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Advice for a first time MMF
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share  |
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You'll go through what they like, dislike . It's usually based on what she wants ( isn't everything). My 1st ever meet was a mmf. Straight in at the deep end. Once your clothes are off, your nerves will disapear. |
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Set rules before and choose at least 1 of the guys as someone you know you can trust. Make sure they know that they know that no means no and stop means stop. With someone you trust totally you can completely relax and just enjoy the experience. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Wait until covid is completely gone
Of course! Any advice though? "
Take your time. Talk lots and gain trust. Make sure you see a photo of the people you talk to
Meet socially first before going further. |
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I’ve enjoyed a few mmf and I’ve been lucky enough to pick the right guys.
If you’re only just starting out make sure one of them is someone you trust. I pick guys that are relaxed and not too cocky, don’t want to feel pushed or rushed into anything.
You say you like anal play (ie a finger or 2) but that’s not necessarily the same as anal sex. Suggest you try a few realistic sized dildos on yourself if you haven’t already.
Eat light day before so you can clean yourself. Get the right type of lube so it’ll work with condoms. Use protection for obviously reasons and also I love giving blow jobs but not if it’s been up there so nice and easy to take Condonm off and know it’s not dirty. Keep baby wipes close by and a bin. Also water, if it’s done right you’ll need to keep yourself hydrated.
Don’t use numbing lube as you won’t be able to tell if your not stretched enough to take it before your ready. I tend to pick average sized guys as not at a stage where I can take a large cock in my ass as easily as I’d like.
Have vaginal sex at least once before you try anal so your sphincter is more likely to be relaxed. Even better if you can get them to rim/finger you first.
Most importantly relax and have fun!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve enjoyed a few mmf and I’ve been lucky enough to pick the right guys.
If you’re only just starting out make sure one of them is someone you trust. I pick guys that are relaxed and not too cocky, don’t want to feel pushed or rushed into anything.
You say you like anal play (ie a finger or 2) but that’s not necessarily the same as anal sex. Suggest you try a few realistic sized dildos on yourself if you haven’t already.
Eat light day before so you can clean yourself. Get the right type of lube so it’ll work with condoms. Use protection for obviously reasons and also I love giving blow jobs but not if it’s been up there so nice and easy to take Condonm off and know it’s not dirty. Keep baby wipes close by and a bin. Also water, if it’s done right you’ll need to keep yourself hydrated.
Don’t use numbing lube as you won’t be able to tell if your not stretched enough to take it before your ready. I tend to pick average sized guys as not at a stage where I can take a large cock in my ass as easily as I’d like.
Have vaginal sex at least once before you try anal so your sphincter is more likely to be relaxed. Even better if you can get them to rim/finger you first.
Most importantly relax and have fun!! "
That’s great advice!! 
Wish I knew that years ago when I first started having mmf and more with my ex girlfriend...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat. Discuss. Be open. Agree.
Also fairly easy to leave someone out, unless it’s a cuck/voyeur thing.
Safe words. Traffic light system, vowels if gagged, taps if otherwise can’t talk and ‘spongebob’ for emergency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As well as knowing and trusting the guys you're meeting;make sure they're comfortable with being close to another naked male (or touching if you're going to try DP/DVP). If they aren't its going to be difficult evening; akin to trying to get a marshmallow in a money box |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
If you have any concerns about MMF try going to a club when they open again. There you will have the chance to test the water with various "extra" men without having to play with any of them. Then if it feels right you can take the leap. |
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Ask the guys what they like, how you can dress to please them? If they come up with stuff you’re ok with then do it. They’ll appreciate the effort you’ve made and will want to reciprocate.
Also consider how it’s going to run, are you going to devote yourself to them one at a time or do 3 way play from the start? If the latter, choose positions that are comfortable (eg cowgirl/spit roast) and make sure they share equally so no one feels left out/jealous.
Also don’t neglect foreplay and the build up, just as important for guys as they will probably be nervous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say choose a guy, get to know him, have faith and confidence in him. Your partner should also be comfortable with him then go for it once you're sure you're all on the same page. |
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Had this on my bucket list for years, but held off until i found 2 guys i both totally fancied and they already knew each other, so there were no awkward moments hoping everyone will get along. Glad I held off, because it was the best night ever!
So my advice would be to not rush this and take your time finding your perfect guys x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
Choosing the right man or woman that will make it a great experience.
When I was married we had some wonderful 3 somes which printed us to go further. |
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ive been lucky enough to have a few mmf over the years, mostly with married couples
All had a social meeting first, where we had a chat and got to know each other, and strangely sex was never mentioned just had a good drink and a laugh
It was a good way of breaking the ice so that when we met for the fun there were no nerves on either side and we were all relaxed with everything |
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
I have message me |
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"I'll be watching this thread with interest, when things are safe I'd also like to experience my first MFM. "
something you will always remember can still remember our first time another guy joined us
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Also consider your ground rules. Common ones are to do with kissing, anal, safe sex vs bareback. Also, where do you want the guys to cum? Face, tits, mouth, arse? My wife doesn’t like to be cummed on so the guys cum in the condom when they are fucking her.
Best to decide ahead of time and then communicate the rules as in the heat of the moment they can be ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communication is the key, make sure everyone knows the deal with what is going on and also making sure the men are actually comfortable performing in front of other men as a lot just aren’t as ok as they say they are.
