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over a year ago
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Its usually clear way before actually meeting in person. We always swap lots of photos before hand and have some good chats. We've never turned up and got anything different from what we was expecting, and we've never been turned away
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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago
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Depends if it’s photos or face to face. Photos can sometimes misrepresent someone so if there a chance of fancying them in person then we’ll do a social. Socials can bring out personalities which can be attractive.
If still no attraction after a social then we won’t play. We don’t take one for the team. |
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Via messages I would say it's quite easy you just politely say your not interested
How you do that in a club situation when the other couple are sat in front of you and you & your partner don't have time to chat privately is something even after 4yrs my husband and I have not perfected & would love advice on myself |
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over a year ago
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Depends when this comes to light. Pre-meet, we won’t meet. During a meet, we won’t take things further. During play, if someone or something doesn’t feel right then we will stop play and communicate our concerns, the chance of it getting this far without noticing something is wrong is very rare. |
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Neither of us would take, or expect the other to ‘take one for the team’…
We often find that there can be a three way attraction but unless all four of us agree it goes no further.
It just proves that the couples we’ve bonded with over time are extra special.
Occasionally, we might play alone if the other couple are well known to us and we were all in agreement. |
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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago
Somerset |
Neither of us would ever expect anyone, on any side of the group, to take one for team, and Tog wouldn’t physically be able to rise to the occasion if there was no connection or attraction, sometimes for no apparent reason that final spark just isn’t there. |
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"What tends to happen, when one person out of the 4 isn’t fancied when a potential foursome is on the cards ? "
Never have that problem as it's only me playing, with Bry joining in with the occasional bi guy.
Char
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"Via messages I would say it's quite easy you just politely say your not interested
How you do that in a club situation when the other couple are sat in front of you and you & your partner don't have time to chat privately is something even after 4yrs my husband and I have not perfected & would love advice on myself "
@BoobyHotwife. A partner and I came up with a technique to discretely squeeze the others' little finger to signal that one of us was not comfortable with something. Made our excuses and had a quick chat about things ASAP. Worked for us. |
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"Depends when this comes to light. Pre-meet, we won’t meet. During a meet, we won’t take things further. During play, if someone or something doesn’t feel right then we will stop play and communicate our concerns, the chance of it getting this far without noticing something is wrong is very rare. "
Absolutely this! |
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"Neither of us would take, or expect the other to ‘take one for the team’…
We often find that there can be a three way attraction but unless all four of us agree it goes no further.
It just proves that the couples we’ve bonded with over time are extra special.
Occasionally, we might play alone if the other couple are well known to us and we were all in agreement. "
Double absolutely this!  |
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"If one of us isn't keen we 'd pull out. We'd also prefer the other couple did the same if both weren't feeling it. We wouldn't one of them to do things just for their partner."
Triple absolutely this!!! |
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"Via messages I would say it's quite easy you just politely say your not interested
How you do that in a club situation when the other couple are sat in front of you and you & your partner don't have time to chat privately is something even after 4yrs my husband and I have not perfected & would love advice on myself
@BoobyHotwife. A partner and I came up with a technique to discretely squeeze the others' little finger to signal that one of us was not comfortable with something. Made our excuses and had a quick chat about things ASAP. Worked for us."
That's a good idea, we've tried things like maybe later we are just going to grab a drink or go gir a wander & they always say great idea we'll join you, a squeeze of the finger is perfect as no one would know.
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Finding that illusive 4 way connection is very hit and miss. When it's right its right, when it's not it's not. 3somes definitely easier. Expectations and realities on the scene can be very different. The main thing is just to enjoy each other and have no pressure to involve others. |
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"What tends to happen, when one person out of the 4 isn’t fancied when a potential foursome is on the cards ? "
With us, the foursome doesn't happen. If the lack of attraction is to one of us from their side, we'd hope they would apply the same logic. Nobody wants to be the spare part in that scenario. |
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