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By *5DaveMan 1 week ago
Helensburgh |
Best joining something you enjoy or fancy, you will then meet people with at least one interest you both have.
I rejoined the bowling club now always out and meeting people.
If your relying on sites like this you are going go be very disappointed and lonely. |
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By *lbie6 OP Man 1 week ago
glasgow |
"Best joining something you enjoy or fancy, you will then meet people with at least one interest you both have.
I rejoined the bowling club now always out and meeting people.
If your relying on sites like this you are going go be very disappointed and lonely. "
thanks |
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"Anyone any ideas i dont have any friends and in terms of meeting here not much joy i get lonely and anything in glasgow area thanks even for a social male or female "
I tried to arrange a social last Friday with exactly that intention. Make some friends who understand our lifestyle.
No women were interested. 11 guys were, and 1 showed up. Now I know why the woman stayed away from the post and event.
I won't be doing it again |
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"I'm surprised that only 1 of 11 showed up.
Personally if I say I'll be somewhere you can guarantee that I'll be there, don't understand people that do otherwise"
They all said the same. I've been cancelled on plenty by guys who all say the same. It gets tiring |
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"I'm surprised that only 1 of 11 showed up.
Personally if I say I'll be somewhere you can guarantee that I'll be there, don't understand people that do otherwise"
Says every man you speak to on here🤷♀️ |
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Hi ladies I agree with almost everything you've said but it's not all guys there are some strange ones on here but all I can say is keep trying I've looked at both of your profiles and that's exactly what I like but the problem is now you probably think I'm full of shit but I'm as genuine as they come but if I asked you in a DM if you want to meet I would get ignored or angry because I never said the right thing. and please don't take personal I don't blame you the amount of nutters is crazy lol it's ruining it for us all the people that use this site the way it should be, I'm looking for like-minded people to do all the exiting stuff possible I love it but it's getting impossible to use now. Sorry for the rant but just wanted to say please don't put all guys in the same bracket and tbh I only found this bit tonight! |
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By *lbie6 OP Man 1 week ago
glasgow |
"Anyone any ideas i dont have any friends and in terms of meeting here not much joy i get lonely and anything in glasgow area thanks even for a social male or female
I tried to arrange a social last Friday with exactly that intention. Make some friends who understand our lifestyle.
No women were interested. 11 guys were, and 1 showed up. Now I know why the woman stayed away from the post and event.
I won't be doing it again"
pity about the social events |
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"I'm surprised that only 1 of 11 showed up.
Personally if I say I'll be somewhere you can guarantee that I'll be there, don't understand people that do otherwise
Says every man you speak to on here🤷♀️"
I can’t figure that out tbf.
Of the very few meets I’ve had I’ve kind of figured out the lady I’ve chatted with and had no issues or backed out.
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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I've found myself on fab many times, like a lot of us i think. Loneliness has been a big part of that and not just to find someone for throwing a leg over.
It's difficult for guys to initiate chats on here.
So if you're feeling like that then you're not alone! |
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"I've found myself on fab many times, like a lot of us i think. Loneliness has been a big part of that and not just to find someone for throwing a leg over.
It's difficult for guys to initiate chats on here.
So if you're feeling like that then you're not alone! "
100% this
I think this site actually makes it worse |
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"I've found myself on fab many times, like a lot of us i think. Loneliness has been a big part of that and not just to find someone for throwing a leg over.
It's difficult for guys to initiate chats on here.
So if you're feeling like that then you're not alone!
100% this
I think this site actually makes it worse"
It does at times. Recognise the signs and take breaks when you need to. |
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By *ev1793Man 1 week ago
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Hillwalking club was the best thing I joined when I turned 50. Really hard meeting new friends, but that was something I loved doing, so have made loads of really good friends over the last couple of years through that. |
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I feel you on this one the loneliness is a killer and the right weirdos have ruined it for genuine guys. Ive tried to chat to women even just to chat but unless your Brad Pitt nobody seems to even want to talk. |
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Loneliness is such an epidemic in modern days. The hardest part is putting yourself out there to meet people. While fab is one place you can do it, it is inherently difficult to make in roads. Women suffer from mailbox bombardment and typically have their guard up. And guys, some of us need to accept we have caused this simply because your hunting for a transactional meet, not a mutual experience.
If I was to go back to when I got divorced and very much in your place, I would do exactly what I did again. Joining lots of different clubs to see if I find my people. Improve social skills by just saying hello to people while out walking to start with. Building from there. Treat fab with gentle hands, reaching out only if I actually like the persons profile and leading with a get to know you vibe, not a hook up.
Small steps daily will snowball quickly for you. |
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By *lanenakedMan 1 week ago
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"I'm surprised that only 1 of 11 showed up.
Personally if I say I'll be somewhere you can guarantee that I'll be there, don't understand people that do otherwise"
Exactly the same here. Never stood anybody up .. |
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"I feel you on this one the loneliness is a killer and the right weirdos have ruined it for genuine guys. Ive tried to chat to women even just to chat but unless your Brad Pitt nobody seems to even want to talk. "
💯 spot on
I occasionally look at male profiles to see how they present themselves, kind of noticed 3 basic types:
Generally decent & honest
Weird or obnoxious
Prolific, with multiple profiles (another word could be groomers).
Everyone has their own ideas of what is normal behaviour.
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"I tried to arrange a social last Friday with exactly that intention. Make some friends who understand our lifestyle.
No women were interested. 11 guys were, and 1 showed up. Now I know why the woman stayed away from the post and event.
I won't be doing it again"
Those numbers really suck! People used to say that on here, if you arrange anything, expect half at most to turn up. But 10% is just taking the proverbial.
It kills any drive or desire to try and arrange something similar in the future. |
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"Hi ladies I agree with almost everything you've said but it's not all guys there are some strange ones on here but all I can say is keep trying I've looked at both of your profiles and that's exactly what I like but the problem is now you probably think I'm full of shit but I'm as genuine as they come but if I asked you in a DM if you want to meet I would get ignored or angry because I never said the right thing. and please don't take personal I don't blame you the amount of nutters is crazy lol it's ruining it for us all the people that use this site the way it should be, I'm looking for like-minded people to do all the exiting stuff possible I love it but it's getting impossible to use now. Sorry for the rant but just wanted to say please don't put all guys in the same bracket and tbh I only found this bit tonight! "
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