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Still 0 luck on this site. HELP.
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Pic makes you you look like a silly school boy not sexy at all ... | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Maybe, just maybe, that for seven months it's basically been illegal to meet anyone without social distancing and will continue to be the case for quite some time. Just a guess like...  | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " It does look like you're a kid with your picture.. And it tells me all about what you want.. Starting with pictures of me... | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Six out of seven paragraphs start with "I". It is pretty clear what you want, but no so clear as to what you have to offer. | |||
have a look at your profile, what do you think OP? | |||
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"A dick and a cartoon face aren't particularly alluring. Your profile is all all about what you want. There's nothing about what you offer. It reads like you want to be all things to everyone. In other words, you'll say whatever it takes to get someone to fuck you. It's also reads like you're a picture collector. E " I second this op. | |||
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"... Any ideas anyone? " It's not luck. | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Same issue | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? Same issue " Your telly bust too huh? | |||
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? Same issue Your telly bust too huh? " Lol It appears he's looking for a sub to tell her what to do.. Not quite sure that's how the dynamic works... :/!! | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? Same issue Your telly bust too huh? " Yh tell me about it | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? Same issue Your telly bust too huh? Yh tell me about it " P'raps go round ya mates Check out the news? Its always good to know whats going on in the world Dont sit on the same sofa though. You never know what might happen | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? Same issue Your telly bust too huh? Yh tell me about it P'raps go round ya mates Check out the news? Its always good to know whats going on in the world Dont sit on the same sofa though. You never know what might happen" Lol | |||
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"Green arrow shows OP has been struggling a lot.. Some people just cannot be helped seems like - no matter how hard others try to help them. " And virtually every post on virtually every thread offers virtually the same advice. Of course he doesn't have to take the advice offered. 
And yet, here we are, still struggling.
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"I'm curious how you religiously managed to get your hair cut every two weeks during lockdown. " Funny you should ask, im a barber, in a flat with my two barber co workers. Quite easy really... | |||
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"A dick and a cartoon face aren't particularly alluring. Your profile is all all about what you want. There's nothing about what you offer. It reads like you want to be all things to everyone. In other words, you'll say whatever it takes to get someone to fuck you. It's also reads like you're a picture collector. E " He does say he gives oral, so he is saying something of what he can give. | |||
"Thanks for clarification. Very convenient for you. " It was. Thanks. | |||
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"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it." You can take a pic and use the crop feature to remove your head if needed or blur out your face so we can see your hair. I wasn't being sarcastic for a change, I was genuinely interested if you are in fact 27. | |||
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? What the others have said. You look younger than 27. Consider why an older woman would contemplate a younger man who writes like he thinks he's calling the shots and is more interested in his appearance and wants than what he can do for his partner. There is a global pandemic and the age group you say you are in are super spreaders. Consider correcting your grammar. " | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it." I agree, too be honest the comments seem a little harsh. Your profile is fine and every profile talks about what they want/looking for thats the whole point! The only thing that would put me off would not being verified as i have been messed about on here in the past. Other than that, your good, dont worry too much about what others think | |||
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"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. You can take a pic and use the crop feature to remove your head if needed or blur out your face so we can see your hair. I wasn't being sarcastic for a change, I was genuinely interested if you are in fact 27." I am in fact, 27. | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. I agree, too be honest the comments seem a little harsh. Your profile is fine and every profile talks about what they want/looking for thats the whole point! The only thing that would put me off would not being verified as i have been messed about on here in the past. Other than that, your good, dont worry too much about what others think "Tbf, i completely agree with this, the verified thing is a problem, but to my defence, i havent had a look in to get verified by anybody! Thanks though! | |||
"Maybe just maybe, don’t stress at the moment as you shouldn’t be meeting anyway. Honestly, men generally don’t stand out with even amazing profiles because there’s so many. If your serious about swinging scene, wait till pandemic over and get to a club and socialise. I (Mrs) wouldn’t meet a single guy on fab, but, in a club on a Friday night game on, lol.x Good luck.x "Great advice, thanks! | |||
