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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been on here for over 10 years and had a few different profiles in that time however I am here wanting advice because in those 10 years I haven't met anyone and spoke to very little. I know that makes me the unluckiest swinger in the world please some help and advice to hopefully have a conversation if nothing else? |
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You first came on here as a teenager which is probably on the young side for a lot of people and you may have been blocked without knowing. You say you can travel by public transport so would change that to can travel otherwise people might think you aren't looking to meet.
I know we are older but what does hmu mean?
Definitely would advise getting to events when circumstances allow.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you only get out what you put in, like everything in life, just because you joined the site doesnt mean anything, go to socials, clubs etc, get known in your local area in the swinging comunity,put some effort in, its not going to come to you |
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"Hmu is hit me up. And yea I was on here young tbh I do want to go to clubs I'm just worried id get there and just be left alone lol "
If you go to clubs and expect people to approach you, you probably will be left alone. If on the other hand you just wander about and chat with people yourself then you will have a fun night. Talk to everyone and anyone, not just people you think you fancy. Also talk about fun stuff, not just sex.
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"Hmu is hit me up. And yea I was on here young tbh I do want to go to clubs I'm just worried id get there and just be left alone lol "
Maybe go to a club and try and mingle Maybe a polite "hello how are you at the bar. |
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"Hmu is hit me up. And yea I was on here young tbh I do want to go to clubs I'm just worried id get there and just be left alone lol
If you go to clubs and expect people to approach you, you probably will be left alone. If on the other hand you just wander about and chat with people yourself then you will have a fun night. Talk to everyone and anyone, not just people you think you fancy. Also talk about fun stuff, not just sex.
Cal"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest"
I appreciate honesty I'll admit I barely even look in a mirror at myself so pics arnt my forte lol any advice would be greatly appreciated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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looks like a decent enough profile. seen worse.. tho im a male of couple so what do i know lol the beard looks well kept so maybe try and join with a beard thread. also a thread bemoaning no messages might put ladies off. my C loves a well trimmed beard.. i don't like using trimmers or product so I either have stubble or getting on bushy
she does like a beard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest I appreciate honesty I'll admit I barely even look in a mirror at myself so pics arnt my forte lol any advice would be greatly appreciated "
get rid of the dick pic for a start |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest I appreciate honesty I'll admit I barely even look in a mirror at myself so pics arnt my forte lol any advice would be greatly appreciated
get rid of the dick pic for a start"
Changed to friends only any other tips? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've been here 10 years and not met anyone at all?
Are you shy when you're out on the town etc. "
Not at all quite the opposite tbh I've met loads of people on badoo tinder pof but on here not even a message back |
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over a year ago
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest
Agree that this is normally the case.
Are you attached OP?"
No I'm not attached but I basically ended up unfortunately moving back with parents I was an alcoholic for 4 years then lockdown hit I just lost everything I'm no longer drinking though and I'm 100% better in myself |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Fab is just a tool in your swinging toolbox, if you're relying on this to bring it in everything you would like from the swinging lifestyle then I feel your expectations may be misalign. You need to get out there, even if it is difficult for you and meet people in real life at clubs, events, parties and socials |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are your old fashioned views ?
Girls shouldn’t ask penetration questions.
Opps"
Definitely not that I'm an open book can ask me anything I'll answer it |
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest
Agree that this is normally the case.
Are you attached OP?
No I'm not attached but I basically ended up unfortunately moving back with parents I was an alcoholic for 4 years then lockdown hit I just lost everything I'm no longer drinking though and I'm 100% better in myself "
OP. It takes a lot of guts both to find yourself again, and to admit it.
We wish you well on your continuing journey. |
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest
Agree that this is normally the case.
Are you attached OP?
No I'm not attached but I basically ended up unfortunately moving back with parents I was an alcoholic for 4 years then lockdown hit I just lost everything I'm no longer drinking though and I'm 100% better in myself
OP. It takes a lot of guts both to find yourself again, and to admit it.
We wish you well on your continuing journey."
Thank you I appreciate that I'm very open and don't shy away from much lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"plus you cant accom, to us that means you are married, and your pics dont do you any favours, not having a go, just being honest
Agree that this is normally the case.
Are you attached OP?
No I'm not attached but I basically ended up unfortunately moving back with parents I was an alcoholic for 4 years then lockdown hit I just lost everything I'm no longer drinking though and I'm 100% better in myself
OP. It takes a lot of guts both to find yourself again, and to admit it.
We wish you well on your continuing journey."
Thank you I appreciate that I'm very open and don't shy away from much lol |
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