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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After dabbling with a few couples on the scene we’ve decided to try to find a female to join us. So far not much luck on fab but are considering looking in clubs & maybe gay bars. Will this work? I know they’re called unicorns for a reason but it seems difficult to find a girl we like! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What function would the female be used for? Perhaps state this on your profile so she understands.
Clubs are your best bet as you can chat in person. Good luck. |
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Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
(Char)"
No, just with F |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
(Char)
No, just with F "
Playing what exactly?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
(Char)
No, just with F "
Your profile says she's straight though. If she genuinely wants to find a woman to play with, I'd suggest changing it to curious. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clubs and organised socials are your best bet, we have found that beening open, warm and letting them come to you, normaly it dose take time for them to trust people "
Thanks! We find club nights don’t have a vast array of single females… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
(Char)
No, just with F
Your profile says she's straight though. If she genuinely wants to find a woman to play with, I'd suggest changing it to curious. "
Will do, thanks for the suggestion! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only speak for myself, but I have to say that the presence of loads of “rules” would put me off straight away.
Also like previous posters have stated, your profile still makes no mention of female play with females or bi curiosity which is also off putting.
In the nicest way, there’s no point being an “askhole”  |
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"After dabbling with a few couples on the scene we’ve decided to try to find a female to join us. So far not much luck on fab but are considering looking in clubs & maybe gay bars. Will this work? I know they’re called unicorns for a reason but it seems difficult to find a girl we like!"
I sure can relate to the feeling - it was so difficult to find a couple I liked that I decided not to bother any more! |
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"Your profile says you're both straight, so would the unicorn only be playing with the male half?
Only asking as although I'm half of a couple, to all intents and purposes I can play as a unicorn.
(Char)"
Hmm unicorn you say Char
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I'd quite like to find a couple on fab, but I think the issues in finding a couple or a couple finding a single lady are the amount of rules and quite often the way single women are made to feel part of an experiment.
A lot of the time it feels like the female half fancies a dabble, and the male half wants a live sex show.
You can't comment on your profile as it's hidden hidden, but I think the key to finding a single female is making the proposition attractive  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd quite like to find a couple on fab, but I think the issues in finding a couple or a couple finding a single lady are the amount of rules and quite often the way single women are made to feel part of an experiment.
A lot of the time it feels like the female half fancies a dabble, and the male half wants a live sex show.
You can't comment on your profile as it's hidden hidden, but I think the key to finding a single female is making the proposition attractive "
 So this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female. "
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good."
Yup. I’m not there to ‘entertain’. Unfortunately my experience of clubs is also v like this. “Oooooh suck my nipple while I see who is watching”. Not for me. Go big or go home! |
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Women who play with couples are not sex toys or props, and it's not all about fulfilling a ne-sided fantasy.
Straight women putting on a show for their man is off putting. A woman who wants to play with another women, but will only do certain things (but expects the unicorn to do everything) is off-putting.
And, as a unicorn, I want to play with both parties in a couple, not just one. So playing with the female half only, and male half being a voyeur only wouldn't be for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good."
Who’s saying that’s our dynamic? Thanks for the judgemental comments |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Women who play with couples are not sex toys or props, and it's not all about fulfilling a ne-sided fantasy.
Straight women putting on a show for their man is off putting. A woman who wants to play with another women, but will only do certain things (but expects the unicorn to do everything) is off-putting.
And, as a unicorn, I want to play with both parties in a couple, not just one. So playing with the female half only, and male half being a voyeur only wouldn't be for me. "
that’s a relief! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are having the very same issue , it seems unicorns are extinct. We Would love some advice on how to get her attention. Would love some advice.
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This feels like a circular conversation. Your questions have been answered but you’re still asking it? |
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"Women who play with couples are not sex toys or props, and it's not all about fulfilling a ne-sided fantasy.
Straight women putting on a show for their man is off putting. A woman who wants to play with another women, but will only do certain things (but expects the unicorn to do everything) is off-putting.
And, as a unicorn, I want to play with both parties in a couple, not just one. So playing with the female half only, and male half being a voyeur only wouldn't be for me. "
I guess that may happen in some situations but for us G is very much fully bi and enjoys me fucking other women so a unicorn for us would be playing with us both
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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Think people have to be a bit realistic here. Finding a woman who wants to play with a couple and who feels safe and comfortable doing so, then establishing a three way attraction, then clearing the hurdles of geography and schedules so a meet can actually happen was always difficult.