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"Wow... theres brutal honesty... and then theres demeaning belittling... pretty much sums up whats wrong on this site. OP take it from me.. dont give a fuck what others think, it just brings you down. Ofc i dont need to read your profile to know what it says going by the numerous replies here. However it never hurts to make a little effort with the profile and keep it straight forward, if youre really wanting to get somewhere. Ive ditched the bio as i have no time for window shoppers. Genuine and worthwhile connections tend to start from a mutual curiosity and willingness to be proactive... most women here who spend more time sifting through their inbox and replying to the odd message are being more reactive than proactive.. Ive been on and off this site a number of times over the years and ive grown to not caring at all if i get any meets, as it feels more like a chore than something fun to do trying to chat with ppl and eventually hook up. The ppl who are worth my time are proactive and willing to chat first and maintain a convo.. than those who i have to battle an entire inbox for just to get maybe a couple messages before im buried by 100s of other messages and dick pics. Honestly this site is pretty bad for mens mental health for the very reason that many women can just be straight up cruel and demeaning... ironic when they complain about how men treat them yet take little to no responsibility for how they treat other men who are genuinely decent and fun guys to hook up with. I guarantee you someone will take what ive said as being offensive or whatever.. and hurl abuse at me.. if so.. i got my clear sign to stay the fuck away from them. Just dont take this site seriously.. its full of judgemental assholes, regardless of their gender. My best advice.. stick to the forums more, gives ppl more chance to see what youre like as a person. A proactive person will more often than not go out of their way to message you first based on what theyve seen of you and like it" I would have to argue that if OP didn't "give a fuck about what others think" as per your advice he will continue to struggle for meets. The whole point of having a well thought out profile is to be appealing to people. OP don't overthink it, just pretend you're maybe introducing yourself to someone at a party. Also tbh I would stay away from statuses that say you're struggling as they can be a turn off. Make it seem like you're genuinely interested in getting to know people (as I hope you are) as atm the bio and dick pic makes me think you're just after a one off, which is not what most women on here are after. | |||
"I'm curious how you religiously managed to get your hair cut every two weeks during lockdown. Funny you should ask, im a barber, in a flat with my two barber co workers. Quite easy really..." You lucky sod! I resembled Worzel Gummidge when my hairdresser finally reopened! | |||
"I would have to argue that if OP didn't "give a fuck about what others think" as per your advice he will continue to struggle for meets. The whole point of having a well thought out profile is to be appealing to people." Thats the problem.. ppl should just be themselves.. not try to adhere to the demands of others just to simply tick their boxes.. being himself and still ticking someones boxes is whats more important, because, as i already said, its damaging to mens mental health to jump through hoops and present themselves with only their best qualities and still keep getting rejected.. as they know theyve cherry picked their best qualities and present it in a way they think would be appealing to others and still get rejected.. it makes them think theyre totally worthless. It also creates a false representation, although theyve cherry picked their best qualities, the flaws will always naturally come out when a connection is made and a convo starts, or even when it comes to finally meeting in person.. as well as after the meet. Thats why bios, imho, are terrible for making judgements. Havng a conversation with someone or seeing them in the public forums is a far better way to come to your conclusions on whether that person is worth your time. Anyone can lie on a bio and make it sound appealing... but it takes a real genius and charismatic silver tongued determined devil to keep up that charade well past the first hook up I stand by what i say, but to elaborate a little more.. he should just be himself and not be concerned with the opinions of the majority as nobody on this site is likely to appeal to the majority.. its the few ppl who still like what they see of him who are worth his time and that goes for almost everyone here, bar the odd few who will sleep with anything on 2 legs I was like him many many years ago.. felt that same discouraging feeling on fab and other sites.. then i changed my perspective and way of thinking.. i still get hook ups on other sites and did on fab years back.. but these days i dont feel downtrodden and have made some really good meaningful friendships from a couple of them.. rather than wasting so much time and energy on what ifs/maybes and obvious dead ends | |||
"I would have to argue that if OP didn't "give a fuck about what others think" as per your advice he will continue to struggle for meets. The whole point of having a well thought out profile is to be appealing to people. Thats the problem.. ppl should just be themselves.. not try to adhere to the demands of others just to simply tick their boxes.. being himself and still ticking someones boxes is whats more important, because, as i already said, its damaging to mens mental health to jump through hoops and present themselves with only their best qualities and still keep getting rejected.. as they know theyve cherry picked their best qualities and present it in a way they think would be appealing to others and still get rejected.. it makes them think theyre totally worthless. It also creates a false representation, although theyve cherry picked their best qualities, the flaws will always naturally come out when a connection is made and a convo starts, or even when it comes to finally meeting in person.. as well as after the meet. Thats why bios, imho, are terrible for making judgements. Havng a conversation with someone or seeing them in the public forums is a far better way to come to your conclusions on whether that person is worth your time. Anyone can lie on a bio and make it sound appealing... but it takes a real genius and charismatic silver tongued determined devil to keep up that charade well past the first hook up I stand by what i say, but to elaborate a little more.. he should just be himself and not be concerned with the opinions of the majority as nobody on this site is likely to appeal to the majority.. its the few ppl who still like what they see of him who are worth his time and that goes for almost everyone here, bar the odd few who will sleep with anything on 2 legs I was like him many many years ago.. felt that same discouraging feeling on fab and other sites.. then i changed my perspective and way of thinking.. i still get hook ups on other sites and did on fab years back.. but these days i dont feel downtrodden and have made some really good meaningful friendships from a couple of them.. rather than wasting so much time and energy on what ifs/maybes and obvious dead ends" It's also damaging to women's mental health to be blamed and treated so bitterly for not wanting to fuck anyone that asks. | |||
) So say that!
What attracts you to a woman (other than her age - maybe change that to something like "loves women of all ages, it's the connection that matters" And can I just suggest that referring to ladies in their mid-forties as old, is seriously not going to help your cause!!)
