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By (user no longer on site) OP
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we are new to swinging scene and will be visting a club for the first time. We are wondering if there is any advice about this? As we are both a little nervous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s easy to just say relax and be yourselves but really try and do it anyway.
Just think of it like going to the pub but with less judgement and less d*unk arses.
On our first visit a single guy spotted us as new and offered to show us around, we had a job shaking him afterwards.
It should be fun. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"we are new to swinging scene and will be visting a club for the first time. We are wondering if there is any advice about this? As we are both a little nervous. "
Nerves are great, especially if they keep the experience positive.
Just make sure you BOTH agree to the boundaries.
Oh, and have a terrific evening. |
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"we are new to swinging scene and will be visting a club for the first time. We are wondering if there is any advice about this? As we are both a little nervous. "
If you're only a little nervous that's good, as we were very very very nervous! It's a surreal experience. Don't assume it's a mass orgy as it's unlikely to be, some don't even play on a night out. You may just want to have a look around and watch on your first visit which is fine. Always communicate before and after every club visit and you'll have some great nights. |
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Hi. As others have said, having you both certain of your boundaries before you go, and regularly checking in with each other while there.
Lesson learnt from ours is to maybe take the time to chat to a couple or 2 before the night and during the night, to build up a little ease/rapport to entering a couple room or private/viewing room. And prepare to verbalise your invites/No's to single guys who come close in the open rooms, we are generally easy going/not assertive so found it a little passion killer in the moment, as didn't have much awareness prior. So much fun on the whole though, we can't wait to go back. Enjoy ??x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi. As others have said, having you both certain of your boundaries before you go, and regularly checking in with each other while there.
Lesson learnt from ours is to maybe take the time to chat to a couple or 2 before the night and during the night, to build up a little ease/rapport to entering a couple room or private/viewing room. And prepare to verbalise your invites/No's to single guys who come close in the open rooms, we are generally easy going/not assertive so found it a little passion killer in the moment, as didn't have much awareness prior. So much fun on the whole though, we can't wait to go back. Enjoy ??x "
thank you for the feedback and ye we are aware of each others boundaries. We will need to speak to each other about verbalizing it on the night, if it happens but not expecting it though. |
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"we are new to swinging scene and will be visting a club for the first time. We are wondering if there is any advice about this? As we are both a little nervous. "
Call the club ahead of time to ask for any dress code. Bring your fave lingerie. Ask for a tour when you arrive.
EVERYONE is nervous their first time (and the first time in a new club, even if they've been to others! don't sweat it!).
NO MEANS NO. If you're uncomfortable at any point, talk to staff. They want all guests to feel safe. Regulars to the club want the same, as scaring people off means a bad rep for the club,and no one wants that! Both staff and other members will make sure you feel safe and welcome.
Approach other members as you'd want to be approached. just be yourself and have fun...that's what everyone is there for! |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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As you're new to swinging, not just clubs: talk about what you're comfortable with, and don't cross your boundaries in the heat of horniness. Talk about the experience the next day, and you can adjust things for the next time. If you're left wanting more, there will be a next time.
It's OK to only play with each other. It's OK to not play at all. It's good to watch others and see how they handle it. Talk with everyone, tell them you're new, and listen to their experiences.
Don't use drink to drown your nerves. I've seen that happen, and it's not good. A little can relax you, too much can spoil everyone's night.
And enjoy it. There's so much fun to be had |
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Go with no expectation to play- in ur mind just prepare to just watch, meet folks and soak in the atmosphere- anything more is your choice and only when ur both ready xx
Enjoy- that’s what it’s about xx |
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