Doing all that during a global pandemic is naturally going to prove even more challenging! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good.
Who’s saying that’s our dynamic? Thanks for the judgemental comments"
If you feel the comment is about you that's ok. Perhaps have a think about why you feel that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think people have to be a bit realistic here. Finding a woman who wants to play with a couple and who feels safe and comfortable doing so, then establishing a three way attraction, then clearing the hurdles of geography and schedules so a meet can actually happen was always difficult.
Doing all that during a global pandemic is naturally going to prove even more challenging!"
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"A lady has to find both members of a couple attractive in order to play, from experience this is just as difficult to find  "
Yes - a genuine three way attraction is difficult to find from whichever direction you are looking. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
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I’m a unicorn. I won’t play with couples where she doesn’t already know she’s attracted to women, I can’t be doing with a man sat in the corner of the room like an awkward voyeuristic elephant, and in particular I don’t do putting on a show for him.
Also, I’m not single. I play solo. There’s a difference, and most couples are at best disrespectful, and more often downright rude about my partners. They may choose not to play solo, but that doesn’t make their relationship better than mine, just different. Can’t be doing with judgemental bollocks like that.
Most importantly? I need a bit of banter. My golden rule is “if they don’t make you laugh, don’t fuck them” and a lot of couples ask for meets too early. Time spent on a social is time I could be spending with someone I already know I like. Put the work in, please. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"For me I would want to play with both…but like others have said with couples it can get so complicated with their rules and needs and leave you feeling a little used…but not in good way. "
It doesn’t have to be complicated, but any good meet usually comes from good communication. That’s not about setting out lists of rules, but being fully open and honest between the three potential play partners about want they want and enjoy.
It’s simple really…honesty makes for great meets!  |
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We tend to let single women find us. If they like what they see they will message. And it works for us. We recently had an amazing night out out with a single lady that led to us all going to a hotel for 3 way fun all round. No rules just sexy fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a unicorn. I won’t play with couples where she doesn’t already know she’s attracted to women, I can’t be doing with a man sat in the corner of the room like an awkward voyeuristic elephant, and in particular I don’t do putting on a show for him.
Also, I’m not single. I play solo. There’s a difference, and most couples are at best disrespectful, and more often downright rude about my partners. They may choose not to play solo, but that doesn’t make their relationship better than mine, just different. Can’t be doing with judgemental bollocks like that.
Most importantly? I need a bit of banter. My golden rule is “if they don’t make you laugh, don’t fuck them” and a lot of couples ask for meets too early. Time spent on a social is time I could be spending with someone I already know I like. Put the work in, please. "
This sums it up so well! Think if couples hired an escort and it was all on their terms they would be far happier. So many aren't flexible enough and then expect ladies to be flexible for them.
I'm here for myself ultimately so if I'm not that fussed it won't happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good.
Who’s saying that’s our dynamic? Thanks for the judgemental comments
If you feel the comment is about you that's ok. Perhaps have a think about why you feel that way. "
Exactly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good.
Who’s saying that’s our dynamic? Thanks for the judgemental comments
If you feel the comment is about you that's ok. Perhaps have a think about why you feel that way. "
We’re the OP of this post so it’s safe to assume it’s aimed at us. Also, a little off topic & it doesn’t really answer our questions. If you’re gonna be negative, please take it elsewhere, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me I would want to play with both…but like others have said with couples it can get so complicated with their rules and needs and leave you feeling a little used…but not in good way.
It doesn’t have to be complicated, but any good meet usually comes from good communication. That’s not about setting out lists of rules, but being fully open and honest between the three potential play partners about want they want and enjoy.
It’s simple really…honesty makes for great meets! "
I totally agree! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've been lucky enough to play with quite a few ladies. All gorgeous in different ways and happy to say still good freinds with the majority them x"
We can see by your verifications! You give us hope. Any tips? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've been lucky enough to play with quite a few ladies. All gorgeous in different ways and happy to say still good freinds with the majority them x
We can see by your verifications! You give us hope. Any tips?"
No fixed rules with us , but like to chat a bit before and get to know the lady. Usually have a social before play. Have played on first meet a few times as the conversation usually ends up getting a bit steamy as obviously we are all attracted to each other else none of us would be there.