When you say what you like, think about why you like it. It's not all about your fantasies. She'll have some too. Good luck, OP | |||
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Do a search through the forums, there is tons of great advice for folk who are struggling. Ultimately though your profile is your shop window, you need to make yourself stand out from the rest. Cal | |||
"It's also damaging to women's mental health to be blamed and treated so bitterly for not wanting to fuck anyone that asks. " Youre taking what ive said out of context, as the issue lies with making judgements based on someones profile rather than actually being proactive and getting to know them before making a judgement. From my assumption the OP gets rejected very early... at the point of initial contact or after the first couple exchanged messages. This is brutal honesty.. as so many women have claimed to be giving to the OP without realising how demeaning theyre also being. So the honest fact here is... too many women tread on some genuine decent fun guys they would enjoy hooking up with if they didnt judge them so quickly and harshly. I understand women have a hard time here too.. harassment, abuse etc. etc. but it doesnt mean they are allowed to default to being reactive and demeaning to men who arent having much luck. Im sure the OP would find some women who didnt get turned off by his profile, or by him simply being himself.. its those women who are worth his time.. not the opinions of so many others would still say no to him no matter how his profile looks As for being bitter... youre making a false judgement on me there... im not bitter.. im simply realistic and honest.. pointing out facts that are well known in the realm of psychology. And, from that response.. it looks as though youve taken what ive said a little offensively. Not everyone on this site is right for the majority, therefore the opinions and 'advice' from the majority are sketchy to say the least. Take them with a pinch of salt.. but dont treat them like gospel | |||
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"I'm curious how you religiously managed to get your hair cut every two weeks during lockdown. Funny you should ask, im a barber, in a flat with my two barber co workers. Quite easy really... You lucky sod! I resembled Worzel Gummidge when my hairdresser finally reopened! " Perks of the job, and they’re free! Winner winner! | |||
"It's also damaging to women's mental health to be blamed and treated so bitterly for not wanting to fuck anyone that asks. Youre taking what ive said out of context, as the issue lies with making judgements based on someones profile rather than actually being proactive and getting to know them before making a judgement. From my assumption the OP gets rejected very early... at the point of initial contact or after the first couple exchanged messages. This is brutal honesty.. as so many women have claimed to be giving to the OP without realising how demeaning theyre also being. So the honest fact here is... too many women tread on some genuine decent fun guys they would enjoy hooking up with if they didnt judge them so quickly and harshly. I understand women have a hard time here too.. harassment, abuse etc. etc. but it doesnt mean they are allowed to default to being reactive and demeaning to men who arent having much luck. Im sure the OP would find some women who didnt get turned off by his profile, or by him simply being himself.. its those women who are worth his time.. not the opinions of so many others would still say no to him no matter how his profile looks As for being bitter... youre making a false judgement on me there... im not bitter.. im simply realistic and honest.. pointing out facts that are well known in the realm of psychology. And, from that response.. it looks as though youve taken what ive said a little offensively. Not everyone on this site is right for the majority, therefore the opinions and 'advice' from the majority are sketchy to say the least. Take them with a pinch of salt.. but dont treat them like gospel" Isn't that the basis of all dating platforms though? Making quick snap judgements on people's pictures and profiles before getting to know them? If that's not the style of socialising you're after why not just stick to meeting people in real life? I'm not really sure what the issue is here... OP asked for advice on where he might be going wrong and people answered him. Yes some opinions may have been a bit harsh but that's par for the course with the forums. I'm sure everyone's intention here was to help him out and not make him feel bad. Yes he should be true to himself but at the same time there is nothing wrong with switching up his approach if it will make him more successful and he stays respectful and genuine throughout the process. You talk about women being demeaning to men but honestly I feel that you've been pretty demeaning to women with your sweeping generalisations. Just because you have had some bad experiences doesn't mean every woman on here is disrespectful and belittling. | |||
"The forum cliques are out again I see. I would meet you OP. Can't really say why you're not getting meets but I agree with the pics. Maybe just blur out your face instead. Unfortunately people can afford to be picky online. But keep trying don't lose faith. "There is absolutely nothing cliquey about this thread yes some people are a bit harsh but he asked for honesty. Why is it that people keep trying to be divisive it's just not necessary. | |||
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"Stuff a dress and a pair of badly fitted high heels on !! It works for me, I get LOADS of invites for a Fuck. X "   | |||
"The forum cliques are out again I see. I would meet you OP. Can't really say why you're not getting meets but I agree with the pics. Maybe just blur out your face instead. Unfortunately people can afford to be picky online. But keep trying don't lose faith.
There is absolutely nothing cliquey about this thread yes some people are a bit harsh but he asked for honesty. Why is it that people keep trying to be divisive it's just not necessary."To be honest, and i agree with you in the regards to the word “clique” but from my perspective and ive had debates on forums with this before, is that people see “27” “dick pic” “no face” “shit profile” and think inexperienced arrogant lad lad lad up for a shag. Which is fine, each to their own opinion, but i think definitely age, especially in regards to males on here, is a huge contributing factor depending in the amount of traffic your profile gets. For instance, females will write status’ such as “muscly, well endowed, tall needed for the weekend” so presumably your looking for someone between the ages of 30-45 really, more manly looking age than that of someone in their twenties. Yet nobody knows what i actually look like because my identity is hidden, but from a picture, a status, a profile and my age being visible, im “immature and young”. I may be explaining this very badly so apologies if so. But to counter-act my own argument, imagine if a male had something like “young, skinny, big titted blonde with tight pussy needed for the weekend” as their status, it would be rude arrogant and totally socially unacceptable in this current era and almost certainly not successful in achieving its audience. What im saying is, its either a male that fits the majority criteria or nothing really, a stroke of luck someone might stumble across your profile maybe. So i think females should definitely give quieter profiles or more discreet or even younger males a chance (if thats what you fancy if course). After all, age is nothing but a number, supposedly. | |||
"OP for the record I think you're a nice lad, just a bit misguided in your approach. You've been given some good advice on this thread; I'm sure if you act on some of it you'll get more interest "Thank you, thats very kind, appreciate it. And yeah ive already taken some tips! Maybe need to get more confident in-front a camera! | |||
"The forum cliques are out again I see. I would meet you OP. Can't really say why you're not getting meets but I agree with the pics. Maybe just blur out your face instead. Unfortunately people can afford to be picky online. But keep trying don't lose faith.
There is absolutely nothing cliquey about this thread yes some people are a bit harsh but he asked for honesty. Why is it that people keep trying to be divisive it's just not necessary.
