it.
The phrase “stop digging yourself a deeper hole”, is my only advice to you now.
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Good advice!
I'm late to the party I know, but as a fat middle aged bearded man with a barely average cock, I have had lots of fun with lots of people from here over the years.
"Is there any point?" - damn right if you want to have fun! |
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"That’s very true all I did make a point
Had females giving me silly nonsense
Site is full talkers don’t meet or have no intention of meeting that’s up to then
Makes no difference to me
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If it makes no difference to you why do the post ?
As I mentioned earlier in the post I think women are not interested in meeting you because of your profile stating straight when you have only met men. |
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"That’s very true all I did make a point
Had females giving me silly nonsense
Site is full talkers don’t meet or have no intention of meeting that’s up to then
Makes no difference to me
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Yet all the females whove gave u nonsense as you say all have plenty of verifications all recent too cant possibly be every woman also to remind you this is actually a swingers site not find a fuck site woman can do whatever they like same as the men |
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"Bit like you darling 🤣
That'll be why you messaged her asking for sex, yes? 🤣🤣🤣"
Gotta love it. I'm sure forum rules state not to use the forym to circumnavigate a block and interact with the person blocked. Might do some good if certain folk read the rules and weren't just cheeky fucktards🤣😜 |
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"OP - as an example when I click on your profile it says you messaged me 9 months ago but if you read my profile you would have known you don’t match/fit what I am looking for. Maybe take the extra few minutes to make sure you could be a match for someone and you might get a higher success rate on messages back 🙂
Definitely agree with this. One simple we have found often is height. While Missy is a bit more unusual in a woman in being 6ft tall and doesn't discriminate against people being shorter, after all I'm shorter than her, she does have a soft limit. We sometimes encounter guys who will message but are maybe 5'5"-6", which just isn't going to work for her.
But yeah, reading a profile properly and understanding what the person/people are looking for could help massively.
Exactly! Everyone has there preferences so respect them, and the good old ‘we are the same height lying down’ line does not work 😂 "
Yup...had that line too and actually found it quite offensive to be honest. |
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