"I have cuckold fantasies and my wife like it while we have sex BT then she become hesitated, how can convince her? "
I've said it before and I'll say it again, you can't and shouldn't need to convince anyone to do anything.
If she's not into it, respect her wishes and leave it as a fantasy. |
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My husband and I spent over 2years chatting fantasy before anything became reality
I don't think there's anything you can do to convince her, she'll come round in her own time if she wants to
My main concern was how we'd both handle any jealousy, that what we spent time discussing |
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To put it simply like someone else did
If you have to convince her maybe it should be kept to dirty talking fantasies. Sometimes things like that can be a major turn on but actually doing it may be the red line |
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Relationships work through communication. But someone has to want something before they are ready and many people are resistant to being pushed, potentially getting fully turned off the idea, as it's unpleasant and uncomfortable for them |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
It's natural to be hesitant.
All you can do is support her and chat and communicate openly and honesty. Chat about how you would deal with jealousy or any other concerns you both may have.
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So I think there is a huge difference between talking about something and actually doing it…. I guess the fact you can at least talk about it is a good start, but you need to talk about it when you are out of the bedroom as well as in the throes of passion…. Because that’s when it’s an honest conversation not governed by the situation… and as others have stated, you shouldn’t convince someone into it, they should be a willing participant.
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"My husband and I spent over 2years chatting fantasy before anything became reality
I don't think there's anything you can do to convince her, she'll come round in her own time if she wants to
My main concern was how we'd both handle any jealousy, that what we spent time discussing "
The best answer on here. |
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"So I think there is a huge difference between talking about something and actually doing it…. I guess the fact you can at least talk about it is a good start, but you need to talk about it when you are out of the bedroom as well as in the throes of passion…. Because that’s when it’s an honest conversation not governed by the situation… and as others have stated, you shouldn’t convince someone into it, they should be a willing participant.
Mrs x"
Good recommendation |
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I told my wife , the thought of watching her with other guys , was an extreme turn on when we were having sexy time at home and watching porn together , we talked it over on and off for about two years before we actually done anything , our first actual meet (only oral involved ) turned her on extremely , so we took it slowly from there , she has since descovered her bi side , we do more hotwife play , but also enjoy full swap with couples and some solo play , as we have a fuck buddy to help , and with family sometimes we can’t get out to meets together , has definitely spiced up our sex life after 30+!years together , considering we both use to be extremely jealous , we can’t believe how t rings have gone as n add have no worries anymore |
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My wife has been well aware of my fantasy for over 5 years now. From just openly chatting and trying new things, she’s gone from a firm no thanks to our first social meet this week. No pressure from me just honesty and openness about the potential drawbacks as well as the excitement. My advice is to keep dialogue open but do not in anyway put pressure on her. |
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I have always enjoyed meeting couples. But there are two scenarios that the inexperienced may not know. One where husband is cuckold and plays a passive role and the other not. In the second case, the husband is Dominant and active and wants his wife (who is willing) to serve and be used by other men where the He has complete control over what happens. The invited man can either be sub or dom. |
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over a year ago
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I would so like to be there when the fantasy becomes a reality and the OP suddenly gets the right hump when he finds doesn’t actually like it and she’s having a whale of a time. |
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By *auradCouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
Our journey has been over several years and what you need to remember is that it is a journey, many couples in here or on other sites haven’t got where they are overnight, what you see and hear about is the result of years of communication.
There are loads of on line resources that can help stimulate the discussion like the Keys and Anklets podcast which really helped us but as others have said it shouldn’t be about persuading it is about exploring together and if one partner doesn’t want to then just enjoy the fantasy play together in the bedroom if you are both happy with that.
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"My wife has been well aware of my fantasy for over 5 years now. From just openly chatting and trying new things, she’s gone from a firm no thanks to our first social meet this week. No pressure from me just honesty and openness about the potential drawbacks as well as the excitement. My advice is to keep dialogue open but do not in anyway put pressure on her."
takes time & trust & lots of talking to each other ... we went down the massage scenario.... little steps  |
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I had the misfortune of being the first ever extra guy at a cuckold meeting some years ago.
The wife told me, whilst she was sober, she wanted me to fuck her. However hubby insisted on getting them both blind d*unk. As that progressed she was embarrasingly all over me in the pub.
When we finally went to their house he became introverted and sullen. I offered to leave but he said no and she was very insistent; so some uncomfortable sex took place.
Finally, after about 10 minutes, he demanded I cum and leave. So I did. She said as I left she wanted to see me again. 
I thought afterwards what damage that could have done to their marriage. Cuckolding needs to be very carefully approached and discussed or it can be a relationship time bomb. |
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Hard to find, asked many exs for this and they do not seem to want to. Ironically though a few of them were happy to go off cheating. Extremely envious of the ones on here who find it. Lucky buggers. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"My wife has been well aware of my fantasy for over 5 years now. From just openly chatting and trying new things, she’s gone from a firm no thanks to our first social meet this week. No pressure from me just honesty and openness about the potential drawbacks as well as the excitement. My advice is to keep dialogue open but do not in anyway put pressure on her."
Sp very well described.
I really hope the social goes well for you both.
When I start chatting to couple either starting to explore cucmolding or experienced in it, I always start by chatting about how it all started and how they got to where they are. If they are starting out, I'll try understand where they both are at with it and try help by sharing my experiences so far. |
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You cant force cockolding, talk to your lady explain what you want ask her how she feels about it. The main thing is to find the right male. Alot on here (Males) do not understand the cuckold relationship. Take it slow make sure you are both ready, experiment, explore and most of all talk.
I have been very lucky it be invited into a cuckold couple, there is so much pleasure to be had. Get it right at the start and you will have an exciting time. |
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