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By *hilm2011 OP Man
over a year ago
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I'm fairly new to this and never know what people want to read in a first message. We're all here for the same reason I guess, but first contact....should it be full of sexual comments or more laid back? And pics, do you send cock/action pics in first message or wait until they're asked for?
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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Personally I don't like sex messages and cock picks in a first contact. Imagine walking up to a stranger in a bar, getting your cock out and saying, "Fancy a ride on this?" What response do you imagine you would get? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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read the profile, compile a message that
relates to it, be polite,non pushy, just briefly introduce yourself and add a bit of cheek/humour if possible!
Not everyone will reply, so don't ever expect! But be surprised when they do...
Have fun!  |
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By *hilm2011 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't like sex messages and cock picks in a first contact. Imagine walking up to a stranger in a bar, getting your cock out and saying, "Fancy a ride on this?" What response do you imagine you would get?"
True. This is where my dilemma lays because I don't want to come across as that being all that I'm about, but I don't want to come across as someone boring with no sexual urges at all either. Need to find some middle ground |
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"read the profile, compile a message that
relates to it, be polite,non pushy, just briefly introduce yourself and add a bit of cheek/humour if possible!
Not everyone will reply, so don't ever expect! But be surprised when they do...
Have fun! "
Yep thats the one !! read the profile has to be the most important . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the profile to see if they're looking for guys like you but more importantly if you'd like to meet them.
You can be attracted to someone but if you have different wants and desires, it's not gonna happen.
Be polite and confident in your messages and don't be disheartened if you don't get the response you hoped for as some people here are just plain weird.
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we like to receive a first message that includes us both so "wow I'd fuck her" or "I want to shag your wife" get instant deletes.
Introducing yourself briefly, saying what you like and asking us what we like will usually get a repsonse from us even if it's to say that we're not into the same kind of thing.
BUT everyone is different and some couples will like messages that we don't, read the profiles and respond accordingly
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't like sex messages and cock picks in a first contact. Imagine walking up to a stranger in a bar, getting your cock out and saying, "Fancy a ride on this?" What response do you imagine you would get?
True. This is where my dilemma lays because I don't want to come across as that being all that I'm about, but I don't want to come across as someone boring with no sexual urges at all either. Need to find some middle ground"
You probably need to lose the mindset that a non-sexual message is boring...
As already mentioned imagine the response that you'd get in a bar if your opening gambit was "want a fuck"?
Send a message that shows that you have read the profile, asking a question relating to it as opposed to just complimenting it is always a good option as people have a reason to reply then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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One of the problems is that everyone is interested in different things so there's no absolute answer. Some couples want focus on woman, some on both some like sexual straight away some like txt speak some dont and so on and so forth. We like polite and people who've read our profile, but others may want a cock pic. I suspect the clues are in the profile.
Without attraction you'll get nothing though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't like sex messages and cock picks in a first contact. Imagine walking up to a stranger in a bar, getting your cock out and saying, "Fancy a ride on this?" What response do you imagine you would get?"
I so want to reply to those messages with a big dollop of sarcasm, but try to restrain myself and just delete and block instead. |
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