To be honest, and i agree with you in the regards to the word “clique” but from my perspective and ive had debates on forums with this before, is that people see “27” “dick pic” “no face” “shit profile” and think inexperienced arrogant lad lad lad up for a shag. Which is fine, each to their own opinion, but i think definitely age, especially in regards to males on here, is a huge contributing factor depending in the amount of traffic your profile gets. For instance, females will write status’ such as “muscly, well endowed, tall needed for the weekend” so presumably your looking for someone between the ages of 30-45 really, more manly looking age than that of someone in their twenties. Yet nobody knows what i actually look like because my identity is hidden, but from a picture, a status, a profile and my age being visible, im “immature and young”. I may be explaining this very badly so apologies if so. But to counter-act my own argument, imagine if a male had something like “young, skinny, big titted blonde with tight pussy needed for the weekend” as their status, it would be rude arrogant and totally socially unacceptable in this current era and almost certainly not successful in achieving its audience.
What im saying is, its either a male that fits the majority criteria or nothing really, a stroke of luck someone might stumble across your profile maybe. So i think females should definitely give quieter profiles or more discreet or even younger males a chance (if thats what you fancy if course). After all, age is nothing but a number, supposedly."I do think you are right regarding the age thing. Lots of people you swing tend to be 35 plus Obviously there's a lot that are younger But I would say the optimal age on here is between 30 and 45. I actually think your profile is ok but as you have mentioned maybe a few more photos would help. The other thing to consider is who are you messaging and what are you messaging. I think a lot of people mistakenly think it's often a numbers game so the more messages they send the higher their chances. How ever in reality if you only message profiles you genuinely believe you are compatible with then you will still get rejection but you might find you get a better reaction. I hope that helps and also remember this is unprecedented times and people aren't meeting and have less patients generally so just try and stick with it. Good luck. | |||
"Isn't that the basis of all dating platforms though? Making quick snap judgements on people's pictures and profiles before getting to know them? If that's not the style of socialising you're after why not just stick to meeting people in real life? I'm not really sure what the issue is here... OP asked for advice on where he might be going wrong and people answered him. Yes some opinions may have been a bit harsh but that's par for the course with the forums. I'm sure everyone's intention here was to help him out and not make him feel bad. Yes he should be true to himself but at the same time there is nothing wrong with switching up his approach if it will make him more successful and he stays respectful and genuine throughout the process. You talk about women being demeaning to men but honestly I feel that you've been pretty demeaning to women with your sweeping generalisations. Just because you have had some bad experiences doesn't mean every woman on here is disrespectful and belittling. " Before dating sites and apps, when it came to dating.. ppl went on actual dates with ppl theyve met at a bar, through a friend, through work etc. And theyve gone on those dates by making judgements of that person through interactions, whether it was on a night out or over a period of time.. yes there will always be those snap judgements based on some guy coming on too hard and cocky, or even how they dress, no different to online dating. However, its become more prevalent to apply that strategy to nearly all men. I can guarantee you many women here have rejected or ignored men they would actually enjoy hooking up with, simply based on that snap decision.. thats damaging to mens mental health as they put their best out there and getting little to nothing in return.. simply for being themselves.. not every guy is a charismatic devil, not every guy knows how to sell themselves to stand above the rest.. doesnt mean theyre not worth your time. Just because this is how online dating goes these days doesnt make it right or healthy for society as a whole, and all genders As i said before.. the issue lies in some of the women here being demeaning to him for little things like having a cartoon face on his profile picture.. its just petty. Doesnt tell the whole story of what kind of guy he is. Some advice given has been useful.. but the replies that seem more belittling than actual advice is the point im trying to make.. cruel judgements based on how hes presented himself.. not as the person he really is if they bothered to get to know him first before deciding. And with that last paragraph.. shouldnt you consider how that is a projection from yours or anyone elses previous experiences? Not every guy knows how to sell themselves to the majority.. so not giving them even the slightest chance based on how they sell themselves is being judgemental.. whether you like it or not. Psychology is one thing thats always fascinated me and with a little research in the world of dating youll see that many women are, to put it bluntly, judgemental. Its clear as to why they are... being hounded by men who are genuine abusive assholes, users and sometimes very toxic. Its understandable to see why you have these processes to sort through the real men and the little boys, and cherry picking only 'the best'. However it doesnt justify using a hierarchy as a means to find potential hook ups. Getting to know a guy first and clicking with them is what should be more important than judging them based on how theyve presented themselves with a bio and profile picture. My own previous experiences have little to do with what im saying.. most of what ive said is based on psychological studies and what ive witnessed out in the world.. real life or online. Ive had rejections.. who hasnt? Ive had success.. unfortunately some havent.. i dont treat the majority of women like crap or belittle them cos i havent bedded every woman ive messaged. And its not belittling to say many women are judgemental.. its a fact.. simple as. A fact that is well known to many ppl who have studied human psychology, especially when it comes to dating. But you prove my point that someone will take offense to what ive said.. and youve turned what ive said round on me when you dont know me at all. I have a lot of respect for women, because of what women have had to put up with over the course of human history.. but it doesnt mean ill simp up just to please them despite seeing the mistakes or wrong doing they make too. Ill soeak that truth based on what ive observed around.. less so than on my own personal experiences If you actually got to know me which i highly doubt you will, youd see me in a far better light than you do now.. but whatever.. debates tire me cos they solve nothing. So im leaving it at that | |||
