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over a year ago
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"Hi I’m going to go to Quest tomorrow afternoon for my first club visit, any advice on the etiquette for a single male attending?"
Just be yourself and act like you would in any bar. Be respectful, chat to people, don’t drink too much and enjoy yourself. Also don’t just chat to people you want to play with, chat with anyone. You’ll look a lot more interesting socialising than you will sitting by yourself. |
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction. "
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet."
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique. |
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet."
This is our biggest pet peev when we go to a club ! |
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique."
All of this x and please please don't get wasted x it's so awful seeing people blind d*unk  |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique.
All of this x and please please don't get wasted x it's so awful seeing people blind d*unk "
Me and Miss Devil, once had a d*unk bang on our hotel door, from a club social once, seeing as we decided to stay the night and drink sensibly, this bloke decided to get his missus to ask if we could let them stay. Speech was not part of his motor skills by that point.
Seeing as all evening, he was getting sloshed and none of them bothered to even say hello to us, then their card was marked and entry to our room was not happening.
How bad was he? She was holding him upright! At least she stayed soberish.
so a quick and polite refusal, they buggered off and enjioyed our evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique."
This guy gets it. Anyone reading this thinking of going to club looking for couples please take this advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
This is our biggest pet peev when we go to a club !"
It makes both of us feel uncomfortable and it’s disrespectful. They wouldn’t do it in a normal bar so why do it in a club. |
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique.
All of this x and please please don't get wasted x it's so awful seeing people blind d*unk
Me and Miss Devil, once had a d*unk bang on our hotel door, from a club social once, seeing as we decided to stay the night and drink sensibly, this bloke decided to get his missus to ask if we could let them stay. Speech was not part of his motor skills by that point.
Seeing as all evening, he was getting sloshed and none of them bothered to even say hello to us, then their card was marked and entry to our room was not happening.
How bad was he? She was holding him upright! At least she stayed soberish.
so a quick and polite refusal, they buggered off and enjioyed our evening."
Blimey!!! I had one guy slurring his words and then trying to snog my face off and then he joined a friend in an orgy and fell asleep! Had another one who was lovely to me but then started being I credibly rude to a girl we were with for no reason. Its not just guys tho last time we played there was a very d*unk woman banging on the playroom door where me, hubby and 2 guys were having fun and she was screaming let me in let me in, one of the guys let her in (ggrrr) and she proceeded to be Incredibly Vocal, swaying round the room soaking me with her drink!
Once they get d*unk they should be kicked out. I don't think clubs are the place for you to be making decisions whilst intoxicated! Yes a drink, tipsy, cheeky etc but slaughtered?? Nope. However this isn't an ideal world, not enough staff to patrol it and a lot of people who would argue against it. We just avoid wherever possible and report when it's too much, for us and the sake of others. Worries me when newbies see this behaviour cus it could put them off if they're timid bless em x it would for me ifid seen it when we were new x |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction.
This ^^
Also don’t be the guy that approaches the female of a couple whenever the male goes to the bar or toilet.
In fact, when she nips off, you can then talk to him and develop a rapport. He will then feel that, he is talking to someone whose brain is above his shoulders and not below his belt.
She will more or less, take his advice on this interaction, if anything, he'll know more about her than you will. Accept this fact and if you don't get on with him, you probably won't get off with her...
It's a bit like Blockbusters, a solo player versus a team of two: it's what makes the dynamic unique.
This guy gets it. Anyone reading this thinking of going to club looking for couples please take this advice "
Thank you, but all of this credit deserves to go to Miss Devil, as it's being with her for and having loads of chats, taught me this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Smile and if you talk to a couple talk to both of them. This shows good manners.
That's a start.
Treat it more like a social and concentrate on networking not seduction. "
This ^^^^^ for any situation when a male is meeting a couple.... I felt immediately turned off when we met a male and all he did was talk to me. My husband of 29 years was sat right next to me and it was fucking awkward!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I’m going to go to Quest tomorrow afternoon for my first club visit, any advice on the etiquette for a single male attending?
How did it go OP?"
Unfortunately was unable to attend he messaged confirming covid positive so speedy recovery and hopefully a visit 2022  |
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I'm a newbie to this site and to clubs, the advice given on here is bang on. I have had several really good nights at a club in Birmingham. I don't go with the intention getting my leg over, if it happens great if it doesn't then at least I have had a good night out. Nothing is assumed and nothing taken for granted. I don't bother with the booze, red bull is a good substitute for obvious reasons. My only extra advise is treat everyone how you would expect to be treated |
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