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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with you at all, trying to decide whether I like the pink or the lovely black and white outfit "
Thanks your all making me feel better already
P.S I've been told oxfam don't stock either of those outfits!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with you at all, trying to decide whether I like the pink or the lovely black and white outfit
Thanks your all making me feel better already
P.S I've been told oxfam don't stock either of those outfits!!!"
If they did Im shopping at Oxfam.
You look great babe, ignore the idiot |
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
i find best that simple logic is best way to deal with them . i had the dummy spitters and tantrum throwers who get abusive when told no. i just calmly point out THEY mailed ME asking to meet ect and block and not give them a second thought. lol !!
they are only showing themselves up and their true colours . just shows you were spot on for turning them down in the first place . why waste any of your time or energies worrying about an childish out burst of a complete stranger who knows zero about you ? plenty of decent folks on here i assure you hgz x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!!
i find best that simple logic is best way to deal with them . i had the dummy spitters and tantrum throwers who get abusive when told no. i just calmly point out THEY mailed ME asking to meet ect and block and not give them a second thought. lol !!
they are only showing themselves up and their true colours . just shows you were spot on for turning them down in the first place . why waste any of your time or energies worrying about an childish out burst of a complete stranger who knows zero about you ? plenty of decent folks on here i assure you hgz x"
Thanks for the support all of you...... Just goes to show there are lots of nice people on here as well as the odd nasty one
Once again thank you all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because they can, after all it's the internet and they can hide their pathetic little brains behind a computer screen.
Don't take it personally and thank your lucky stars you never actually met him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get this all the time on another site I was on for a while. You can't win, some men moan at not receiving a 'no thank you', and others when you do go to the trouble take it incredibly personally and start ranting.
At least here you can be polite and say no thanks and block at the same time so you don't get any abuse! |
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I've also had it, where a couple has messaged me (not sure whether it's the guy or the girl) and I've replied politely to them, saying they're not for me. I've then been told;
'well, you look like you've got a tiny one, anyway'
???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way I see it is they obviously didn't think that about you at the time of asking for a meet and can't take being politely told no. Don't beat yourself up over it. I think you look great Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it is they obviously didn't think that about you at the time of asking for a meet and can't take being politely told no. Don't beat yourself up over it. I think you look great Xx "
 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
Haha jealousy is a terrible thing!! You are gorgeous and I LOVE your coursets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From irresistable sex goddess to ragbag in a matter of seconds because of the word no,you have just got to laugh it off really and imagine them having their mini tantrum behind the keyboard because they have been turned down and don't have the maturity to accept it gracefully  |
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sadly in this day and age people are used to getting what they want right now and right away, and even more sadly it makes alot of people complete assholes when they dont get it
as others have said he was just bitter he didnt get what he wanted :D im gay and u look fine to me :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd rather have abuse thrown at us than be left in a club with now way to get home like last night.
Now way of getting home as we had a lift with them....
Just suddenly upped and went
Still no idea why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather have abuse thrown at us than be left in a club with now way to get home like last night.
Now way of getting home as we had a lift with them....
Just suddenly upped and went
Still no idea why"
someone said on a thread a while back they'd had that happen to them...
how awful... it's just not right
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it is they obviously didn't think that about you at the time of asking for a meet and can't take being politely told no. Don't beat yourself up over it. I think you look great Xx "
The thing that worries me is that people who will be that vile actually do think about you that way when they message you but have so little real respect for the people here...we've been lucky so far but it really makes me want to give up and walk away sometimes... |
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Your pics look fine to me... grrr why do men have the best legs..
you arent fat and he just cant take rejection..
I get rude remarks when I say no to message /meet /friend request .
If they think im fat / old bird why do they contact me in first place.
chin up not everyone is mean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That worries me a bit too and I'm always on the alert for guys who seem to be more about themselves than about having a shared fun experience. Trouble is, it can take a few interactions before alarm bells start, and I find it a bit difficult to tail things off adequately without the 'timewaster' accusation appearing. But at the end of the day my own feelings and safety are more important than someone I'm beginning to feel more and more uneasy about! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i get the odd insulting message, but it doesnt bother me too much because most of the messages i get are nice.
they must have been realy disapointed that you didnt accept them as a friend.
your pictures look nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheeky bugger.......I love charity shops "
exactly
and there's some good stuff in there
I donate all my used clothes to the local hospice shop
I must admit to being a bit 'wasteful' with clothes and usually wear them no more than 4/5 times (mainly cos I've got that many and they get rotated), so some people are getting clothes for 50p that may have cost £70/£80 brand new six months earlier.