Not just the sex with us though , we have met ladies we've played with just for a chat or lunch a few times as they have become good freinds x |
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As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties. |
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As a fem that plays solo I wouldn't approach your profile for the same reason as above, I can't see what's in it for me... We all have rules and preferences but straight is a put off as I wouldn't know what you wanted from me as a bi fem, Also the pics are all of her so there's no quick way to see if I'd be interested in both of you even if bi was her preference. Best of luck though. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties."
It's really common unfortunately, ladies are seen as playthings and her preferences are often ignored.
That's why so many couples struggle to find what the op is looking for. |
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I would say that your profile leans more towards wanting single guys and that single women are just a new fad. That’s maybe why you are finding it harder.
We’ve met a few single women and our approach has been to make them know that’s it’s both of us interested and any play session will be between us all. Each of us will be giving and receiving pleasure.
We like to get to know people we play with and usually set up a 3 way chat so we all get to know each other. It’s also making sure a single female feels safe.
C used to be a single female so can put herself in the shoes of a single female too.
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"As a fem that plays solo I wouldn't approach your profile for the same reason as above, I can't see what's in it for me... We all have rules and preferences but straight is a put off as I wouldn't know what you wanted from me as a bi fem, Also the pics are all of her so there's no quick way to see if I'd be interested in both of you even if bi was her preference. Best of luck though. X"
It says bi-curious, not straight |
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"As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties.
It's really common unfortunately, ladies are seen as playthings and her preferences are often ignored.
That's why so many couples struggle to find what the op is looking for."
Quite.
I should have worded it better - most women interested in meeting couples are looking for an equal experience. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties.
It's really common unfortunately, ladies are seen as playthings and her preferences are often ignored.
That's why so many couples struggle to find what the op is looking for.
Quite.
I should have worded it better - most women interested in meeting couples are looking for an equal experience. "
Totally agree, spot on.
Just couples don’t like a pillow princess either.
If it’s not fun, frolicking and mutual pleasure, why do it?
There is a Native American saying.
“You can dream about hunting buffalo. You can talk about hunting buffalo. Until you have hunted buffalo: you know nothing”.
I suspect females don’t want hunting, dreamers, talkers, just want fun and experiences.
Don’t let porn colour your fun.
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"As a fem that plays solo I wouldn't approach your profile for the same reason as above, I can't see what's in it for me... We all have rules and preferences but straight is a put off as I wouldn't know what you wanted from me as a bi fem, Also the pics are all of her so there's no quick way to see if I'd be interested in both of you even if bi was her preference. Best of luck though. X
It says bi-curious, not straight "
It said straight when the thread was started. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties.
It's really common unfortunately, ladies are seen as playthings and her preferences are often ignored.
That's why so many couples struggle to find what the op is looking for.
Quite.
I should have worded it better - most women interested in meeting couples are looking for an equal experience.
Totally agree, spot on.
Just couples don’t like a pillow princess either.
If it’s not fun, frolicking and mutual pleasure, why do it?
There is a Native American saying.
“You can dream about hunting buffalo. You can talk about hunting buffalo. Until you have hunted buffalo: you know nothing”.
I suspect females don’t want hunting, dreamers, talkers, just want fun and experiences.
Don’t let porn colour your fun.
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We’re not struggling but thanks for your concern. We’ve had a meets before & always get amazing feedback x |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"As a lady whi meets alone, if I was interested in meeting couples your profile wouldn't entice me, in fact quite the opposite.
You appear to want a woman as a plaything to direct, which is a dynamic that will only appeal to a tiny minority of bi sub ladies.
My expectation is that most are seeking an equal experience between all three parties.
It's really common unfortunately, ladies are seen as playthings and her preferences are often ignored.
That's why so many couples struggle to find what the op is looking for.
Quite.
I should have worded it better - most women interested in meeting couples are looking for an equal experience.
Totally agree, spot on.
Just couples don’t like a pillow princess either.
If it’s not fun, frolicking and mutual pleasure, why do it?
There is a Native American saying.
“You can dream about hunting buffalo. You can talk about hunting buffalo. Until you have hunted buffalo: you know nothing”.
I suspect females don’t want hunting, dreamers, talkers, just want fun and experiences.
Don’t let porn colour your fun.
We’re not struggling but thanks for your concern. We’ve had a meets before & always get amazing feedback x"
Didn’t reply to you. You aren’t struggling just questioning. Please don’t project onto me. |
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I don't play with couples through fab, but rather through parties or clubs. However, that's not to say I do that often as there is usually drama or a misunderstanding that happens between the couple or myself in where I feel like a toy and that's not in anyway a fetish/kink of mine.