"Isn't that the basis of all dating platforms though? Making quick snap judgements on people's pictures and profiles before getting to know them? If that's not the style of socialising you're after why not just stick to meeting people in real life? I'm not really sure what the issue is here... OP asked for advice on where he might be going wrong and people answered him. Yes some opinions may have been a bit harsh but that's par for the course with the forums. I'm sure everyone's intention here was to help him out and not make him feel bad. Yes he should be true to himself but at the same time there is nothing wrong with switching up his approach if it will make him more successful and he stays respectful and genuine throughout the process. You talk about women being demeaning to men but honestly I feel that you've been pretty demeaning to women with your sweeping generalisations. Just because you have had some bad experiences doesn't mean every woman on here is disrespectful and belittling. Before dating sites and apps, when it came to dating.. ppl went on actual dates with ppl theyve met at a bar, through a friend, through work etc. And theyve gone on those dates by making judgements of that person through interactions, whether it was on a night out or over a period of time.. yes there will always be those snap judgements based on some guy coming on too hard and cocky, or even how they dress, no different to online dating. However, its become more prevalent to apply that strategy to nearly all men. I can guarantee you many women here have rejected or ignored men they would actually enjoy hooking up with, simply based on that snap decision.. thats damaging to mens mental health as they put their best out there and getting little to nothing in return.. simply for being themselves.. not every guy is a charismatic devil, not every guy knows how to sell themselves to stand above the rest.. doesnt mean theyre not worth your time. Just because this is how online dating goes these days doesnt make it right or healthy for society as a whole, and all genders As i said before.. the issue lies in some of the women here being demeaning to him for little things like having a cartoon face on his profile picture.. its just petty. Doesnt tell the whole story of what kind of guy he is. Some advice given has been useful.. but the replies that seem more belittling than actual advice is the point im trying to make.. cruel judgements based on how hes presented himself.. not as the person he really is if they bothered to get to know him first before deciding. And with that last paragraph.. shouldnt you consider how that is a projection from yours or anyone elses previous experiences? Not every guy knows how to sell themselves to the majority.. so not giving them even the slightest chance based on how they sell themselves is being judgemental.. whether you like it or not. Psychology is one thing thats always fascinated me and with a little research in the world of dating youll see that many women are, to put it bluntly, judgemental. Its clear as to why they are... being hounded by men who are genuine abusive assholes, users and sometimes very toxic. Its understandable to see why you have these processes to sort through the real men and the little boys, and cherry picking only 'the best'. However it doesnt justify using a hierarchy as a means to find potential hook ups. Getting to know a guy first and clicking with them is what should be more important than judging them based on how theyve presented themselves with a bio and profile picture. My own previous experiences have little to do with what im saying.. most of what ive said is based on psychological studies and what ive witnessed out in the world.. real life or online. Ive had rejections.. who hasnt? Ive had success.. unfortunately some havent.. i dont treat the majority of women like crap or belittle them cos i havent bedded every woman ive messaged. And its not belittling to say many women are judgemental.. its a fact.. simple as. A fact that is well known to many ppl who have studied human psychology, especially when it comes to dating. But you prove my point that someone will take offense to what ive said.. and youve turned what ive said round on me when you dont know me at all. I have a lot of respect for women, because of what women have had to put up with over the course of human history.. but it doesnt mean ill simp up just to please them despite seeing the mistakes or wrong doing they make too. Ill soeak that truth based on what ive observed around.. less so than on my own personal experiences If you actually got to know me which i highly doubt you will, youd see me in a far better light than you do now.. but whatever.. debates tire me cos they solve nothing. So im leaving it at that" But on sites like this, people rely on their pics and bios to attract There IS no " getting to know first before judgement" | |||
"Isn't that the basis of all dating platforms though? Making quick snap judgements on people's pictures and profiles before getting to know them? If that's not the style of socialising you're after why not just stick to meeting people in real life? I'm not really sure what the issue is here... OP asked for advice on where he might be going wrong and people answered him. Yes some opinions may have been a bit harsh but that's par for the course with the forums. I'm sure everyone's intention here was to help him out and not make him feel bad. Yes he should be true to himself but at the same time there is nothing wrong with switching up his approach if it will make him more successful and he stays respectful and genuine throughout the process. You talk about women being demeaning to men but honestly I feel that you've been pretty demeaning to women with your sweeping generalisations. Just because you have had some bad experiences doesn't mean every woman on here is disrespectful and belittling. Before dating sites and apps, when it came to dating.. ppl went on actual dates with ppl theyve met at a bar, through a friend, through work etc. And theyve gone on those dates by making judgements of that person through interactions, whether it was on a night out or over a period of time.. yes there will always be those snap judgements based on some guy coming on too hard and cocky, or even how they dress, no different to online dating. However, its become more prevalent to apply that strategy to nearly all men. I can guarantee you many women here have rejected or ignored men they would actually enjoy hooking up with, simply based on that snap decision.. thats damaging to mens mental health as they put their best out there and getting little to nothing in return.. simply for being themselves.. not every guy is a charismatic devil, not every guy knows how to sell themselves to stand above the rest.. doesnt mean theyre not worth your time. Just because this is how online dating goes these days doesnt make it right or healthy for society as a whole, and all genders As i said before.. the issue lies in some of the women here being demeaning to him for little things like having a cartoon face on his profile picture.. its just petty. Doesnt tell the whole story of what kind of guy he is. Some advice given has been useful.. but the replies that seem more belittling than actual advice is the point im trying to make.. cruel judgements based on how hes presented himself.. not as the person he really is if they bothered to get to know him first before deciding. And with that last paragraph.. shouldnt you consider how that is a projection from yours or anyone elses previous experiences? Not every guy knows how to sell themselves to the majority.. so not giving them even the slightest chance based on how they sell themselves is being judgemental.. whether you like it or not. Psychology is one thing thats always fascinated me and with a little research in the world of dating youll see that many women are, to put it bluntly, judgemental. Its clear as to why they are... being hounded by men who are genuine abusive assholes, users and sometimes very toxic. Its