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By *ddon OP Man
over a year ago
manchester |
Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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Id say....chop off your bollocks....bad idea!!  |
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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Does the wife know you're on here tho ? If not , just use the same bollocks that you joined on here with to broach the subject with her  .... Hope this helps |
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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago
Hiding in the Barnes |
"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
Does the wife know you're on here tho ? If not , just use the same bollocks that you joined on here with to broach the subject with her .... Hope this helps "
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By *ddon OP Man
over a year ago
manchester |
A lot. Don't want her thinking she not good enough that's why I want to do it cos that's not my reasoning. Think I'll stick to the swinging catagory on pornhub and never mention it again ?? |
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over a year ago
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"A lot. Don't want her thinking she not good enough that's why I want to do it cos that's not my reasoning. Think I'll stick to the swinging catagory on pornhub and never mention it again ??"
So are you staying on this site and looking for yourself? |
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We have a situation where Aurelia is shy about getting involved in the organisational side of things, she just says to me set it up and she'll go along.
All of our 3 experiences so far have happened by chance other than club visits.
As it happens I have never tried to set anything up as there will always be an element of suspicion (quite rightly too) and I'd rather do without that. |
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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You think she would take it the wrong way if you actually talked to her but would accept it if you set her up? Also I don't know if any couples who would get involved in this.  |
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
You think she would take it the wrong way if you actually talked to her but would accept it if you set her up? Also I don't know if any couples who would get involved in this. "
I know we wouldn't.
Ita a complete betrayal of trust.
Either talk to her and find out her thoughts about it or completely forget the idea.
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I would say try watching a film with a swinging theme, not porn, and gauge her reaction. Maybe with a bottle of wine.
If nothing else it might provoke a conversation and you'll soon see what she thinks about it.
I knew my first wife would never be into it in a month of Sundays from watching such a film with Martin Clunes in I think.
It took me about four years to bring up the idea of going to a club with Aurelia and she was open to the idea on the basis that we could leave if she didn't like it.
We haven't looked back since although have only a few experiences. |
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Yeah mate, she would absolutely love it! seeing her husband randomly get down to it with undercover couple. She will be so turned on watching you, she would have her kit off In no time and thanking you for the rest of her life for betraying any trust she may have in you in such a deplorable way.! Whoop whoop What's not to love!
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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But interestingly enough your advertised as a single guy……hhhhhmmmmm |
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"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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Ever heard the term Sexual Abuse?
Keys words here: "she'd take it the wrong way" and "set it up behind her back."
Think again. Very carefully.
Bad idea.
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I’ll set the scene.
Candles, bottle of wine on the bedside cabinet and Marvin Gaye softly playing in the background.
“Yes dear I know you’re body conscious and have expressed no interest in opening our marriage to others nor have I broached the subject with you”
“What’s that you say?”
“Oh that’s Debbie”
“Yes my penis is in her mouth”
“Run along now and get ready as her husband will be out of the bathroom in a moment” |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"A lot. Don't want her thinking she not good enough that's why I want to do it cos that's not my reasoning. Think I'll stick to the swinging catagory on pornhub and never mention it again ??"
If she finds you're on here, she'll definitely doubt herself op and think she wasn't good enough.
Leave the idea you suggested and come off here, if she doesn't know you're on fab, then concentrate on her and your marriage
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
East Northamptonshire |
Have you ever heard of the concept of consent?
This is potential route to disaster, unless you are consciously trying to set up a split up scenario.
How do you think you would feel if your wife tried to force you into some scenario without your consent?
If you want something like this to happen, and think she might have even a tiny bit of interest, then you would be better encouraging her own self confidence and having an honest adult chat about both your situation, needs and fantasies. |
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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago
Stowmarket |
"Not had the bollocks to ask my wife to swap or even involve anyone else in the bedroom but I'd love to try it. My wife is very body and self conscious and think she would take it the wrong way. My plan/fantasy is to set a meet up behind her back crack on with undercover couple and let them lead the way hoping my wife jumps on the bandwagon. Any advice tips offers let me know. Good idea bad idea???
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I can only see one outcome here, and it's not a good one, talk to here, going behind her back is not on, what would you do if the roles were reversed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why can't you just be open with her OP... As in say or suggest that you'd like an open relationship to swing. You're only 30 & I'd assume she'd be open minded. |
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