If I have played with a couple and it's been an enjoyable experience, it's been me playing with either the female or male half separately |
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"After dabbling with a few couples on the scene we’ve decided to try to find a female to join us. So far not much luck on fab but are considering looking in clubs & maybe gay bars. Will this work? I know they’re called unicorns for a reason but it seems difficult to find a girl we like!"
All we can say is we wish you all the best. Our MFF meets have been with the female half of a couple who play alone.
I believe we have arranged meets with 4 different single ladies since being on here. Every single one cancelled within 24 hours of the meet. |
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"After dabbling with a few couples on the scene we’ve decided to try to find a female to join us. So far not much luck on fab but are considering looking in clubs & maybe gay bars. Will this work? I know they’re called unicorns for a reason but it seems difficult to find a girl we like!
All we can say is we wish you all the best. Our MFF meets have been with the female half of a couple who play alone.
I believe we have arranged meets with 4 different single ladies since being on here. Every single one cancelled within 24 hours of the meet."
Sounds like you have had some bad luck with single ladies 
I know how you feel, it happens to me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This has been a really interesting read. Me and my partner want to find a girl to have a threesome with. I’m straight so the focus will be on him, I don’t mind a bit of kissing but I’m not curious or anything. Although saying that I guess you just never know what could happen I guess. But the main focus will be mainly on us pleasuring him and him pleasuring us. Not sure what our chances are of finding someone. Do most unicorns like the girl to be bi? |
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"This has been a really interesting read. Me and my partner want to find a girl to have a threesome with. I’m straight so the focus will be on him, I don’t mind a bit of kissing but I’m not curious or anything. Although saying that I guess you just never know what could happen I guess. But the main focus will be mainly on us pleasuring him and him pleasuring us. Not sure what our chances are of finding someone. Do most unicorns like the girl to be bi?"
Lol you said good read but it doesn't seem that you have taken any of the advice given |
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"This has been a really interesting read. Me and my partner want to find a girl to have a threesome with. I’m straight so the focus will be on him, I don’t mind a bit of kissing but I’m not curious or anything. Although saying that I guess you just never know what could happen I guess. But the main focus will be mainly on us pleasuring him and him pleasuring us. Not sure what our chances are of finding someone. Do most unicorns like the girl to be bi?"
I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common. Not sure why it's generally seen as ok that way but not for 2 straight women for a MFF.
It is possible to find a straight woman for MFF but I'd imagine it's very rare. Don't play bi just to make it happen, be honest. Good luck. |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common. "
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
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Suppose it all comes down to communication, and being prepared to hunt a bit longer, for the specific type of person, who will be happy with the wanted dynamic.
Ive done both FFM and FMF. Both situations suited my mood at the time. As a single lady who meets couples most are upfront about what they want and i can pick or choose to be involved or not. Clubs are better as you can speak to people in real time and get that instant attraction. |
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We also look for single ladies, but for us, it's not about watching hannah with the lady, we want her experience to be as involved as ours. So the few we have had the pleasure of meeting, have hopefully felt at ease and enjoyed everyone's participation. We certainly did.. |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common.
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
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Good point
I suppose it would be odd if a group of women stood wanking round some bloke and then squirted him with water pistols filled with gin.  |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common.
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
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I think the absence of 'greedy guy' events is more of a demand issue than a supply issue! |
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Interesting read. Really insightful.
My lady likes playing with women (always has), but the part of it that turns her on most is that she knows how much it turns me. She's played with 1 woman alone before me and with with the female half of a couple in our relationship.
We don't full swap, so I'm not available for full sex with said unicorn, which has been a barrier
Reading this has made me realise we hadn't put enough thought into the unicorn's experience, but we're new and learning.
Any advice on this dynamic that's respectful to all parties?
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common.
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
Good point
I suppose it would be odd if a group of women stood wanking round some bloke and then squirted him with water pistols filled with gin. "
I’d watch this porn. Though I’d rather drink the gin, tbh… |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common.
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
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I've had a squirt bukkake from a woman! |
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I used to meet couples, but eventually it became too much hard work.
However, I would like to see pictures of the man, too, regardless whether he is going to be involved in the meet or just watching.
In your profile, there is nothing regarding the play dynamics with a woman, all is geared towards you playing with a man. Even if the lady is "just" bi-curious, I'm sure you have some idea. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
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I think with MFF it's more usual that both women are bi. Don't pretend to be bi, make it very known that you're straight, as you've said in your post.