understandable to see why you have these processes to sort through the real men and the little boys, and cherry picking only 'the best'. However it doesnt justify using a hierarchy as a means to find potential hook ups. Getting to know a guy first and clicking with them is what should be more important than judging them based on how theyve presented themselves with a bio and profile picture. My own previous experiences have little to do with what im saying.. most of what ive said is based on psychological studies and what ive witnessed out in the world.. real life or online. Ive had rejections.. who hasnt? Ive had success.. unfortunately some havent.. i dont treat the majority of women like crap or belittle them cos i havent bedded every woman ive messaged. And its not belittling to say many women are judgemental.. its a fact.. simple as. A fact that is well known to many ppl who have studied human psychology, especially when it comes to dating. But you prove my point that someone will take offense to what ive said.. and youve turned what ive said round on me when you dont know me at all. I have a lot of respect for women, because of what women have had to put up with over the course of human history.. but it doesnt mean ill simp up just to please them despite seeing the mistakes or wrong doing they make too. Ill soeak that truth based on what ive observed around.. less so than on my own personal experiences If you actually got to know me which i highly doubt you will, youd see me in a far better light than you do now.. but whatever.. debates tire me cos they solve nothing. So im leaving it at that But on sites like this, people rely on their pics and bios to attract There IS no " getting to know first before judgement"" Oh, and when a guy msgs me at 2am, during a pandemic, knowing absolutely bugger all about me ( or even what I look like) asking me to come to his. When its blowing a gale outside And he doesnt even fit my preferences You betchya life I'm gonna judge on first impressions | |||
" If you actually got to know me which i highly doubt you will, youd see me in a far better light than you do now.. but whatever.. debates tire me cos they solve nothing. So im leaving it at that" What a load of nonsense. This is a swinging site, if based on your profile and looks a women or couple can see you dont have what they want to fulfil there sexual fantasy then why would they waste the time getting to know you? Also you have just written many many paragraphs letting everyone know exactly what you are like and i bet you are now on many peoples blocks list. These posts are really great for seeing inside a guys head and finding out who to block | |||
"Isn't that the basis of all dating platforms though? Making quick snap judgements on people's pictures and profiles before getting to know them? If that's not the style of socialising you're after why not just stick to meeting people in real life? I'm not really sure what the issue is here... OP asked for advice on where he might be going wrong and people answered him. Yes some opinions may have been a bit harsh but that's par for the course with the forums. I'm sure everyone's intention here was to help him out and not make him feel bad. Yes he should be true to himself but at the same time there is nothing wrong with switching up his approach if it will make him more successful and he stays respectful and genuine throughout the process. You talk about women being demeaning to men but honestly I feel that you've been pretty demeaning to women with your sweeping generalisations. Just because you have had some bad experiences doesn't mean every woman on here is disrespectful and belittling. Before dating sites and apps, when it came to dating.. ppl went on actual dates with ppl theyve met at a bar, through a friend, through work etc. And theyve gone on those dates by making judgements of that person through interactions, whether it was on a night out or over a period of time.. yes there will always be those snap judgements based on some guy coming on too hard and cocky, or even how they dress, no different to online dating. However, its become more prevalent to apply that strategy to nearly all men. I can guarantee you many women here have rejected or ignored men they would actually enjoy hooking up with, simply based on that snap decision.. thats damaging to mens mental health as they put their best out there and getting little to nothing in return.. simply for being themselves.. not every guy is a charismatic devil, not every guy knows how to sell themselves to stand above the rest.. doesnt mean theyre not worth your time. Just because this is how online dating goes these days doesnt make it right or healthy for society as a whole, and all genders As i said before.. the issue lies in some of the women here being demeaning to him for little things like having a cartoon face on his profile picture.. its just petty. Doesnt tell the whole story of what kind of guy he is. Some advice given has been useful.. but the replies that seem more belittling than actual advice is the point im trying to make.. cruel judgements based on how hes presented himself.. not as the person he really is if they bothered to get to know him first before deciding. And with that last paragraph.. shouldnt you consider how that is a projection from yours or anyone elses previous experiences? Not every guy knows how to sell themselves to the majority.. so not giving them even the slightest chance based on how they sell themselves is being judgemental.. whether you like it or not. Psychology is one thing thats always fascinated me and with a little research in the world of dating youll see that many women are, to put it bluntly, judgemental. Its clear as to why they are... being hounded by men who are genuine abusive assholes, users and sometimes very toxic. Its understandable to see why you have these processes to sort through the real men and the little boys, and cherry picking only 'the best'. However it doesnt justify using a hierarchy as a means to find potential hook ups. Getting to know a guy first and clicking with them is what should be more important than judging them based on how theyve presented themselves with a bio and profile picture. My own previous experiences have little to do with what im saying.. most of what ive said is based on psychological studies and what ive witnessed out in the world.. real life or online. Ive had rejections.. who hasnt? Ive had success.. unfortunately some havent.. i dont treat the majority of women like crap or belittle them cos i havent bedded every woman ive messaged. And its not belittling to say many women are judgemental.. its a fact.. simple as. A fact that is well known to many ppl who have studied human psychology, especially when it comes to dating. But you prove my point that someone will take offense to what ive said.. and youve turned what ive said round on me when you dont know me at all. I have a lot of respect for women, because of what women have had to put up with over the course of human history.. but it doesnt mean ill simp up just to please them despite seeing the mistakes or wrong doing they make too. Ill soeak that truth based on what ive observed around.. less so than on my own personal experiences If you actually got to know me which i highly doubt you will, youd see me in a far better light than you do now.. but whatever.. debates tire me cos they solve nothing. So im leaving it at that" 1) it's not up to you to decide how people use this platform. If there are men who find themselves suffering mentally it should be up to them to remove themselves and take a break instead of digging a deeper hole, for example by coming on the forums and chewing women out or putting up statuses calling us every name under the sun. Not a reflection on you or OP, just something I've seen a lot of men do. 2) I don't see why women should throw a bone to men they are not attracted to simply because it would make them feel bad to be rejected? If I don't want to hook up with someone based on their photos surely that should be my decision? It's not up to you to decide whether I'm being unfair; my body my rules. 3) I took offense to what you said because it was offensive. | |||