On the point of post though, sounds like someone doesn't take rejection too well.
You should have said the next time you were in the charity shop rooting through clothes, you'd have a look for a rattle and a dummy for him - cos he's obviously launched his across the room.
You look fine - don't let the pillock get you down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
I guess that you bruised his ego!
Sad little man |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
A genuine timewaster is someone who arranges a meet and then is a no show like the one I had last night.
Don't let it worry you. He's the one with the problem, not you. I would report him for abuse. You can do that even if you block him. The more we out the idiots, the better the site will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A genuine timewaster is someone who arranges a meet and then is a no show like the one I had last night.
Don't let it worry you. He's the one with the problem, not you. I would report him for abuse. You can do that even if you block him. The more we out the idiots, the better the site will be."
Unbelieveable ......... must be married |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A genuine timewaster is someone who arranges a meet and then is a no show like the one I had last night.
Don't let it worry you. He's the one with the problem, not you. I would report him for abuse. You can do that even if you block him. The more we out the idiots, the better the site will be."
Unbelieveable ......... must be married |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"A genuine timewaster is someone who arranges a meet and then is a no show like the one I had last night.
Don't let it worry you. He's the one with the problem, not you. I would report him for abuse. You can do that even if you block him. The more we out the idiots, the better the site will be.
Unbelieveable ......... must be married"
That's what I thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For every arsehole and time waster on here there are 10 good ones.... And if you smile in their faces then they know that they are the losers not you.... Chin up, delete and block and in the end they will have nothing to smile about..   (Perky) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A genuine timewaster is someone who arranges a meet and then is a no show like the one I had last night.
Don't let it worry you. He's the one with the problem, not you. I would report him for abuse. You can do that even if you block him. The more we out the idiots, the better the site will be.
Unbelieveable ......... must be married
That's what I thought."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No theres sn idea... send a reject response to someone you really want to meet, if they are nice about it then meet then, if they are cruel, you've saved yourself meeting a complete tool... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
i get messages like that quite offen
Im never rude to anyone but if i dont like them i will send a polite no thanks
Ive had messages back telling me im to ugly to be choosy, thats im a fat cow anyway and they can do better then me dowen the put, ive had guys tell me i should be grateful for their attention as i cant do any better, one guy said i was nothing but a two bit used whore who only came on sites like this cause i was to ugly to find men in real life, ive even had it from a guy i met, he mailed me a couple of weeks after we met asking if i wanted to meet again and because i declined he told me i was a shit fuck anyway and was glad i said no
over the years ive heard it all
rejection is a bitter pill for some to swallow, just laugh it off and think he must have really liked you to take your rejection so badly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
Report them block them and ignore them, personally your pics looks great and that's from a straight guy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!!
Haha jealousy is a terrible thing!! You are gorgeous and I LOVE your coursets
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Thanks everyone I really apreciate all the support just goes to show how many nice people there are..... And they far outway all the nasties !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly this is a common issue on here and no doubt other sites and not confined to just men.
I try to treat folk as i expect to be treated and believe it or not even i have rejections lol.
Once rejected get over it and move to next victim i mean person lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I try to treat folk as i expect to be treated and believe it or not even i have rejections lol.
Once rejected get over it and move to next victim i mean person lol."
We're the same. There's absolutely no use pushing the point if the other person isn't interested - it isn't going to wave a magic wand over things and suddenly make them change their mind.
...in the same way that wishing someone all the best and moving on is far better than hurling an insult at someone because they're not interested. That someone might know the insulter's next victim and might just fill them in on how they spat the dummy and chucked their toys out of the pram when they couldn't get their own way, and it is a very small world on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
thats what alot of guys are like on this site dont worry about it hun alot of guys add without even asking which is rude
all the best
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I have been messed around and insulted by numerous men but I agree they are just shallow and pathetic.
After a while you get to work out who is genuine but it is a bit annoying.
I think it's better to meet some decent guys and stick with them for a while especially if they are a top shag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just had a message off a guy I declined as a friend telling me I'm a "time waster and my pics make me look like a fat old guy in charity shop clothes WTF ??
Didn't think it was nice at all, Even if I do look that bad !!! "
You look good to me. Tbh if he behaved like that then best that you didn't meet as sounds a nasty mean guy. I had a 'lady' be extremely rude to me on another site fir no reason. I took it that she had the problem not me.
You take care and don't let it worry you. |
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