MMF where both men are straight is more common.
We think it is because a girl can easily handle and pleasure two guys but not always the case vice versa, we have all heard of greedy girls events, anyone been to a greedy guy event lol
Same reason why there is always a woman in the centre of a bukkake party surrounded by guys and not other way around.
Good point
I suppose it would be odd if a group of women stood wanking round some bloke and then squirted him with water pistols filled with gin.
I’d watch this porn. Though I’d rather drink the gin, tbh…"
Why not both? |
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If your fantasy is MFF, why not ask to play this scenario with one of your couple friends. While we are unlikely to meet a new couple who wants fmf, with our long standing regular friends, anything is a possibility. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"If your fantasy is MFF, why not ask to play this scenario with one of your couple friends. While we are unlikely to meet a new couple who wants fmf, with our long standing regular friends, anything is a possibility. "
That’s not what they are looking for. Meeting a single woman for FFM is different to meeting the woman of the couple, as there is no potential for drama with the member of the couple who is being left out. |
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female. "
I have found this too. And as a previous poster said I have given up trying to find a regular couple. |
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Unicorn here and looking for another female for ff play. Can be part of a couple, and happy to play with both also.
I agree with all the comments that have been made ready.
I have found a lot of the males in the couples who are very pushy and females can be pillow princesses also.
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By *andD300Couple
over a year ago
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We had a woman join us a few years ago after a boozy afternoon on our patio.
We knew her for a few years and after a few beers and wines the subject got onto sex. Me and hubby knew she had been in some 3somes before and so
when hubby asked her if she’d like to watch us fuck and maybe take some photos she jumped at it.
It was our first experience at anything like that but I’m not shy and once a couple of rules were discussed we went for it.
It was brilliant. |
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Clubs.
Loads of us single women attend and play in clubs.
My profile is straight but often play in mixed groups there.
I’m not looking for couples, but for friends that are; it’s often very much about joining the couple and playing by there rules. I appreciate that, but what can you offer them x |
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By *JCouple
over a year ago
Teesside |
"I wouldnt be interested. No pics of him. Says you want a female to join "us"
He only plays with you. So where do we fit in? "
This is the most important point not answered yet by the OP.
OP If you guy can't play with the unicorm what's his role? To watch you both together? (that will be the assumption and cause 99‰ to run a mile). We have yet to meet a single women on the swinging scene who would be happy putting on a show for another woman's husband.
We have enjoyed MFF but the ladies who have joined us got to experience and play with both of us together, equally and it was a genuine 3 way meet. The lady joining was very much the centre both of our attention and her needs and enjoyment were paramount.
The other option is if its not about putting a show on for your man (as your man doesn't play with other women) is for you to seek out a lady for a 1 on 1 experience without him present in anyway. You would have a much greater chance of making that happen.
Good luck on your swinging journey.
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good.
Yup. I’m not there to ‘entertain’. Unfortunately my experience of clubs is also v like this. “Oooooh suck my nipple while I see who is watching”. Not for me. Go big or go home! "
I (female) can relate to this too. We were about to leave a club when I was approached by the female of a couple asking if I wanted to play. Well, I got down to it - only to find that she just wanted to kiss me in front of her partner and put her boobs in my mouth to put on a show for him. She pulled the brakes on anything else, which is her absolute right of course, but it left me wishing I'd declined and left the club as planned.
We added "(she) likes to receive as well as give" on our profile after that disappointing and deflating encounter to deter those wanting to 'put on a show' in future! |
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"After dabbling with a few couples on the scene we’ve decided to try to find a female to join us. So far not much luck on fab but are considering looking in clubs & maybe gay bars. Will this work? I know they’re called unicorns for a reason but it seems difficult to find a girl we like!"
I definitely wouldn’t suggest gay bars. |
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Why not try Tinder?
Make a bi female profile and not a couples (dont mention a partner until you get to chat. State bi female looking for a bi female (Unicorn).
Or try the polyam date app. On there you create a profile each and link them. |
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"Why not try Tinder?
Make a bi female profile and not a couples (dont mention a partner until you get to chat. State bi female looking for a bi female (Unicorn).
Or try the polyam date app. On there you create a profile each and link them."