" But on sites like this, people rely on their pics and bios to attract There IS no " getting to know first before judgement" Oh, and when a guy msgs me at 2am, during a pandemic, knowing absolutely bugger all about me ( or even what I look like) asking me to come to his. When its blowing a gale outside And he doesnt even fit my preferences You betchya life I'm gonna judge on first impressions" Right?! Why - when given the choice between someone who's got crude photos of their genitals plastered all over their inbox, can't string two sentences together, is likely cheating on their partner, and doesn't match my preferences or someone who is good looking, articulate, respectful etc - would we be expected to go for the former, just to spare the feelings of men who don't know how to work the site? I select men on fab the exact same way I select them in life, and in life I certainly don't sleep with anybody who approaches me. I have no shame in admitting that my body and affection are hard-earned, and I have the right to be selective about who I give them to. | |||
" Right?! Why - when given the choice between someone who's got crude photos of their genitals plastered all over their inbox, can't string two sentences together, is likely cheating on their partner, and doesn't match my preferences or someone who is good looking, articulate, respectful etc - would we be expected to go for the former, just to spare the feelings of men who don't know how to work the site? I select men on fab the exact same way I select them in life, and in life I certainly don't sleep with anybody who approaches me. I have no shame in admitting that my body and affection are hard-earned, and I have the right to be selective about who I give them to. " | |||
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Well, you've had quite a lot of advice and accidently started a row If your profile accurately describes and sells you, don't change it. You'll eventually meet someone who is looking for you. If you want to appeal to more people, look through the tips in this thread and tweak what you're doing and saying. Get used to making the first contact, as a single guy you'll need to more often than not. Won't hurt to get a couple of cam verifications to show you're genuine when people do look. Good luck! | |||
" Well, you've had quite a lot of advice and accidently started a row If your profile accurately describes and sells you, don't change it. You'll eventually meet someone who is looking for you. If you want to appeal to more people, look through the tips in this thread and tweak what you're doing and saying. Get used to making the first contact, as a single guy you'll need to more often than not. Won't hurt to get a couple of cam verifications to show you're genuine when people do look. Good luck! "Good shout - I forgot all about cam veris! Very useful in the current climate | |||
"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " Under normal circumstances it can take time for men on here but right now its even harder you will need patience. | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it." Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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"I could understand if i was one of those guys that fabs everyone pictures and sends dick pics 24/7 after winking their profile multiple times a week. But im not! Any ideas anyone? " but you do seem to think swinger = I will fuck anybody that asks me. | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
E"No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice | |||
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"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice "I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
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"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice
I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
E"Love a sarcastic voice, really appreciate it! Thanks for the positive advice and for trying to make others laugh, it really helps a lot! While im here, im sure i haven’t said that i said that i was specifically going to say what i said. But thanks anyway for implying i was going to. I deleted the emoji face as your miserable self wasn't finding it humorous, funny nor attractive, and that was great advice! Ive deleted my bio, as speaking in first person offends so many, which is obviously a tragic way to live my life on my own personal page so fingers crossed i avoid people like yourself! That would be great! Anyway, its been great chatting and reading your comments, i hope this has also had a deep and meaningful affect on yourself as you demoralise others and try to publicly rip them a new arsehole! (I hope you sensed my “sarcastic font”) ((A font is a difference in calligraphy, not a difference in grammar or punctuation, for future reference)) | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice
I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
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Love a sarcastic voice, really appreciate it!
Thanks for the positive advice and for trying to make others laugh, it really helps a lot!
While im here, im sure i haven’t said that i said that i was specifically going to say what i said. But thanks anyway for implying i was going to. I deleted the emoji face as your miserable self wasn't finding it humorous, funny nor attractive, and that was great advice! Ive deleted my bio, as speaking in first person offends so many, which is obviously a tragic way to live my life on my own personal page so fingers crossed i avoid people like yourself! That would be great! Anyway, its been great chatting and reading your comments, i hope this has also had a deep and meaningful affect on yourself as you demoralise others and try to publicly rip them a new arsehole!
(I hope you sensed my “sarcastic font”)
((A font is a difference in calligraphy, not a difference in grammar or punctuation, for future reference))"That's made me chuckle, ta. You actually said you were going to change the text. You didn't. Now you've deleted it. You've said (yet again) you'll delete the emoji head. You haven't. Not sure why you've mentioned grammar and punctuation. No ones commented on it. As I keep saying, it's your profile, do what you like with it. You asked for advice, you got it. You got the same advice last time you asked several months ago. You took no notice then, it's only now when you've had a ribbing you've decided to delete the biog. Again, you don't have to take any notice of anyone's advice. But if you say thank you and that you'll change it, change it. Good luck with your new profile. I hope it gets you the success you seek. No sarcasm font engaged. E | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice
I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
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Love a sarcastic voice, really appreciate it!
Thanks for the positive advice and for trying to make others laugh, it really helps a lot!