It’s about having fun at the end of the, so the clearer things are the less you worry and the more fun you can have.
I love sharing a woman so I hope your first experience is exceptional! |
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"About 6 months ago I found out there is a difference between MFM & MMF but I am still going to ask just to make sure as it appears that some don’t know there is a difference "
This old chestnut again.
There is no difference whatsoever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"About 6 months ago I found out there is a difference between MFM & MMF but I am still going to ask just to make sure as it appears that some don’t know there is a difference
This old chestnut again.
There is no difference whatsoever."
There is no difference to me, just the way you type them, but some will argue semantics to seem “more educated” than you and that’s their issue. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Also consider your ground rules. Common ones are to do with kissing, anal, safe sex vs bareback. Also, where do you want the guys to cum? Face, tits, mouth, arse? My wife doesn’t like to be cummed on so the guys cum in the condom when they are fucking her.
Best to decide ahead of time and then communicate the rules as in the heat of the moment they can be ignored."
The best advice. Mmf are always great fun with good ground rules. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
If meeting a couple have some Cialis so you can get hard and keep repeating- we say this as lots of nervous first timers seem to struggle with hard ons |
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share
If meeting a couple have some Cialis so you can get hard and keep repeating- we say this as lots of nervous first timers seem to struggle with hard ons "
I think she wanted advice as a woman - I don’t suppose getting hard and repeating is something she needs to worry about.
OP, based on the one very disappointing MMF I’ve had, my advice would be pick the men carefully and be sure you’re comfortable with both of them. If possible, pick men who have experience of MMFs, and who are comfortable and able to perform with another man present. Know what you are and aren’t comfortable doing - for example, will you want DP or is anal off the table completely? If you don’t want anal make sure that’s known, as it might be assumed that DP is an option otherwise. And it might sound obvious, but make time for it, and make sure they do too. Mine was very rushed and over too fast. |
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share
If meeting a couple have some Cialis so you can get hard and keep repeating- we say this as lots of nervous first timers seem to struggle with hard ons
I think she wanted advice as a woman - I don’t suppose getting hard and repeating is something she needs to worry about.
OP, based on the one very disappointing MMF I’ve had, my advice would be pick the men carefully and be sure you’re comfortable with both of them. If possible, pick men who have experience of MMFs, and who are comfortable and able to perform with another man present. Know what you are and aren’t comfortable doing - for example, will you want DP or is anal off the table completely? If you don’t want anal make sure that’s known, as it might be assumed that DP is an option otherwise. And it might sound obvious, but make time for it, and make sure they do too. Mine was very rushed and over too fast."
Sound advice I think |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"About 6 months ago I found out there is a difference between MFM & MMF but I am still going to ask just to make sure as it appears that some don’t know there is a difference
This old chestnut again.
There is no difference whatsoever."
Mfm, guys are straight. Mmf guys are bi.
That’s my understanding anyway.
Not that I actually give a rats arse as I have enjoyed both |
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"About 6 months ago I found out there is a difference between MFM & MMF but I am still going to ask just to make sure as it appears that some don’t know there is a difference
This old chestnut again.
There is no difference whatsoever."
Do you aant to watch the guys having sex together? |
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well on a positive....I have had the experience and its great and yes we can see light at the end of the tunnel. so lets start getting back to our fun sexy saucy times again. we just booked to go back to the UK for some naughty bold fun with old friends....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
1.at least one of the guys you know well or fucked with before.this will stop them giing to rough with you and you getting hurt.
2.make sure they take their time as being to roughly arse fucked on your first go can be bloody painful.
3. Use a buttplug or dildo in your arse regular a few weeks prior to meeting them. So your arse will be well prepared to take their cocks.
4.make sure they make you orgasam loads of times before anally penetrating you. The orgasams will relax you more and less likely to seize up as they push in to your arse
5.get them to finger your arse as they lick your clit. Helps to loosen you up.
6.you decide how deep they penetrate your arse. Tell them to let you push back on the cock rather than them push it in to you.
7. Do not eat much day before. Learn how to douche out your arse with a douching bulb. Clean arse better for you all and you will relax more knowing there aint going to be a mess as they arse fuck you.
8.condoms.no glove=no love. You can catch hiv faster off anal sex thsn vaginal. Do not take risks ffs!!! John. |
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7. Do not eat much day before. Learn how to douche out your arse with a douching bulb. Clean arse better for you all and you will relax more knowing there aint going to be a mess as they arse fuck you.
8.condoms.no glove=no love. You can catch hiv faster off anal sex thsn vaginal. Do not take risks ffs!!! John. "
To add to the last point OP, if you do want anal (which you don’t have to if you’d rather not), don’t let anyone go from anal to vaginal without changing condoms for hygiene reasons.
I’m not sure about not eating much the day before. If you want anal, maybe only have a light breakfast beforehand (assuming a daytime meet), but I don’t think you need to go hungry the day before. It would spoil the experience if you feel faint or unwell because you’re hungry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With a vaccine in sight for COVID, can finally start to get excited again about trying my first MMF. I’m very open minded and will try most things once before making my mind up and do enjoy anal play.
I guess, what I’m trying to get at is, does anyone have any advice/things to keep in mind for a MMF and any experiences they’re willing to share "
I would love to find a couple to have a bi mmf, hopefully some point in 2021 |
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