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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have met couples in the past where on the big night it becomes clear that the main motivator is the bloke & his wife is at best a reluctant participant.
The result is a deeply unpleasant vibe!!
Therefor we would suggest that you always speak to the wife as well before agreeing to the meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have met couples in the past where on the big night it becomes clear that the main motivator is the bloke & his wife is at best a reluctant participant.
The result is a deeply unpleasant vibe!!
Therefor we would suggest that you always speak to the wife as well before agreeing to the meet."
TOTALLY agree with the last line - specially as you are a single fem. Make sure you KNOW the dynamics of the situation you are going in to and if you get the SLIGHTEST feeling all is not as it should be, pull out.
Are you meeting them at a club? Much safer......
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"We have met couples in the past where on the big night it becomes clear that the main motivator is the bloke & his wife is at best a reluctant participant.
The result is a deeply unpleasant vibe!!
Therefor we would suggest that you always speak to the wife as well before agreeing to the meet.
TOTALLY agree with the last line - specially as you are a single fem. Make sure you KNOW the dynamics of the situation you are going in to and if you get the SLIGHTEST feeling all is not as it should be, pull out.
Are you meeting them at a club? Much safer......
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Thanks guys. No, just a social for a chat and a drink. I rarely play on a first meet with anyone, let alone my first couple! Just spreading my swing wings......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit puzzled to why you would meet a couple considering you are listed as straight?"
LOL straight fems can want to meet a couple to play with the guy only, so both women are pleasing the guy and being pleased by the guy...
Alternatively, like all the "straight" guys on here she might be Bi or Curious...
Anywhom.. As other peeps have said, Ask about what their boundaries are, ask about what works for them and what they are hoping to get from the meet, ask to speak to the wife and make sure she is happy but also,, if the wife is doing the instigating, ask to speak to the husband because sometimes husbands can be dragged into it too (less common but still) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always ask why a couple seek a single female as it's not always clear on a profile, especially if a straight female is part of the equation. What do they want out of MFF? Is it all about the man getting two lots of attention or does the female of the couple fantasise about seeing her partner pleasing another woman? Make sure you know what you want out of the 3 some and ensure you make that clear - nothing worse than being a spectator if you're dying to join in but they just want you to watch! I'm sure you've sorted most of this out by now via mail but if not make sure you ask as some profiles need a mind reader to work out what's required...! Above all, have fun, relax and be yourself. Good luck, I hope it goes well for you all.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bit puzzled to why you would meet a couple considering you are listed as straight?"
because not very threesomes thats ffm means the girls have to get it on sometimes some thinking outside the box happens !!!!!!!!!! |
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"Bit puzzled to why you would meet a couple considering you are listed as straight?
because not very threesomes thats ffm means the girls have to get it on sometimes some thinking outside the box happens !!!!!!!!!!"
There you go. Excellent example of lateral thinking. |
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You've got the right outlook, I think, so it bodes well.
The first thing for me is that I only explore potential sexual liaisons with compatible people. If you meet socially, but find that you're not sexually right for each other, due to what they/you want to do etc, then meeting first off is a wasted aspect of life. Whilst little may be cast in stone, there are some things that aren't flexible for some people.
I would ensure that you have a good chat with both parties, so that you can gain an understanding from their individual perspectives. If you don't click with one, it may not work as you/they want. Also, ensure you've all seen a range of photos, so that you're aware of how you are physically - you could possibly do a cam chat, to break the ice a bit further too.
As you're clued up, then you'll not let any boundaries be crossed. Meet where you're comfortable, ensure boundaries understood, and that they know you're unlikely to play that day, even if you hit it off well etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bit puzzled to why you would meet a couple considering you are listed as straight?
because not very threesomes thats ffm means the girls have to get it on sometimes some thinking outside the box happens !!!!!!!!!!
There you go. Excellent example of lateral thinking. "
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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago
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We meet single girls for the some reason that my partner is very bi!
So we both get to have a lovely time and enjoy ourselves - and the lady joining us leaves in no doubt that all enjoyed not that she was there for my pleasure only.
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own."
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too. "
 So how did it go?
I sometimes interact with straight people too....! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too. "
So if youu have sexual contact you must be bi-curious. Why deny it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too.
So if youu have sexual contact you must be bi-curious. Why deny it?"
The way I see it, the lady did not start this thread for her to have her sexuality questioned by anyone.
She was asking for advice that is all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own."
Its odd that you think like that. You do not have to be BI to enjoy a FFM |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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speak to the woman on the phone before you even goto a socail, that way you will get a decent idea how they feel and if things dont seem 100% then you probs best looking for another couple, easy going and relaxed is probs what your looking for in decent swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too.
So if youu have sexual contact you must be bi-curious. Why deny it?
The way I see it, the lady did not start this thread for her to have her sexuality questioned by anyone.