While im here, im sure i haven’t said that i said that i was specifically going to say what i said. But thanks anyway for implying i was going to. I deleted the emoji face as your miserable self wasn't finding it humorous, funny nor attractive, and that was great advice! Ive deleted my bio, as speaking in first person offends so many, which is obviously a tragic way to live my life on my own personal page so fingers crossed i avoid people like yourself! That would be great! Anyway, its been great chatting and reading your comments, i hope this has also had a deep and meaningful affect on yourself as you demoralise others and try to publicly rip them a new arsehole!
(I hope you sensed my “sarcastic font”)
((A font is a difference in calligraphy, not a difference in grammar or punctuation, for future reference))
That's made me chuckle, ta.
You actually said you were going to change the text. You didn't. Now you've deleted it.
You've said (yet again) you'll delete the emoji head.
You haven't.
Not sure why you've mentioned grammar and punctuation. No ones commented on it.
As I keep saying, it's your profile, do what you like with it.
You asked for advice, you got it. You got the same advice last time you asked several months ago. You took no notice then, it's only now when you've had a ribbing you've decided to delete the biog.
Again, you don't have to take any notice of anyone's advice.
But if you say thank you and that you'll change it, change it.
Good luck with your new profile. I hope it gets you the success you seek.
No sarcasm font engaged.
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"Like i said, font is a style of calligraphy in lettering, not a change in grammar or punctuation to perceive sarcastic tones. Im not going to spell it out. Oh by deleted i meant removed from my profile picture, yeah im not gonna full on delete it, ive had multiple people who messaged me actually saying they like it and it was pretty modern fun and current. I have also changed my bio, by deleting it. I took the advice of if people want it they’ll come looking and patience is a virtue. Plus ive realised why play all my cards in my bio, kills the conversation from early on if everyone knows everything about me, like yours. Plus, when i asked several months ago, from the advice i updated the bio, but according to this thread its definitely not what people want to read, apparently. So why write anything at all. | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice
I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
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Love a sarcastic voice, really appreciate it!
Thanks for the positive advice and for trying to make others laugh, it really helps a lot!
While im here, im sure i haven’t said that i said that i was specifically going to say what i said. But thanks anyway for implying i was going to. I deleted the emoji face as your miserable self wasn't finding it humorous, funny nor attractive, and that was great advice! Ive deleted my bio, as speaking in first person offends so many, which is obviously a tragic way to live my life on my own personal page so fingers crossed i avoid people like yourself! That would be great! Anyway, its been great chatting and reading your comments, i hope this has also had a deep and meaningful affect on yourself as you demoralise others and try to publicly rip them a new arsehole!
(I hope you sensed my “sarcastic font”)
((A font is a difference in calligraphy, not a difference in grammar or punctuation, for future reference))
That's made me chuckle, ta.
You actually said you were going to change the text. You didn't. Now you've deleted it.
You've said (yet again) you'll delete the emoji head.
You haven't.
Not sure why you've mentioned grammar and punctuation. No ones commented on it.
As I keep saying, it's your profile, do what you like with it.
You asked for advice, you got it. You got the same advice last time you asked several months ago. You took no notice then, it's only now when you've had a ribbing you've decided to delete the biog.
Again, you don't have to take any notice of anyone's advice.
But if you say thank you and that you'll change it, change it.
Good luck with your new profile. I hope it gets you the success you seek.
No sarcasm font engaged.
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Like i said, font is a style of calligraphy in lettering, not a change in grammar or punctuation to perceive sarcastic tones. Im not going to spell it out.
Oh by deleted i meant removed from my profile picture, yeah im not gonna full on delete it, ive had multiple people who messaged me actually saying they like it and it was pretty modern fun and current. I have also changed my bio, by deleting it. I took the advice of if people want it they’ll come looking and patience is a virtue. Plus ive realised why play all my cards in my bio, kills the conversation from early on if everyone knows everything about me, like yours. Plus, when i asked several months ago, from the advice i updated the bio, but according to this thread its definitely not what people want to read, apparently. So why write anything at all.
"You can't please all the people all of the time. Neither should you try, or you lose the essence of you. Good luck. E | |||
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"I find the cartoon emoji face seriously off putting and as a whole your profile is a bit underwhelming and childish " Cool story. | |||
"I find the cartoon emoji face seriously off putting and as a whole your profile is a bit underwhelming and childish Cool story." And with responses like that I should imagine anyone not put off by your profile would be soon enough whilst messaging you. | |||
"Appreciate the replies. Dont appreciate the sarcasm, but we get people like that in life who instead of rather helping or advising, belittle others by impressing others. And apparently im the immature one. It seems the emoji head is a turn off so that will get deleted, its very hard to take self taken photos whilst not showing my identity due to work commitments and it not becoming a standard every mans body shot. I was once told to use my profile to explain more about me and my preferences rather than what i had originally. It seems that doesnt work either and you all think the word “I” is selfish and arrogant. So i’ll delete that also. Like i said, appreciate it. Well done for taking the advice that was offered, many don't and as I said earlier, you're not obliged to take any of it. Nice to see you've removed the emoji head pic and changed all the "I" sentences.
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No he hasn't? Emoji is back then and no write up at all. All this profile advice and time wasted to not even listen to advice
I know. I was using my sarcastic font.
Green arrow suggests he got the same advice when he asked several months ago. Didn't take it then, didn't take it this time.
Yes, he doesn't have to take advice.
But he specifically said he was going to. And yet.......
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"I find the cartoon emoji face seriously off putting and as a whole your profile is a bit underwhelming and childish Cool story. And with responses like that I should imagine anyone not put off by your profile would be soon enough whilst messaging you. " Obviously OP is just an attention seeker..asks for help & ignores advice given | |||
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"Whole profile is two lines, doesn’t invite us to ask more etc. " In fairness to the OP, it was quite a bit longer before. E | |||
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