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how do you get started meeting people no luck so far ????
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Having a profile photo helps grab someone’s attention.
Your profile text makes you sound desperate to meet just anyone, to get your first meet in, which won’t appeal to any woman.
You’re 41, do you really want to meet an 18 year old, or a 99 year old? Again, that age range makes you sound desperate.
Chill, don’t be in a rush, women don’t like pushy men  |
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I believe there is a wrong perception of the site. One fact most single men fail to grasp is; Fabswingers is not an instant shag facilitator.
On the contrary, as there are 1000s of men per couples and single females you need to stand out, develop your network and fully reduce your expectations. Myself used to recommend going to clubs and socials but I am not sure if it is the correct advice anymore. If you are not sociable, charming and confident the chances of succeding are small. The task in the swinging scene is much harder, than when you are on a pub or nightclub and approach a woman only.
In a swing club or the site you need to talk to a couple, yes couples single females are a rare pleasant occurence, and show connection and compatibility to take things further. My point is if you always had difficulties to liaise and connect to people, unfortunately is unlikely you are going to embrace the lifestyle.
Anyway, good luck OP. |
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Men struggle more than others here generally. This has been standard for years and is due to several things, including the huge volumes of men compared disproportionately to the rest of us. The 1 key thing to change, that you have 100% control over, is creating realistic expectations for yourself.
According to the many posts from men each week and the guidance given to them, they can positively influence their results here, if they give others what they want.  . This means stepping in to their shoes and appreciating what they'd need to be able to understand that you may be more suitable than the tens or hundreds of others who are messaging. Most of us look at profiles when we get messages. The forum advice is to invest effort in making sure that that gives them what they expect and need. Most want to know if they might enjoy physical contact with the bloke, or have zero interest. Plus what the bloke is all about and why he's any better than others.
Search out and truly ponder on the advice that others give in those posts. And decide if it's for you to make those changes and stick with it, without any guarantees. |
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As others have said your profile is the place to sell yourself and at the moment yours isn't doing that
The picture you've got, make it as your profile pic
Add more txt in your bio, what are you into, what you are looking for, what can you offer someone that the thousand other guys can't etc |
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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago
kirkcaldy |
"As others have said your profile is the place to sell yourself and at the moment yours isn't doing that
The picture you've got, make it as your profile pic
Add more txt in your bio, what are you into, what you are looking for, what can you offer someone that the thousand other guys can't etc "
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A simple equation: Effort in = a good result.
Your profile is your shop window is is the first thing that people will look at and I promise you that those people will make an instant decision based on what they see.
Currently your profile is barely written, and is more of a whinge than anything else. Consider whether your profile is really showing the best of you, it it is then fine, carry on doing what you are doing. If not, then change it. Add pics, actually write something, change the defaults etc. Sorry to say it but your current profile is not going to stand out at all, and will not tempt people to find out more.
Good luck |
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Blank profile pic.
Profile text says nothing about you.
Profile text is complaining you can't get a meet when you've clearly failed to address the 2 points above.
There are guys on here that put effort in. Have pics and words that describe who they are and what they are looking and what they can offer.
Ask yourself this...what makes my profile stand out against the others? Currently your answer should be nothing! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Add a profile pic op, most won't reply to a shadow.
Also fill in your profile, moaning about not getting meets won't help you stand out.
What can you offer? Why should someone choose you?
Not being able to accom may also affect getting meets
You get out of fab what you put in, so a good profile goes a long way here. |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
No profile pic, nothing about who you are or what you can offer, moaning on your profile about not getting a meet....people are here for fun.... Hardly going to get in touch with a guy with such a negative profile. But the fact is you had to ask what was wrong, so the profile probably reflects who you are, so not much will change I am afraid. |
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