She was asking for advice that is all "
Because some people think that everyone must live by their rules.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too.
So if youu have sexual contact you must be bi-curious. Why deny it?
The way I see it, the lady did not start this thread for her to have her sexuality questioned by anyone.
She was asking for advice that is all
Because some people think that everyone must live by their rules. "
Couldn't care less. But a very large proportion of the female halves of couples will normally play girl on girl in an ffm.
In fact can't recall the last time we saw a straight couples profile.
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I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems a little odd to me! Certainly never seen or had a ffm 3sum where the girls haven't interacted on some level.
Hohum each to their own.
So I would HAVE to be bi or bi-curious to interact with her? I find that odd too.
So if youu have sexual contact you must be bi-curious. Why deny it?
The way I see it, the lady did not start this thread for her to have her sexuality questioned by anyone.
She was asking for advice that is all
Because some people think that everyone must live by their rules.
Couldn't care less. But a very large proportion of the female halves of couples will normally play girl on girl in an ffm.
In fact can't recall the last time we saw a straight couples profile.
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We have one are we really as rare as rocking horse excrement? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go! "
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift. "
???????????? 
How is she acting like she's god's gift??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift. "
Ouch!!
OP just checked your pics and you're plain sexy to me 
Enjoy your meet , it sounds like youre going about it the right way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.
????????????
How is she acting like she's god's gift???"
I'll second that question |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift. "
Why? because she is straight and wants a straight MFF?
Not everyone is bi, and yes, you have now seen another straight couple, ie us. If we decided to have a MFF it would be a straight one too, just like our MFM are straight.
Either way, there is no need to be rude just because the woman isn't playing the way you think she should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.
Why? because she is straight and wants a straight MFF?
Not everyone is bi, and yes, you have now seen another straight couple, ie us. If we decided to have a MFF it would be a straight one too, just like our MFM are straight.
Either way, there is no need to be rude just because the woman isn't playing the way you think she should be."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not to be perdantic but in regards to the post of the wife is a reluctant participant we are a couple and MrsP very much the instigator in our meets  "
As it is with most couples.
Maybe next time I will suggest to Mrs D that we meet a straight girl and she can just sit and watch us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.
Why? because she is straight and wants a straight MFF?
Not everyone is bi, and yes, you have now seen another straight couple, ie us. If we decided to have a MFF it would be a straight one too, just like our MFM are straight.
Either way, there is no need to be rude just because the woman isn't playing the way you think she should be."
Says a straight couple who only meet men. Sort of proves my point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.
Why? because she is straight and wants a straight MFF?
Not everyone is bi, and yes, you have now seen another straight couple, ie us. If we decided to have a MFF it would be a straight one too, just like our MFM are straight.
Either way, there is no need to be rude just because the woman isn't playing the way you think she should be.
Says a straight couple who only meet men. Sort of proves my point."
How does that prove your point in any way shape or form? Its absolutely possible fo a couple to meet a singel fem and for her to only play with the guy. In the same way that a straight couple can meet a single guy and for him and the husband to play with the wife only and not each other.
I couldn't fathom your original point and I still can't see any logic in what you're say.
Of course its completely possible for straight couples to play with singles and for them not to be bi!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm quite pleased you don't really care. Sad you felt you had to pass judgement though when all I was asking was a very simple question.
So, we are all meeting very soon, we have chatted lots about expectations and boundaries and we are good to go!
Its a forum for posting comments on. Yet another plain single woman laughably acting as though they are Gods gift.
Why? because she is straight and wants a straight MFF?
Not everyone is bi, and yes, you have now seen another straight couple, ie us. If we decided to have a MFF it would be a straight one too, just like our MFM are straight.
Either way, there is no need to be rude just because the woman isn't playing the way you think she should be.
Says a straight couple who only meet men. Sort of proves my point.
How does that prove your point in any way shape or form? Its absolutely possible fo a couple to meet a singel fem and for her to only play with the guy. In the same way that a straight couple can meet a single guy and for him and the husband to play with the wife only and not each other.
I couldn't fathom your original point and I still can't see any logic in what you're say.
Of course its completely possible for straight couples to play with singles and for them not to be bi!
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I think what they are trying to say is... if a couple meets with a single, BOTH of the couple has to play with the single person too.
So the female of the couple has to be bi and play with the single woman... and the male of the couple has to be bi and play with the single man or tv/ts.
The 'straight' option should never be used for anyone with a couple profile as they are both always bi.
That's the way I understand what they have said....
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Well I'm a single female who will play with a woman in mff meets but have also had mff where both of us women just played with the man and didn't touch each other sexually. I enjoyed both.
I just don't understand why people can't just answer the questions asked without the snide comments and judgements. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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Says a straight couple who only meet men. Sort of proves my point.
Which is?
That you have a straight female and that you only meet men.
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I am a bit confused, so will come back to this once I re read the thread |
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