I have far more meets from using tinder, I think because you mainly see a face pic to decide if you share an attraction it helps to find suitable playmates from the start. |
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You & about 80% of the other users on the site are looking for the elusive single female
Your profile doesn't give much away as to what you can offer a single woman, or what you want from them, would Mr be present, woukd ge be guildingblike he does with male play partners (many single fems won't like that)
Bare in mind they are likely inundated with messages you need to make yourself stand out to them, I'd suggested looking for people in your local area & sending personal messages
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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m a unicorn (single) but I don’t want couples. Only single men. "
You’re not.
Unicorn is a term we actually don’t use. But the definition is a single women who wants to equally play with the make and female part of a hetro couple.
Ergo not wanting a couple means you’re not a unicorn.
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"I’m a unicorn (single) but I don’t want couples. Only single men.
You’re not.
Unicorn is a term we actually don’t use. But the definition is a single women who wants to equally play with the make and female part of a hetro couple.
Ergo not wanting a couple means you’re not a unicorn.
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Should have got an urban dictionary for christmas.
I had to explain what a cuckcake was earlier in the week. Its not cupcake its cuckcake |
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"I’m a said ‘unicorn’ but often find that couples are too prescriptive eg ‘female wants to experience another female but isn’t prepared to do x, y or z’. I get that that’s personal preference but I’m not sure how well ‘she’s happy to have your head between her legs, but doesn’t feel comfortable reciprocating’ sits with me as a fully bi female.
Sttaight women that are 'bi for guys' to put on a show for them. Not good.
Who’s saying that’s our dynamic? Thanks for the judgemental comments"
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A lot of people would just do well offering something to/for the girl, not just stating what they want.
Have been a single on here and not many times did I get approached being told what would be in it for me.
We are rather lucky in that we’ve had the pleasure of the company of quite a few single girls over the years, maybe part of that is our approach? |
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We’ve not been on Fab long so not met any single ladies on here yet but had an amazing night with a lady before we joined Fab and the fact that we were all together was what made it so amazing. The chemistry was great and she just became another part of us as a couple.
Having someone join us and add to the passion that we already have together was what it was all about for us and being able to share that passion with someone else was what made it such a great night. |
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"A lot of people would just do well offering something to/for the girl, not just stating what they want.
Have been a single on here and not many times did I get approached being told what would be in it for me.
We are rather lucky in that we’ve had the pleasure of the company of quite a few single girls over the years, maybe part of that is our approach?"
Treating a woman like a human being seems too difficult for some couples to understand. She's just a fuck plaything to entertain them. |
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I was on here on a couples profile when I was in a relationship and we had some amazing meets with a “unicorn”, as people call them.
We made it clear on our profile that we were looking to meet a single, bisexual woman, but also that we wanted to make sure she had an amazing time with both of us. It wasn’t just about our fantasy, but about all three of us enjoying each other.
Then we reached out to people who looked like we could be a match for, sending them a personalised message. It took a few messages before we arranged our first meeting. After that things got very interesting |
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"I was on here on a couples profile when I was in a relationship and we had some amazing meets with a “unicorn”, as people call them.
We made it clear on our profile that we were looking to meet a single, bisexual woman, but also that we wanted to make sure she had an amazing time with both of us. It wasn’t just about our fantasy, but about all three of us enjoying each other.
Then we reached out to people who looked like we could be a match for, sending them a personalised message. It took a few messages before we arranged our first meeting. After that things got very interesting "
This is what I am looking for in a Bi couple, very well said.
I know this is for finding a Unicorn so sorry for the slight hijack
But take a look at the countless posts of Bi guys looking for Bi couples
I think the dynamic is very similar
Or have I got it wrong ? |
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We find clubs are the best place to meet couples and singles in general. Also a lot of single ladies on the scene use clubs as a safe environment to meet people and explore. No time wasting, you meet someone, chat and in short time you get a feel if it's going anywhere or not. And if so great, even the opportunity and space to get physical and/or arrange something outside of the club. And if it's not working each party can move on and continue to hunt.
If looking for Unicorns I'd recommend couples and single ladies nights. There are a lot of single ladies in clubs mainly/exclusively looking for single guys rather than sharing another woman's guy with her. At couples and single ladies nights you know the single women there are for meeting couples. |
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We would love to find a single female so that we could all enjoy time together in and out of the bedroom. As some have said we have met single females in a club and recognise that it is a safe environment for them. Always lovely to chat to them and if it goes further then great.
Be great to find a lady who we can meet on a regular basis x |
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